生物人類学者だけど「愛について」質問ある? | Tech Support | WIRED.jp
Summary
TLDRこのスクリプトでは、生物学的人類学者であるヘレン・フィッシャー博士が愛についての研究を通じて、人間の脳が5〜9つの選択肢しか処理できないこと、愛は一瞬で引き金が引かれる感情であること、そして愛は依存症のようなものであると説明しています。また、恋愛は文化や個人の性格、さらには脳の異なるシステムによって影響を受けるとも述べています。オンラインデートの誤解や恋愛と友情の区別、恋愛におけるドパミンの役割、そして魂の相性についても触れています。フィッシャー博士は、恋愛は人間の脳に深く根ざしており、私たちの生存と繁殖に不可欠な要素であると語っています。
Takeaways
- 🧠 人脳は5から9つの選択肢までしか扱うことができないとされています。それ以上だと脳はうまく機能しなくなります。
- 💓 ロマンチックな愛情は瞬時に引き金を引く脳のシステムです。これは恐怖や怒りと同じようにすぐに活性化されることができます。
- 🗺️ 人は「ラブマップ」と呼ばれる潜在意識と意識のリストを持っており、パートナーに求める条件が記載されています。
- 🔗 ロマンチックな愛情は一瞬で起こることもできますが、依存感は人を知ることによって徐々に感じ始めます。
- ❤️ 恋愛は人間の脳に深く根ざしており、それは何百万年も進化してきた基本的な脳のシステムです。
- 🧩 脳スキャンで失恋した15人の脳を調べたところ、脳の回路が混乱していることがわかりました。
- 🕰️ 時間が経てば経つほど、恋愛による心の傷は癒されると証明されています。これは生存戦略として進化したものです。
- 🌐 恋愛は原始的で適応可能で永続的なものです。私たちはそれに耐えることができ、それに耐える方法も持っています。
- 📱 オンラインデーティングはロマンスを殺すことはできませんが、人間の脳は5から9つの選択肢を扱うことが適切です。
- 🤔 恋愛と友情の引き金は異なり、恋愛では相手に特別な意味を持ち、常にその人を考えてしまうという違いがあります。
- 🧬 人間の愛情は文化的、自然的、個性的にパターンがあると示されている。これは4つの基本的な脳システムと関連しています。
Q & A
人間の脳はどれくらいの選択肢までしか処理できないとDr. Helen Fisherは述べていますか?
-Dr. Helen Fisherは、人間の脳は5から9つの選択肢までしか処理できないと述べています。それ以上の選択肢を提示すると、脳はその選択肢を無視し始め、誰を選ぶともならない傾向にあります。
恋愛の瞬間的引き合い方とは何ですか?
-恋愛の瞬間的引き合い方は、脳のシステムの一つであり、恐怖や怒りと同じようにすぐに引き起こされる可能性があります。人が恋に落ちる準備ができているとき、自分の愛のマップに合致する人を見つけ、彼らとの会話を通じて脳の羅曼チックな愛のサーキットが瞬時にトリガーされます。
恋愛はどのように進化しましたか?
-恋愛は何百万年にもわたって進化しており、私たちはパートナーシップや一夫一婦制を形成するようになりました。これは、97パーセントの哺乳類が行わないことが人類の特徴です。また、一夫一婦制の進化と共に、性的欲、恋愛、深い絆を感じるための脳のシステムも進化しました。
恋愛の拒絶によって脳のどのような変化が見られますか?
-恋愛の拒絶によって、脳の特定の領域、特に伏隔核(nucleus accumbens)で活動が見られます。この領域は、すべての依存症と関連しており、恋愛の拒絶時にも同じくらい活性化されます。
恋愛はなぜ中毒状態に似ているとDr. Helen Fisherは述べていますか?
-Dr. Helen Fisherは、恋愛が中毒状態に似ていると述べています。それは、恋愛の拒絶後にも伏隔核で活動が見られるためです。これは、物質依存症やギャンブル依存症などの行動依存症で同じような活性化が見られる領域です。
オンラインデーティングで出会ったカップルの離婚率は通常のカップルと比べてどうですか?
