Emotional & Invisible labour - Why Women Are Fed Up & Tired
Summary
TLDRThis video delves into the concept of emotional and invisible labor, tasks often undertaken by women outside of their paid employment. The speaker discusses how these labors, including household maintenance and emotional support, are frequently unrecognized and unappreciated. Despite societal shifts towards gender equality, the burden often remains on women to perform this crucial, yet often invisible, work. The video calls for acknowledgment and support for this labor, emphasizing the importance of valuing traditionally feminine qualities in today's society.
Takeaways
- 📚 Emotional and invisible labor refer to the tasks and work carried out outside of one's day job, often by women in relationships.
- 🏡 These tasks include household maintenance, childcare, emotional support, and caring for sick relatives, which are crucial but often go unappreciated.
- 💔 The emotional toll of this labor can be high, with women experiencing stress and exhaustion due to the lack of recognition and support.
- 🌐 The speaker suggests that society undervalues the nurturing and caring work traditionally associated with femininity, favoring more individualistic and entrepreneurial pursuits.
- 🔄 Historically, feminine energy and nurturing roles were more respected, with a shift away from this appreciation in modern times.
- 🌱 The speaker calls for a revaluation and celebration of feminine qualities and the emotional labor they entail, which are essential for societal well-being.
- 🚺 Women are encouraged to speak up about the emotional labor they perform and seek support when it becomes overwhelming.
- 🤝 Men and society at large are urged to recognize and support the emotional labor done by women, fostering a more balanced and respectful dynamic.
- 📖 The script references a book and a podcast that delve deeper into the topic of emotional labor, suggesting further resources for those interested.
- 🐾 The speaker shares a personal anecdote about her cat, illustrating the everyday nature of emotional labor and its demands.
Q & A
What are emotional and invisible labor?
-Emotional and invisible labor refer to tasks and work carried out outside of one's day job, often involving household maintenance, childcare, emotional support, and other responsibilities that are not typically recognized or compensated by society.
Why are these terms becoming more discussed?
-These terms are gaining more attention as people, particularly women, are speaking out about the imbalance and lack of recognition for the significant amount of work they perform in maintaining households and providing emotional support, which often goes unseen and unappreciated.
Why are women often the ones carrying out emotional and invisible labor?
-Historically and in many cultures, women have been assigned the role of caregivers and nurturers, leading to them often taking on the majority of emotional and invisible labor. This is also influenced by societal expectations and gender norms.
How does emotional and invisible labor affect women who also work full-time?
-Women who work full-time jobs in addition to their emotional and invisible labor can experience significant stress and exhaustion due to the dual burden. This can lead to an imbalance in their personal and professional lives, as they are expected to manage both paid work and unpaid domestic responsibilities.
What are some examples of emotional labor mentioned in the script?
-Examples of emotional labor include managing the tough emotional aspects of parenting, providing support to friends or family members going through difficult times, and being there for someone who has received a serious illness diagnosis.
How does the script suggest men and other people in our lives can support those carrying out emotional and invisible labor?
-The script suggests that men and others can support by recognizing the importance of this labor, understanding its impact, and stepping up to share the responsibilities. This includes acknowledging the emotional load and providing practical help and emotional support.
What is the significance of the term 'invisible labor'?
-The term 'invisible labor' signifies that this type of work is often not seen or appreciated by society at large. It implies that the contributions made through emotional and domestic labor are essential but frequently overlooked.
How does the script relate the concept of emotional and invisible labor to broader societal issues?
-The script connects emotional and invisible labor to societal issues by highlighting the lack of recognition and appreciation for traditionally feminine roles and the impact this has on mental health, gender equality, and the overall well-being of communities.
What historical perspectives does the script provide on the appreciation of feminine energy?
-The script references historical and mythological contexts where feminine energy was revered, such as in pre-Christian Britain with druidic practices and Native American cultures, suggesting a historical shift in the valuation of feminine roles and energies.
Why is it important for women to be recognized for their emotional and invisible labor?
-Recognition is important because it validates the significant contributions women make to society and家庭, and it helps to address the imbalance and stress they may experience. It also promotes a more equitable distribution of labor and fosters a society that values care and nurturing work.
