Why City Girls Always Lose
Summary
TLDRThe video script challenges the 'city girl' label, often associated with promiscuity and materialism, arguing it's a false sense of empowerment rooted in trauma. It emphasizes the importance of self-worth, respect, and the value of inner beauty over material possessions. The speaker encourages viewers to seek meaningful relationships and guard their hearts against negative influences, advocating for a life guided by faith and self-respect.
Takeaways
- 💭 The script discusses the misconception of 'power' in relation to promiscuity, suggesting that true empowerment is not about having sex indiscriminately but about making wise choices in life.
- 👩🦰 It defines a 'city girl' as a woman who is independent and won't let a man control her life, but also points out the potential negative connotations associated with this term.
- 🚫 The speaker argues against the idea that being promiscuous is empowering, stating that it may actually stem from a mentality shaped by trauma.
- 🎵 The influence of music and media is highlighted as a factor that can lead young women to adopt the 'city girl' mentality, which the speaker views as harmful.
- 👧 The script mentions Young Miami from the rap group City Girls, who does not want her daughter to follow the 'city girl' lifestyle, indicating a recognition of its potential negative impact.
- 💔 The importance of emotional health is emphasized, suggesting that shutting off emotions can be dysfunctional and traumatic.
- 🛐 The speaker encourages a relationship with God as a way to find self-worth and to break away from harmful behaviors and mindsets.
- 📖圣经引用被用来强调身体是圣灵的殿,提醒人们要尊重自己的身体,不要因一时的放纵而伤害自己。
- 👗 The script criticizes the focus on material possessions and outward appearance as the sole measure of a person's worth, advocating for inner beauty and character instead.
- 🤝 It suggests seeking meaningful relationships and surrounding oneself with people who share values and respect, as a way to counteract negative influences.
- 🙏 The importance of prayer and fasting is mentioned as a method to break free from toxic patterns and to seek spiritual guidance and strength.
Q & A
What is the speaker's view on the concept of 'power' as portrayed in the script?
-The speaker believes that the concept of 'power' in the script is misguided, as it promotes promiscuity and materialism rather than true empowerment and self-worth.
What does the speaker define as a 'city girl'?
-A 'city girl' is defined by the speaker as a woman who is independent, assertive, and not easily controlled by men, but the speaker also critiques this definition as it can lead to negative behaviors and attitudes.
How does the speaker relate the 'city girl' mentality to trauma?
-The speaker suggests that the 'city girl' mentality may be a result of trauma, leading to promiscuity as a form of empowerment, which the speaker argues is not true empowerment.
What does the speaker suggest is the real power for women?
-The speaker suggests that real power for women is self-respect, self-worth, and the ability to limit access to oneself to those who truly deserve it, such as a committed partner.
What does the speaker mean by 'getting the bag'?
-'Getting the bag' refers to women receiving material benefits, such as money or gifts, from men in exchange for their company or other forms of attention.
How does the speaker view the influence of music on the 'city girl' mentality?
-The speaker believes that certain types of music can reinforce the 'city girl' mentality by promoting promiscuity and materialism as empowering, which can be misleading for young listeners.
What does the speaker suggest as a solution for those who wish to break away from the 'city girl' lifestyle?
-The speaker suggests a relationship with God, self-respect, and seeking meaningful relationships as solutions to break away from the 'city girl' lifestyle.
How does the speaker interpret the Bible's stance on beauty and self-worth?
-The speaker interprets the Bible as advocating for inner beauty and self-worth, citing verses that emphasize the importance of a gentle and quiet spirit over outward adornment.
What advice does the speaker give for those who have been through traumatic experiences?
-The speaker advises individuals who have experienced trauma to heal before entering into new relationships and to seek self-worth and respect from within, rather than seeking validation from others.
What role does the speaker believe prayer and fasting can play in overcoming the 'city girl' mentality?
-The speaker believes that prayer and fasting can help break soul ties and toxic relationships, and can be a powerful tool in overcoming negative influences and behaviors.
What resources does the speaker offer to help individuals struggling with the issues discussed in the script?
-The speaker offers live coaching services, an eBook on dating as a child of divorce, and encourages individuals to engage in fasting and prayers as resources for overcoming the challenges discussed.
Outlines
💔 The Misinterpretation of 'City Girl' Power
The video script starts by challenging the misconception of 'city girl' power, which is often associated with promiscuity and independence from men. The speaker emphasizes that true power lies in turning negative experiences into blessings. The 'city girl' is defined as a woman who is not controlled by men and does not rely on them for her needs. However, the speaker disputes this definition, arguing that it is a result of trauma and a misguided attempt at empowerment. The script also references other videos by the same speaker for a deeper understanding of the 'city girl' mentality and its impact on young women.
