Why Modern Man Has Feminine Thinking
Summary
TLDRThe speaker discusses common themes in confessions, noting a shift in younger men's thought processes to a more feminine style. He highlights the challenges of information overload, perfectionism, and fear of failure in decision-making. The talk emphasizes embracing failure to build confidence and the importance of aligning with God's moral will while making independent decisions, urging young men to mature and face life's uncertainties with courage.
Takeaways
- 🙏 Consistent themes in confessions often relate to the seven deadly sins and their variations, reflecting common struggles among people.
- 👦 Young men under 30 are increasingly adopting traditionally feminine thought processes, which the speaker has observed in confessions and everyday conversations.
- 🌈 Women typically process information in a way that is emotional, interpersonal, and comprehensive, which is beneficial when balanced with a masculine perspective.
- 🚹 Men are traditionally seen as more decisive and action-oriented, focusing on potential rewards over the fear of failure, unlike the perfectionism often observed in women.
- 🤔 The tendency to overthink and seek perfect answers can lead to indecision and is a trait that the speaker notices in young men, affecting their ability to navigate life confidently.
- 💻 Modern young men are described as being overwhelmed by information, similar to how women are said to see life as a 'kaleidoscope of information'.
- 🏆 Building confidence comes from overcoming failure, which is a crucial aspect of developing a masculine identity, according to the speaker.
- 📽 The influence of internet content, particularly pornography, can undermine a man's confidence and sense of self by promoting unrealistic and degrading standards.
- 👨👦👦 Mature men are expected to make their own decisions and live autonomously, which is likened to the relationship between God the Father and adult believers.
- 🛐 Trust in God's will involves living morally and making decisions with the understanding that life is uncertain and full of challenges.
- 💪 The essence of manhood is embracing the journey of life with its uncertainties, making mistakes, and learning from them to build character and confidence.
Q & A
What is the main theme discussed in the transcript?
-The main theme discussed in the transcript revolves around the observation that younger men under 30 are adopting more feminine thought processes, and how this affects their decision-making and approach to life.
What are the seven deadly sins mentioned in the transcript?
-The seven deadly sins are not explicitly listed in the transcript, but they traditionally include pride, greed, lust, envy, gluttony, wrath, and sloth.
How does the speaker describe the way women think?
-The speaker describes women as thinking through a 'kaleidoscope of information', being more emotionally and interpersonally oriented, and having a tendency towards perfectionism.
What are the three specific feminine thought processes the speaker observes in young men?
-The three feminine thought processes observed in young men are: 1) focusing on too many possibilities leading to indecision, 2) seeking perfect answers and being perfectionists, and 3) making decisions based on the fear of failure rather than the risk of reward.
Why does the speaker say that men need to overcome the idea that life is like a simulation?
-The speaker suggests that men need to overcome the idea that life is like a simulation because life happens in real time without pauses or do-overs, and that confidence is built through failure and overcoming adversity.
What role does failure play in building confidence according to the speaker?
-According to the speaker, failure is a key component in building confidence as it allows individuals to learn from their mistakes and grow stronger through adversity.
How does the speaker view the consumption of certain types of internet content by men?
-The speaker views the consumption of certain types of internet content, particularly those involving other men and unattainable women, as detrimental to a man's self-image and confidence.
What does the speaker suggest is the relationship between God and men in terms of decision-making?
-The speaker suggests that while God is a guiding force, men should act as mature adults, making their own decisions while living within God's moral will.
What advice does the speaker give to young men about their approach to life?
-The speaker advises young men to embrace uncertainty, accept that they will make mistakes and experience failures, trust in God, and move forward with maturity and the best advice available.
What does the speaker mean when he says 'life is a journey'?
-When the speaker says 'life is a journey', he means that life is a continuous process of growth and learning, where one must actively work and fight for their goals rather than expecting everything to be easily provided.
How does the speaker define a manly attribute in terms of decision-making?
-The speaker defines a manly attribute in decision-making as one that involves taking risks, pursuing rewards, and being willing to face failure and adversity head-on to build confidence and character.
Outlines
🧠 Men's Changing Thought Processes
The speaker discusses the observation that younger men, particularly those under 30, have begun to adopt traditionally feminine thought processes. This includes a tendency to focus on too many possibilities, a quest for perfect answers, and decision-making based on fear of failure rather than the potential for reward. The speaker contrasts this with the masculine approach of making decisions based on risk assessment and reward. The speaker also highlights the importance of not trusting one's own thoughts blindly and the role of spiritual guidance in navigating life's challenges.
🚀 Overcoming Neuroticism and Building Confidence
The speaker addresses the issue of neuroticism in young men's thinking, where they constantly second-guess themselves and are afraid of failure. This leads to a timid approach to life, where they feel conquered rather than being the conquerors. The speaker emphasizes the importance of understanding that life is not a simulation and that making decisions based on limited information is part of the human experience. Building confidence comes from learning from failures, and the speaker encourages young men to embrace the challenges and adversities as part of their journey to becoming mature, confident individuals.
