How To Make An Avoidant Ex Miss You

Summary

The video discusses how to make an avoidant ex miss you, focusing on understanding avoidant attachment styles. It explains that avoidants fear intimacy and prefer emotional distance, but they still long for connection. The key is to give them space and become unavailable, as this allows them to miss you without fear of emotional obligation. The video also highlights that avoidants only truly miss someone once they feel the person has moved on and after failed connections with new prospects. The importance of personal growth during a no-contact phase is emphasized.

Takeaways

• 🔒 Avoidant exes are typically drawn to anxious partners but often struggle to maintain close relationships.
• 📚 Understanding the four main attachment styles can provide insight into relationship dynamics and breakup recovery.
• 🌐 Visiting www.exboyfriendrecovery.com or taking the quiz can help assess one's chances of getting an ex back.
• 🚫 Avoidant individuals often avoid intimacy and may keep partners at a distance to prevent emotional closeness.
• 🐺 Avoidants see themselves as 'lone wolves', valuing independence and self-sufficiency over emotional connection.
• 🤔 Empathizing with an avoidant's worldview is crucial for effectively making them miss you after a breakup.
• 🚭 Avoidants may only start missing an ex once they believe the ex has moved on and is emotionally unavailable.
• 💬 Low-level interactions can trigger discomfort or guilt in avoidants, so minimal contact is advised.
• 🕐 The timing of re-engagement with an avoidant ex is key; they often miss their ex more after failing to form new bonds.
• 💡 The no-contact rule is essential for those with anxious attachment styles to build self-worth and be emotionally ready for potential reconciliation.
• 📈 The success of getting an ex back often depends on one's mindset post-breakup, needing to be secure and accepting of potential outcomes.

Q & A

What is the most common type of ex that clients are trying to get back, according to the video?

The most common type of ex clients are trying to get back is an avoidant ex.

What is the typical relationship dynamic between anxious and avoidant attachment styles?

There is an odd relationship dynamic where anxious individuals are naturally drawn to avoidant individuals, but this dynamic often leads to breakups.

How do people with an avoidant attachment style typically behave in relationships?

People with avoidant attachment styles avoid intimacy, keep their partners at a distance, and often withdraw during conflict. They also tend to mistrust others and rely on themselves emotionally.

Why is it important to understand an avoidant's worldview when trying to make them miss you?

Understanding an avoidant's worldview helps in empathizing with how they perceive relationships, allowing for more effective strategies to make them miss you.

What mistake do people often make when trying to get an avoidant ex to miss them?

People often fail to empathize with the avoidant’s perspective and resort to generic advice like 'playing hard to get,' which doesn’t cater specifically to avoidant attachment styles.

Why do avoidance feel more comfortable missing an ex after the relationship has ended?

Avoidants feel free to miss someone once that person is unavailable because it reduces their fear of engulfment and makes them feel safe to long for the person without the risk of intimacy.

What effect does staying in contact with an avoidant ex have on their emotions?

Staying in contact may keep uncomfortable emotions or guilt at bay and prevent the avoidant from fully processing the loss of the relationship, making it harder for them to miss the person.

What typically triggers an avoidant ex to start missing their former partner?

An avoidant ex typically starts missing their former partner once they have tried to form bonds with new prospects and those relationships fail to meet their expectations.

How does one's mindset affect the success of reconnecting with an avoidant ex?

To successfully reconnect with an avoidant ex, one must reach a mindset where they are okay with the possibility of not getting back together. This sense of security and independence is attractive to avoidants.

What is the 'no contact rule' and why is it important in dealing with an avoidant ex?

The 'no contact rule' is a strategy where one avoids contacting their ex for a period of time. It’s important for avoidants because it gives them space to process the breakup and feel comfortable missing their ex.