Q&A DARK FEMININE ENERGY
Summary
TLDRThe speaker in this script delves into the dynamics of gender, sexuality, and emotional intelligence, emphasizing the societal pressures and judgments that shape men's and women's behaviors. They discuss the importance of embracing one's sexuality and emotions to avoid manipulation and control, especially in romantic relationships. The script also touches on the concept of 'shadow work' and the 'golden Shadow,' urging individuals to recognize and integrate disowned parts of themselves. Additionally, the speaker advocates for self-exploration and understanding one's body, including the use of the 'tampon test' as a fun way to gauge attraction and compatibility.
Takeaways
- 🚶 Men are often not judged for embracing their sexuality from a young age, whereas they may be criticized for showing vulnerability in their emotions.
- 💪 Emotionally intelligent men are less likely to be manipulated by others, highlighting the importance of emotional literacy for self-protection in relationships.
- 🌟 The concept of 'golden Shadow' suggests that attraction or aversion to someone can indicate qualities we disown in ourselves, which can be a part of personal growth.
- 🔓 Understanding and integrating one's sexuality is crucial for personal empowerment and can prevent manipulation in relationships.
- 🎶 The speaker metaphorically compares the awakening of sexuality to music that can stir emotions but should not control one's actions.
- 🌱 Longing and desire are natural human impulses that signal unmet needs, and it's essential to address these needs responsibly.
- 💡 Education on emotional and sexual health is vital for well-being, as it can prevent issues like atrophy of sexual desire and understanding one's true needs.
- 🧘♀️ The speaker emphasizes the importance of self-exploration and understanding one's body's responses to different situations, such as using the 'tampon test' for gauging attraction.
- 🛑 The 'tampon test' is presented as a fun and informal way to collect data about one's body's reactions but should not be used to address deeper issues like trauma.
- 🤝 The speaker encourages seeking professional help, like coaching or therapy, for personalized guidance and to deal with complex personal issues effectively.
Q & A
Why are men not judged for embracing their sexuality at a young age?
-Men are often encouraged to embrace their sexuality from a young age and are not judged for it, unlike women who may be criticized for showing similar openness about their sexuality.
What is the 'golden Shadow' concept mentioned in the script?
-The 'golden Shadow' refers to the idea that we are sometimes attracted to people because they exhibit qualities that we wish we could have or express more freely, which we may have disowned or suppressed within ourselves.
Why is it difficult for a manipulative woman to control an emotionally intelligent man?
-An emotionally intelligent man has done the work to understand and integrate his emotions, making it difficult for a manipulative woman to control him because he is in tune with his feelings and less likely to be swayed by external influences.
What does the speaker suggest is the reason some women are attracted to 'players'?
-The speaker suggests that some women are attracted to 'players' because they themselves have not integrated or are uncomfortable with their own sexuality, and they seek to live out their repressed sexuality through the 'player'.
How does the speaker define 'high value' in terms of self-worth and self-esteem?
-High value is defined by having high self-worth, high self-esteem, and a healthy self-image. These attributes contribute to a person's overall sense of self-worth and confidence, which is essential for not being easily manipulated or controlled.
What is the importance of understanding and accepting one's own sexuality according to the script?
-Understanding and accepting one's own sexuality is crucial as it prevents manipulation by others, particularly in sexual contexts. When a woman owns her sexuality, she is less likely to be controlled by a man, as she is in tune with her desires and can manage them independently.
What does the speaker mean by 'Unleash Your Dog feminine'?
-To 'Unleash Your Dog feminine' means to embrace and express one's raw, natural feminine energy and sexuality without shame or inhibition, which can lead to empowerment and resistance to manipulation.
Why does the speaker emphasize the importance of having a healthy sex life for women?
-The speaker emphasizes the importance of a healthy sex life because it is linked to overall health and well-being. Regular orgasms can help balance body chemistry, improve sleep, and maintain a healthy sex drive.
What is the 'tampon test' mentioned in the script and what is its purpose?
-The 'tampon test' is a fun and informal method suggested by the speaker to gauge sexual attraction or compatibility with a potential partner by monitoring changes in one's body, such as the wetness of a tampon, during different dates.
How does the speaker address the issue of longing in the context of relationships?
-The speaker addresses longing as a natural human impulse that should not be suppressed or judged. It is a signal that a need is not being met, and it is the individual's responsibility to understand and meet that need, whether it is through seeking companionship or addressing deeper issues of self-worth and self-esteem.
