How to manage your emotions
Summary
TLDRThe video script explores the possibility of controlling emotions through the Process Model, a psychological framework with four steps: entering a situation, evaluating it, responding emotionally, and intervening at any step to alter emotions. It suggests strategies like avoiding situations, modifying them, shifting attention, re-evaluating thoughts, and tempering emotional responses. The script emphasizes that emotions are not inherently good or bad but should be balanced and managed according to the context, advocating for reappraisal to accept emotions and foster hope for improvement.
Takeaways
- 📚 The importance of managing emotions is highlighted, especially in the context of unexpected exam results.
- 👀 The Process Model is introduced as a framework for understanding and regulating emotions through four steps: entering a situation, evaluating it, emotional response, and intervention.
- 🚫 Avoidance can be a strategy by not entering a situation that may lead to negative emotions, as exemplified by skipping a party with an ex.
- 🔄 Modifying the situation is another strategy, like choosing not to interact with an ex at a party to manage emotions.
- 🎮 Shifting attention to something else, like playing a game, can help in not focusing on a negative situation.
- 🤔 Re-evaluating thoughts about a situation can lead to a change in emotional response, such as realizing you don't care about an ex's new partner.
- 😔 If initial strategies fail, tempering the emotional response after the fact is an option, but it should be done healthily, not through harmful behaviors.
- 🚶♂️ Sustainable strategies for managing emotions include physical activity like walking, deep breathing, or talking to supportive individuals.
- 🧘♀️ Learning to notice and reflect on emotions is crucial for effective emotional regulation.
- 🌟 The script emphasizes that emotions are not inherently good or bad, but rather helpful or unhelpful depending on the context.
- 😐 The pursuit of constant happiness can lead to secondary negative emotions, suggesting a balanced approach to emotional experiences is healthier.
Q & A
What is the main purpose of the Process Model mentioned in the script?
-The Process Model is a framework used by psychologists to understand and identify where and how to intervene in the process that forms our emotions, offering strategies for regulating them.
How many steps are there in the Process Model of emotion regulation?
-There are four steps in the Process Model: entering a situation, evaluating the situation, leading to an emotional response, and the opportunity to intervene at each step.
What is the first step in the Process Model of emotion regulation?
-The first step is entering a situation, real or imagined, that draws our attention.
What does the evaluation or appraisal in the Process Model involve?
-The evaluation or appraisal involves assessing the situation to determine whether it helps or hinders our goals.
What is the result of the appraisal in the Process Model?
-The appraisal leads to a set of changes in how we feel, think, and behave, which is known as an emotional response.
How can one avoid a negative emotional response by modifying the situation?
-One can avoid a negative emotional response by choosing not to interact with certain elements of the situation, such as avoiding contact with an ex at a party.
What is one way to shift attention away from a distressing situation?
-Shifting attention can be achieved by engaging in other activities, such as playing a game with friends instead of focusing on a distressing element.
What is the significance of re-evaluating how we think about a situation in the Process Model?
-Re-evaluating how we think about a situation can lead to a change in our emotional response, allowing us to realize that our initial reaction may not be necessary or helpful.
What are some sustainable strategies for tempering an emotional response after the fact?
-Sustainable strategies include going for a long walk, taking slow, deep breaths, or talking with someone in your support system.
Why is it not always beneficial to constantly maintain a good mood?
-Constantly maintaining a good mood can be problematic because no emotion is inherently good or bad—they are helpful or unhelpful depending on the situation, and some negative emotions can be appropriate and supportive.
What can happen if people are fixated on always being happy?
-People fixated on happiness often experience secondary negative emotions like guilt, frustration over being upset, and disappointment that they don't feel happier.
How can strategies like reappraisal help in emotion regulation?
-Reappraisal can help individuals re-evaluate their thoughts about a situation, allowing them to accept their current feelings and cultivate hope for improvement.
Outlines
📚 Emotional Regulation Strategies
This paragraph discusses the importance of emotional regulation and introduces the Process Model as a framework for understanding and managing emotions. It explains that emotions are formed through a four-step process: entering a situation, evaluating it, appraising it in relation to our goals, and responding emotionally. The paragraph suggests that intervention at any of these steps can change our emotional responses. It also provides examples of strategies to manage emotions, such as avoiding a situation, modifying it, shifting attention, re-evaluating thoughts, and tempering the emotional response. The paragraph emphasizes the importance of practicing these strategies to improve emotional regulation and discusses the balance between maintaining a good mood and allowing natural emotional responses.