🌆 The Illusion of City Girls' Invincibility
This paragraph delves into the origins of the 'city girl' concept, suggesting that it stems from a rap group and not from actual city living. The speaker argues that true city girls have faced severe hardships, such as sex trafficking or abuse, which have made them resilient. The paragraph criticizes the idea that being emotionless and promiscuous equates to strength, asserting that women are emotional beings by nature. The speaker shares personal experiences to highlight the importance of not suppressing emotions and the potential harm of adopting a 'city girl' lifestyle, including the risk of heartbreak and emotional trauma.
🙏 Embracing Spirituality for True Empowerment
The speaker transitions to discussing the importance of spirituality in finding true empowerment and self-worth. They argue that the 'city girl' lifestyle is a false representation of power and that real power comes from recognizing one's value as a person created by God. The paragraph includes biblical references to emphasize the sanctity of the body and the importance of treating it as a temple. The speaker encourages viewers to seek a relationship with God to overcome the 'city girl' mentality and to find inner peace and true self-worth.
🔑 Keys to Overcoming the 'City Girl' Mentality
The final paragraph offers solutions for those who wish to break free from the 'city girl' lifestyle. The speaker suggests prayer and fasting as means to heal and break soul ties from toxic relationships. They also promote the idea of seeking meaningful relationships based on shared values and mutual respect. The paragraph concludes with a call to action for viewers to like, comment, and subscribe for more content on this topic, and mentions the availability of live coaching services and an e-book for those seeking guidance on dating as a child of divorce.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡City Girl
💡Empowerment
💡Promiscuity
💡Trauma
💡Self-Worth
💡Respect
💡Mentality
💡Role Models
💡Sexual Freedom
💡Inner Beauty
💡Guarding the Heart
Highlights
The concept of 'city girl' is critiqued as a false idea of empowerment, promoting promiscuity rather than true power.
A 'city girl' is defined as a woman who is independent and won't let a man control her life, but this is contrasted with a harmful mentality.
The video challenges the idea that a city girl is someone who doesn't care about a man's contribution, suggesting a problematic self-sufficiency.
The speaker emphasizes that a city girl's mentality may stem from trauma and promiscuity, not true empowerment.
Young Miami from the rap group City Girls is quoted as not wanting her daughter to adopt the 'city girl' lifestyle.
The speaker argues that the 'city girl' label is not a positive role model for young women, based on Young Miami's own statements.
The importance of guarding one's heart and mind against negative influences, such as certain types of music, is discussed.
The video suggests that true power for women is not about promiscuity but about limiting sexual access to those who deserve it.
A call to trust in God for guidance in finding a partner who is deserving of a commitment, rather than following worldly standards.
The video emphasizes the sacredness of the body as a temple and the importance of honoring it, contrasting with the 'city girl' lifestyle.
The speaker shares personal experiences and the struggle with negative emotions towards men, advocating for God's love as a healing force.
The video discusses the importance of inner beauty and a gentle spirit, aligning with God's sight and true worth.
A solution is offered for those struggling with the 'city girl' mentality, including a relationship with God and personal transformation.
The video offers resources for individuals seeking to break free from negative patterns, including live coaching and an ebook.
The importance of cultivating meaningful relationships based on shared values and mutual respect is highlighted.
The video concludes with a message of hope, encouraging viewers to trust in God to turn negative situations into blessings.