Outlines
🚹 Emotional Suppression and Sexuality in Men
The speaker discusses societal expectations that encourage men to embrace their sexuality from a young age without judgment, unlike their emotional expression, which is often suppressed. This leads to men potentially being emotionally weak and susceptible to emotional manipulation by women. The speaker suggests that emotionally intelligent men are less likely to be manipulated. They also touch on the concept of 'golden Shadow' or 'Shadow work', explaining that attraction or aversion to someone can indicate a disowned part of oneself that the other person embodies. The speaker encourages understanding and embracing one's sexuality as a form of self-acceptance and power, which can prevent manipulation.
🔓 The Importance of Self-Exploration and Sexual Health
This paragraph delves into the importance of self-awareness and emotional mastery, particularly in relation to natural impulses such as longing. The speaker criticizes the lack of education about emotions and argues that understanding and meeting one's own needs is crucial to avoid unhealthy behaviors in relationships. They emphasize the necessity of orgasm for a woman's health and well-being, suggesting a minimum frequency for balance, and discuss the potential consequences of sexual inactivity, such as atrophy of one's sex drive. The speaker also addresses the role of spirituality and personal beliefs in sexual exploration, advocating for a balanced and informed approach to sexuality.
🚼 The Necessity of Touch and Human Connection
The speaker highlights the fundamental human need for touch and connection, drawing parallels to the importance of nurturing touch for infants and its impact on adult well-being. They discuss the potential negative effects of denying oneself touch, such as becoming 'feral' due to a lack of physical contact. The paragraph also touches on the idea that exercise can be a means of releasing energy but may not fully replicate the benefits of sexual release. The speaker encourages individuals to consider the importance of touch and human connection in their lives and to seek out healthy ways to fulfill these needs.
📚 Investing in Relationship Education
The speaker passionately argues for the importance of investing in relationship education, suggesting that the lack of focus on this area can lead to significant personal and societal costs. They draw a parallel between the investment in coaching or therapy and the potential costs of not addressing relationship issues, such as divorce. The speaker emphasizes that understanding and nurturing relationships are key to happiness and well-being, and they encourage taking advantage of courses and coaching to gain the necessary knowledge and skills.
💧 The Tampon Test: A Fun Tool for Self-Discovery
The speaker introduces the 'tampon test' as a light-hearted method for women to gauge their level of attraction or compatibility with a potential partner. They explain that changes in the body's response, such as the wetness of a tampon, can provide insight into one's feelings and reactions to another person. The speaker emphasizes that this test should be used in conjunction with other forms of self-exploration and journaling to gain a deeper understanding of oneself. They also caution against taking the test too seriously and highlight its role as a fun and additional tool for self-discovery.
🤝 Seeking Professional Help for Personal Growth
In this paragraph, the speaker encourages individuals to seek professional help, such as coaching or counseling, to address deeper issues that may be affecting their lives. They acknowledge that while group settings can be beneficial, some issues require personalized attention. The speaker offers a pathway to healing through coaching sessions and emphasizes the importance of understanding one's unique situation. They also mention the value of integrating insights from coaching sessions with ongoing therapeutic work, advocating for a comprehensive approach to personal development.
🌟 Embracing Lifelong Learning and Community Support
The speaker concludes by reiterating the importance of ongoing education and community support in personal growth. They express gratitude for the audience's participation and encourage continued engagement through the Black Relationship Academy's app and master classes. The speaker stresses the commitment to making education accessible and emphasizes the value of lifelong learning in relationships and self-improvement. They sign off with a message of love and appreciation, highlighting the interconnectedness of personal development and community involvement.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Sexuality
💡Emotional Intelligence
💡Shadow Work
💡Golden Shadow
💡Manipulation
💡Self-Worth
💡Longing
💡Emotional Mastery
💡Dark Feminine
💡Orgasm
💡Self-Abandonment
Highlights
Men are not judged for embracing their sexuality from a young age, unlike women who are shamed for expressing emotions.
Men's emotional expression is often suppressed, leading to a perceived weakness that women can exploit emotionally.
Emotional intelligence in men makes them less susceptible to manipulation by women.
Individuals attracted to or repulsed by others may be responding to qualities they disown in themselves.
The 'golden Shadow' concept suggests attraction to people who exhibit desired but repressed qualities.
Understanding and embracing one's sexuality can prevent manipulation by others.