🙏 Living in God's Moral Will
In this paragraph, the speaker discusses the concept of God's hidden will and the importance of living as an adult in a relationship with God. He explains that while God has a secret will that is not meant to be fully understood, He expects us to act maturely and make our own decisions. The speaker stresses the need for young men to cultivate their thinking around success, understand the uncertainties of life, and trust in God while making decisions. He concludes by encouraging young men to work for what they want in life and to see the journey as a part of being a man.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Confession
💡Seven Deadly Sins
💡Gender
💡Feminine Thought Processes
💡Paralysis by Analysis
💡Perfectionism
💡Fear of Failure
💡Neuroticism
💡Overcoming Adversity
💡Moral Will
💡Maturity
Highlights
Confessions often reveal similar struggles regardless of gender, with the seven deadly sins and their variations being common themes.
Young men under 30 are increasingly adopting traditionally feminine thought processes.
Men's thought processes are being shaped by a 'feminine' approach, which values a kaleidoscope of information and emotional insight.
Women's thought processes are not deficient; they offer unique insights that complement men's perspectives.
Men are now experiencing 'paralysis by analysis,' similar to what women often face, due to an overload of information.
The pursuit of perfect answers is a common trait among women, which is now being observed in young men.
Decision-making is influenced by the fear of failure rather than the potential for reward, a trait traditionally more common in women.
Safe decisions, such as marrying a safe partner, can lead to feelings of regret due to a lack of challenge and adventure.
Men are traditionally risk-takers, focusing on the potential reward rather than the fear of failure.
Young men today are second-guessing themselves, showing a type of neuroticism not traditionally associated with masculinity.
Life is not a simulation; it requires making decisions with limited information and accepting failure as a learning opportunity.
Confidence is built through overcoming failure, not through avoiding it.
Men are expected to make decisions that align with their minds, not ones that reinforce feelings of failure or inadequacy.
The relationship with God is one of trust in His will, with the expectation that men act maturely and make their own decisions.
Men must live within God's moral will while making their own life decisions, much like a father expects his grown son to act independently.
Young men need to cultivate a mindset of success, understanding that life is uncertain and requires perseverance through failure.
Life is a journey that requires effort and resilience, not everything is handed to us, and this struggle is part of being a man.
Transcripts
in the name of the father and of the son
and of the Holy Spirit I was speaking um
with one of my spiritual Sons about
ideas about videos and he said what
about consistent themes that you hear in
confession is there something that you
hear that happens in confession that you
would say pertains to a lot of people uh
things that people are struggling with
etc etc and I and I
realize everyone's confessing very
similar things I mean you have the seven
deadly sins and all the variations on
that so a lot of confession is
is I would actually say shaped more by
the person or the the gender male or
female who's giving the confession
rather than it is by any particular sins
that are kind of dominant everyone
struggles with the same things a lot of
times the confession it's how they
express it which led me to share with
him this point what I'm finding or
seeing a
lot in confession is that a lot of times
it's the men that are under
30 uh over the last few years that I
find they actually have very feminine
thought
processes this is both what I've
experienced in confession and talking
with younger men and hearing the way
that they think about things now the
holy fathers tell us don't trust our own
thoughts so it's important that we
reveal our thoughts but in the process
of people revealing their thoughts and
talking about it you realize wow there
is a very strong feminine
uh way of thinking that I think is
actually kind of uh uh been adopted by
this younger generation of men now as I
spoke about in a previous video there's
nothing wrong with the way that women
think women see life through a
kaleidoscope of information mental
emotional interpersonal they have great
insights they just need it balanced with
a husband or spiritual father they can
help them navigate through the pitfalls
and find the right
conclusion likewise in a marriage a
husband desperately needs the insights
from his wife because his wife is going
to have very important key insights into
the emotional framework the personality
traits of the children how they need to
be communicated to you know so the
husband and the wife in these two
different ways of thinking are
completely complimentary there's nothing
deficient in uh women's thinking versus
men's thinking right both of them have
deficiencies what I mean is there's a
certain way that women process
information that is really unique to
them but I'm finding I see it a lot more
today in young men what are those things
well number one the tendency to focus on
too many
possibilities women often suffer from uh
paralysis by analysis they see so many
possibilities of what could happen that
they often are unable to navigate
through what are less likely scenarios
or less beneficial scenarios and more
beneficial scenarios they tend to see a
kind of Kaleidoscope of information I
see this with men they start to
be unable to kind of differentiate what
is valuable information and what is
invaluable information and they begin to
kind of take it in almost like a
computer where they're just taking an
overload of information that they don't
know what to do with or even how to
process it number two women tend to look
for perfect answers most women I've
encountered are perfectionists that's it
seems to be something kind of uh almost
inevitable with women maybe this is
North American women in particular but
they love the idea of making the perfect
decision again perfect decisions don't
exist right we make the best possible
decisions with the limited amount of
information that we have and then we
move
forward so that's number two number
three they make their decisions based on
the fear of failure instead of the risk
of reward uh what is a frequent example
of this women tend to marry men that are
safe they tend to marry men that are
safe because men that are safe don't
challenge them and when they do that
they often times come back after
afterwards and have feelings of regret
