Imposter Syndrome Is Holding You Back In Life...

Summary

This video script delves into imposter syndrome, a psychological phenomenon where individuals feel like frauds despite their accomplishments. It explains the distressing experience and explores the origins, often rooted in childhood, where comparisons to 'golden children' or parental expectations can instill a belief that success should be effortless. The script highlights how imposter syndrome paradoxically drives overachievers to work harder due to an intense fear of being exposed, and although it's not a psychiatric diagnosis, it's pervasive in high-achieving environments. The video offers insights into cognitive patterns that maintain this syndrome and suggests ways to challenge these thought processes to alleviate its effects.

Takeaways

• 🤔 Imposter syndrome is the feeling of being a fraud or not deserving one's success, often accompanied by a fear of being exposed as incompetent.
• 🔍 People with imposter syndrome tend to attribute their accomplishments to external factors like luck, rather than their own abilities or efforts.
• 💡 The concept of imposter syndrome was initially discovered among high-achieving women who felt like imposters despite their success.
• 👶 Imposter syndrome often has its roots in childhood, stemming from being the sibling of a 'golden child' or being viewed as a gifted child with high parental expectations.
• 🏆 Success for those with imposter syndrome paradoxically leads to a decrease in their sense of competence, as they feel they don't deserve their achievements.
• 🔑 A common cognitive pattern in imposter syndrome is the failure to attribute one's success to personal effort and competence.
• 🤷‍♂️ Imposter syndrome is not officially recognized as a psychiatric diagnosis, and therapists may not be trained to address it specifically.
• 🛠️ Challenging cognitive patterns, such as devaluing one's own efforts and attributing others' successes to hard work, can help in overcoming imposter syndrome.
• 👨‍👧‍👦 High-achieving families often contribute to imposter syndrome by valuing achievements but not acknowledging the effort behind them, leading to a belief that success should be effortless.
• 🎯 Imposter syndrome can be seen as an adaptive response that, while causing suffering, also drives individuals to work harder and achieve more.
• 🤝 Developing a sense of pride in one's own accomplishments and not relying solely on external validation is key to combating imposter syndrome.

Q & A

What is imposter syndrome and how does it make people feel?

Imposter syndrome is a psychological pattern where individuals doubt their accomplishments and have a persistent fear of being exposed as a 'fraud'. People with imposter syndrome often feel like they are living a fake life and are terrified that others will discover they do not truly belong or are not as competent as perceived.

What is the connection between imposter syndrome and the concept of a 'House of Cards'?

The 'House of Cards' metaphor is used to describe the feeling of imposters that their success is a fragile facade that could collapse at any moment, revealing their perceived lack of competence or worthiness.

How does imposter syndrome affect a person's self-esteem after achieving success?

Contrary to the typical boost in self-esteem after success, individuals with imposter syndrome may feel worse about themselves, believing they have faked their accomplishments and do not deserve their success.

What is the role of HG coaches in addressing imposter syndrome?

HG coaches are trained on a curriculum that helps understand and address imposter syndrome. They assist individuals in building the life they want, including careers, relationships, and personal growth, by focusing on lasting behavioral change.

What are two common backgrounds from which people develop imposter syndrome?

Two common backgrounds include being a sibling of a 'golden child' or 'gifted kid' where comparisons are often made, and being a 'golden child' or 'gifted kid' themselves where parents may denigrate their efforts, leading to a belief that success should be effortless.

Why do people with imposter syndrome feel that their achievements should be effortless?

This belief stems from their upbringing, where they may have been told or felt that their intelligence or talents should naturally lead to success without much effort, creating a fear that if they struggle, there must be something wrong with them.

How does imposter syndrome paradoxically lead to more success?

Imposter syndrome can be an adaptive response that leads individuals to work harder and not relax, fearing that any mistake could expose their perceived fraudulence, thus driving them to achieve more to maintain their facade.

Why is imposter syndrome more prevalent in high-achieving environments?

Imposter syndrome is more common in high-achieving environments because the syndrome itself drives individuals to work harder and achieve more, creating a cycle of increased success and heightened feelings of being an imposter.

How can someone with imposter syndrome begin to challenge their cognitive patterns?

One can start by attributing their success to their own efforts, recognizing when they deserve credit, acknowledging that others may also get lucky, and developing a sense of pride in their own accomplishments rather than relying on external validation.

Why is it important for someone with imposter syndrome to take pride in their own accomplishments?