Transcripts
well it's a false idea of quote unquote
[ __ ] Power because what they're
actually doing is promoting women to
continue to go out there and have sex
that is not the power of [ __ ] but God
wants someone to know that he is about
to turn that negative situation into the
biggest blessing in your life my Royale
be are you a c girl well let's find out
make sure you like And subscribe and
let's get right into the video so what
exactly even is a city girl let's define
the first so this is what somebody said
a city girl is a woman who doesn't take
no boo is a city girl will never let a
man run her over or run her life she
can't be tamed and even if he tries to
she's off to the
next why would she let a man run in when
he don't pay the bills or bring anything
to the table and that's what they would
say period only about the bag a city
girl couldn't care less about a man who
doesn't meet her needs she's a natural h
and she can get her own she don't need
her man she wants her man H that
mentality if you want to know more about
that mentality please watch my strong
independent woman watch that my video
because she's independent anyways she
empowers and left a a woman so basically
a city girl thing is empowering okay if
you want to know more of my thoughts of
that please watch the hot girl summer
video a city girl is never the type to
try to stand on other girls make another
girl feel bad or bring her down to make
herself feel better I don't really think
that's the case because when you watch
this rap girles every other girl wants
to be like them right like the Jada the
Jada and the rest so I don't think this
is really true she's a beautiful bad bee
please watch my video on why bad bees
always lose that knows her worth and
acknowledges and respects other bad bees
around her she's already confident and
she doesn't feel like she's in
competition she is the
competition nonchalant unforgiving and
unapologetically herself a city girl is
never ever going to be going out sad
about NW she knows she's the price and
if he ain't going to be doing what he's
supposed to do she's on to the next why
is she going to be in her feelings when
she can get herself a new eater AKA
Munch so what I've learned about a lot
of these types right when I was writing
on types of women cuz this is just the
second part we going into Material Girls
we are going into gold diggers we are
going into boss babes all those kind of
types of women and I learned that a lot
of these types like the bad bees and
these kinds it's caused by trauma it's a
mentality caused by trauma and they
always tend to be on the promisc side
and they tend to think that being on the
promisc side is empowering but is it
really is throwing yourself out to guys
because they pay your bills or because
they bring something to the table or
whatsoever does that mean you have it
all is that what is right well let's
find out so what we learned about these
city girls is that they take the money
no feelings basically they are selfish
AKA I don't cook I don't clean but let
me tell you how I got that ring where is
my ring I should have b a ring today AKA
WAP so they getting the bag they are
catching flight and not feeling please
watch my video on getting the bag and
you'll be able to understand this better
however this whole thing the city girl
thing right it came from the rap group
city girls and that's young Miami and TJ
I forgotten their names anyway I'll put
their picture on the screen so it
basically comes from them but then young
Miami she said that she doesn't want her
daughter to be a city girl let's see
what she
said like like with a like come what if
summer comes to you as pretty as she is
and says mom I want to be a city
girl she ain't going to be no City Girl
Summer ain't allowed to be no City
girl I want her race totally different
like like I really want her to just be
like you know like levelheaded a school
girl I kind of was raised different so I
don't want to raise her up how I was
raised so you know I'm a city girl ain't
nothing wrong with it but I don't want
that my daughter every good parent knows
you can't raise your children on the
logic of do as I say and not as I do
it's dysfunctional and it's destructive
to the child's upbringing because of the
fact that you're going against exactly
what you're saying saying you're going
against what exactly you're saying which
will be like oh um do what I am saying
right but don't do as I am doing
children watch what you do and that's
why these city girls right they can tell
the girls oh this is not a mentality you
should go for or whatsoever but they are
watching what you do this impressionable
young teenage girls that look up to
their city girls they watching what they
do and so they following as they do
because it seems So Glamorous right it
seems like they get a buy they get a
money they don't have to have their
feelings attached they don't have to get
hurt they not going outside behind no
broke ends you get what I mean so they
are going to do as you do and all do as
you say and so your daughter she's going
to emulate what she's saying because if
you are just telling her don't do this
why shouldn't I do it mommy when you are
doing it make it make sense but anyway
let's move on what I wanted us to
realize is that she doesn't want her
daughter to do it she
C I want her totally different however
other people's children oh please follow
me and give me the money isn't it sad
guys and that's why we have to learn and
that's why I'm here guys to warn you not
to all GL is good this is not a
lifestyle you to go for it's a mentality
that is shaped through trauma and even
these city girls are not even actual
city girls why because maybe they may
have been through tough experiences but
it's not that kind of experience that
shapes up a city girl and I've seen a
lot of these girls like a lot of girls
that become city girls right real real
city girls they've been through maybe
sex trafficking they've been through
like RP they've been through really
tough circumstances that changes up
their whole brain that they are not
