Find Your Life's Purpose Instantly With 3 Powerful Questions | Tyler Cerny | TEDxJCU
Summary
TLDRThe speaker emphasizes the importance of finding life's purpose, suggesting that instead of starting with 'why,' we should focus on 'who' we are called to serve. Life transitions often lead to confusion, but clarity emerges when we identify whom we can help and the problems we can solve. Our purpose is tied to serving others, which brings fulfillment, peace, and joy. Aligning with the Creator's purpose brings true significance, passion, and peace. The message encourages using our unique strengths to serve others, validate our purpose, and make a meaningful impact.
Takeaways
- 😀 Finding life's purpose is crucial for fulfillment, but many people struggle to define theirs.
- 🧐 Only 25% of Americans truly know their life's purpose, according to a study by The New York Times.
- 🤔 Life transitions, such as marriage, graduation, or trauma, often lead to confusion about one's purpose.
- 😞 Confusion can lead to depression and lack of motivation, sometimes lasting years or even a lifetime.
- 🔄 The cycle of unfulfilling purpose involves transition, confusion, momentum, and ultimately unhappiness if the purpose is misaligned.
- 🙌 Purpose is predetermined by a higher power, not something we create ourselves, but something to align with.
- 🧠 Serving others activates a 'helper's high,' releasing chemicals like dopamine and serotonin that provide fulfillment.
- 💡 The key to purpose is service: asking 'Who am I called to serve?' and 'What problems am I called to solve?'
- 💼 Solving bigger problems leads to greater financial reward and personal fulfillment.
- 🙏 True purpose is validated by peace, passion, and the willingness of others to pay for the value we provide.
Q & A
What is the speaker's main message about finding life’s purpose?
-The speaker emphasizes that instead of starting with the question 'why are we here,' we should focus on who we are called to serve. Our life's purpose was predetermined by our creator, and when we align with that purpose, we find happiness, fulfillment, and significance.
What percentage of Americans know their life’s purpose, according to the New York Times study?
-Only 25 percent of Americans truly know their life’s purpose, according to the New York Times study mentioned by the speaker.
What are the four steps in the 'cycle of unfulfilling purpose' outlined by the speaker?
-The four steps in the cycle of unfulfilling purpose are: 1) Transition, 2) Confusion, 3) Momentum and clarity, and 4) Unhappiness and lack of fulfillment.
How does the speaker define the word 'purpose' based on its etymology?
-The speaker explains that 'purpose' comes from 'p-u-r,' meaning 'set forth beforehand' and 'pure,' and 'pose,' meaning 'to suggest or intend.' Thus, purpose stands for 'the purest suggestion or intention set forth beforehand.'
How does the speaker relate the purpose of a chair to finding personal purpose?
-The speaker uses the analogy of a chair, where its purpose is defined by its creator. If the user's purpose for the chair (e.g., using it as a bed) is out of alignment with the creator's intention, it leads to frustration. Similarly, in life, when our purpose is not aligned with the creator's intent, we experience unfulfillment.
What are the two most important days in a person’s life according to the speaker?
-The two most important days in a person’s life are the day they are born and the day they find out why, a quote attributed to Mark Twain.
What happens to our brain when we help others, according to the speaker?
-When we help others, our brain releases dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin, giving us a feeling of happiness and fulfillment, often called the 'helper’s high.' This feeling is similar to what we experience during activities like sex, consuming sugar, or using social media.
What are the three key questions the speaker suggests asking to discover our life’s purpose?
-The three key questions to discover life’s purpose are: 1) Who am I called to serve? 2) What problems am I called to solve? 3) How am I called to solve these problems?
How does the speaker define success in relation to solving problems?
-The speaker states that success, and consequently financial gain, is tied to solving problems. The bigger the problems we solve, the greater the rewards. Identifying and solving significant problems leads to both personal and financial success.
What three indicators does the speaker mention to confirm that someone is living their purpose?
-The three indicators are: 1) Peace — having inner peace with what you’re doing, 2) Passion — enjoying and looking forward to your work, and 3) Profit — people being willing to pay for the solution you provide, allowing you to support yourself and others.
Outlines
🎯 Discovering Life's Purpose and the Cycle of Unfulfillment
The speaker discusses the universal desire for meaning and purpose in life, emphasizing that many people struggle with finding it. A New York Times study revealed that only 25% of Americans know their life's purpose. The speaker introduces the 'Cycle of Unfulfilling Purpose,' which includes four stages: transition (significant life changes), confusion (a loss of direction), momentum (finding clarity and purpose), and unhappiness (realizing that success does not guarantee fulfillment). The speaker stresses the importance of breaking this cycle to achieve true happiness by aligning with one's predetermined life's purpose, set forth by a higher creator.