about who they married because the
person is safe and consistent but
doesn't challenge them doesn't exhibit
uh much manly
characteristics uh it isn't very
adventurous and ultimately a lot of
times women find these men very boring
after a couple of years what they once
thought was safe has then become uh
boring uh men tend to make decisions
based on the risk to reward this is why
we have a history of men going to war
sailing the Seas uh exploring North
America doing all of these things
because men think about the reward and
the possibility of what could happen
rather than the fear of failing what I'm
seeing with young men today is that
there's a type of neuroticism in their
thinking where they second guess
themselves all the time they see so many
possibilities they're afraid of failing
they don't think of uh the risk to
reward ratio they kind of act in a more
uh timid way about life they're not
going after it they're not trying to
conquer life instead they often times
feel that they are being conquered by
life and so when I see this and when I
talk to men and they begin to reveal
these thoughts and these patterns of
thinking there's a couple things that I
know are kind of feeding into this
number one life is not a
simulation life life is not a video game
life is happening in real time and
there's no pauses or
doovers this means that you are going to
make
Perpetual you know decisions that are
not the best why because we have that
saying hindsight is 2020 you're
constantly making decisions based on
limited
information the reality is is that when
you build confidence you build
confidence based on failure the most
confident people are the people who have
failed the most not the people who've
been the most successful the people who
have failed the most have learned from
their mistakes the decisions the things
that they would do different and they
continue to build on them that's one of
the Hallmarks of being a man is
overcoming adversity and being okay with
looking bad with being a failure with
falling short you often see this with
entrepreneurs and they'll say oh you
know I had four business businesses go
bankrupt uh I had you know 15 great
ideas but I you know I didn't make any
money until the
16th and so it is that you often find
that this kind of Daring this fight that
has to take place for success and for
confidence is a very manly attribute but
it's based on failure and so if somebody
meets a man who's very confident and you
hear their story I guarantee you there
story contains lots of failures lots of
missteps lots of things that they would
do different but in the face of
adversity they' learned to overcome it
and that's what built their confidence
because if you think that life is like
dominoes and everything's going to fall
in your favor and everything's going to
work out you're not going to make it
very far that is not the nature of life
and of existence number two men make
decisions today that tell them one thing
that is in congruent with their mind
what do I mean by that men often look at
internet uh uh videos of other men being
intimate with women that they cannot get
so two major problems number one is
they're looking at another man's
genitalia this is bizarre and and every
man I think knows that this is weird to
do that number two men are looking at
women that they can't get and so the
illusion of the internet content is that
you're a winner and yet every man who
comes to me when they've committed these
sin says I feel like a
failure so if you make decisions that
enforce the fact that you're a loser
that you're a failure that you're
looking at other men that you can't get
women guess what this is going to
severely undermine your ability to see
yourself as the protagonist in the story
of your life making decisions conquering
foes and overcoming adversity what
you're going to be constantly putting in
your mind is I am a loser I am pathetic
if you constantly feed yourself with the
thought that you are a loser that you're
pathetic and that you're doing things
that you don't want to do you are never
going to have the confidence as of a man
to make decisions and move forward and
trust in God that's number three in an
Earthly relationship it is totally
necessary for me as a father with my
10-year-old son to get him up in the
morning tell him to brush his teeth make
his bed do clean up his room wash his
face brush his teeth do his prayers that
is completely normal okay if he is 20
years old and I am calling him up in the
morning and saying son you've got to get
out of bed you've got to do your prayers
you've got to brush your teeth that is
pathetic okay we have a relationship
with God the Father where he is our
father and he expects us to act like men
he has a secret hidden will we call it
the will of God it is hidden from us we
are not going to figure it out we are
not going to shake a magical jar all the
people who go oh I prayed and I felt
like God was telling me is nonsense when
people talk like that they always say
that God agrees with whatever their
inclination is it's like God never tells
them to do do anything they don't want
to do it's nonsense be a mature adult
man means living in a relationship with
God where you trust in his secret holy
will and you constantly are praying for
him to bless you and to bless your life
that is what you're asking for but as
far as decision making goes he expects
you to be an adult man when my son is 25
years old and he says Dad what should I
do I can say listen son here is my
wisdom this is what I think but
ultimately he's got to make the
decisions he's got to figure it out he's
I'm not going to tell him every time oh
you must do this or you should do this
or whatever
else right that's our relationship with
God we have to live and move and and and
act in a way that honors God what do I
mean by that we need to keep to his
moral will meaning that we're not
dishonest we don't lie we don't cheat we
don't steal we don't manipulate people
we're not passive aggressive we're not
pathetic we live within his moral will
and then we make the decisions that we
need to do in life men young men
especially need to cultivate their
thinking around being successful
realizing that life is full of tons of
uncertainty they're going to make
mistakes they're going to have failures
they're going to have to trust in God
and they're going to have to walk
forward with maturity and follow their
best sense and the best advice that they
can get from other men and to follow
this through and realize that this is
why life is a journey and everything
isn't laid out at your feet ready to go
and you have to fight for it you have to
work for it and that is part of being a
man God bless you
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