Science of Mentorship | Shawn Blanchard | TEDxMuskegon

Summary

Este emotivo discurso explora el concepto de mentoría, iniciando con una definición personalizada del término como la influencia de ideales individuales y de la sociedad desde el nacimiento hasta la muerte. El orador comparte su propia historia de superación personal, desde un inicio difícil marcado por el abandono y la adversidad hasta encontrarse con un mentor clave en su juventud que cambió su vida. Destaca tres fases de la mentoría: inconsciente, informal y formal, y cómo estas influyen en nuestra capacidad para influir en otros. Finalmente, demuestra cómo la mentoría crea un ciclo virtuoso, donde aquellos que son mentorizados a menudo se convierten en mentores, inspirando a otros a alcanzar su máximo potencial.

Takeaways

• 😀 La mentoría no ha sido claramente definida, pero es fundamental para el desarrollo individual y colectivo.
• 📚 El 90% de las personas que son mentorizadas en su juventud terminan siendo mentores en el futuro.
• 🌟 Inspirado en Isaac Newton, se enfatiza la importancia de 'estar sobre hombros de gigantes' para alcanzar mayores logros.
• 🤔 Se define la mentoría como la influencia de ideales individuales y sociales a lo largo de toda la vida.
• 🔄 La mentoría inconsciente es la primera fase, donde las influencias vienen sin elección propia, como un menú preestablecido de experiencias y ejemplos.
• 💡 A través de historias personales se ilustra cómo los entornos difíciles pueden servir de base para lecciones valiosas de vida.
• 🔍 La transición de la mentoría inconsciente a la consciente permite elegir influencias positivas y constructivas en la vida.
• 🛠 La mentoría informal y formal son fases subsecuentes donde se eligen y aplican activamente las influencias, con la mentoría formal proporcionando niveles de apoyo estructurado.
• 📈 Ejemplos, directores y patrocinadores son roles clave en la mentoría formal, cada uno ofreciendo distintos niveles de guía y apoyo.
• 🔄 La historia de superación personal y éxito académico subraya el impacto transformador de una mentoría efectiva y el ciclo virtuoso de convertirse en mentor.

Q & A

¿Cómo define el orador el concepto de mentoría?

El orador define la mentoría como la influencia de individuos, ideales y la sociedad en una persona desde el momento que abre los ojos al mundo hasta que los cierra.

¿Qué es la mentoría inconsciente según el orador?

La mentoría inconsciente es descrita por el orador como una especie de menú preestablecido de influencias que no se eligen, sino que son dadas a uno por las circunstancias de la vida.

¿Qué ejemplo personal utiliza el orador para ilustrar la mentoría inconsciente?

El orador habla sobre su propia experiencia de nacer con drogas en su sistema, tener una madre ladrona y un padre ausente, y ser criado por sus abuelos como ejemplo de mentoría inconsciente.

¿Cómo cambió la vida del orador al conocer a su consejera escolar?

La consejera escolar, Miss Champion, creyó en el orador y le ayudó a superar sus desafíos emocionales y académicos, lo que eventualmente le llevó a graduarse de la Universidad de Michigan.

¿Qué dos tipos de mentoría menciona el orador más allá de la mentoría inconsciente?

El orador menciona la mentoría informal y la mentoría formal como dos tipos de mentoría que uno puede elegir activamente en su vida.

¿Cómo describe el orador el proceso de 'jugar a la pelota' en el contexto de la mentoría?

El orador compara el proceso de mentoría con el juego de lanzar y traer una pelota, donde el mentee (perro) trae una pregunta (pelota) al mentor (humano), y el mentor responde lanzando la pelota, simbolizando la respuesta o guía.

¿Cuál es la historia de Roland, mencionada por el orador, y cómo se relaciona con la mentoría?

Roland es un joven que enfrentó desafíos personales, incluida la pérdida de su hermano y las dificultades de su madre, pero con la ayuda y mentoría del orador, logró superar obstáculos y asistir a la Universidad de Michigan.

