SESI KAUNSELING INDIVIDU REBT

Summary

This transcript follows a counseling session between Aziz, a therapist, and Faran, a client struggling with the emotional effects of a breakup. Faran shares how being left by a long-term partner deeply affected his mental and emotional well-being, leading to depression and overthinking. The therapist uses Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy (REBT) to challenge Faran's rigid beliefs about the breakup, helping him understand that his suffering stems from unhealthy thinking patterns rather than the event itself. Through this therapy, Faran gradually develops a healthier, more rational perspective on his situation, allowing him to move forward in life.

Takeaways

• 😀 The counselor introduces themselves and sets a safe and confidential space for the client to share their experiences.
• 😀 The client, Faran, shares a painful experience of being abandoned by a long-term lover, causing emotional distress and depression.
• 😀 Faran expresses deep emotional turmoil, including sadness, frustration, and overthinking, following the breakup.
• 😀 The counselor explains the impact of Faran's negative thinking, specifically his belief that he must marry his ex-partner, which is fueling his emotional struggles.
• 😀 The counselor introduces the ABCDE model to help Faran understand that his emotional pain is not due to the breakup itself but the irrational thoughts tied to it.
• 😀 Faran is encouraged to challenge his belief that he must marry his ex, and to consider the possibility of finding someone better suited to him.
• 😀 The counselor helps Faran realize that emotional attachment and expectations of constant presence from his ex-partner are unrealistic and harmful to his well-being.
• 😀 Faran reflects on the irrationality of his thoughts, specifically the idea that his ex-partner must be with him at all times to validate his happiness.
• 😀 The counselor guides Faran to shift his mindset from needing to marry his ex to accepting that there are other sources of happiness in life.
• 😀 Faran experiences a shift in perspective, feeling more at peace and open to moving forward without clinging to past beliefs about his ex-partner.

Q & A

What is the main issue the client, Faran, is dealing with?

Faran is dealing with emotional distress caused by a breakup after being in a long-term relationship. He is struggling with depression, overthinking, and a sense of rejection after his partner left him.

How does Faran describe the impact of the breakup on his emotional state?

Faran describes feeling heartbroken and devastated. He experienced depression, excessive crying, and isolation from others. His thoughts were consumed with wanting his ex-partner back, leading to emotional turmoil.

What specific irrational thought does Faran hold regarding his relationship?

Faran believes that he must marry his ex-partner and that without this, his life cannot be happy or complete. He views the breakup as something that must be reversed to find happiness.

How does the counselor use Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) to help Faran?

The counselor helps Faran identify and dispute his irrational beliefs, such as the necessity of marriage for happiness. Using the ABCDE model, the counselor challenges Faran's thinking to encourage more rational, balanced views on relationships and life.

What is the ABCDE model, and how does it apply in this case?

The ABCDE model stands for Activating event (the breakup), Belief (the need to marry his ex-partner), Consequence (emotional distress), Disputation (challenging irrational beliefs), and New Effect (developing new, healthier beliefs). The counselor uses this model to help Faran reframe his thoughts and reduce emotional suffering.

What was Faran's response when he began to shift his thinking about the breakup?

As Faran reconsidered his beliefs, he started to feel more at ease and acknowledged that his happiness could come from other areas of life. He expressed relief and a more open mindset, even saying that he could be okay whether or not he married his ex-partner.

What new belief does Faran develop about his future and relationships?

Faran begins to accept that while it would have been nice to marry his ex-partner, he can still find happiness and fulfillment in other ways. He understands that he can meet someone else who might be even better suited for him.

How does the counselor handle the emotional aspect of Faran’s thoughts about being abandoned?

The counselor gently challenges Faran’s idea that being abandoned by his ex-partner is an irreversible negative event. They explore the idea that emotional pain is part of life and that it is possible to move on by accepting the change and embracing new perspectives.

What does Faran learn about the relationship between thoughts and emotions during the session?

Faran learns that his emotional distress is more closely tied to his irrational thoughts and beliefs about the relationship, rather than the event itself. By changing his thinking, he begins to reduce the emotional burden and starts to feel more positive and empowered.

What is the ultimate goal of the counseling session for Faran?

The goal of the session is to help Faran reframe his thinking, challenge irrational beliefs, and find healthier ways of viewing his breakup. This will help him achieve emotional clarity, reduce distress, and open up possibilities for future happiness and personal growth.