Taking pride in one's own accomplishments helps to break the cycle of imposter syndrome by shifting the focus from external validation to internal satisfaction and self-worth, which can lead to healthier self-esteem and a more balanced perspective on success.

What is the significance of the imposter syndrome being an 'adaptive response'?

Labeling imposter syndrome as an 'adaptive response' highlights that while it causes suffering, it also serves a purpose by driving individuals to work harder and achieve more, thus it is both harmful and beneficial in certain contexts.

Outlines

00:00

🤔 Understanding Impostor Syndrome

This paragraph introduces impostor syndrome as an internal experience where individuals feel like frauds, fearing that others will discover their perceived lack of competence. It discusses the stress and fear associated with this syndrome, and the paradoxical effect of success on the self-esteem of those affected. The speaker also mentions the creation of HD to address the lack of effective resources for managing impostor syndrome, highlighting the importance of understanding what drives and changes behavior.

05:01

🧐 The Origins and Impact of Impostor Syndrome

The second paragraph delves into the origins of impostor syndrome, often rooted in childhood experiences such as being the sibling of a high-achieving 'golden child' or being viewed as a gifted child oneself. It explains how parental attitudes and expectations can contribute to the development of this syndrome. The speaker also discusses the paradox that success does not lead to a sense of competence for those with impostor syndrome, but instead reinforces their feelings of being undeserving and fraudulent.

10:02

🚀 The Adaptive Nature of Impostor Syndrome

This paragraph explores the idea that impostor syndrome, while distressing, can be an adaptive response that paradoxically leads to increased effort and success. The speaker describes how high-achieving individuals, including students from prestigious universities and professionals from high-performing institutions, may suffer from impostor syndrome. It discusses the cycle of panic and hard work that characterizes those with the syndrome, and how this can lead to even greater achievements.

15:02

🛠 Cognitive Patterns and Overcoming Impostor Syndrome

The final paragraph focuses on the cognitive patterns that maintain impostor syndrome, such as not attributing success to personal effort, attributing others' successes to hard work, and an emphasis on pleasing others. The speaker suggests strategies to challenge these patterns, including reflecting on one's own contributions to success and considering the role of luck in others' achievements. The paragraph concludes with the idea that developing self-pride and not relying on external validation is key to overcoming impostor syndrome.

Keywords

💡Imposter Syndrome

Imposter Syndrome is a psychological phenomenon where individuals doubt their accomplishments and have a persistent fear of being exposed as a 'fraud'. It is central to the video's theme, as it explores the experience and origins of this syndrome. The script describes it as a stressful experience where people feel like they are living a fake life and are always on the verge of being discovered as incompetent, despite their actual abilities and achievements.

💡Cognitive Patterns

Cognitive Patterns refer to the mental processes and thought structures that individuals develop and follow. In the context of the video, these patterns are identified as maintaining factors for Imposter Syndrome. The script explains that people with Imposter Syndrome often attribute their success to external factors or luck rather than their own efforts, devalue their own achievements, and focus excessively on pleasing others and seeking external validation.

💡Golden Child

The term 'Golden Child' is used in the script to describe a sibling who is highly accomplished and often compared to others in the family, particularly by parents. This comparison can lead to feelings of inadequacy and the development of Imposter Syndrome in the less celebrated siblings who feel they must live up to these high standards.

💡Effort

In the script, 'Effort' is discussed in relation to how individuals perceive their own achievements. People with Imposter Syndrome often fail to recognize the effort they have put into their accomplishments and instead attribute their success to luck or external factors. The video emphasizes the importance of acknowledging one's own effort as a way to counteract Imposter Syndrome.

💡Success

'Success' is a key term in the video, illustrating the paradoxical relationship people with Imposter Syndrome have with their achievements. While success should ideally boost self-esteem, for those with Imposter Syndrome, it often leads to increased feelings of fraudulence and the belief that they do not deserve their accomplishments, as exemplified by the script's discussion on how they feel after achieving an 'A' grade or a promotion.

💡Self-Esteem

Self-Esteem is the individual's subjective evaluation of their own worth. The video explains that, contrary to the norm where success boosts self-esteem, for individuals with Imposter Syndrome, success paradoxically lowers their self-esteem because they feel they have not earned their achievements and are just pretending to be competent.

💡External Validation

External Validation refers to the approval or confirmation from others that an individual seeks to affirm their self-worth. The script discusses how people with Imposter Syndrome are heavily reliant on the opinions and validation of others to feel competent, rather than taking pride in their own achievements.

