How Years of Porn Consumption Affects Brain's Ability to Form Relationships
Summary
TLDRThe video script discusses the pervasiveness of sexual content in modern culture and its impact on human intimacy and mental health. It draws parallels to the food industry, suggesting that the internet and technology exploit our evolved brain patterns, leading to potential negative consequences like pornography addiction and distorted expectations of intimacy. The speaker acknowledges the rapid evolution of sexual content and its unpredictable effects on society, advocating for education and self-awareness as tools to navigate these changes.
Takeaways
- 📈 The internet is flooded with sexual stimuli, which may be affecting human intimacy and mental health.
- 🧠 Our brains have evolved to be attracted to certain stimuli for survival benefits, and industries have adapted to exploit these preferences.
- 🍕 Similar to how the food industry exploits our attraction to high-calorie foods, the internet and technology exploit our evolved attraction to sexual stimuli.
- 🌐 The rapid evolution of online platforms like OnlyFans and Twitch can lead to unexpected psychological effects, such as addiction and confusion around intimacy.
- 🚨 Early exposure to and the intensity of pornography can lead to addiction and distorted expectations about sexual experiences.
- 🤔 The impact of pornography on human relationships and intimacy is complex and not fully understood, but there are signs of change.
- 🌏 The speaker suggests a 'cognitive climate change' is occurring, with technology contributing to increased mental health issues.
- 🎮 The potential of future technologies, like VR with haptic feedback, raises concerns about their impact on human relationships and reproduction.
- 👥 The rise of parasocial interactions, such as those on OnlyFans, may exacerbate feelings of infidelity and intimacy issues in relationships.
- 🌱 Despite the challenges, there is optimism that humans can adapt and build healthier relationships through understanding and education.
Q & A
What is the main concern regarding the impact of pornographic content on human intimacy?
-The main concern is that the inundation of pornographic and sexually explicit content may be reducing genuine human intimacy by making sexual experiences seem less special or exciting.
How does the speaker relate the evolution of our brains to the popularity of certain internet content?
-The speaker suggests that our brains have evolved to be attracted to certain stimuli for survival benefits, and internet content that taps into these evolved preferences tends to do well, similar to how the food industry exploits our evolved taste for high-calorie foods.
What is the 'hot tub meta' on Twitch mentioned in the script, and how is it related to sexual stimuli?
-The 'hot tub meta' on Twitch refers to a trend where streamers use hot tubs as a backdrop, often implicitly sexualizing their content without being explicit. This is an example of how the internet is bombarding viewers with sexual stimuli.
What is the potential negative effect of early and intense exposure to pornography mentioned in the script?
-Early and intense exposure to pornography can lead to addiction and confusion around intimacy and expectations, potentially affecting an individual's ability to have healthy sexual relationships.
Why does the speaker compare the current cognitive changes to 'cognitive climate change'?
-The speaker uses the term 'cognitive climate change' to describe the rapid and significant shifts in human behavior and mental health due to technology and the internet, similar to how climate change affects the environment.
What is 'death grip syndrome' referred to in the script?
-'Death grip syndrome' is a term used to describe a condition where individuals become so accustomed to the intensity of pornography that they struggle to achieve satisfaction from real-life sexual experiences.
How does the speaker view the potential of technology like VR in the context of pornography?
-The speaker expresses concern that advancements in technology, such as VR with haptic feedback, could lead to individuals preferring virtual sexual experiences over real ones, potentially impacting human reproduction and relationships.
What is the speaker's opinion on the role of personal responsibility and education in managing the impact of internet content on mental health?
-The speaker believes that while technology and internet content can have negative impacts, it's also important for individuals to learn about themselves and manage these influences responsibly, possibly through education and open communication.
What is the significance of the legislation in Norway requiring disclosure of edited Instagram photos mentioned in the script?
-The legislation in Norway highlights the extent to which social media influencers edit their photos to conform to unrealistic beauty standards, which can have negative effects on viewers' self-image and expectations.
How does the speaker relate the evolution of pornography to the concept of 'parasocial interactions'?
-The speaker suggests that the evolution of pornography is moving towards more interactive experiences, like those found on platforms like OnlyFans, which involve parasocial interactions, blurring the lines between fantasy and reality and potentially complicating real-life relationships.
What is the speaker's stance on the moral panic surrounding new technologies and their impact on society?
-The speaker acknowledges the potential negative impacts of new technologies but cautions against a moral panic. Instead, they advocate for understanding and managing these changes as part of human progress.
Outlines
🌐 Impact of Internet Sexuality on Human Intimacy
The paragraph discusses the pervasiveness of sexual content on the internet and its potential impact on human intimacy and mental health. It draws a comparison between the current saturation of sexual stimuli and the way our brains have evolved to respond to certain stimuli for survival, like high-calorie foods. The speaker suggests that just as the food industry has exploited our evolved preferences, the internet and technology are now doing the same with sexual content, leading to potential negative consequences that are not yet fully understood. The conversation also touches on how this might affect genuine human connections and the special nature of sexual experiences.