Women who are in denial of their power are more susceptible to being played by men.
High self-worth, self-esteem, and a healthy self-image are essential for being considered high value.
Longing is a natural human need, and ignoring it can lead to emotional and physical health issues.
Education about emotions and self-worth is crucial for understanding and addressing natural impulses.
Meeting one's own needs leads to less desperation and healthier relationships.
Compatibility in relationships involves emotional, spiritual, and sexual alignment.
The 'dark masculine' and 'dark feminine' energies should be balanced and healthy, not destructive.
Exploring one's sexuality should be done safely and without shame, respecting personal boundaries and beliefs.
Orgasms are essential for a woman's health, balancing body chemistry, and aiding sleep.
Women should aim for a minimum of three orgasms per week for overall well-being.
Self-exploration and understanding one's body's responses are important aspects of self-care.
The 'tampon test' is a fun, informal way to gauge sexual attraction and compatibility.
Trauma and self-abandonment can lead to deeper issues that require professional help beyond self-help methods.
Investing in relationship education can prevent future emotional and financial costs.
Transcripts
because men are encouraged to embrace
their
sexuality they're not judged for it at a
very very young age they're not judged
for it what men are judg for in their
emotions stop crying stop being a
that's why men get right they're not
encouraged to to to explore their
emotionality um so then they become a
little bit weak that's why women can
control men emotionally the reason men
can control women now if a man has done
the work and he's emotionally
intelligent he becomes very difficult
for a manipulative woman to manipulate
him
correct so in the same way why you get
gotten by players is because you have
not integrated and you are not
comfortable and you carry shame guilt
and or fear around your sexuality so
you're hoping to actually live out your
sexuality through him through him you
find permission to be a version of
yourself so I believe uh Kang calls it
the golden Shadow the golden Shadow is
or even part of Shadow work is
understanding that we're sometimes
attracted to a person because they
exhibit uh qualities we wish we could so
we're either attracted to them or we
hate them so if you find yourself having
a visceral response to maybe another
woman oh what do she think she is you
it's simply part is saying to you that
there's a part of me that I've dis that
disowned denied rejected that she is
freely walking in how dare she right or
a golden Shadow is when you know we look
at you know I don't know who your big
celebrity person is or your pastor or
whoever you look up to your Mentor oh my
gosh I really look up to you you look up
to them because they
are you their strength their power their
prowess their magnificence whatever you
envying them actually is in you but you
repress it denied it disowned it because
maybe you were told to shut up or
whatever the story is so when we're
doing Shadow work so this is something
that you have to do in terms of your
Shadow work and it's about really
understanding that the player only can
play a woman who is in denial of her
power you get into your sexuality and
you Unleash Your Dog feminine and trust
me a man cannot manipulate you sexually
like that he becomes a bit like music
you know we're talking about music the
music that turns us on the gets us in
the mood that music can't manipulate us
you that music is not going to make now
if it's doing that then we probably need
to figure out whether other energies are
connected to that music okay if music is
getting you to do things that you
wouldn't ordinarily do then we might
have to question it but ultimately that
music is almost like fire underneath
what is already existing what already
exists it's Awakening something that is
asleep in the same I hope you can
understand this but in the the same way
a player only has impact in a woman
who's who's disowned her sexuality if
you are in your
sexuality he and then you have owned it
he he's not going to he's not going to
have control over you because you own it
it's yours you you can turn yourself on
and off at will because you're so
connected to your vagina energy that no
one can own it cuz you own it right your
vagina isn't just um
the reproductive part that brings you
pleasure it's also energy it's a
spiritual
portal and it's a spiritual entity and
it's it is designed to be such so I hope
that answers your question um it's
really let's work on what you're denying
repressing and disowning and it's not to
say that you won't be attracted to the
player but these are the women that turn
players into little boys because when he
only has this sexual charge for you but
your charge is heavier then he becomes
obsessed with you nor the other way
around being high value has to do with
high self-worth high self-esteem and a
healthy IM self-image that's that's high
you can't be high value without those
things high self-worth high self-esteem
and a healthy self-image and being high
status that's high value longing doesn't
take away from being any of those things
especially if you understand that
longing is a part of your being it is
not a disease that you need
to
cure if you are not longing for touch
and longing for affection and longing
for companionship you're really not
healthy because we are hardwired for
connection we're hardwired for
attachment this is a human need this is
like food so if you have no longing then
that's a problem the problem is that
because we haven't got an education
about how our emotions work emotional