💡Childhood

The script identifies 'Childhood' as a critical period in the development of Imposter Syndrome. It suggests that the syndrome often has its roots in early family dynamics, such as being the sibling of a 'Golden Child' or experiencing high parental expectations, which can shape an individual's perception of their abilities and worth.

💡Adaptive Response

An 'Adaptive Response' is a behavior or psychological mechanism that has evolved to help an individual cope with their environment. The video presents Imposter Syndrome as an adaptive response that, while causing personal suffering, paradoxically drives individuals to work harder and achieve more, as they constantly feel the need to prove themselves.

💡Therapy

The term 'Therapy' is mentioned in the context of seeking professional help for Imposter Syndrome. The script notes that Imposter Syndrome is not officially recognized as a psychiatric diagnosis, which can lead to variable outcomes in therapy. It suggests that while therapy can be beneficial, individuals should be aware that not all therapists may be equipped to address this specific issue effectively.

💡Panic

In the video, 'Panic' is associated with the reaction of individuals with Imposter Syndrome to their accomplishments. Instead of feeling satisfaction or pride, they may experience panic and an increased drive to work harder to avoid the perceived threat of being exposed as a fraud. This panic response is part of the adaptive behavior that paradoxically contributes to their success.

Highlights

Imposter syndrome is characterized by a persistent internal belief of being a fraud despite external evidence of competence.

Individuals with imposter syndrome feel like their success is due to luck or deception rather than their own abilities.

Success for those with imposter syndrome paradoxically leads to a decrease in self-esteem and an increase in feelings of fraudulence.

Imposter syndrome often originates in childhood, influenced by family dynamics and parental expectations.

Growing up in a family with a 'golden child' or being one can both lead to the development of imposter syndrome.

Parents who devalue effort and focus solely on achievement can contribute to a child's feelings of imposter syndrome.

High-achieving individuals, such as those from prestigious universities or companies, are often not immune to imposter syndrome.

Imposter syndrome can be an adaptive response, driving individuals to work harder despite the emotional toll.

The syndrome is not a psychiatric diagnosis and is not formally recognized in therapeutic training, making it difficult to address in traditional therapy.

Cognitive patterns that maintain imposter syndrome include not attributing success to personal effort and devaluing one's own achievements.

Impostors often attribute their success to external factors and luck, rather than their own competence and hard work.

A common cognitive distortion is the belief that others' successes are due to hard work, while one's own are due to luck.

Imposters place a high emphasis on pleasing others and seeking external validation for their achievements.

Developing a sense of pride in one's own accomplishments, independent of external validation, is key to overcoming imposter syndrome.

Imposter syndrome is prevalent among successful individuals, suggesting it may be an adaptive response to high-pressure environments.

Challenging cognitive patterns and focusing on internal validation can help alleviate feelings of imposter syndrome.

The video suggests that recognizing one's own efforts and successes is a practical step towards combating imposter syndrome.

Imposter syndrome is a complex phenomenon that affects high achievers and can be both a source of stress and a driver of success.

Transcripts

today we're going to talk a little bit

about imposter syndrome and let's start

off by understanding what the experience

of having imposter syndrome is like

the people with imposter syndrome

oftentimes feel like imposters they feel

like they're living a fake life they

tend to be terrified that one day

someone will figure out that they don't

actually belong

they sort of have have this impression

of themselves that they've somehow

managed to skate by and trick everyone

into thinking that they're competent and

so they always kind of feel like the

House of Cards is about to come tumbling

down so it's a very stressful experience

to feel like an imposter and to have

imposter syndrome hey there thanks for

watching and I'm glad these videos have

been helpful a lot of times I'll read

the comments and see people asking well

what do I actually do about it which is

a great question and unfortunately the

resources out there haven't been that

great which is precisely why I started

HD in the first place HG coaches are

trained on a curriculum that integrates

my understanding of what motivates us

what paralyzes us and most importantly

what leads to Lasting behavioral change

if you're ready to take the next step HG

coaches can help you build the life that

you want they've helped people build

careers help people find relationships

build networks of friends and even do

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description below there are a couple of