📈 The Evolution of Sexual Content and Its Psychological Effects
This section delves into the specifics of how sexual content on platforms like Instagram and Twitch can shape our brains' expectations and desires. It discusses the phenomenon of pornography addiction and how early and intense exposure can lead to psychiatric issues. The speaker shares an anecdote about a patient's confusion regarding orgasm due to unrealistic expectations set by pornography. The paragraph also addresses the evolving nature of platforms like OnlyFans and their potential to create new intimacy issues in relationships, suggesting that the rapid pace of change in sexual content online outstrips our ability to study and understand its full impact.
🤔 Navigating the Changing Landscape of Sexuality and Technology
The final paragraph contemplates the broader implications of the changes in sexual content consumption and the potential for a 'cognitive climate change' affecting mental health. It acknowledges the challenges posed by new technologies and platforms but resists a doomsday narrative. Instead, it suggests that with increased understanding and education, we can adapt and build healthier relationships. The speaker also humorously speculates about the future of virtual relationships enabled by advancements in VR and AI, cautioning against the potential for these technologies to disrupt traditional human connections.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡sexual stimuli
💡evolutionary preference
💡parasocial interaction
💡pornography addiction
💡intimacy
💡expectations
💡psychiatric consequences
💡cognitive climate change
💡haptic feedback
💡waifus
💡polyamory
Highlights
The impact of porn and graphic sexual content on human intimacy and mental health is uncertain but potentially negative.
The internet is flooded with sexual stimuli, which may be exploiting our evolved brain architecture.
Content that performs well online often exploits our evolutionary preferences, similar to how the food industry does.
The rapid evolution of internet content makes it difficult for studies to keep up with its psychological effects.
Early and intense exposure to pornography can lead to addiction and confusion around sexual expectations.
There is a real psychiatric impact, including issues with intimacy and orgasm expectations due to porn consumption.
The pornography industry has evolved to include interactive elements, exacerbating potential intimacy issues.
The parasocial element of platforms like OnlyFans may create new intimacy issues in real relationships.
The changing nature of relationships and the rise of polyamory and open relationships in response to new challenges.
The potential for technology like VR and AI to further alter human relationships and intimacy.
The importance of communication and education in building healthy relationships in the face of technological changes.
The comparison between the cognitive effects of technology and climate change, suggesting a 'cognitive climate change'.
The increase in mental health issues and suicide rates as potential signs of this 'cognitive climate change'.
The potential for humanity to adapt and manage the challenges brought by technological advancements.
The waifu revolution and how societal attitudes towards virtual relationships may evolve with technology.
The potential for fully immersive virtual experiences to have a significant impact on human reproduction and relationships.
The necessity for society to continue advancing and adapting to new challenges, rather than resisting technological progress.
Transcripts
so what you're saying is that we need a
healthy gamer only fans
no
no what I'm saying at all all right
maybe one day
I was thinking about the inundation of
porn and graphic sexual content in
today's culture I was wondering what
would be Dr K's thoughts on how this is
affecting the human mind and mental
health
I feel that genuine human intimacy is
going down in this day and age but it
could just be me sexuality is something
so common and frequent to humans
naturally however
that it just seems natural that in the
internet age it would be everywhere
however I feel that as I said this is
affecting human intimacy and it at least
in my eyes seems to be making sexuality
and sexual experiences not as special or
exciting as they should be just some
thoughts in the community would love to
hear people's ideas
okay let me think about this oh man so I
think this is such a complicated
question like so the simplest questions
actually have the most complicated
answers because it depends on what level
you want to talk about okay so if we
want to try to understand the inundation
of porn and sexuality and like sexually
explicit not even sexually explicit it's
actually implicit
things on the internet right so if you
look at things like the hot tub meta on
Twitch that's not sexually explicit but
sexually implicit so we are absolutely
being inundated and bombarded with
sexual stimuli and so the question is
what does that do to us
and the short answer is like no one
really knows but I suspected it ain't
great
so here's what we do know
if we look at content on the internet
what I have come to realize is that like
the content that does well is the stuff
that from an evolutionary or sort of
takes advantage of like the evolution of
our brains
so our brains have evolved to be
attracted to particular things
and though that attraction in our brain
led to survival benefits so a good
example of this is like we're attracted
to high calorie density food so we're
attracted to food that is like you know
sugary fatty delicious right we call it
delicious like food that is like low
calorie is not usually considered
delicious
and so then what happens is we've our
brain is our body has evolved to have a
preference for this one thing because it
used to be a survival advantage
and then we started making like you know
twinkies and then suddenly people are
now dying of diabetes
because their body has evolved to tell
them to like eat this unhealthy food
and what we have is we have industries
