Watch this if you have no friends / Loneliness / how to find happiness. #friends #lonely #happy #fy
Summary
TLDRIn this empowering video, the speaker addresses the feeling of loneliness that comes with not having friends and turns it into a positive narrative. They argue that being alone can be a blessing, as it allows for self-reflection, personal growth, and the development of a strong bond with oneself. The speaker encourages viewers to embrace their solitude, improve their relationship with themselves, and not to settle for negative friendships. They emphasize the importance of self-love and being a better friend to oneself, suggesting that by doing so, one will naturally attract better friends and experiences.
Takeaways
- 😀 Embracing solitude can be a blessing in disguise, as it allows for self-bonding and personal growth.
- 🙂 It's better to be alone than to have friends who negatively influence your life and habits.
- 🤔 Having no friends at the moment can be an opportunity to reflect on your past friendships and how you can be a better friend.
- 💪 Personal evolution may mean outgrowing old friendships and seeking new ones that align with your current life phase.
- 🤗 Enjoying your own company is a sign of a healthy self-relationship, which is the first step to building meaningful relationships with others.
- 🧘♂️ Spending time alone is crucial for self-discovery and understanding what kind of person you want to be and the kind of friends you want to have.
- 🔄 Disassociating from old friends is not a negative thing but a part of personal growth and finding a path that aligns with your current values and goals.
- 🚫 Avoid settling for friendships that do not serve you well or that you outgrew; it's okay to be alone and seek better connections.
- 💖 Loving and being a good friend to yourself is essential before you can be a good friend to others; you cannot give what you do not have.
- 🌟 Being alone is an opportunity to focus on self-improvement and to become the best version of yourself, which will naturally attract like-minded friends.
- 🌱 Patience is key when it comes to forming new friendships; it's better to wait for the right friends than to rush into unhealthy relationships.
Q & A
Why does the speaker suggest that having no friends might be a good thing?
-The speaker suggests that having no friends might be a good thing because it can lead to self-discovery, self-love, and personal growth. It can also prevent negative influences from so-called friends and allow for the development of a personal relationship with oneself.
What is the first thing one should have according to the speaker?
-The first thing one should have, according to the speaker, is a personal relationship with oneself. This means learning to love your own company and not relying on others to feel special or happy.
Why is it better to have no friends than to have friends who negatively influence you?
-It's better to have no friends than to have friends who negatively influence you because such friends can lead you into harmful behaviors or mindsets that may change who you are for the worse. It's important to surround oneself with positive influences.
What does the speaker mean by 'the real party happens wherever you are'?
-The speaker means that true happiness and enjoyment come from within and are not dependent on external circumstances or social gatherings. If you are content with being by yourself, you can find joy and 'party' anywhere.
How does the speaker view the process of evolving and changing over time?
-The speaker views evolving and changing over time as a positive process. It's okay to outgrow old friendships if they no longer align with your current phase of life and priorities. This evolution is a sign of personal development and growth.
Why is it important to reflect on the kind of friend you've been to others?
-Reflecting on the kind of friend you've been to others is important because it allows you to understand your past behaviors and make amends or improvements. This self-awareness can help you become a better friend in the future.
What does the speaker suggest doing if you find yourself without friends?
-The speaker suggests using the time alone to reflect on oneself, enjoy your own company, and focus on personal growth. It's also an opportunity to understand what kind of friends you want to have in the future.
Why should one not be afraid of being alone?
-One should not be afraid of being alone because it provides an opportunity for self-discovery and self-improvement. It's a chance to know yourself better, enjoy your own company, and make decisions that are true to who you are.
What does the speaker mean by 'be a better friend to yourself'?
-Being a better friend to oneself means prioritizing self-care, self-love, and personal well-being. It involves taking time for self-reflection, engaging in activities that promote personal growth, and ensuring that you are content and happy with who you are.
Why is it important not to settle for bad friends, according to the speaker?
-According to the speaker, it's important not to settle for bad friends because they do not serve you well and can negatively impact your life. It's better to be alone and focus on self-improvement until you find friends who positively influence and support you.
What is the final advice the speaker gives regarding self-love and friendships?
-The final advice the speaker gives is to love yourself, as this is the most important thing. When you love yourself, you won't entertain bad friends and will attract good ones. It's about being patient and focusing on personal growth and self-improvement.