What are some ways the script suggests women can communicate their needs for support?
-The script suggests that women should openly communicate their struggles and needs to their partners or family members, asking for acknowledgment and support in specific areas where they feel overwhelmed.
Outlines
🌟 Emotional and Invisible Labor: The Unseen Work
The speaker introduces the topic of emotional and invisible labor, explaining that these are tasks and work carried out outside of regular employment. Often, these responsibilities, such as household maintenance, childcare, and emotional support, are disproportionately shouldered by women. The speaker suggests that this labor, while essential, is frequently unappreciated and invisible to society at large. The video aims to discuss the challenges faced by women in managing these tasks and how others can support them.
🚀 The Challenge of Balancing Work and Emotional Labor
The speaker discusses the historical and contemporary expectations placed on women to perform emotional and invisible labor, even as they also engage in paid work. The paragraph highlights the societal imbalance where women are expected to manage both professional responsibilities and the bulk of domestic and emotional tasks. It also touches on the broader societal implications of undervaluing this type of labor and the importance of recognizing and respecting the nurturing and caring roles that women play.
🌱 The Importance of Recognizing and Valuing Feminine Energy
The speaker emphasizes the need to respect and honor the feminine energy and the nurturing roles that women often play in society. She argues that these roles are essential for societal stability and well-being, yet they are often overlooked and undervalued. The speaker calls for a societal shift to acknowledge and celebrate the contributions of women in emotional and invisible labor, suggesting that this is a critical step towards gender equality and societal health.
🔗 Seeking Support and Acknowledgment in Emotional Labor
The speaker concludes by discussing the importance of support and acknowledgment for women who perform emotional and invisible labor. She encourages open communication about the challenges and the need for help, advocating for a partnership where both men and women can share these responsibilities. The speaker also shares her personal experience of having a supportive partner and calls for a societal return to valuing feminine power, as seen in historical and indigenous cultures.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Emotional Labor
💡Invisible Labor
💡Gender Roles
💡Feminine Energy
💡Masculine World
💡Recognition
💡Support
💡Work-Life Balance
💡Feminism
💡Cultural Shift
Highlights
Introduction to the concept of emotional and invisible labor
Emotional and invisible labor often carried out disproportionately by women
Examples of emotional labor include household maintenance and childcare
Invisible labor encompasses tasks not typically recognized or appreciated by society
The importance of recognizing and supporting emotional labor in relationships
Historical context of women's roles and emotional labor
The challenge of balancing work, emotional labor, and societal expectations
The impact of living in a 'masculine' world on the value of emotional labor
The need for societal appreciation for traditionally feminine qualities
The importance of emotional labor in maintaining societal equilibrium
The role of emotional labor in addressing the rise in mental health issues
The need for women to be valued and seen for their emotional labor
The importance of communication and support in sharing emotional labor
The author's personal experience with emotional and invisible labor
The author's call to celebrate and respect feminine energy and emotional labor
Resources for further reading and listening on emotional labor
Encouragement for women to speak up about their emotional labor and seek support
Transcripts
hi everyone thanks for tuning in to this
week's video we are going to be going
into a interesting topic emotional and
invisible labor so you may never have
even heard of those terms or you may
have just recently heard about them
because they're getting discussed a
little bit more so I want to talk about
both of those things they kind of are
two things that are joined together two
sides of the same coin and what it
basically means is emotional and
invisible labor are the tasks and the
work we carry out outside of our day
jobs our day to day pick up a paycheck
kind of work these are the tasks and the
labor that go on outside of that they
are often I mean god I could get some
terrible feedback for saying this but I
genuinely do believe that these tasks
are more often than not carried out by
women by females who are in hatched
sexual relationships or if you are in a
same-sex relationship normally someone
picks up this role and it's the women
out there of the world that are really
carrying the weight and doing the lion's
share of this sort of work from all of
my research and in my personal opinion
of what I see so we're going to be
talking mostly about what the women are
going through but also as well about how
the men in our lives and the other
people in our lives can support us in
this work and realize how important it
is and you know a few examples of what
this sort of work looks like it's the
stuff that we take on like the household
maintenance the childcare the parent the
you know the tough emotional side of the
parenting the shopping list fee to fix
this in the house the doctor's