going to be vulnerable no more they are
just going to do as they wish they don't
actually feel it like young miam like
this look at what she was doing with did
if you watch my video on getting the bag
she was basically tossing and turning
over him and fighting with another of
his was it girl or baby mama while he
had another girl on the side two girls
were fighting on him for what and you
say you're a city girl if you're a city
girl like they say here you don't have
no emotions you don't have feelings you
are catching flight and all feelings but
she still has the feelings there why
because women we are emotional beings
and that's the beauty within women we
are not mean to shut off our emotions
have sex and shut off our emotions like
this city girls want us to do that's
dysfunctional that's traumatic so you
cannot do that why because it's not a
good thing that oh let me go and be
traumatized so I can do that no our
emotions are what makes us feminine it's
what makes us womanly what makes us the
beauty of this world guys so don't shut
it off I know sometimes there may be
some situations you may be Hur so bad
and guys me like this right when my
whole my father thing happened I hated
men I was not because I've never been
promiscous right but I wanted to hurt
men I wanted to break men's heart so I
tried but I couldn't really because I
still had a love of God in Me I still
was very empathetic so I couldn't really
do that as I wanted to do but that's
what I wanted to do but mine was not
accepting nothing from no man I'm a
strong independent black woman I don't
need anything from you but if you come
near me you're going to get a
heartbroken it didn't happen as I
thought it would and thank God but it
could have been worse if it was not for
God I'm going to speak more on God later
that when nobody loves you when people
break your heart when people have hurt
you when your Daddy has left you God
will never leave you God loves you so
you don't have to go through this phase
or wherever because at the end of the
day yeah you are breaking other people's
heart but what about your own heart you
may feel like you don't have emotions
but you're bearing it deep down and it's
going to show up in other ways cuz the
body remembers trust me and all they do
is talk about their pee their trophy pee
if you know what I'm talking about you
know they cookie right every song ever
the wips the hot girl summer the [ __ ]
talk all these songs are talking about
your pee it's like they bring nothing
else to the table music is a tough
driver like when you are listening to
these girls like the [ __ ] talk and the
W and rest you feel o I'm empowered I'm
that girl let me go and sleep with any
guy let me be a city girl so they use
Music very well for this kind of
behavior so you have to be mindful of
the music you listen to that's why God
says that we have to guard our hearts we
have to guard our ears our eyes our ear
Gates our eye Gates because you may feel
like oh it's just music but no you will
end up thinking about it end up doing it
because it's been planted into your
subconscious like I was watching La
Island right for some time at first I
was like ah I don't like this show and
the first time I watched I was so
shocked at what they were doing I was
like how is this real life but then it
got normal to me so the next season I
watched and I was like oh it's not as
bad as I thought it was and then it
becomes normal to you when it becomes
normal to you you end up trying to do
the same things we doing in real life
that's why you have to be careful and
mindful of what you do and what you
watch these girls are not Role Models
guys do not look at them as Role Models
look even for her own daughter she
doesn't want her to copy her so why
would you copy somebody who doesn't want
her daughter to be proud of her and
follow her every mother wants their
daughter to be proud of her but she
doesn't so be mindful of that these
people are basically leading young woman
astray and from today we are no longer
part of that statistic according to them
what the power of the cookie or the
power of the [ __ ] whatever going out
there sleeping with big big men and then
they giving you the bag however real
power is limiting access of the precious
treasure that you have to the only one
that deserving and the only one that is
deserving is the one who has made a full
commitment to love you the one who has
put a ring on your finger I know there's
a lot of issues with marriage and I have
seen so many divorces it's crazy guys
and that's why we have to trust God for
the man that he wants want us to marry
don't look at all these ref flx and be
like oh God I'm just going to follow
because red is my favorite color
actually listen to God guys I know it's
going be hard because it's been hard for
me but trust him the only one who is
deserving is him and sexual freedom is
the power to limit and to deny that's
what true sexual freedom is not just
throwing it out there to the streets
it's a false idea of quote unquote [ __ ]
Power because what they're actually
doing is promoting women to continue to
go out there and have sex that is not
the power of Hy so why do some girls do
this because they don't know their self
worth they don't see themselves as God's
Master pieces they see themselves as
easily bought as long as their money is
big enough 1 Corinthians 6:18 to2 flee
from sexual immorality or other s person
commits are outside the body but
whosoever sin sexually sins against
their own body do you not know that your
bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit
who is in you home you've received from
God you are not your own you were bought
at a price so honor God with your bodies
regardless of whether whether the holy
spirit is in you or not and this is for
my non-Christian women your body is a
temple trust me God has bought you at a
priz and it's up to you to accept it or
not but honor God with your bodies your
body is a temple guys whether we believe
this or not it's a temple it's sacred
it's beautiful to honor God with your