Outlines
🤔 Embracing Solitude: The Unexpected Benefits of Being Friendless
The speaker begins by acknowledging the difficulty of making friends and the loneliness that comes with it. However, they argue that being without friends can be a blessing in disguise. They emphasize the importance of developing a strong relationship with oneself, suggesting that self-love and self-appreciation are foundational to personal happiness. They also highlight the potential negative influences of friends who could lead one astray or contribute to undesirable behaviors. The speaker encourages viewers to see their current lack of friends as an opportunity for self-growth and evolution, rather than a setback. They suggest using this time to reflect on past friendships and to consider how one's own behavior may have contributed to the end of those relationships, with the goal of becoming a better friend in the future.
💡 Self-Discovery and Personal Growth: The Value of Being Alone
In this paragraph, the speaker continues the theme of self-improvement and the benefits of solitude. They point out that many people are so focused on pleasing their friends and fitting into a group that they neglect to spend time getting to know themselves. The speaker expresses happiness for those who are alone, as this provides them with the opportunity to engage in self-reflection and self-love. They argue that it's crucial to be a good friend to oneself before one can be a good friend to others. The speaker encourages viewers to spend time alone to understand and appreciate their own company. They also advise against settling for bad friendships and to be patient in finding friends who are a positive influence. The speaker concludes by stressing the importance of self-love as the key to attracting good friends and living a fulfilling life.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Friendship
💡Isolation
💡Self-bonding
💡Negative Influence
💡Evolution
💡Self-reflection
💡Authenticity
💡Self-love
💡Personal Growth
💡Clique
Highlights
Embracing solitude can be a positive thing, contrary to the common belief that it's undesirable.
Lack of friends can lead to a special bond with oneself, fostering self-love and happiness.
It's better to have no friends than to have negative influences in your life.
The importance of self-reflection and personal growth when you're not surrounded by friends.
Disassociating from old friends can be a sign of personal evolution and aligning with your current life phase.
The value of spending time alone to truly get to know and enjoy your own company.
Reflecting on past friendships to understand your role and improve future relationships.
The danger of seeking group acceptance at the expense of personal identity and growth.
The importance of being authentic and not conforming just to fit into a group.
Being a better friend to yourself by prioritizing self-care and personal interests.
The concept of 'you can't pour from an empty cup' and its relation to self-love and friendship.
Avoiding settling for toxic friendships and understanding the value of being alone.
The idea that loving and being a good friend to yourself is the foundation for healthy relationships.
The encouragement to focus on personal development and self-love to attract better friendships.
The final message emphasizing self-love as the most important aspect of personal growth and happiness.
Transcripts
oh
let me guess just like me you're here
because your ass has got no friends
but not to worry bestie I am here to
tell you why that might actually just be
a good thing are you in your face right
now where you don't have friends you
know you feel alone you feel it sucks
you feel left out I'm here to list some
reasons why that might just be a
blessing in disguise for someone like me
I struggle to make friends to be honest
sometimes it sucks other times I see
reasons why it's a good thing that I
don't even have friends at all I find it
so hard to just walk up to somebody and
say hi hello do you want to be my friend
even if I eventually do that it just
doesn't work out you get but the good
thing is I have been able to create this
special bond with myself that I don't
need any friend to make me feel special
or make me feel happy I am only a God
and I love literally being with me
you know I love my own company and that
is the first thing that you should have
a personal relationship with yourself if
you have friends good for you but if you
don't have I guess that's the reason why
you're watching this video and I'm just
going to list out things where it might
be a good thing that you don't have
friends at the moment right it is better
for you to have no friend at all than to
have friends that Rob off on you in a
negative way imagine having friends that
smoke and you end up being a smoker
imagine having friends that are for the
streets and the rubber from you in a
negative way and you become that same
person even communication corrupts good
manners if you hang around them long
enough you just might become like them
isn't it better that you have no friends
at all than to have friends that
actually rub off on you negatively right
so don't feel bad that oh I'm alone I
don't have friends I'm missing out on
all the parties girl you are not missing
out on any party because the real it
happens wherever you are and if you are
with yourself that's where the parties
are okay if you used to have friends
before and right now you don't have them
anymore instead of you to feel sad take
it as you are evolving right I'll use
this as an example five years ago you
used to be this girl that is for the
streets this girl that parties every
weekend this girl that you know is off
for the gram this girl that is you know
you name it but right now you're another
person anymore you are evolving you're
now in a space whereby you see life in a
different way you have your priorities
right at the moment the friends that you
used to have then might not align with
the phase of life that you are in right
now it's okay to disassociate yourself