other key features which are really

important to understand the most

important is actually that someone's

accomplishments don't actually lead to a

sense of competence so if we look at a

normal person when I succeed or

accomplish something what tends to

happen is my self-esteem gets a boost

right like after all I was successful I

did a good job I should feel better

about myself but with someone with

imposter syndrome the opposite actually

happens when someone with imposter

syndrome succeeds or accomplishes

something instead of at actually

boosting their competence they somehow

arrive at the conclusion that they've

faked it that they don't actually

deserve to be successful they they

didn't actually achieve something

through their own effort and so

paradoxically the better they do the

worse they feel about themselves and so

where does imposter syndrome really come

from how does someone start to think

this way and so research shows that it

actually begins usually in childhood so

there are two main sort of profiles of

people who develop imposters syndrome

the first profile is sibling of a golden

child or gifted kid so these are

situations in which someone grew up

having a usually an older sibling who's

very very accomplished and frequently

that families would make comparisons

between the person who eventually

develops imposter syndrome and The

Golden Child these are situations in

which growing up you know parents will

say things like oh you know your oldest

sibling is so smart they're so talented

they do such a good job it seems like

the older sibling is effortlessly

successful and meanwhile you've got the

younger sibling who's terrified and

struggling to keep up because they've

got very very big shoes to fill a lot of

Parental expectations and if my older

brother and sister are able to do it I

should be able to do it too

the other interesting thing is that the

other group of kids who grew up to have

imposter syndrome actually deal with

those pressures directly themselves they

are sort of viewed as a gifted kid or

Golden Child and these kids tend to come

from high achieving families that put a

lot of pressure on their kids and the

key thing here is that parents of

children who grow up to have imposter

syndrome will appreciate the child's

accomplishments but won't appreciate or

actually denigrate the efforts that the

child has to go through so these are

parents who wouldn't sort of say hey you

did you got an A that's a really good

job you must have worked really really

hard to get that a in fact what these

parents will do is they'll say they'll

sort of assume that the child should get

an a right because you're smart and

because we're smart and because you're

so smart and talented everything should

be easy for you and so when they start

to deal with a child who sort of and

kind of put a pressure on them that

everything should be easy for you what

does that do to the child it creates a

very very scary situation where oh I

managed to do a good job which is what I

was supposed to do right so like I got

an A that's what I'm supposed to do but

it's supposed to be easy for me but it

actually it was hard for me and so what

starts to happen is they start to lose

confidence in themselves and they start

to believe that achievement should be

effortless in nature and if I am having

to work hard to get an A then there must

be something wrong with me so these are

the two backgrounds that lead to

imposter syndrome if we kind of tunnel

down to what is the common shared

feature the most common feature of

imposter syndrome is this idea that the

more success you have the more you

accomplish the less competent you feel

in yourself and this is something that I

was I got super interested in so when I

was doing my residency at Massachusetts

General Hospital we got a lot of kids

who were like college students from MIT

in Harvard and places like that and I

saw something really Czar which is that

these kids should feel really confident

in themselves right these are some of

the smartest kids most talented kids

most accomplished kids in university in

the United States and yet they have

really bad self-esteem problems and as I

continued working with kind of like high

Achievers I noticed that imposter

syndrome kept on cropping up over and

over and over again and I got kind of

confused right because as I worked with

like Bankers from places like Goldman

Sachs or like you know other really

talented people entrepreneurs CEOs

things like that game developers from

like you know very prestigious companies

I was super surprised that I was seeing

more and more and more imposter syndrome

and so I started to think a little bit

about okay hold on a second like why is

this okay so we sort of know that the

more you accomplish you're not able to

develop a sense of competence but why is

it that all of these people at high

performing institutions are winding up

with imposter syndrome because I thought

that imposter syndrome is like a bad

thing right these are people who are

suffering with imposter syndrome they're

stressed out all the time they're afraid

that everything is going to come

crashing down around them but this is

when I sort of realized that imposter

syndrome isn't a bug it's actually a

feature and if you look at research on

imposter syndrome which you begin to

realize and if you work with these

people is that the reason that imposter

syndrome is so prevalent and is so hard

to deal with is because it's actually an

advantage in some ways

so imposter syndrome is essentially an

Adaptive response it's something that's

a painful adaptation it's an adaptation

that leads to suffering but it's

absolutely an adaptation so let's

understand why imposter syndrome is

actually hard to kick and what it

actually does for people so let's start

by looking at a normal person okay so a

normal person works really really really