-オンラインデーティングで出会ったカップルは、オフラインで出会ったカップルよりもわずかに離婚率が低い傾向があります。オンラインでデートする人々は、より多くのploymentを持ち、教育レベルが高く、コミットメントのあるパートナーシップに興味を持つ傾向があります。
恋愛と純粋な友情の間の主要な違いは何ですか?
-恋愛と友情の間の主要な違いは、恋愛では相手が特別な意味を持つことです。車や住む家、音楽など、相手に関する全てが特別になるのに対し、友情ではそうではありません。また、恋愛では酔狂的に考え、毎日のように考えるという特徴があります。
恋愛を感じるときに体内でどのような化学的な変化が起こるのですか?
-恋愛を感じるときには、脳のベントラルテgmentalエリア(VTA)でドーパミンが産生され、多くの脳領域に送られることで、恋愛のフォーカス、モチベーション、執着、渇望を与えます。また、喉のどろや心臓の鼓動など、生理的な反応も起こることがあります。
魂の相性とは何ですか?また、人は一度に複数の魂の相性を持つことができますか?
-魂の相性とは、非常に深い本当の愛を意味し、他の人との性的な関係を持ちたくなく、非常に深い絆を持ち、その人のために死ぬことにも考えられるようなパートナーです。Dr. Helen Fisherは、人には複数の魂の相性を持つことができるが、一度に複数の魂の相性を持つことはないと語っています。
恋愛と心臓とを結びつける理由は何ですか?
-恋愛と心臓とを結びつける理由は、恋愛を感じるときに心臓が非常に激しく鼓動し、神経症的な状態になるためです。また、1300年代にジャン・フォン・ユイの絵画以来、ハートの形は恋愛に結びつけられていますが、その形状は5000年前にインドスバ儿トン時代のクミンの種やivyの葉から来ています。
オンラインデーティングで出会ったカップルはなぜ離婚率が低い傾向にあるのですか?
-オンラインデーティングで出会ったカップルは、オフラインで出会ったカップルよりも離婚率が低い傾向にある理由は、オンラインでデートする人々がより完全な雇用状態にある傾向があり、教育レベルが高く、コミットメントのあるパートナーシップに興味を持つ傾向があるからです。
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🧠 恋愛と脳の関係
Dr. Helen Fisherは生物学的人類学者として恋愛を研究し、人間の脳が5〜9つの選択肢しか処理できないことを説明しています。恋愛は恐怖や怒りと同じように脳のシステムとしてすぐにトリガーされると述べています。また、恋愛マップと呼ばれる潜在意識と意識の下にあるパートナーの条件リストが存在し、それが一致する人物に出会った際に恋愛の脳回路がすぐに活性化されると説明しています。さらに、恋愛は古くから存在し、人間の動物性の特徴であると語り、恋愛、性的潤滑と深い愛情の脳システムが進化してきたとしています。恋愛は中毒症のようなもので、特定の脳領域であるnucleus accumbensが恋愛の拒絶時に活動し、それは他の中毒症と同様に活動すると述べています。
💓 恋愛の文化と脳システム
文化的な要素やタイミング、近隣性、民族、社会経済的背景、教育レベルなどが恋愛に影響を与えるとされています。さらに、ドパミン、セロトニン、テストステロン、エストロゲンという4つの基本的な脳システムがそれぞれ異なる性格の特徴を持つと説明されています。Dr. Fisherはこれらの脳システムと関連する性格の特徴を調べるための質問票を作成し、それを利用して人々が自然に誰に惹かれるかを観察しています。恋愛は特定の人間にのみ焦点を当て、彼らが特別な意味を持つように感じるという感情です。また、恋愛と友情の間の違いについても触れており、恋愛は人を酔狂させ、彼らを常に心に留めるものであると述べています。
❤️ 恋愛と嫉妬、そして霊魂の相棒
恋愛と心臓との関連について説明しており、心臓は恋愛によって急速に鼓動し始めることがあるとされています。また、恋愛には霊魂の相棒という概念も存在し、Dr. Fisherは霊魂の相棒とは真の愛情であり、他の人々と眠ることはない深い愛情と結びつきがあると語っています。同時に、霊魂の相棒は1人だけではないが、一度に1人だけを持つとされています。さらに、オンラインでの出会いが離婚率に与える影響や、恋愛と嫉妬心の関係、遊びが恋愛に与える影響などについても触れています。
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Keywords
💡脳の限界
💡恋愛マップ
💡一見で恋に落ちる
💡愛のアドディクション
💡時間が癒す
💡恋愛と浮気
💡恋愛と親愛
💡愛と心臓
💡恋愛ホルモン
💡オンラインデーティング
💡魂の相性
Highlights
The human brain can handle about five to nine options before it spaces out when choosing a partner.