🧠 The Helper's High: How Serving Others Leads to Fulfillment
The speaker explains how the human brain is wired for service, referring to a phenomenon called the 'helper's high.' When we serve others, the brain releases feel-good chemicals like dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin, similar to how it reacts to addictive activities such as sex, consuming sugar, or social media. The speaker contrasts external forms of self-serving behaviors with the internal joy that comes from serving others, suggesting that this is the healthiest and most fulfilling addiction. The speaker then poses the questions: 'Who am I called to serve?' and 'What problems am I called to solve?'—arguing that solving problems for others directly correlates to both personal fulfillment and financial success.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Life's Purpose
💡Transition
💡Confusion
💡Fulfillment
💡Creator's Purpose
💡Service
💡Helper’s High
💡Problems
💡Peace
💡Passion
Highlights
Finding life's purpose is a common desire, but instead of starting with 'why,' we should end with it.
Only 25% of Americans know their life's purpose, with many feeling lost or unfulfilled.
The 'Cycle of Unfulfilling Purpose' has four steps: transition, confusion, clarity, and eventual unhappiness if misaligned with true purpose.
Life transitions can lead to confusion, a stage that may last from days to a lifetime, impacting personal direction.
Achieving success without alignment to one's true purpose can still result in unhappiness and a lack of fulfillment.
True happiness and fulfillment come from aligning one's life with a higher purpose, particularly one set by the Creator.
Purpose is the 'purest suggestion or intention' set forth by the Creator before we were born.
Living in alignment with the Creator's purpose prevents frustration and brings fulfillment.
The two most important days in life are the day you're born and the day you discover why, referencing a quote by Mark Twain.
Serving others is key to finding significance, purpose, and meaning, shifting the focus from 'me' to 'who am I called to serve?'
Scientific research shows that helping others activates the brain's reward centers, similar to other pleasurable activities.
Identifying who you are called to serve and the problems you're meant to solve helps clarify your purpose.
Solutions to problems can come in many forms, and innovation plays a crucial role in addressing issues efficiently.
Formulating a personal purpose statement involves identifying the people you help, their problem, and how you solve it.
Peace, passion, and payment are three indicators of whether you're aligned with your life's purpose.
Transcripts
[Applause]
finding our life's purpose isn't that
what we all want don't we want more
meaning significance and purpose in our
life
a lot of us will ask ourselves
why are we here
I'm here to tell you instead of starting
with our why we should end with it
New York Times did a study that only 25
percent of Americans truly know their
life's purpose
people are just wandering through lives
not knowing why they're here there's
people in this room
and this statistic blew my mind
and as I started to understand purpose
as I traveled around the world it took
me about 10 years to understand what my
life's purpose was
and I wrote a book and one of the graphs
I created in is the cycle of
unfulfilling purpose and there's four
steps the first one is a transition we
all experience transitions in our life
it can happen in many forms we can have
a kid we can get married we graduate
school we can leave the sport that we
thought we were going to be a
professional at
something traumatic could happen to us a
loved one could die something happens in
our life that changes everything
leading us to the Second Step which is
confusion not knowing who we are anymore
not knowing what our next step lacking
Clarity and lacking Direction in our
life
this could be depressing and
unmotivating
and the scary part is this could last
for days
maybe years maybe decades maybe even a
lifetime for some individuals
then there's the third step that if
we're able to get out of confusion we're
able to build momentum we're able to
create results in our life we get
Crystal Clarity on what it is that we
need to do and we think we found our
life's purpose we found the job and
purpose is the reason why we do what we
do so I could be going to this job I
could be working my way up providing for
my family I could have purpose but if I
then come to the fourth step which is
unhappiness and lack of fulfillment
that's the ultimate failure and I look
up and I ask is there more to life than
this
when we need to step out of the cycle
and find our life's purpose because when
we find our life's purpose we have
happiness and fulfillment and we have a
desire to want to do more and be more
because finding purpose is actually easy
but living our life's purpose and having
fulfillment is life-changing
so if we look at the word purpose p-u-r
the prefix is used to set forth
beforehand
it's also used in the word pure so it's
without blemish the purest intention and
then pose is to suggest or intend so
purpose stands for the purest suggestion
or intention that we set forth before
him so if we look at these chairs in
this audience the user can Define the
purpose right so some of you guys in the
back are using it as a bed you find the
purpose there I see you guys back there
some of us use this purpose as an
opportunity to learn and grow
and then some other people use that as
an opportunity to rest their lower back
and our knees right the purpose of the
chair is defined by the user