body and my fellow Christian woman don't
look at the world and think that oh I'm
going to live as a world because even
Christian people are doing it no your
body is a temple and do not sin against
your own body cuz every other sin maybe
if you lie if you still doing it to
somebody else but when you commit sexual
immorality like sleeping outside of
marriage or this city girl lifestyle
whatsoever you're doing against your own
self cuz not only is the STDs or the
soul ties I spoke about Soul ti so guys
watch that video the sexually
transmitted demons yeah I said demons
all those things that you may get from
the person it's when you're not in
contact with that person like one stands
and whatsoever and you are bound to the
person you're going to be bound to a
toxic person forever going to have a
baby daddy that is not there for your
child is that what you really want
you're doing it to your own self hurting
your own body you deserve more that's
what first Peter 3:3 says your beauty
should not come from outward adment such
as elaborate hairstyles and wearing of
gold jewelry or fine clothes that does
not mean oh don't have a nice hairstyles
look at my hair I love my hair go
jewelry yeah that's not what he's trying
to say but don't let that be everything
you are like this city girls everything
they are is the clothes that they wear
The Wretched clothes or the luxury bags
like the chanels and all of them like to
get their rapper guys to buy the
expensive luxury car that's not
everything your identity should be it
should be your inner self that un
feeding beauty of a gentle and a quiet
Spirit which is of G worth in God's
sight trust me even it's a of great weth
in God's sight but it's great weth in
people's sight when you're quiet when
you're elegant when you're gentle and
you're out there in the world people be
like ah this girl I want to know more
about her I want to understand how she's
like why is she so calm and peaceful
when I'm around her so this is what some
comments say class wents all day men
don't want to C girl yeah they sleep
with for them but do they want to marry
them longterm no they want a woman with
class and respect for herself and the
man she's with you can't ask somebody to
respect you when you don't respect
yourself no men are simple if they see
that you respect yourself they will give
you the same respect but if not they
cannot go and carry it out of s candy so
what's the solution because even though
you a city girl they will be like oh
once a who always a who no in God you
can be a new creation everything will
pass away and everything will become new
trust me so this a solution your
relationship with God asking God to
become your lord and personal savior
accepting Christ as your lord and
personal savior knowing that he died for
you and that you wanted to come into
your heart and cleanse you you become
new you will not even remember who you
were no more and when your sins are
cleansed God will remember who you are
no more so you don't have to beat
yourself about it when you in Christ
you'll find yourself worth in God and
you'll know that you are valuable and a
masterpiece first Peter 5 6 to 7 says
humble yourself therefore under the
mighty hand of God that he may exalt you
in due time C all your care on him for
he cares for you John 14:27 peace I live
with you my peace I give you not as the
world gives do I give you let your heart
not be troubled neither Let It Be Afraid
Psalm 34:17 the righteous cry and the
Lord hears and he delers them out of all
their troubles the Lord is near to them
of those who have a broken heart and
Save which have a contrite spirit many
are the afflictions of the righteous but
the Lord delivers him out of them all
but they that wait on the Lord shall
renew their strength they shall Mount up
of on wings like eagles they shall run
and not be worry they shall walk and not
faint this is for if you feel like the
city girl life is hard to break out of
and I have a live coaching service that
I speak to you one on one if you want to
know your purpose and also for those who
are children of divorce or children of
toxic parents basically guys I have a
one-on-one training with that I can do
with you just look at the link below and
you'll find it and also I have an ebook
for you right that it's about dating as
a child of divorce all you have to do is
click the link below if you don't want
to have a one-onone with me and you want
the ebook instead click the link below
and it's going to help you fasting and
prayers that's why Jesus said sad things
can only come out by prayer and fasting
when the disciples fail to bring the
demon out so some things only fasting
and prayers can break it to break the
soul ties and toxic relationship you
have with some people fast and pray and
it shall be done for you seek miningful
relationships build relationship with
people with shared values and mutual
respect because like the Bible says walk
with a wife and become wise for a
companion of fools suffer harm and guard
your heart protect yourself from
influences that encourage promiscuity
and superficiality that's what the Bible
says above all else guard your heart for
everything that you do flows through it
does include not looking at things like
on Instagram that would make you feel
like oh you have to go into it no you
don't have to and then Embrace inner
beauty like I said before that focus on
cultivating your inner beauty instead of
always focusing on your outer appearance
or increasing your sex position so that
the man will stack on you if you know
that you've been through traumatic
situations don't get into relationship
guys and instead heal before you get
into another relationship trust me guys
it's going to help you okay I hope you
enjoyed this video remember to like
comment and subscribe and we are going
to meet again on our next video of this
series Material Girl God wants someone
to know that he is about to turn that
negative situation into the biggest
blessing in your life you're going to
have to trust
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