Mastery because we don't have an
education about who we even are when we
get signals like longing from our
emotional realm that is trying to
educate us on what's going on inside of
our body and inside of our
Lives depending on who we're listening
to on social media who comes up with hey
if you are Des and want a man so bad
then you need Jesus or you need to
repent or you need therapy depending on
who you're listening to you're going to
attach that message to to your natural
impulse and then judge yourself what you
must understand about natural impulses
is that they're there to to signal to
you that there's a need that's not being
met and you are responsible to meet that
need if it's finding and you know being
with a partner you must be deliberate
intentional about doing so you know I I
really really don't like the messaging
that goes out that if you do nothing
he'll come or whatever this ridiculous
whatever if you want to eat you're going
to have to work and go to the
supermarket and cook the food or or food
just does isn't going to just show up
okay because every natural urge longing
and desire has a process it you have to
meet it you are the adult who is
responsible for meeting that need you
can meet it slowly you can meet it
deliberately now if you are meeting a
lot of your own needs you're not going
to be desperate needy thirsty and acting
crazy in the dating world and letting
these men run all over you because
you're doing the inner work of of
meeting your own needs but if you are
not doing that work then what you're
going to do is look for that man to do
it or just sign out of dating or
relationships period in which case
you're not now feral so one doesn't
cancel out the other especially if we
understand that longing is a normal is a
normal a normal thing you know you're
not sick is it true that the dark
masculine likes what the dark Fe
feminine accepts right so this is about
sexuality and again
self-awareness just because for instance
your partner wants to have an orgy or a
threesome or s with another
couple it doesn't mean oh if I wear in
my dog feminine I'm going to be okay
with that that's not how this works
right this is now an issue of
compatibility you know when we're
talking about compatibility we're
talking about
emotional you know uh compatibility
spiritual sexual compatibility you know
if a man wants to do something once you
are connected to your sexuality and your
sexuality is explosive but the idea of
having an ory it does not work for you
and I'm using an extreme example because
I don't want to start naming things that
people are doing and uncomfortable with
and you might be doing it if you are
comfortable with it um and that works
for you then that's fine but I don't
want anyone internalizing and thinking
just because a man's dark masculine now
remember that is the untethered
masculine then there's the untethered
dark there's the untethered dark
masculine then tell the dark feminine
they're now at these kind of extremities
where
they're likely to not do much in the way
of net good right they're taking from
the world rather than giving to the
world we're talking about healthy um
tethered balanced dark masculine energy
you shouldn't really be having to
acas to something that you do not feel
safe and comfortable
doing if you are in your darkg feminine
chances are you going to be open to at
least exploring it okay this is we also
have to factor in your religion your
spirituality we've got other factors
that we need to put in here okay but I'm
just just as a principle if you are
connected to your dog feminine there are
some things that you're going to want to
explore they're going to be curious
about and and the dark masculine May
introduce those to you or ask you of
those things but you always have to
check in with your body that's what I'm
going to say for now or you just call
the coach and figure out how you're
going to okay I think I like this
question coming up hello amazing course
kindly share ideas exploring pleasure
sexually as a single
woman when it comes to your pleasure you
got to figure that at all by yourself
and I say that
because this is when I say by yourself I
mean book a CO a coach call because I
don't want to say anything out here I
don't set the laws for people and how
they explore their sexuality honestly if
you belong to a congregation where
masturbation or your pastor or your sect
of or religion does not permit
masturbation don't be coming here and
saying Changi says it's okay because
that has nothing to do with me but again
you know I need us to be educated when
it comes to sex and maybe we should have
a sex course because masturbation an
orgasm is necessary so I'm going to take
masturbation out of it but an orgasm is
necessary for the health and balancing
of the
body whether we like it or
not orgasming helps balance the Body
Balance the body chemistry do a billion
other things help with sleep issues some
of us are not sleeping because we don't
orgasms so orgasms for a woman like I
said have immense benefits on so many
levels
so what the science says is that a woman
should be orgasm three times a week
minimum for her to balance out her
body I am not a sex expert I'm not a
doctor I'm just giving you the
information that I have that is relevant
to my expertise as a relationship
expert so what you do need to be having
a three orgasms a week whether you give
them to yourself or have somebody give
them to you that's between you your God
and your conscience okay and yourself
but I'm telling you what you
need if you do not give them to yourself
your sex drive will
atrophy you will stop having the desires
and the longings for sex you will meet a
guy
and he will ignite the flame for a