¿Qué lección aprendió Roland sobre la mentoría a través de su experiencia?

Roland aprendió el valor de la mentoría y decidió transmitir ese conocimiento ayudando a un amigo de Nueva York a seguir un camino similar, demostrando el ciclo de mentoría positiva.

Según el orador, ¿cuál es el impacto de ser mentorizado en la juventud?

El orador menciona que el 90% de las personas que son mentorizadas cuando son jóvenes crecen para convertirse en mentores, destacando el impacto transformador de la mentoría.

¿Cómo ilustra el orador la idea de 'estar de pie sobre los hombros de gigantes'?

El orador utiliza la cita modificada de Isaac Newton para expresar que alcanzar grandes alturas es posible cuando nos apoyamos en la sabiduría y el apoyo de aquellos que nos precedieron, y a su vez, convertirse en un 'gigante' para otros.

Outlines

00:00

🧭 Definición y Fases de la Mentoría

El primer párrafo introduce el tema de la mentoría, destacando su importancia y falta de definición clara. Se menciona que el 90% de las personas que fueron mentorizadas en su juventud terminan siendo mentores, inspirados en la idea de que avanzamos al apoyarnos en los logros de nuestros predecesores. El narrador propone una definición de mentoría como la influencia de los ideales individuales y de la sociedad desde el nacimiento hasta la muerte. Se introduce el concepto de mentoría inconsciente, donde las influencias vienen predeterminadas sin elección propia, a través de buenos y malos ejemplos.

05:02

🔄 Transformación a través de la Mentoría

El segundo párrafo relata la experiencia personal del narrador con la mentoría inconsciente, destacando su difícil infancia marcada por la delincuencia familiar y la pérdida de seres queridos. A pesar de estos desafíos, la figura de una consejera escolar, Miss Champion, se convierte en un punto de inflexión, creyendo en él y guiándolo hacia un futuro mejor. Este encuentro lo inspira a buscar activamente influencias positivas, pasando de la mentoría inconsciente a la mentoría informal y formal, donde elige conscientemente a sus mentores y aprende la importancia de ser responsable y receptivo.

10:04

🌱 Crecimiento y Repetición del Ciclo de Mentoría

El tercer párrafo continúa con la historia de mentoría del narrador, ahora como mentor de un joven llamado Roland, quien enfrenta sus propios desafíos. A través de la mentoría, Roland supera las adversidades y logra un éxito académico notable. Inspirado por su propia experiencia de mentoría, Roland decide convertirse en mentor, demostrando cómo la mentoría puede influir positivamente en las vidas de los demás y perpetuar un ciclo de crecimiento y apoyo mutuo. Este ciclo refleja el impacto transformador de la mentoría y cómo puede fomentar una cadena de influencia positiva a lo largo de las generaciones.

Keywords

💡mentoría

La mentoría se refiere a la influencia ejercida por individuos, ideales y la sociedad sobre una persona, desde el nacimiento hasta la muerte. En el contexto del video, se enfatiza que la mentoría abarca desde ejemplos inconscientes dados por la familia o entorno inmediato hasta relaciones formales de mentoría que buscan guiar y apoyar el desarrollo personal y profesional. Un ejemplo claro es la historia del consejero escolar que se convierte en una figura clave de mentoría para el narrador.

💡mentoría inconsciente

La mentoría inconsciente describe la influencia que se recibe de manera pasiva, sin elegirla, como los valores, comportamientos y ejemplos establecidos por la familia y el entorno inmediato desde una edad temprana. El narrador describe cómo, sin elegirlo, fue influenciado por las circunstancias de su vida, incluidas las acciones de su madre y la ausencia de su padre.

💡mentoría formal e informal

Estos términos distinguen entre los tipos de mentoría basados en la estructura y el propósito. La mentoría informal surge de relaciones no estructuradas que pueden incluir amigos, colegas o cualquier interacción que ofrezca aprendizaje. La mentoría formal, en cambio, involucra una relación acordada con objetivos específicos de desarrollo. El video ilustra ambos tipos a través de las experiencias de vida del narrador y cómo estos le ayudaron a moldear su futuro.