from them that doesn't mean that they
are bad people they are not just
aligning with your purpose they are not
aligning with the face that you are in
at the moment and that's okay it's okay
to disassociate yourself from those kind
of people and just take time to reflect
on yourself if you feel like to make
other friends make other friends that
align with you at the moment if you
don't get to see those friends it's fine
be by yourself and enjoy your own
company another thing why it might be a
good thing that you don't have friends
at the moment is because you have time
to process the kind of friend you've
also have being it is very very easy for
us to pass the blame and be like oh you
are not a good friend to me or you were
not a good friend to me or you were not
a good friend to me whereas we have been
the one that have not been a good friend
to others as well you know we might have
been that friend that just you know
forget to wish our friends a Happy
Birthday yes it happens we might also
have been that friend that doesn't
celebrate the little ones of our friends
we might have been that friend that
doesn't support our friend's business
women have been that friend that you
know forgets to like our friends picture
or videos on social media right it is
very very quick for us to pass the blame
right now is the time to reflect on who
you've been to other people the kind of
thing you've also been to other people
so that as time goes on when you finally
decide to make other friends you be a
better friend through those set of
people right so that it can also be
recipe kitted back to you so another
thing why it might be a good thing that
you don't have friends at the moment
especially if you've been that kind of
person that thinks being in a circle or
a group of friends is all that there is
to you who's scared of being alone you
don't want to be alone you must join a
clique you must you you must being a
pick me all together you get what I'm
trying to say if you've been that kind
of person I'm glad that you do not even
have friends at the moment
not because I'm saying you have to you
you're a bad person or you need to be
alone Noble because at this point you
have time for yourself when was the last
time you even
did you even know you
those set of people they don't even most
of you don't even know themselves right
they've never spent time with themselves
they don't even they've not enjoyed
themselves they've not enjoyed their own
company they've you know been too busy
trying to please that group of friends
they've been because they are so scared
to be alone or if I don't please them
they're gonna kick me out of the group
whatever the friends are doing that's
what they're also going to do even if it
is good or bad they'll just go with the
flow just so they can be in that Clique
just so they can be in the group of
those friends you know they've not
really spent time with themselves I'm so
happy you're alone girl I am so happy
you're alone boy because now you will
get to know yourself you get to enjoy
yourself right those kind of friends are
not the kind of people you want to spend
the rest of your life with they are not
going to impact your life positively
right and now you get to spend time with
yourself and know yourself and love
yourself so that moving forward when you
make points you're only going to make
friends that will pour into you until
your cup runs over friends that you can
be your true self around friends that
you can be authentic with friends that
will motivate you to be the best that
you can be this brings me to my next
point which is be a better friend to
yourself right being in that circle of
friends might not have given you the
time to spend enough time with yourself
because you've been too busy going on
that girl's trip you've been so busy
going on that girl's night you've been
too busy attending birthday parties I'm
not saying it's a bad thing but I'm just
saying you've not really had time for
you be a better friend to yourself
instead of you know trying to be it's
okay to be a good friend to other people
but you cannot pull from an empty cup if
that makes sense you have to be a better
friend to yourself first before you can
be a good friend to other people you
know when was that last time you went on
a solo trip when was the last time you
booked its past session for yourself
when was the last time you read a book
that would elevate your mindset and also
elevate your Finance
when was the last time girl be a better
friend to yourself when you're a better
friend to you you can be a better friend
to others it's just like when they say
when you love yourself you can love
others just like I said you can't pour
from an empty cup you you've literally
be a better friend to me if you're not a
better friend to yourself you can
possibly love me if you don't love
yourself
but it's just a facade when you say oh
like I love you do you love yourself I'm
a good friend to you are you a good
friend to you right now it's time to
focus on you another thing
that I would add is do not settle for
work friends
if you ended that friendship with that
person and you are feeling alone know
that you deserve better stop feeling
alone that oh I wish I did not
um end of Friendship with that person
even though you know the person was bad
just because you are feeling lonely
know that you deserve better friends
it's okay to cut people off if they are
not serving you it's okay to be alone at
the moment reflect on yourself love
yourself enjoy your own company if
better friends confine just focus on
being a good person to yourself good
friends will eventually come don't be
too tasty for it be patient praying
yourself love yourself because when you
love yourself you will not entertain bad
friends when you love yourself too much
you don't want bad friends to be in your
life right so love yourself guys that's
the most important thing that I would
say love yourself because that is the
gracious gift you can give to yourself
so this is all I have to say today guys
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