Love at first sight is a brain system that can be triggered instantly, similar to fear or anger.
People carry an unconscious and conscious 'love map' of what they seek in a partner.
Romantic love can be instant, unlike attachment which grows over time.
Pair bonding or monogamy is a hallmark of human behavior, evolved alongside the human brain systems for love and attachment.
Brain scans of people rejected in love show intense activity in the nucleus accumbens, a region active in addictions.
Romantic love is described as an addiction due to activity in the nucleus accumbens.
Time heals heartbreak as a survival mechanism that has evolved over millions of years.
People make mistakes on dating apps by binging on too many options and focusing on reasons to say no.
To improve dating success, limit options to nine and focus on reasons to say yes.
Being in love with someone doesn't prevent one from also being attracted to others due to different brain systems for love and sex drive.
Attraction is influenced by cultural, timing, proximity, and shared background factors.
Four basic brain systems (dopamine, serotonin, testosterone, estrogen) influence who we fall in love with.
People are naturally drawn to others with similar or opposite traits depending on the brain system.
Romantic love is characterized by obsession with the loved one, unlike platonic attraction.
Brain scans of people in love show activity in the ventral tegmental area, which produces dopamine.
The belief in soul mates suggests deep, genuine attachment and intense romantic love with one person at a time.
The association of love with the heart may stem from physiological responses during intense emotions.
Online dating is linked to slightly lower divorce rates and a higher likelihood of commitment.
Jealousy in love can be seen as 'mate guarding', a behavior observed in other animals to protect relationships.
Playing and spending leisure time with a partner can enhance feelings of love through the dopamine system.
Transcripts
the human brain is not built to deal
with more than about five to nine
options after that the brain just spaces
out you you choose nobody hi I'm Dr
Helen Fisher I'm a biological
Anthropologist I study love and this is
love support
[Music]
this person calls herself Ruth Bader
love at first sight is probably both
right wrong love at first sight is
extremely easy to explain this is a
brain system it's like the fear system
or the anger system and it can be
triggered instantly you got to be ready
for it and we all carry in our head what
I call a love map an unconscious and
conscious list of what you're looking
for in a partner but the moment comes
you're ready to fall in love you see
somebody from across the crowded room or
wherever they fit within your love map
you go over and you speak to them they
smile sweetly at you if they say
something that's funny or charming or
interesting and boom instantly trigger
that brain circuitry for at a glove
attachment that other brain system grows
slowly you have to get to know somebody
to begin to feel attachment but romantic
love can be instant yes this is from
Izzy lean who created love this is
too much to handle well love evolved for
millions of years we have formed
Partnerships pair bonding or monogamy
mono means one and Gammy means spouse
one spouse that's all it means to
scientists people are also adulterers
but they form Partnerships 97 of mammals
do not pair up to where they're young
people do it's a Hallmark of the human
animal and along with the evolution of
pair bonding came the evolution of the
human brain systems for the sex drive
romantic love and feelings of deep
attachment I and my colleagues have put
15 people into a brain scanner who had
just been rejected in love and the Brain
goes this the wiring just goes crazy I
mean when you're madly in love with
somebody and you've been dumped it's one
of the worst experiences I mean people
Pine for love they live for love they
kill for love and they die for love and
I do think that it is an addiction
because we found activity in a
particular brain region it's called the
nucleus accumbens that particular brain
region is active in all of the
addictions all the substance addictions
all the behavioral addictions like
gambling and it becomes just as active
when you've been rejected in love and
when this person says this is too
much to handle but we all do handle it
the vast majority of us do get over it
and I've been able to prove in the brain
that time does heal because it is our
survival it is a survival mechanism and
evolved millions of years ago and it
will be with us millions of years from
now romantic love is primordial
it's adaptable and it's Eternal so this
will always be too much to handle
but we'll do it anyway this person is
skz is my universe how to try and fall
in love during a pandemic dating apps
aren't really doing it they're doing it
for a lot of people about 40 percent of
singles in America said that they met
their last first date on the internet
they are the two mistakes that they make
perhaps this person is making them too
first mistake is they binge the human
brain is not built to deal with more
than about five to nine options after