little bit but you will go right back to
what is normal you will completely lose
control of your sex drive you will lose
your you will lose it now you can do
this work we're talking about and do the
the my do yeah your vagina will atrophy
it's like it's a muscle you if you don't
use it you lose it basically um if you
don't use your legs you eventually lose
use of them it's the same thing as your
sexuality and your sex drive and your
vagina if you condition it to not orgasm
when you are married that's when you
start having problems I'm going to give
you what I personally not professionally
or because because I know my limits I'm
not a sex expert um
personally I have no problem with people
masturbating I recommend it um in terms
of is better than rejecting denying and
atrophying and all of these things but I
do feel that if that is a path that you
want to
take you know you want to
refrain you might want to use toys you
might want to do whatever but you don't
want to get caught up in pornography you
don't want to get caught up in there
some there a lot of slippery slopes
along the way because once you get
caught up in US using dildos and these
machines that a penis a normal human
penis cannot mimic you're kind of again
going to put yourself in a place where
you're desensitized when you are
actually in a sexual relationship with a
man but I do feel that toys have a very
important part in the
bedroom um so
really three times a week find a way to
give yourself an orgasm for the
balancing of your body if you're and
your spirituality does not permit then
your sex job is literally going to
atrophy and for whatever whatever your
spirituality is around
that the prayer and the hope is that it
will mitigate that if that makes sense
so if I'm not allowed to because I'm a
Christian and I'm not supposed to and
it's not good for me says my pastor
because I haven't seen it in the Bible
personally but feel free to to let me
know um I've read the Bible many many
times but I can't claim to know
absolutely everything uh so yeah um they
might be a sense of the interpretation
might therefore but there's no clear for
me do not do it right
so let's say for you is to not do it
then you must know that there's a
miracle that you're going to expect to
happen that's going to mitigate the
atrophying of your sex drive or that is
going to regulate you with you doing it
and um hand on heart there's some weird
Behavior out here in these streets that
women exhibit and I know it's
because they've become
feral because when you don't allow
yourself to be touched by your own hands
or by somebody's hands we do become
feral because being touched is an
important part of the human experience
and life so they've done some you know
work and they realize some you know some
research and some experiments and they
realize that you can feed a baby when a
baby comes out of the womb you can feed
it clothe but if you do not touch it and
hug it it will die now if you are built
that way and then you decide because I'm
older and I'm stronger I'm not going to
allow myself to touch or be
touched because of my faith or my
spirituality or my interpretation of my
faith or whatever it
is then my prayer for you is that your
faith will somehow mitigate that and
that's what I'm going to say around that
that I may ask something is exercise can
exercise give you maybe the same kind of
um release though if let's say there's
someone who maybe like I'm never
attaching sex tours I'm never doing this
but they want to get that same feeling
are there other things like exercise or
something that might give you the same
feeling of that release or other things
or is it something that is more that
they they would have to look into and
research exercise is good for you know
releasing that energy but also it can
also fuel you up quite frankly you know
depending on what how old you are
because as we get older testosterone
levels increase and all of these things
in the gym can only give actually help
your sex drive I don't think we should
be running away from our sexuality
honestly or trying to repress it one
who's done that and seeing what that
looks like on the other side it takes a
while for our minds to really to figure
it out right I understand that I want to
encourage you
to take advantage of the sale get this
course again and go through it a few
times because for some of us this brand
new concept for some of us we've heard
it before whether it's in BSN or you
know we've kind of touched on it we've
been around me long enough but a lot of
these
questions I know some of them were being
asked on the way to where we're going so
maybe they've already been answered as
we were going along um but I my
recommendation is go through this again
go through it slowly uh there'll be
workbooks you'll be able to pause and
meditate and think and if you still have
more questions you know join the blacks
one app just download it on your phone
ask the question the coaches myself or
Poppin will will do a live or answer
your question um I think that's probably
the best way because yeah some are and
some are kind of repetitive but yeah
anymore no cuz they're all based about
longing and SE and having sexuality and
it's kind of Bal Bing the dark feminine
with it so it's the yes I kind of
suspected and and this is why this
course has been in my computer because I
knew that this was going to be a little
bit
mindboggling
for a lot of
us and I am happy to my coaches are
happy to have honestly an honest Frank
direct conversation with you in person
if you book a call we will talk to you
in your face straight I mean we won me
towards with you but wisdom tells me to
leave it
there as long as nobody is
confused I'm going to leave it there if