appointments the hospital appointments
the friend or family member that's
through a difficult time and needs that
emotional support oh that person you
know who's just got a cancer diagnosis
or an illness and you are there stepping
in to give that emotional support and to
be that rock in that person's life so
they're the kind of things that
emotional labor involves and you know it
can be a lot to carry all of that and
it's often work that I think like the
the title invisible labor kind of
insinuates is that it's work that's not
really seen or appreciated by wider
society that's where the issue lies for
me is that this work that's going on
this tireless this highly energetic work
that women are doing emotionally and
physically but a lot of it is emotional
is really really taxing and there's not
that appreciation and that recognition
for what women go through and what women
do on a day to day basis to keep the
cogs turning and to keep people happy
and everything in equilibrium which is
what we spend a lot of our time doing me
included and so this emotional invisible
labor topic is coming more and more to
the front because women are actually
speaking out and stepping up and saying
this is a big task in my life and there
are times when it's too much and there's
not that recognition and there's not
that support that we all need to carry
on doing something so it's a really
interesting topic where I think there's
a lot of different emotions going on
there's anger there's bitterness the
sadness there's feistiness and there's
also a lot of love and care and
nourishment and all of these different
swirling things going on around this
topic which is what I really want to dig
into today look
into the past looking at where we are
now and looking at where we could go
with this in the future so I feel like
in the past you know women whatever
we've got to say about how the world has
changed many obviously amazing things
that women can be financially
independent they can hold their own in
the workplace they can give so much and
women are doing that now lots of women
are working part-time or full-time same
as a counterpart male and they are doing
all of that work which has huge benefits
but it also is a challenge when women
are also still the primary emotional and
invisible laborers in life so you know
only you go into work and doing your
9:00 to 5:00 or whatever it is that
you're doing put in those hours in but
you're also coming home and doing the
majority of the emotional labor and the
invisible labor in the household within
the family amongst the wider community
so that's where challenges arise because
there are imbalances and the seen work
is not all that's going on the invisible
work that's going on underneath that is
just not getting the recognition that it
deserves so previously when women didn't
go out to work and women stayed at home
the kind of the labor and the household
the emotional labor and all the
invisible labor would have been pretty
much a full-time job for that woman
around child care as well so all of
those tasks are still often falling to
women too to carry out as well as being
at work full-time which is tough like
it's really hard we also live in a very
in my opinion well it's not just in my
opinion come on we all know that we live
in a very masculine world and it's very
driven and it in terms of like from an
energetic perspective if you've got yin
and you've got young it's very it's very
young in energy so what we are giving a
of all an appreciation and respect for
and status in today's world often is
this idea of going out and making your
mark on the world and it's very
individualistic about what you can do
ask this kind of entrepreneur or this
vision of going out and making money and
that's how people gain a lot of status
or doing well and being successful in
their career
whereas people that are giving much of
their lives to helping and caring for
other people and nurturing and doing all
of those sorts of tasks all the kind of
full fee stuff as I like to call it and
I don't like to call it but that's often
what it's seen as is not giving that
same level of respect and
acknowledgement and appreciation which i
think is a massive issue when it comes
to emotional labor and invisible labor
because these tasks are the bedrock of
society so caring for people and
nurturing children and caring for the
elderly and relatives and sick people
and keeping a household go in these are
the bedrocks of life and if women just
decided that they weren't going to do
those things anymore because they
weren't getting paid then you know
society would crumble the pressure on
external systems would be huge and it
just wouldn't work so it's really
important that we have a voice and we
can say you know we deserve to have
respect and to be appreciated for this
work that we are doing in the world
women have this phenomenal gift this
nurturing energy this feminine power and
empathy and warmth and sensitivity that
is so needed right now it's a huge it's
hugely missing in the world and I think
that's where a lot of the issues that
we're seeing now
are coming from this this lack of
appreciation for the feminine and that's
not just from men that's also from the
wider discussion around sort of certain
elements of feminism even I would
describe myself as a feminist I believe
that everyone should have the equal
opportunity to go out and do things in
the world but that doesn't mean I want
to be the same as a man and I don't see
that there's value in those nurturing
feminine traditionally more feminine
