I’m 50 years old Japanese man struggling with midlife crisis. Things that my wife hates me.
Summary
TLDRIn this video, the creator discusses a recent family crisis that led to an urgent meeting with his wife. He admits to being overly absorbed in his YouTube channel, neglecting family time, which was a significant reason for his wife's temporary departure. They also address the stress from her volunteer work at their daughter's kindergarten, their children's behavioral issues, and the untidiness of their home due to his hobby as a toy collector. The creator acknowledges his shortcomings and the need for a better work-life balance.
Takeaways
- 🕒 The video script is set in the late evening, indicating a personal and reflective tone.
- 👨👩👧👦 The speaker and his wife had an urgent family meeting to address relationship issues and stress.
- 🏠 The wife had left the family home temporarily but returned within the same day, causing concern for the speaker.
- 🛍️ The wife's departure was due to needing a break, which she spent shopping to relieve stress.
- 📹 The speaker's YouTube channel growth has led to him devoting all his energy to content creation, neglecting family time.
- 🚫 The wife is uncomfortable with the idea of their private life being shared on the speaker's YouTube channel.
- 🏡 The family's home is often untidy, which the wife finds stressful to manage, especially with the speaker's hobby taking up space.
- 👶 The couple's children, particularly their daughter, are growing and becoming more challenging, affecting the family dynamic.
- 📈 The wife's involvement in their daughter's kindergarten as a volunteer has added to her stress and responsibilities.
- 🎉 The speaker acknowledges that he has not been fully present in family events, which has been a point of contention.
Q & A
Why did the speaker and his wife have an urgent family meeting?
-They had an urgent family meeting to address the stress in their relationship and to discuss why the wife had left the house for a few hours, which was a significant event for the speaker.
What was the main reason the wife left the house for a few hours?
-The wife left the house to go shopping as a way to release stress, needing a break from the pressures of their daily life.
Why was the speaker's wife feeling stressed?
-The wife was feeling stressed due to her responsibilities as a helper at their daughter's kindergarten, the behavior of their children, and the untidiness of their home.
How has the speaker's YouTube channel impacted his family life?
-The speaker's devotion to his YouTube channel has led to him spending almost all his time on it, which has caused him to be less present and engaged with his family, leading to stress and dissatisfaction for his wife.
What was the wife's reaction to the idea of the speaker making a video about their conversation?
-The wife did not agree with the idea of making a video about their conversation, as she values her privacy and does not want to expose their family's personal issues to the public.
What is one of the reasons the speaker's house is always untidy?
-The house is untidy partly because the speaker uses one of the rooms to store his collection of toys and gadgets, which makes it difficult for his wife to keep the house clean.
How does the speaker's daughter's behavior affect the family dynamics?
-The speaker's daughter has been behaving naughtily, which adds to the stress in the family and makes it challenging for the parents to manage her, especially when she misses her daily nap.
What was the speaker's attitude towards celebrating their 14th wedding anniversary?
-The speaker initially gave up on the idea of celebrating their 14th anniversary at a fancy restaurant with their kids, which disappointed his wife and contributed to her decision to take a break.
Why did the wife feel that the speaker was not participating enough in family events?
-The wife felt that the speaker was not participating enough in family events because his focus was primarily on his YouTube activities, which left him less available and engaged in family matters.
What was the speaker's realization about his behavior towards his family?
-The speaker realized that his behavior, particularly his obsession with his YouTube channel, was disrespectful to his family and that he needed to devote more time and energy to his family.
Outlines
👨👩👧👦 Family Urgency: A Break for Stress
The narrator discusses an urgent family meeting with his wife to address relationship issues. His wife had left him for half a day due to stress, but returned after shopping. The narrator admits that he has been devoting all his energy to his YouTube channel, which has caused a strain on the family. His wife's objection to being filmed for a video is highlighted, as she values privacy and does not appreciate the public exposure of their family life.
📱 Distractions and Disconnections
The narrator confesses that his focus on his YouTube channel has affected his family life. Despite spending time with his children, he is often distracted by his phone and YouTube analytics. His wife's dissatisfaction with his behavior and the lack of privacy in their lives is emphasized. The narrator also acknowledges that his wife's volunteer work at their daughter's kindergarten adds to her stress, contributing to the family's tension.
🏠 Chaos at Home: The Impact of Responsibilities
The narrator's wife is overwhelmed with her new responsibilities at their daughter's kindergarten, which includes early mornings and late evenings without compensation. Their daughter's behavioral changes and the need for a daily nap are discussed, along with the challenges of maintaining a clean and organized home. The narrator admits that his YouTube hobby, which involves collecting toys, has contributed to the messiness of their home, causing additional stress for his wife.