you want to ask me a direct question and
get a direct answer in terms of your
situation your circumstance because I
need to understand your level of if
you're a Christian I need to understand
your depth of understanding of
scripture I need to know where you're
coming from I need to weigh your spirit
you know if you are not and you're
spiritual I need to know where your
spirituality is based in I need to
understand you our coaches need to
understand you as an individual to
honestly be able to tell you what's
going on a lot of these longing
questions are a woman who has low
self-esteem low selfworth doesn't have
any real deep Foundation about who she
is is having some man play her like a
tambourine because she has no idea and
these longings are the longings that
come from a woman who doesn't who who
just doesn't have self-worth or
self-esteem that's the truth and that's
not the longing I'm talking about in the
dark feminine a lot of these longings
are I really like this guy and he
doesn't like me back how am I going to
just you know get him back doesn't
that's insecurity that's that's
Brokenness that's trauma okay talking
because they're two very different
conversations longing that I'm talking
about in this instance and so I knew
that some of us would get into that
whole longing longing thing you need to
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you're going to pay the piper now or
you'll pay the piper later but you will
pay the piper if you do not deal with
these parts of yourself now you will
deal with them later and it will be
harder and I always say when we pay
later we pay with interest getting a
coaching session now is so much easier
than paying a lawyer for a divorce
no matter how much it's like ah it's so
expensive to get coaching I think I can
do whatever the story is and you'd
rather go on holiday or buy yourself the
Chanel handbag or whatever and some of
us genuinely can't afford any I was you
I was that girl who couldn't even afford
a thing that's why I do these courses
the way I do but I knew that I had to
save the money to get the help I needed
and I did and I here I am because of it
but honestly the price of a divorce I
honestly would have
paid anything to learn what I'm learning
what I'm teaching you now because I
wouldn't have married the guy I would
have married if I knew what I knew now I
wouldn't have made half the mistakes and
lost so much of my life including you
know putting so much into a relationship
than having to walk away empty-handed
for just your peace of mind is what
happens when we don't pay the piper now
we all have an opportunity to pay the
piper now make the investment now
because what you will have to surrender
the piper later it's too expensive right
and so many of us toy with our
relationship education and it's not your
fault we live in a world that told us
that being great in maths science
English having a degree having a masters
having a PhD is way more important than
actually relationships and learning how
to do because relationships are supposed
to be intuitive they're supposed to come
naturally but that is not true
relationships have been from generation
to
generation and they did a study and the
our happiness our health and our wellbe
is not dependent on how much education
we have in the sciences and Tech and all
these things it's actually dependent on
the Rel the quality of our
relationships now the quality of our
relationships determines how long we
live how well we live why are we so
ignorant and happy to stay ignorant and
penny pinching around our relation
relationship education you know it just
doesn't make any sense to me and now
I've got into a run apologize but the
point is let's pay the piper get on the
call if you have a question right now
and you're thinking you know what I I'm
I'm horny as how you know I I like I
said earlier I was talking to a
client and this is not the first client
I've spoken to and she's a
virgin you know uh in into her
30s was the right thing to do and you
know again this is not a bad thing but
without this education she's gone off
you know the
rails you know it's it's just got off
the rails because thank goodness for her
she's made the investment she is making
the investment and she's ready to heal
and I'm grateful that she's only 30 but
we don't know the monsters under our bed
and we are hoping that they're just
going to stay under our bed and we're
going to take we're going to go on that
amazing holiday to wherever and we're
going to buy that amazing outfit and the
demon is just going to stay under your
bed but I promise you take it from me
I'm Nelly 50 I take pride in getting
older take it from a 46 year old woman
I'm sure there women that are older than
me but I've lived a million lives at 46
more lives than most
people it will grow big it will come
from under that thing you're going to
pay so pay now you're here today in this
room with me because God wants you to
know Houston you have a problem
and some of you this course is
enough some of you the courses that
we're going to do are going to be enough
some of you the courses already have
enough some of you the therapy whatever
but some of you I know you were sitting
on some demons you're sitting with a lot
of Shame a lot of guilt there's a lot of
fear you like the idea of what you've
learned tonight it's tickled you but the
Walk of it you don't even know where to
begin you don't even know how to start
and I'm not deliberately withholding
honestly there just some things that can
be done in groups and there's some
things that have to be done in person
it's just how wisdom works so you know
I'm inviting you to take advantage of
the discount code and get in touch with
us we we're here we want to talk to you