hard and then they accomplish something

they succeed in some way and when they

succeed in something they feel good

about themselves and what do they do

they go out and they celebrate on the

flip side someone with imposter syndrome

when they work really really really hard

and they achieve something how do they

feel about themselves they feel

terrified they feel like oh my God I got

so lucky I barely scraped by I got so

lucky that the professor likes me

otherwise I wouldn't have gotten an A

and so what do they do after they get an

A they actually double their efforts

they actually work twice as hard they

don't relax at all they actually work

harder because remember if in your mind

you are maintaining this elaborate

facade that could come crumbling down

around you at any moment you can't relax

at all right because if if you make a

single mistake everything's gonna come

tumbling down you have no sense of

Reserve you have no sense of resilience

you can't rely on things to work for you

and it's because you're kind of like

screwing up right like you're on the

verge of everything coming crashing down

there's no room for relaxation and so

now we can begin to see that the

behavior of someone with imposter

syndrome actually leads them to more and

more success which is precisely why you

have more and more imposters in more

successful places

and for the record you know back in

residency I did a lot of work with like

homeless people I worked in the jail for

a few months and I didn't see a single

case of imposter syndrome in the

homeless population there aren't people

out there who are like oh my God I'm not

really homeless like people are going to

figure this out and that everything is

going to come crashing around in fact

imposter syndrome correlates with

outward achievement and so this is the

really bizarre thing is that these are

people who should feel really confident

in themselves in fact imposter syndrome

just as a quick historical side note was

actually discovered in high functioning

and high performing women who despite

the fact that they were very very

successful felt like imposters

so now that we understand that imposter

syndrome actually encourages people to

work extra hard and is sort of like an

adaptation that leads to more success

and accomplishment how do we tackle this

and this is where things get a little

bit tricky because technically imposter

syndrome is not actually a psychiatric

diagnosis so you can't be diagnosed with

imposter syndrome because it's not even

officially recognized by therapists

psychologists psychiatrists and

furthermore it's not something that the

average psychologist or psychiatrist or

therapist gets any training in so if you

look at the formal kind of curriculum

that therapists get trained in imposter

syndrome usually has zero hours of

training and this is something

unfortunately that we've had to deal

with at healthy gamer because we get a

lot of clients in our coaching program

who've actually tried therapy and

discovered that the amount of help that

they got with imposter syndrome was

highly variable so the therapists were

really good at dealing things with like

anxiety disorders and mood disorders but

unfortunately we've seen a lot of

unfortunate outcomes in terms of

imposter syndrome and therapy now this

doesn't mean that you can't get help

from a therapist and I've worked with a

bunch of people with imposter syndrome

and I think I've been able to help them

a lot I have a lot of colleagues who've

been very successful but you should know

that your mileage may vary

so today what we're going to do is talk

a little bit about how imposter syndrome

gets maintained so that you can

challenge some of the cognitive patterns

that you may be dealing with so

researchers have discovered something

really interesting when it comes to

imposter syndrome since it's not really

a diagnosis it kind of gets maintained

through particular patterns so unlike

something like a mood disorder which may

be like neurotransmitter mediated or

things like that like maybe a serotonin

deficiency or for example a panic

disorder is an inappropriate activation

of your adrenaline system it seems like

imposter syndrome is actually reinforced

through particular cognitive patterns

and what we're going to share with you

today is what those patterns are how to

find them and even how to counteract

them so the first pattern involving

imposter syndrome is not attributing

your success to your effort so if you

talk to an imposter and you ask them

okay why are you successful you'll get

lots of answers that have nothing to do

with them oh I I ended up going to

Harvard because my parents are smart I

ended up going uh getting promoted

because I'm lucky I ended up Landing

that contract because uh you know the

people thought I was very friendly or

they took pity on me the successes of

people with imposter syndrome are

actually never taken on by themselves so

they always attribute their successes to

some external factor or luck and when

you do that what that sort of means is

that you can't log a w in the W column

right because you don't really deserve

to be successful that success has

nothing to do with your actual

competence

and so this is what's really interesting

there's actually research that shows

that you can actually ask someone with

imposter syndrome to think a little bit

about what they did to deserve a win and

this is the kind of thing that we'll

teach our coaches and it actually works

surprisingly well is simply to ask

someone so anytime you have some sort of

accomplishment you sort of think a

little bit about what you did to deserve

it

and think a little bit past your

knee-jerk reactions for why you're

successful so instead of just assuming

that you were lucky and that's why you

got an A oh it turns out that I missed

one review session and that review

session wasn't on a test that's why I