💡prefijo menú

Esta metáfora se utiliza para describir las influencias y circunstancias predeterminadas en la vida de una persona, comparándolas con un menú fijo de un restaurante donde no se eligen los platos. Se refiere a la herencia cultural, social y familiar que recibe una persona sin haberla elegido, como el entorno en el que nació el narrador.

💡gigantes

La referencia a 'estar de pie sobre los hombros de gigantes' se utiliza para expresar cómo las personas se benefician del conocimiento y las experiencias de aquellos que vinieron antes. En el video, se adapta este dicho para resaltar la importancia de aprender de las figuras de autoridad y mentores, así como la responsabilidad de convertirse uno mismo en un 'gigante' para otros.

💡influencia

La influencia se refiere al impacto que los individuos, ideales y la sociedad tienen en el desarrollo de una persona. El video subraya cómo esta influencia puede ser positiva o negativa y cómo es fundamental a lo largo de toda la vida de una persona, desde la infancia hasta la adultez.

💡ejemplos buenos y malos

Este concepto describe cómo las personas pueden aprender tanto de los ejemplos positivos como de los negativos en su vida. El narrador menciona haber tenido 'buenos malos ejemplos', lo que significa que aprendió qué no hacer a partir de las acciones negativas de aquellos a su alrededor.

💡responsabilidad

La responsabilidad en el contexto de la mentoría se refiere a la obligación de guiar, apoyar y influenciar positivamente a otros. El narrador destaca la importancia de ser un 'gigante' sobre cuyos hombros otros pueden pararse, implicando la responsabilidad de ser un buen mentor.

💡transformación personal

Este término se refiere al cambio positivo en la vida de una persona como resultado de la mentoría. El video relata la transformación personal del narrador, desde una infancia difícil hasta lograr el éxito académico y profesional, subrayando el impacto significativo de la mentoría en su vida.

💡crear conciencia

Crear conciencia se menciona en el contexto de pasar de recibir mentoría de manera pasiva a buscarla activamente y, finalmente, a convertirse en mentor. El narrador describe este proceso como una evolución de la mentoría inconsciente a una mentoría consciente, donde el individuo toma un papel activo en su desarrollo y en el de otros.

Highlights

The speaker introduces the topic of mentorship, emphasizing its undefined nature and the importance of defining and activating it.

Mention of a statistic that 90% of people who were mentored become mentors themselves, highlighting the cyclical nature of mentorship.

The speaker revises Isaac Newton's quote to emphasize the potential to reach anything when standing on the shoulders of giants.

Mentorship is defined as being influenced by individuals, ideals, and society, spanning from birth to death.

Introduction of the concept of unconscious mentorship, described as being influenced by unchosen examples from one's environment.

The speaker shares a personal story to illustrate unconscious mentorship, detailing a challenging upbringing marked by family issues and adversity.

The turning point in the speaker's life introduced by a high school counselor, illustrating the impact of positive mentorship.

The transition from unconscious to conscious mentorship, emphasizing the importance of choosing influences in one's life.

Differentiation between informal and formal mentorship, introducing the concepts of friendtors, examples, directors, and sponsors.

The analogy of playing catch to describe the mentor-mentee relationship, emphasizing initiative and reciprocity.

A story of mentorship success featuring a mentee named Roland, showcasing the transformative power of dedicated mentorship.

Roland's journey from adversity in Brooklyn to academic success, driven by the speaker's mentorship.

Roland's application to the University of Michigan, his initial denial, and subsequent acceptance showcasing resilience and the impact of mentorship.

Roland's philanthropic efforts and leadership, illustrating the extended influence of mentorship on community and personal growth.

The cyclical nature of mentorship reaffirmed by Roland's decision to mentor his friend, highlighting the generational impact of mentorship.

Conclusion tying back to the initial statistic, with a personal testament to the power of mentorship from both the speaker and Roland.