we this is how life's works this is what
we're called to do here's a question
that's not about longing that will could
be answered is there a specific date we
should do the tampon
test um I would do it on all your
dates sometimes you'll get a wet tampon
on day one and on day four right so
sometimes you can't maintain attraction
with somebody because you start to see
certain things about them and you start
to become aware of certain things in
your body so I had this guy I dated the
first time my tampon was wet wet wet by
the third day fourth day every time I
left him I would feel sick I would feel
I'd get like a cold and I'd get so ill
so my body went from being completely
turned on to getting actually
sick and the third dat I was kind of
having this little cough so my body
would deteriorate every time because
whilst your body can pick up certain
information and my tampon got drier so
all of this is data so some things you
need to give your body a little bit of a
longer exposure to that's why we say
three dates because if you expose your
body for three days your temple may have
been dry on date one by date three it's
wet if you expose yourself for three
days your tampon may have been wet on
date one but by date three is dry
because sometimes people's energy they
block and close their energy because
they're hiding something that as they
get to know you it becomes harder for
them to to hide so it's really I would
say wear it on every day and then come
home and
journal journal the experience Journal
your feeling about him about it and um
check how wet your your your tampon is
if you are around a guy and you feel
unsafe this is a real issue this is
something you carry in your body this is
an attack is a trauma the tampon test
will not help you you know the tampon
test is for girls who you know don't
carry that kind of trauma and who just
want to know if there's attraction or
compatibility sexually or you know we
definitely do not want to get carried
away with the tampon thing because to be
fair the tampon test is just a bit of
fun it's just a fun way of collecting
data and getting to know yourself
sometimes you know I am always on a
self-discovery level because tell me
I'll tell you something the world
outside of us is huge but the world
within you can't quantify it you are a
whole universe with stars and moons and
all these things so when you are your
feminine energy
self-exploration ex exploring my mind
heart and spirit for me is the most fun
I can have and so I will wear a tampon
when I'm not on my period and I'll do it
for a week because I want to understand
what my body is doing and why is doing
it you know um what are the things my
body reacts to what are the things my
arouses my body you know I'm just
curious about me so when we're talking
about the tampon Test please don't take
it as gospel it's just something fun uh
to do when you go on a date if you want
additional data um it's not to address
trauma I hope that makes sense the
layers to every story you see cuz
sometimes it's not the actual thing that
happened to you but the layers of why it
even happened you know I have I've had
clients who were raped and the rape was
the consequence of long-term
self-abandonment so we do need to deal
with the trauma of the rape but it's
likely going to happen again in
different ways if we don't actually deal
with the issue of self- abandoning and
the self- abandoning comes with a whole
heap of stories
so you know it's not just uh this is the
problem fix it we're not like cars you
know you open the Bonnet and that's
broken let's replace that part we're
very layered we're layered in our being
you know we we have the mind which is
layered we have the heart which is
layered we have the body which is
layered you know and and the woman is
particularly
complex you know men a little bit more
straight forward when you coach a man
it's a little bit of a straightforward
he's complex as a human but he's a
little bit more straightforward but a
woman is very complex so you know we
don't my again I emphasize you know book
a call with a coach use the opportunity
to do that so that we can you know get a
bigger picture of of what's going on
with you and even if you just have that
one call and never have one again you
will get your pathway to healing and
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but even if that's the last time you
have contact with a coach at least we
can help you pinpoint the areas that you
need to actually begin to work on and
with those
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practitioner you feel you can afford or
prefer or already using so if you
already have a therapist um you can then
take you know the things that we give
you in the coaching session as
intentions the same thing when we work
with our councel when things come up in
the coaching session we ask you to go
and deal with that particular issue with
as an intention with it with with our
counselor so the best path is Discovery
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to do that you can yeah book our
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if you've already worked with a with a
with a coach and you want to do more
work that's fine it's wonderful to spend
time with you and serve you all and I
really truly appreciate you being here
tonight this morning this afternoon I
know some of you have probably got your
I think I was listen I was watching
Tracy sent an email and was saying she
managed to clean and cook and get
everything done in the last session and
learned a whole lot um I'm glad that
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you for your love I love you to bits and
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