that the brain just spaces out you
choose nobody so the first thing that
you've got to do is after you've met
nine people and that's what this person
needs to do get off the internet say get
off of it and get to know at least one
of these people better the more you get
to know somebody the better you tend to
like them so number one don't binge
number two think of reasons to say yes
instead of no we have this big brain
region like with negativity bias we're
built to remember the negative and when
you have just met somebody you know so
little about them that you overweight
those few things that you know and so
you'll say oh I don't know she likes
cats I like dogs never going to work get
over it think of reasons to say yes I
call it positive Illusions the ability
to overlook what you don't like about
somebody and focus on what you do this
is from somebody called the Jin bunny
too can you truly be in love and cheat
alas you can you know these are
different brain systems sex drive and
romantic love are different brain
systems and you can be madly in love
with somebody and also sleep around as a
matter of fact I do think that the brain
is unfortunately built for both I've
looked at adultery in 40 cultures and
you see it everywhere in the world even
in places where you could get your head
chopped off for it we seem to have the
ability to be madly in love with some
person and deeply attached to that
person and also sneak around I call it a
dual human reproductive strategy a
tremendous drive to fall in love for
apprenticeship and have your babies and
also to cheat next up is from Rodney J
Gavino Google search how does attraction
work why him why her why do you fall in
love with one person rather than another
there's all kinds of cultural reasons
that we tend to fall in love when the
timing is right we tend to follow up
with somebody who's around proximity is
important we tend to fall in love with
somebody from the same ethnic and
socioeconomic background somebody of the
same level of education and there's four
basic brain systems that each one of
them is associated with a constellation
a suite A group of personality traits
dopamine serotonin testosterone and
estrogen systems I created a
questionnaire to see to what degree you
express the traits in all four of these
basic brain systems it's now been taken
by over 15 million people in 40
countries and I'm able to watch who's
naturally drawn to whom if you're very
high on the traits in the dopamine
system risk taking novelty seeking
curious creative you tend to be drawn to
people like yourself if you are very
high on the traits of the serotonin
system you tend to be traditional
conventional follow the rules respect
authority detail-oriented rather than
theoretical you're also drawn to people
like yourself so if you're very high
testosterone you tend to be analytical
logical direct decisive good at things
like math engineering computers music
music's very structural and you're drawn
to your opposite high estrogen people
and this is man as well as women many
more women in that category they tend to
see the big picture they think long term
they're very imaginative very good at
reading posture gesture tone and voice
we all Express all four systems this is
what the problem is with most
personality questionnaires today they
put you in one bucket or another we
express all four brain systems and the
traits in each but we express some more
than others now there's all kinds of
circumstances where people are drawn to
their opposite in ways because if they
had a battle of Affair they've been
running around all their lives and now
they want something more stable so they
go for the traditional even if they're
very risk-taking this human variety but
the bottom line is this patterns to
culture there's patterns to Nature and
there's patterns to personality this is
from sad short friend too how does
someone know if they're feeling romantic
or platonic attraction there's a real
list of traits that are associated with
feelings of romantic love and they are
not associated with platonic attraction
the first thing that happens when you
fall in love is somebody takes on
special meaning everything about them
becomes special the car they drive looks
different from every other car in the
parking lot the house that they live in
the street that they live on the music
that they like when it's a plutonic
attraction not everything is special
about this human being you like them I
mean you're attracted to them you'll
find them amusing or funny or interested
but you don't they don't you don't
you're not obsessed with them but if you
had to think about one just one trait
that is most distinctive between the two
when you're madly in love with somebody
in the Romantic attraction you are
obsessed and in a platonic attraction
you don't think about them night and day
this person is reprogrammed coach is
online dating killing romance it can't
kill romance this is a basic brain
system it evolved millions of years ago
it's like hunger or thirst or anger or
fear you can't kill romance my next up
is from Nita beater I wonder what's
actually going on through our bodies
when we think we're in love like what
chemicals are enhanced I and my
