How to meet women: The four pathways

Summary

In this video, Dr. Orion Terban discusses the four primary ways to meet women in today's world: dating apps, cold approach, social circle, and social media. He ranks these methods from easiest to hardest, with dating apps being the quickest but least successful, while social media offers the highest potential but requires significant effort and time. Dr. Terban stresses the importance of not relying on just one method, advocating for a balanced approach and persistence. He provides practical insights and advice on overcoming the challenges each method presents for men navigating the modern dating landscape.

Takeaways

• 😀 There are only four ways to meet women today: dating apps, cold approach, social circle, and social media.
• 😀 The four pathways to meeting women are not mutually exclusive—it's best to use them all simultaneously for better success.
• 😀 Dating apps are the fastest and easiest way to meet women, but they have a low success rate unless you're physically attractive.
• 😀 Men who are under 5'7" or over 50 years old may struggle to get noticed on dating apps due to the algorithms and filters.
• 😀 Cold approach is the second-fastest way, but it requires confidence and the ability to handle rejection, which takes time to develop.
• 😀 Cold approach has its benefits—like knowing exactly what a woman looks like and having direct access to her—but also involves higher risks of rejection and anxiety.
• 😀 Social circle dating, while safer for long-term relationships, can be slow and limiting in terms of options.
• 😀 The risks of rejection in social circle dating are higher, and failure can affect your relationships with friends and colleagues.
• 😀 Social media is the most effective way to meet women today, but it can take time to achieve results and requires consistency.
• 😀 Fame and attention on social media are key to attracting women—being visible and commanding attention makes you more desirable.
• 😀 While social media can be a powerful tool, it takes time to build a following, and success is harder for men compared to women.

Q & A

What are the four main ways to meet women according to Dr. Orion Terban?

The four main ways to meet women are: dating apps, cold approach, social circle, and social media.

Why does Dr. Terban emphasize the importance of using all four pathways to meet women?

Dr. Terban suggests that the best case scenario is using all four pathways at once, as relying on just one can limit a man’s chances and success. Each method has its own strengths and challenges.

What are the main drawbacks of using dating apps for meeting women?

The main drawbacks of dating apps are low success rates for average men, limited visibility based on factors like age and height, and the high competition that can lead to frustration.

Why are dating apps more effective for attractive men according to the script?

Attractive men, especially those who score 8 or above in terms of physical appearance, can achieve significant success on dating apps because their looks help them stand out in a competitive market.

What are the challenges associated with the cold approach method?

The cold approach has several challenges: it can be intimidating, success depends on first impressions, there’s a high risk of rejection, and it requires men to repeatedly practice to gain confidence.

Why is cold approach considered a good strategy for building confidence?

Cold approach helps men build confidence because it gives them real-world experience and boosts their self-assurance, especially if they make successful connections with women.

What are the pros and cons of using a social circle to meet women?

Pros of using a social circle include the ability to vet women over time, making it a safer option for long-term relationships. The cons include limited options, time-consuming efforts to make connections, and the risk of awkwardness if rejection occurs.

How does Dr. Terban suggest overcoming the risks of rejection in social circle dating?

Dr. Terban suggests that you should be confident that the other person reciprocates your feelings before pursuing someone in your social circle to avoid the high risks of awkwardness or changing the dynamic in your group.

Why is social media seen as the best method to meet women, despite its challenges?

Social media is considered the best method because it provides access to the most attractive women and allows men to attract attention without having to approach women directly. However, it requires significant time, effort, and dedication to build a presence.

What are the main drawbacks of using social media to meet women?

The main drawbacks are that it can take a long time to build a following and generate results, and it is more difficult for men to succeed compared to women, as men must demonstrate competence and consistency over time to attract attention.

What does Dr. Terban mean by 'status is contextual' in social circle dating?

Dr. Terban means that your status within a group can vary depending on the specific social context. Being the 'alpha' in one group may not guarantee success in another, and higher status is often required for successful social circle dating.

What is the key to success in all four pathways to meeting women?

The key to success in all four pathways is investing time and effort. The faster, easier methods (like dating apps) tend to have lower success rates, while the more effortful approaches (like cold approach or social media) generally yield better results in the long run.