got the a whereas this person is

ignoring the 90 of the stuff that they

did right they went to class every day

they did their homework every day they

went to all the other review sessions

that were on the test they got notes

from a friend so there's a really

interesting cognitive pattern that

happens in people with imposter syndrome

which is that they actually devalue

their own efforts that lead to success

so what you want to do if you struggle

as an imposter is any time you're

successful pay attention to that first

thing that your mind says which is that

you're lucky and instead think a little

bit about what did you do to deserve

this

the second cognitive pattern that

maintains imposter syndrome is that we

attribute other people's successes to

hard work so when someone else gets

promoted when someone else gets an a

that's because they worked really hard

and they really deserve it right they

didn't get lucky there was no nepotism

involved or anything like that everyone

else's successes they deserve but my

successes I don't deserve so the second

cognitive pattern that we need to attack

is that one so this is a situation where

when you see someone else succeed what

is your default response in your mind

wow they really deserve it and so this

is where what we actually want to do is

flip the script a little bit and start

to ask yourself well what are the

advantages that they had in what ways

did they get lucky and even articulating

some of this stuff starts to challenge

this cognitive pattern the third

cognitive pattern in imposter syndrome

is an emphasis on pleasing others so

when when you're successful or not it

really has nothing to do with you so

your idea of success if you're an

imposter is is what do other people

think so if I get an A and this is where

kind of that high achieving families

Dynamic comes in when I get an A what do

other people think about it that's what

imposters care about so if you're a kid

who grew up with a sibling who was a

golden child even if you get an A no one

is proud of that accomplish in and of

itself right they're not proud of that

accomplishment what they're proud of

what you're kind of doing is you're

comparing your accomplishments to other

people so one of the things that we know

about people with imposter syndrome is

they're very very concerned with

external opinions and external

validation and that's why we're so

terrified of of you know everything

coming crashing down and people will

will it'll be revealed that we're

imposters and we don't actually deserve

our success so when you succeed the mind

of someone that with imposter syndrome

is going to default to thinking about

what other people think so when I get an

A on a test I'm not happy until my

parents say good job kid you're so smart

when I do a good job at work what I

really care about about I can't relax or

feel competent or feel proud until my

boss says good job and once I've made my

boss happy I have maintained the scam

right this is another day that's gone by

at work where they haven't figured out

I'm incompetent and my boss still thinks

that I'm a good person right so we

really care what other people think and

we're not able to take pride in our own

accomplishments the idea that I can be

proud of something and someone else may

be disappointed in it is completely

foreign to someone with imposter

syndrome that just does not compute at

all there's no way I can be proud of

something and someone else be

disappointed in something

and so this is the thing that we kind of

want to tackle is to develop a sense of

pride in our own accomplishments and

that too can be done somewhat simply by

simply asking yourself okay when you do

a good job at something how do you feel

about it and you may say well how do I

know if I've done a good job well you

just think about it for a second right

so if you went to work today

you can ask yourself what can I be proud

of that I did today if you cooked a meal

what can you be proud of what are you

actually satisfied with was the meal

tasty to you is there any part of it

that you can be proud of and the key

thing is that people with imposter

syndrome actually skip this step they

try really hard to skip that step and

they substitute it with well what did

other people think about the meal that I

made so if you want to challenge this

cognitive pattern of imposter syndrome

just stop for a second and think a

little bit about what can I take prior

pride in what can I actually be proud of

so at the end of the day imposter

syndrome is something that we're seeing

more and more and more and bizarrely the

people with imposter syndrome are the

ones that kind of deserve it the least

so the more accomplished you are the

more likely you are to to feel imposter

syndrome and we've seen this a lot in

our career coaching program in our

creator coaching program where we work

with people like YouTube creators and

twitch creators and all of them have

imposter syndrome and why is that it's

because imposter syndrome is not

actually it while it's harmful it's also

adaptive so it's a harmful adaptation

and how is it adaptive well that's

because someone with imposter syndrome

instead of celebrating when they do a

good job what they actually do is panic

and work twice as hard and if you really

think about it instead of celebrating if

you're panicking all the time and

working twice as hard do you suffer sure

but you're also going to be very very

accomplished and very successful because

you're working hard all the time and as

people are able to acknowledge the

things that they've done that deserve

success as people are able to

acknowledge that if someone else is

successful maybe they got a little bit

lucky too and lastly as people are able

to take pride in themselves instead of

relying on someone else's validation

that's when you see start to see

imposter syndrome get a lot better