but what about the creator of the chair
the invention
what was the purpose when the Creator
made the chair
and if the user's purpose is out of
alignment with the Creator's purpose
we're going to have unfulfillment and
frustration right if I try to use this
chair as a bed and that's not what the
purpose of the chair was from the
Creator I'm going to struggle
same thing with our life
our life's purpose was already
predetermined before we were made it was
set forth beforehand
this changed everything for me because I
thought I had to create purpose I
thought I had to create my life's
purpose but our creator
the highest being with purest intentions
with no flaw decided our purpose before
we even here on this Earth
so you guys can decide if you want to
use your purpose or the Creator's
purpose in your life
because the two most important days of
our life are the day we find out why
and the day we were born one of my
favorite quotes from Mark Twain so our
job is just to align ourselves with our
Creator's purpose for ourselves
so the first question instead of why am
I here
we ask ourselves who am I called to
serve because when I step into a place
of service
I immediately have immediately have
significance purpose and meaning in my
life
it shifts the conversation from you to
who
it's not about me anymore
I think about who can I help and who can
I serve
and the reason why I know this is
because our creator has designed us this
way so here's a photo of our brain it
lights up like a Christmas tree when we
serve individuals this is called the
helper's high it's a lot of research
done on this your brain releases
dopamine serotonin oxytocin we feel
incredible
it's also the same feeling that we have
when we have sex
consume sugar social media substances
like drugs and alcohol and serving other
people all five of these are extremely
addictive you guys can decide which
addiction you want to have and the first
four there
are things that we do externally to
serve ourselves only ourselves and the
last one is something that has already
been built within us internally that we
can use to affect other people
externally
so then the next question is what
problems am I called to solve so who am
I called to serve start with someone
that you can relate to that you that you
have similar experiences with and then
the second problem is well the second
question is what problems am I called to
solve because this is how we get paid
now who likes to get paid in here right
everyone
because the problems that you solve
are in direct correlation to the amount
of money in your bank account because
the bigger the problems the bigger the
solution
the smaller the problems the smaller the
solution
so start with someone that you can
relate to that you would like working
with then figuring out then figure out
what problems do they have and what
problems did you overcome in your life
and usually these can be found with
traumatic experiences life experiences
that only you can talk about I guarantee
you there's someone else that has gone
through the same situation and problem
that you can help
and then the last question is how am I
called to solve this problem and this is
where you guys can get creative because
there's a thousand different ways to
solve one problem and with technology
every single day a solution is being
created but this is the easiest part
once we know who we're called to serve
and what problems we're called to solve
the solution becomes very evident and
from a logistical and strategic
standpoint we want to create the most
effective and efficient solution to the
problem so we can help the most amount
of people in the world
so who am I called to serve what
problems am I called to solve and how am
I called to solve this problem
this is going to create our purpose
statement
I help who with their problem through
the solution so I help young adults and
business owners that lack Clarity and
confidence and direction in their life
by helping them find their life's
purpose through Live Events books and
presentations
and we've been doing that for the last
several years
so I validate my purpose with my why
then this is when we come with the
question why do we do what we do look at
your purpose statement then you ask
yourself why do I do it am I doing it
for myself
for selfish gain am I doing it because I
genuinely care and want to help others
or am I doing it because I want to serve
my creator
because when we serve our creator and
that's at the epicenter of our life
we're expressing the highest form of
love because that was what was expressed
when we were created and what's going to
happen is you're going to have three
indicators you're going to have peace do
you have peace with what you're doing
with it because if I think I have
purpose and I don't have peace I have to
realign myself second thing is do I have
passion do I actually enjoy what it is
that I do because we're all designed
with different strengths and abilities
on this Earth to enjoy different things
so am I excited do I look forward to the
day ahead am I excited to do what I am
doing right now and the last thing is
are people willing to pay me for it
because we're supposed to provide for
our loved ones and be able to use money
as a vehicle to help other people in
great causes as well
so our life's purpose is to serve our
creator by serving others specifically
through your purpose statement and you
guys can fill in the blanks there
so start with the who
end with the why and validate it with
that I look forward to serving the world
together thank you
[Applause]
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