How to Make Women Respect You

Summary

This video explores the concept of attraction and respect in relationships, emphasizing two key types of respect: 'grandfatherly respect' and 'Emperor life respect.' The focus is on how men can build powerful, attractive relationships by maintaining their own power, setting boundaries, and avoiding unnecessary apologies or changes to please a woman. The script also stresses the importance of a woman investing in the man to increase attraction, and how fear of losing someone grows with that investment. Ultimately, the message is about maintaining one's own integrity and allowing attraction to grow naturally through mutual respect and balance.

Takeaways

• 😀 Respect in relationships comes in two forms: 'grandfatherly' respect (casual and non-romantic) and 'Emperor-like' respect (powerful and inspiring, which fosters attraction).
• 😀 The respect a woman should have for you is 'Emperor-like' respect, which is built over time through your actions, power, and stability.
• 😀 Power in a relationship means maintaining your life and interests unchanged after meeting her, without altering your identity based on her opinions or desires.
• 😀 A woman might unconsciously test you by suggesting changes (like your appearance or lifestyle). If you change just to please her, you lose your power and respect.
• 😀 Never apologize unnecessarily. If you haven’t done anything wrong, don’t apologize, as it weakens your position and makes you appear less attractive.
• 😀 If you make a small mistake, offer a brief apology, but don’t chase after her or beg for forgiveness. Give her space to come back to you.
• 😀 For significant mistakes (e.g., cheating), it’s okay to apologize sincerely and go the extra mile to make amends, but minor mistakes should not lead to excessive apology.
• 😀 The key to avoiding the 'friend zone' is to never sacrifice your happiness or interests for a woman. If you do, she may lose respect for you.
• 😀 Fear is an important element of attraction. The more a woman invests in you emotionally, the more she fears losing you, which increases her attraction.
• 😀 Your emotional control is essential. If a woman’s actions can make you react with anger or frustration, it shows that she is in control and you’ve lost your power in the relationship.

Q & A

What is the key difference between ordinary respect and the respect that creates attraction in a relationship?

Ordinary respect is the type of respect a woman may have for her grandfather or friends, which is more neutral and lacks deep emotional connection. The type of respect that creates attraction is 'Emperor-like' respect, which stems from a man's power and the subtle fear a woman may feel toward him. This respect is earned through actions and personality, not by trying to earn it directly.

How does 'Emperor-like' respect differ from 'grandfatherly' respect in terms of attraction?

'Emperor-like' respect is rooted in a man's power, authority, and the ability to inspire fear or awe. It creates deep attraction and desire. On the other hand, 'grandfatherly' respect is based on kindness and familiarity, leading to a platonic connection that doesn't inspire romantic or passionate feelings.

Why is it important not to change your behavior just to please a woman?

Changing your behavior just to please a woman will diminish your power and respect in her eyes. A woman should respect you for who you are, not because you alter yourself to meet her expectations. Maintaining your individuality shows strength and conviction, which is attractive.

How can a man display power without being controlling or aggressive?

A man can display power through consistency, maintaining his interests, opinions, and boundaries. His life should remain stable and unchanged after meeting a woman, showing that she doesn't have the power to influence his core values. This power is about being strong and independent, not about controlling her.

What is the problem with apologizing unnecessarily in relationships?

Apologizing without reason undermines your authority and can make you appear weak or overly submissive. If you haven't done anything wrong, apologizing sends the wrong message. It's crucial to reserve apologies for when they are truly warranted, such as for significant mistakes.

When should a man apologize in a relationship?

A man should apologize in the following situations: 1) When he made a small mistake (e.g., forgetting a minor event), a brief apology is enough. 2) When he made a big mistake (e.g., cheating), a more heartfelt and significant apology is needed. 3) If he didn’t do anything wrong but the woman is upset, instead of apologizing, teasing or joking around may help ease the tension.

Why should a man avoid apologizing if he hasn't made a mistake?

If a man apologizes when he hasn't made a mistake, it shows a lack of confidence and may make him appear weak. It’s important to stand firm in situations where the fault isn't his, as apologizing unnecessarily will diminish his power and respect in the relationship.

What role does 'fear' play in the type of respect that attracts women?

Fear in this context refers to a woman's fear of losing the man, which grows as she invests more in the relationship. This fear enhances her respect for him because the more a woman invests emotionally or physically, the more she fears losing him. This fear creates a deeper connection and attraction.

How can a man reverse the situation where a woman is not investing enough in him?

A man should focus on creating a dynamic where the woman feels comfortable investing in him. Rather than over-investing himself (e.g., spending money or doing excessive favors), he should create space for her to take the lead in emotional investment. This makes her fear losing him as her investment grows, which increases her attraction.

Why is a woman’s investment in a man crucial for building attraction?

A woman’s investment is crucial because the more she invests in a man emotionally, the more attached she becomes. This attachment leads to a fear of losing him, which in turn deepens her attraction and respect. A man’s investment in her, while necessary, is not the key factor—her investment in him is what truly drives the relationship forward.