🎥 The YouTuber's Dilemma: Balancing Family and Fame
The narrator reflects on his decade-long career as a YouTuber and the impact it has had on his family life. He mentions his multiple YouTube and TikTok accounts and the constant pressure to create content. His wife's desire for him to be more involved in family events, such as their anniversary, is highlighted, along with his perceived lack of participation. The narrator acknowledges that his dedication to his online presence may have come at the expense of his family's well-being.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Urgent Family Meeting
💡Stress
💡YouTube Channel
💡Privacy
💡Volunteer Work
💡Naughty Child
💡Messy House
💡Anniversary Celebration
💡Participation
💡Complaints
💡Content Creation
Highlights
Urgent family meeting held at 11 p.m. on a Wednesday night to address relationship issues.
Wife left the family for half a day due to stress, highlighting the need for a break.
The husband's full-time dedication to his YouTube channel was identified as a major stressor for the wife.
The wife's role as a volunteer helper at their daughter's kindergarten added to her stress.
Their daughter's behavioral changes and need for a daily nap were discussed as family challenges.
The husband's collection of toys and use of a room as storage contributed to a messy home environment.
The wife's dissatisfaction with the husband's prioritization of YouTube over family time was expressed.
The couple's 14th anniversary was overshadowed by the husband's lack of interest in family events.
The wife's need for privacy and dislike of being featured on YouTube was a point of contention.
The husband acknowledged his potential disrespect towards family privacy by considering content for YouTube.
The husband's realization of the impact of his YouTube activities on family life and his wife's stress.
The wife's involvement in school events and the time commitment it required from her.
The couple's discussion on the importance of balancing work and family life.
The husband's commitment to making videos every day for over 10 years, impacting family dynamics.
The wife's request for the husband to be more involved in family events and responsibilities.
The husband's reflection on his behavior and the need for change to improve family relationships.
Transcripts
hi it's almost 11 p.m. on Wednesday
night so
I me and my wife had a
family urgent family
meeting to fix our relationships and
uh especially you know how
we we were talking about how we were
happily living
together without each other's
stress so and the reason why I had
urgent on
ENT family meeting with my wife is
that 3 days
ago 3 days ago she left me even though
she came back within the same day after
like 6 hours a half a half day absence
without taking any funkers you know I
thought she was she was gone and she she
you know she she would go she would
leaving
me me and my kids but eventually she
came back so she was just you know uh
she she needed a break and uh actually
she just went to shopping and uh release
her stress
so but it was my first
time for me to have like half day
without any without saying anything
suddenly you know but actually actually
she she said to
me uh I I would like to go out and I
needed the time I needed the break so
and she left me and my f my my kids on
Monday and uh it was a holid day um it
was
a public day the bank day bnk holid day
in
Japan so and then she came back and uh I
thought that we needed we would need
talk about what's going on and
why she wanted to leave and why she had
been so
stressful why
she became so nervous and
so why she began to Hate Everything not
hate everything
exaggeration but uh I needed to talk to
her and then actually I was going to
make a
video that I'm going to show a real
conversation between me and my wife as I
promised in the previous video so I was
trying and uh I asked her if
it is okay it will be okay for me to
make a video to show the reality to show
the real conversation for the family M
but she didn't agree with the idea and
she actually she said to me
that's this is why I left her I left you
that that's why you know this is the
reason the biggest one of the biggest
reason she doesn't like do my you know
behavior and what I have
done recently so actually since this
YouTube channel has become bigger and
bigger my energy I I actually I have
been deot I have been devoting
my energy 100% my energy into making
videos and uh you know and thinking
about
that
what I can create the
boss in the YouTube
so
that's that was um actually one of the
biggest reason that see didn't
like because you
know
even even during the weekday we
weekends when I you know I have I have
Day
offers
actually I was trying to my best I was
trying to my do my best to focus on you
know the taking care of my kid
playing with my kids but uh yeah I have
to admit that you know I have to admit
that not 100% I was not focusing on
playing with my kids so every you know
while I was playing with my kids so if I
have some spare time I couldn't help but
watch my you know YouTube channel and a
YouTube Studio where you you can you you
can you can watch you can you can check
what's going on your YouTube channel and
uh so every time every time and uh maybe
you
know almost
almost 24
hours except you know except I'm I'm I'm
sleeping almost all
day I'm
watching smartphones to
check my YouTube channel my the YouTube
studio and uh sometimes I'm I'm checking
my Tik Tok account and a Tik Tok
Studio to to see if you know my
channel how what's going on my latest
videos so this is the one of the biggest
reason reasons why she actually left me
and uh why she needed a break so I
wanted to show I wanted to