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Keywords
💡Emotions
💡Process Model
💡Appraisal
💡Emotional Response
💡Intervention
💡Reappraisal
💡Support System
💡Regulation
💡Avoidance
💡Empathy
💡Happiness
Highlights
The importance of acing an exam to avoid summer classes is highlighted.
The emotional impact of receiving lower grades than expected.
The contrast between personal devastation and a friend's indifference to poor grades.
The question of whether one should always look on the bright side.
The affirmation that controlling emotions is possible.
Introduction of the Process Model as a framework for emotional regulation.
The four-step process of forming emotions as outlined by the Process Model.
Strategies for intervening at each step of the emotional process.
Avoiding a situation as a strategy, exemplified by skipping a party.
Modifying the situation by choosing not to interact with an ex at a party.
Shifting attention as a method to cope with an uncomfortable situation.
Re-evaluating thoughts about a situation to change emotional responses.
Tempering emotional responses with sustainable strategies like walking or deep breathing.
The importance of practicing emotional regulation strategies for effectiveness.
The debate on whether to constantly maintain a good mood and the definition of a 'good' mood.
The idea that no emotion is inherently good or bad, but rather helpful or unhelpful in context.
The impact of societal pressures on emotions and the search for personal balance.
The concept that being fixated on happiness can lead to secondary negative emotions.
The role of reappraisal in accepting sadness and fostering hope for improvement.
Transcripts
You and your friend need to ace Friday’s exam to avoid summer classes,
and after a week of studying, you both feel confident that you pulled it off.
But when you get your grades back,
they’re much lower than the two of you expected.
You’re devastated.
However, your friend doesn't seem too bothered,
and it's making you wonder why you can't shake this off like they can.
But should you really be trying to look on the bright side?
And is controlling our emotions even possible in the first place?
The answer to the last question is a definitive “yes.”
There are numerous strategies for regulating our emotions,
and one framework to understand these techniques is called the Process Model.
Psychologists use this tool to identify where and how to intervene
in the process that forms our emotions.
That process has four steps:
first, we enter a situation, real or imagined,
and that draws our attention.
Then we evaluate, or appraise, the situation
and whether it helps or hinders our goals.
Finally, this appraisal leads to a set of changes in how we feel, think, and behave,
known as an emotional response.
Each step of this process offers an opportunity to consciously intervene
and change our emotions,
and the Process Model outlines what strategies we might try at each phase.
To see this in action, let’s imagine you’ve been invited to the same party
as your least-favorite ex and their new partner.
Your first strategy could be avoiding the situation altogether
by skipping the party.
But if you do attend, you could also try modifying the situation
by choosing not to interact with your ex.
If that’s proving difficult, you might want to shift your attention,
maybe by playing a game with your friends
rather than focusing on your ex’s new partner.
Another option would be to re-evaluate how you think about the situation.
After seriously reappraising things,
you might realize that you don’t care who your ex dates.
If none of these strategies work,
you can always try tempering your emotional response after the fact.
But this can be tricky.
Many of the easiest ways to do this,
like hiding your emotions or trying to change them with recreational drugs,
generally lead to more negative feelings and health concerns in the long term.
More sustainable strategies here include going for a long walk,
taking slow, deep breaths, or talking with someone in your support system.
While using all these strategies well takes practice,
learning to notice your emotions
and reflect on where they’re coming from is half the battle.
And once you’ve truly internalized that you can regulate your emotions,
doing so becomes much easier.
But should you use these techniques to constantly maintain a good mood?
That answer depends on how you define what makes a mood “good.”
It's tempting to think we should always try to avoid sadness and frustration,
but no emotion is inherently good or bad—
they’re either helpful or unhelpful depending on the situation.
For example, if a friend is telling you about the loss of a loved one,
feeling and expressing sadness isn’t just appropriate,
it can help you empathize and support them.
Conversely, while it’s unhealthy to regularly ignore your emotions,
forcing a smile to get through a one-time annoyance is perfectly reasonable.
We hear a lot of mixed messages about emotions.
Some pressure us to stay upbeat
while others tell us to simply take our emotions as they come.
But in reality, each person has to find their own balance.
So if the question is: “should you always try to be happy?”
The answer is no.
Studies suggest that people fixated on happiness
often experience secondary negative emotions,
like guilt,
or frustration over being upset,
and disappointment that they don't feel happier.
This doesn't mean you should let sadness or anger take over.
But strategies like reappraisal can help you re-evaluate
your thoughts about a situation,
allowing you to accept that you feel sad
and cultivate hope that things will get better.
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