colleagues have put over 100 people into
a brain scanner who were madly in love
the first group were people who were
happily in love the second were a group
of people who were rejected in love and
the third was a group of people who were
in love long terms we put these people
in the brain scanner we had them look at
a photograph of their sweetheart and
also a neutral photograph so we could
compare the brain under both
circumstances and we were able to find
that everybody who's madly loved
rejected in love or in love long term
begins to have activity in a tiny little
Factory near the base of the brain
called the ventral tape metal area it's
way at the base of the brain and that
brain region actually makes dopamine and
sends dopamine to many brain regions
giving you that Focus the motivation the
obsession the craving of intense
romantic love and what's interesting to
me is that little Factory the vt8 lies
right next to the factory that
orchestrates thirst and hunger thirst
and hunger keep you alive today romantic
love enables you to focus your mating
energy on just one individual at a time
and start the mating process and send
your DNA into tomorrow this is from
catch my fly do you believe in soul
mates
if so do you believe you can have more
than one yes and yes I do believe in
soul mates I do not believe you can have
more than one at a time so now what is a
soul mate I think what this person is
means is somebody who it's a true love
you're not going to sleep with other
people you're not thinking of going
anywhere you might even consider dying
for him or her it is a very deep genuine
attachment intense feeling of romantic
love and I think that um this is summed
up best by a poet from the 15th century
in India named Kabir the lane of Love is
narrow
room for only one and indeed when you're
madly in love it's with only one person
I do believe you can have a soul mate I
think that you may have a series of soul
mates but I don't think you can have
more than one soul mate at a time from
somebody called dance with voices why do
people associate love with the heart why
not the penis or the sternum there may
be a physiological reason why it has
been associated with love and that is
there's a lot of characteristics a lot
of things happen when you fall madly in
love and one of them is the heart can
really pound when you're really nervous
about something when you're madly in
love not only do you feel that ecstasy
Euphoria sleeplessness loss of appetite
obsessive thinking about the person
craving for emotional Union but also all
kinds of physiological responses weak
knees maybe a pounding heart it really
started in the 1300s with jaro in a
painting prior to that there were a lot
of uses of the shape of the heart in
fact as early as five thousand years ago
in the Indus Valley they were drawing
things that looked like the shape of a
heart and at that that point it was the
seed of a form of parsley plant or a an
ivy leaf but it became became associated
with romantic love probably with the
painting by jotto in in 1309 this is
from Jay at
53k1 I lust hard and lose interest quick
how does that work well they're not
ready to fall in love we've evolved
three distinctly different brain systems
from mating and reproduction one is a
sex drive linked with testosterone in
both men and women the second is
romantic love we've been able to prove
this is linked with the dopamine system
in both men and women that's what gives
you the focus the motivation the
obsession and the third brain system is
attachment that sense of calm and
security you can feel with a long-term
partner and this individual he's in the
lust stage he's not ready to fall in
love you know you have to be ready to
fall in love to actually do it and he's
just experiencing a different brain
system the lust system this question is
from gertig it's a very interesting
question any good data out there on
divorce rates for couples that meet via
online dating sites apparently if you
met somebody online as opposed to
offline you're less likely to divorce
just by a little but you are less likely
to divorce people who date online are
more likely to be fully employed more
likely to have higher education and more
likely to be interested in a committed
partnership this is from Reiki array how
can you be in love with somebody and
jealous of them
easily when you're madly in love with
somebody it's called mate guarding other
animals do it too and if you see your
partner beginning to flirt with other
individuals you could lose that partner
you could lose your children you could
lose your house you could lose your
friends you could lose your money I mean
you know the game of Love matters this
is from La matina 10. question of the
day this person writes couples that do
this together have 20 percent more love
hormones it's not dirty well I don't
know what this person has in mind but I
would say play when you play with
somebody you're driving up the dopamine
system in the brain and that gives you
focused motivation energy and optimism
play with somebody stay with somebody oh
that's it that's all the questions I
enjoyed answering them thank you for
joining me till next time
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