show the real
conversation between me and my
wife but uh like explained she doesn't
like the idea to show off her face her
privacy everything and another thing she
doesn't like is that you know
I everything surrounding me I thought
that it's good content it could be the
good contents for for you to know for
you to understand for you to take a look
at the reality Japanese family's reality
but she doesn't like to show off
everything for example the messy house
messy room and uh maybe you know um our
kids faces shouldn't I think I I should
I think I should hide I should
cover I should respect their privacy but
uh I actually what I what I what I was
doing was disrespectful to my family so
this is the second reason she hated what
I have done what I what I what I had
done so and
also in addition to
that what I messed up so these are the
some of the reason why she she needed a
break so the first one is a stressful
stressful job for the Kinder Garten
Kinder Garten Kinder Kinder Garden so
she has become one of the I don't know a
helper to my daughter's school it's
actually not 100%
volunteer however she actually she was
selected as the helper one of the helper
to support the school event and uh
actually this Saturday we will have have
the big big sports day for her for my
for our daughter so and then the she has
to go actually she she had to go almost
every day to kindergarten without any
payment without without any paycheck
even though she receives like 100
dollar per semester but it's almost a
volunteer
volunteer so and then actually she had
to do so much things to prepare the
school events so and uh she had to wake
up like 5:00 in the morning and I come
back came back to like I don't know my
two or three evening so
and
entire day she has to and and and and
and even in in in her spare time
actually she had to
face her computer to make some documents
for the school events so she has she has
been so stressful
because of her respons the new challenge
new responsibility and it was not her
actually but the school actually made a
decision made a selection for how to
become the school helper so number two
is our children became no deer and no
dear I don't know how to say I don't I I
I can't I can't find exact
word or phrase to
express especially our daughter so our
daughter for years old has been so nauy
no noty and no noer and
noer we understand that you know she
it's time now she has become from a
little baby to a small kid and uh we can
imagine that the more the more more she
learn the more she learn the bigger she
has bigger stress she
has and uh we have to understand and uh
actually she needs a nap she needs a
nap like one hour or one one and a half
hour nap every day but if she misses the
napping nap she becomes crazy she
becomes crazy like during the evening so
she doesn't listen anything at all what
me and my wife says say to
her so and and then
especially on this
Monday she was crazy crazy naughty she
was screaming
shouting and uh didn't listen and didn't
listen award from ours
so and then number three
is our
house our house always becomes untidy
untiy and uh actually
always always she tries to clean up our
rooms
living room our children rooms and our
bedrooms and uh I think it is my my
fault because you know I'm a YouTuber
and I I I'm not sure if you are familiar
with myself so I used to be a toy
YouTuber YouTuber futuring on the toy
review so that's why I have collected so
many toys and uh actually one of my one
of
my one room one of my room of our house
actually is
occupied my toys and
uh even though I almost gave up
collecting and I I almost gave up you
know to be to be a toy YouTuber YouTuber
for featuring the toy you know review I
still I still I still have been
collecting many toys many gadgets so
that's my of my hobby so however I
actually use my I have used one of my
room as
storage even though the room should not
be used as storage but uh it's so messy
it's so messy and every
time it is it was hard it was hard it
was my wife to clean up the
room and uh I think I I already
explained the situation my small
Devotion to my family so my biggest
devotion so far had
been to not to my family but to you know
YouTube
activity so I actually I have been
YouTuber for over 10 years actually and
uh I started Tik Tock five years ago and
uh I have
like five accounts of Tik Tok and a 10
accounts of YouTube channel so every
time every day every day never ever
stop never ever stopping making videos
every day
3665 days and uh 24 hours not 24 hours
maybe you know except my except I I'm
sleeping so I I have been devoting 100%
of my energy to making
videos so and maybe I I didn't intend to
do so but uh maybe for her maybe I look
I have I have looked
like I gave up like you know the playing
with kids and
uh I maybe I sacrificed to playing with
my kids and uh she actually she needed
me to participate in more like family
events and uh yeah the the good good
example remember was that Monday was the
our uh anniversary our celebration we we
were supposed to have the one of the big
biggest family event event but uh you
know I I didn't listen to her and even
though I pretended to listen her listen
to her but uh like explained in my mind
I thought that it would be difficult for
me and my wife to go to fancy restaurant
with kids of course with kids of course
to celebrate our 14th
anniversary but the the from the start
from the beginning I actually I gave up
so maybe she knew that so that's why she
doesn't she didn't like the idea and my
behavior toward family event so all this
is just a part of part of the complaints
I shouldn't I shouldn't say complaints
Maybe
does thing
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