qualities and I want to celebrate those
in myself and I know a lot of feminists
don't think that that's a bad thing it's
just this certain element of feminism
that can be seen like that so it's it's
it's really interesting like how things
have changed so for example in history
and going back even into mythology and
all of the different things within the
country I'm from within England with you
know the before Christianity and druids
and we used to worship goddesses and
there was a huge respect and devotion to
the goddess energy and the feminine
energy and then that has slowly over
time dissipated and gone away and and
now it's almost seen as a weak kind of
unproductive battle you often is that as
how its presented or it has been for me
throughout my life and then we go over
to America and we can see that how much
has changed since Native American
culture you know would have very much
worshipped the feminine aspects of wife
and would have highly valued what the
females in the tribe or different
communities could bring and the balance
that that gave and how important that
was and I think
that's something where we've really come
away from that in the present day now as
we've already said with the way that the
energy flows and what is appreciated and
what's respected and caring work is only
going to become more and more important
the amount of mental health issues that
people are presenting with you know we
can't expect external systems to take
that arm it's it's the work that a lot
of women are going to be picking up and
women are going to be doing the lion's
share of that work and I don't want to
say that that's a bad thing necessarily
because this is our gift as women you
know I'm really kind of talking in
generalized terms here because obviously
there will be some men that are also
incredible at doing this work and
there'll be some women that you know
this isn't their strength but as a
general whole you know women have these
phenomenal gifts and they should be able
to share them but they in my opinion
need to be respected they need to be
honored it's not that women want a
fanfare in a red carpet or necessarily
like a monetary exchange for doing this
work but we need to be valued and seen
and respected by other women by wider
society and by the men in our lives and
there are going to be times when it will
be too much for us you know the
emotional load on top of say working a
full-time job childcare caring for
family giving emotional support to to
friends and other people
it's absolutely exhausting at times and
I think that we need to be in a place
where we can say to our partner whether
that's a male or female or another male
we need to be able to say to them you
know I am really struggling right now I
feel like I'm overwhelmed with all of
the kind of labor that I'm doing I'm
working and then I'm doing all of these
other things to support everyone I
really need you to acknowledge what I'm
doing and
to be able to talk to you about what I'm
going through and I need your support on
these certain things if you can help me
and it's about coming on it from a place
of not necessarily being kind of bitter
and angry towards people because I think
that often it's done unintentionally but
just being able to be brave and say you
know I am doing a lot of these things
and they're incredible
but I also need support from you so we
also need to be able to acknowledge and
celebrate what we're doing recognize
when we're tipping over when it's too
much and be able to go to other people
and say I really need you to see what
I'm doing and I need you to hear me and
I need you to step up and support me in
these ways that I need so it's an
interesting topic and there are lots of
people talking about it there is
somebody that's written a book on it she
wrote this article about emotional labor
that went viral so I'll post a link
below to that book that you can buy this
as a topic you're particularly
interested in and then there's also a
really good podcast with the day sugars
that Cheryl Strayed that wrote the book
Wilde and Steve almond and this woman
that wrote this book was on their
podcast and they were really talking
about how even in progressive
relationships which you know we're
striving for equality and we want men
and women to take 5050
it often still just falls to the women
to take up this work and take on this
role so it's definitely interesting to
delve into and see where this takes you
and if it's sparked something in you or
you feel like this it would be really
interesting to hear your opinions on it
I don't know if you can hear downstairs
but my cat is crying because she wants
me so there you go that's emotional
labor and not only do I kind of support
all of my relatives and work and you
know supporting people through different
challenges and
in hospital appointments I've also got a
cat that constantly wants to be cut all
the different attention as well and but
my husband is amazing and I just want to
point that out that and very blessed in
the sense that we do have kind of a
really good relationship when it comes
to emotional and visible labor and I
don't feel like I'm left in the lurch on
that one but you know I enjoy doing it
like I said before it's a gift it's a
feminine gift
it's our power but let's see the world
celebrate our power like Native American
tribes used to do and people in Britain
used to do and druids used to do when we
worship the goddess energy let's see
more of that coming back into society
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