that have adapted to this evolutionary
preference like fast food right so like
we have calorie dense Pizza all this
kind of stuff I had pizza last night it
was delicious I hadn't had pizza in a
while
and I ate like a thousand calories and
like our so we have entire industries
that have adapted to meet this need
and then what happens is like the
industry is just sort of like we're just
making the pizza like we're not you know
people can choose to eat it or not eat
it it's like we're just making pizza
right and so there's like personal
freedom arguments and all that kind of
stuff but I think Industries are
adapting to
fit the existing architecture of our
brains
and I think this is essentially
happening with the internet dopamine and
like sexuality
so you know the last big revolution that
was predatory on the way that our brains
and bodies have evolved may have been
like the food industry and now what
we've got is this whole cognitive
like technology like predatory kind of
stuff I don't think they're oh I mean
some of them are trying to be predatory
some of them aren't trying to be
predatory right so if like you're a game
designer some of them are like you know
sitting there like as CFO and trying to
think like how can we extract more how
can we like extract more juice from this
sweet sweet pudgy gamer
and then like some people are like you
know how can I make the game that I want
to play how can I make a game that's
more fun than anything I've ever played
before
and and so both of those things will end
up with with arguably like things that
will be predatory on our on our
circuitry and so I think we're seeing
this in sexuality as well where like
content people are sort of figuring out
like you know Instagram is a good
example right so like everyone is like
editing Instagram photos and I saw that
there was recently legislation in Norway
where you have to like let people know
that your Instagram is edited
and so like what everyone is doing is
they're like gravitating towards Like
These people aren't really sure they
don't they're not neuroscientists but if
I look if I'm an Instagram model I'm
gonna real like I'm gonna figure out
from a darwinian sense right I'm gonna
try this post and it's not gonna work
I'm gonna try this post it is gonna work
oh what did I do there oh I was wearing
something skimpier okay now I'm gonna
try skimpy but this is too skimpy and
now people think that I'm kind of like
you know ho-ish so like people didn't
like that as much so I need to be like
just hoist enough
right so that's sort of like the idea
behind like and they figured this out
they figure out like how the brain is
wired and what leads to the most kind of
like pull
so some of the impacts that we're seeing
are you know we're seeing things like
pornography addiction so we're seeing
that for example the more likely you are
to get addicted to pornography like
depends on how early you were exposed to
pornography and also the intensity of
the pornography that you were exposed to
so we are seeing real like psych like
psychiatric consequences we're also
seeing as this person suggests like some
confusion around intimacy and
expectations so a lot of people who you
know grow up watching porn will have
particular expectations of what the
appropriate response is
so I one time had a patient who told me
that they were unable to have an orgasm
when they masturbate
and as I talked to them I realized like
actually when they masturbate they are
having an orgasm it's just in the
pornography there's like so they used to
say that I get I can get to the first
part of orgasm I was like what do you
mean the first part of orgasm and
they're like well I get a little of I
get like a small amount of ejaculate but
I don't get to the full ejaculate I was
like what do you mean the full ejaculate
and then I realized that like when you
watch pornography there's such a copious
amount of ejaculate that like this
person had what I assumed to be like a
normal ejaculation I still remember I
looked up what is the
I still remember like after an
appointment I looked up what is the
average amount of human what is the
median amount of human ejaculate in
milliliters
and so pornography had given this this
idea that like orgasm is this like just
explosion of like buckets of ejaculation
and they just didn't understand that
right so like they would actually
masturbate and they like they thought
they were like busted in some way so
like you know the the impacts of
pornography is their pornography
addiction absolutely is it affecting
with intimacy like I think so and then
there are all these other like
unexpected outcomes
that we just don't We're Not Gonna know
right like you can't predict that if
people watch a lot of pornography like
teenagers are gonna get confused about
when they have an orgasm that's not like
you just can't make that prediction but
it's it's an effect
and so you know what effect is it having
the short answer is like we sort of
don't know so we're certainly seeing
some of these things like you know death
grip syndrome and some of these other
things where our brain is like wiring to
expect a certain kind of stimulus and
then it takes some time for us to like
rewire to like regular stimuli
and so you know there are a couple of
things like this but the short answer is
like is it affecting us absolutely and
the reason that we don't know is because
pornography and sexually sexual sexually
explicit and implicit material is
evolving so quickly that we can't even
study it like we can't study it fast
enough so if you think about you know
five years ago like only fans didn't
exist
but at least I don't think so
maybe it did but now what's happening is
like I'm sure that only fans the
parasocial element of only fans is going
to create intimacy issues in real
relationships because it for you know
for a long time Partners have always
been concerned about what was I saying
oh yeah only fans
so you know partners for a long time
have been concerned that like oh if my
partner watches pornography like it
feels like they're cheating right like
Partners have all like been concerned
about you know watching pornography and
like you know
whatever and then like I think that
there's an emotional component there's a
parasocial component on only fans which
is is going to exacerbate
those kinds of feelings and the people
who are like are vulnerable to them
right so like it's completely possible
that you know their majority of the
population or maybe the minor I have no
idea will be totally fine with you know
someone donating 100 or or purchasing I
guess you know a hundred or a thousand
dollars of content a month on only fans
like some Partners may be like
comfortable with that right because
polyamory is also growing like open
relationships are growing like there's
the everything's changing so that could
be fine
but at the same time I think that like
the reason that only fans is successful
is because
pornography has evolved and what people
have figured out is that like
there's an element of pornography that's
purely physical and it started off with
a magazine right there's like zero
interaction and then like how much will
it prey on our brain if I get like
interaction with that woman I can lust
for a particular I'm just sort of think
about the heteronormative here in a
masculine perspective but you know if I
if I'm a man and I'm lusting for a woman
like looking at a Playboy magazine like
that's fine but then suddenly like I'm
able to interact with the woman I'm able
to get the woman's attention like I'm
able to like have more contact with her
we just saw from a post earlier today
that like you know people can get
addicted to Twitch and stuff because
these parasocial interactions so there's
like the sh like you know what effect is
it having honestly as a scientist the
right answer is I don't know and no one
does
and at the same time we are clearly
seeing signs of something is changing in
our brains in the way that we interact
with each other
now I'm not going to be quite as
doomsday as many people will everyone's
like oh my God the world is coming to
the end like like only fans will be the
the death of all relationships and I'm
sure that someone out there believes
that but I also think that you know the
reason we stream on Twitch is because we
can sort of Fight Fire with Fire right
so like we can
um we can people can become addicted to
Twitch and people can hopefully watch
Twitch which I know sounds kind of weird
to like help themselves not become
addicted to Twitch it's bizarre but I
think that we can probably like we can
teach people how to have healthier
conversations and relationships I've
done that before
um in terms of like you know pornography
and and only fans and stuff like that
like how can you communicate with your
partner because that kind of
communication education like hasn't been
available for most of the history of
humanity so it's possible that we can
just build healthy relationships despite
all this stuff by just learning more
about ourselves
so what you're saying is that we need a
healthy gamer only fans
no
that's not what I'm saying at all
oh
[Music]
my God all right maybe one day
I'm happy on Twitch chat
okay
all right and so this is where like is
is this the same person that was asking
is this why Magneto is never depressed
just to be clear the world is changing
we don't know how it's changing
is it causing problems probably and or
yes and I don't think that that means
that the world should stop changing
right so like the whole
goal of humanity is that new challenges
arise and like as the human race like we
have to figure out
how to like unscrew ourselves from all
the screwing over we've done so like you
know the Industrial Revolution happened
and we started like using fossil fuels a
ton and now there's like concerns around
climate change so we gotta like fix that
right so they're like
reforestation projects and like you know
all kinds of things that that is the
human race hopefully will you know start
doing
and so that there's happening there's a
cognitive Revolution as well there's
like a cognitive change there's like
like you know we're doing a lot of
things that cognitively offer short-term
benefits and there's almost like a
cognitive climate change happening right
now with the human race and I think the
reason that we we're seeing so much more
mental illness and why mental illness is
getting worse and suicide is getting a
little bit worse if not significantly
worse depression is increasing anxiety
is increasing I think it's a sign of
this cognitive climate change so is
pornography have something to do with
that sure as only fans have something to
do with that sure is YouTube has
something to do with that sure switch
have something to do with that sure
and are these things evil do we want to
stop advancing as a human race and like
stop advancing technology just because
it has some downsides I personally don't
think so I think this is where like we
can learn about ourselves and we can
manage it
I love video games yeah so when when VR
develops haptic feedback that is going
to eliminate the human race I gave a
talk about this at a
video game developer conference a few
years ago
that my biggest concern about the
pornography industry is when you can
have haptic feedback with VR
and like then like literally people may
stop having children and then like you
incorporate things like Ai and stuff
like and you have like a fully virtual
girlfriend that will throw temper
tantrums
and frustrate you
and then yeah AI waifu with haptic
feedback then it's like GG dude
so you know there's this idea right now
that like people who are into waifus are
like less than human
you know people will mock them a lot and
will denigrate them a lot and things
like that
but I think as technology improves like
just like gaming has become we used to
do that with the gamers remember that
chat you remember when Gamers used to be
the minority
and before everyone was doing it and
then his games got better everyone
started doing it
the waifu revolution is coming chat
prepare yourselves
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