Transcripts

I'm really excited to be here because

today I'm going to talk about a topic

and the topic is mentorship you see it's

never clearly been defined and then

furthermore

once we define it we can talk about how

to activate it fact 90% of people who

are mentored when they're young grow to

become mentors it was Sir Isaac Newton

that said if you've seen further it's

because you've been standing on the

shoulders of giants now I'm a fan of

Isaac Newton but I like to edit that and

revise it a bit and say you know what

you can reach for anything if you stand

on the shoulders of giants understanding

that there it's very principled we can

understand that for one you want to make

sure that you're standing on the

shoulders of giants so that you can

reach for anything and to you want to

make sure that you are a giant so that

people can stand on your shoulders today

we're going to go through three phases

of mentorship so let's define it first

by definition mind anyway mentorship is

to be influenced by individuals ideals

and society and you see it starts from

the moment that you open your eyes into

the world all the way until you close

your eyes to this world

we're being influenced so with that said

I want to go into this first realm when

we go into the first realm this realm it

is unconscious mentorship now what I

think about unconscious mentorship

it's called unconscious because it's

like a preset table like a preset menu

you didn't choose the plates that's on

it these are the plates that are

basically given to you so we understand

that we have good examples bad examples

and if you're fortunate enough you have

really good bad examples all right and

if we understand what that means that

just means that you may not know exactly

what to do but you know exactly what not

to do

and so of course I have to make sure

that I can give you a story so we can

understand clearly how does this

unconscious mentor thing work tell your

story ladies and gentlemen when I was

born I was born with drugs in my system

you see my mother she's a professional

shoplifter and my father well he was

just absent and it just weren't around

much and I had drugs in my system and

they just decided to give me to my

grandparents thank God for grandparents

so his time goes on I remember I didn't

choose his prefix menu which is just the

plates on my table that I was given I

remember being in second grade and I was

reading in my teacher she said Sean Reid

I said okay I began to read and I said

is land is land what am I trying to say

right she put me in special ed

interesting I remember when I was 11

years old this is a prefixed menu

I was 11 years old and it was the first

time my older brother Mike taught me how

to cut crack I started young I was

excited about it and I remember at 11

years old another thing my mother she's

a professional shoplifter and my mom you

know she would have me at 11 years old

drive her all around the country so that

I can just be your decoy I didn't choose

these things this is my prefixed menu I

didn't choose it I promise

so Tom goes on I get about 12 years old

and this beautiful person who was my

grandmother who was a rock in my life

she died I had no more rules anymore

everything that was the beat was up to

me time goes on I get to about high

school and man I'll tell you I remember

being 15 years old and when I was 15 at

this point when I say I didn't have that

the guidance that I needed you know my

older brother that taught me how to cut

crack when I was 11 he was killed in the

drug transaction his twin was already

dead my father who didn't see me much

couldn't see me anymore because he was

deceased as well

my mother is here now you don't she's

kind of like a magician in more ways

than one and so it's interesting because

my grandmother's not here

so this prefix menu was kind of

interesting and they left me a gift in

the form of a younger brother so I had

to take care of him and I did the best

way I could I didn't ask for this I

promise these are just the things that

are influencing me so I remember being

15 years old because this is when it

happened this is when I met her when I

say she was the most beautiful woman I

ever seen in my life she was my high

school counselor her name was Miss

champion hautboy she was absolutely

amazing huh I remember it like it was

yesterday and she believed in me she

understood my significant emotional

events in my life I was vulnerable and

she filled void so she was able to reach

me my mom was open so she was able to

teach me

I was so receptive she was able to mold

me she told me I would go on to be her

Michigan man I didn't know people in

college like that but I went on to get

accepted and graduate from the

University of Michigan go blue go

college

so after this experience it made me just

think about the fact that you know what

I don't want to be unconscious anymore

I'm not in control of these people I

didn't look I didn't choose Miss

champion she chose me life kind of

happened that way and I held on to some

good examples but I needed a bit more so

I wanted to move into another

unconscious realm of mentorship with a

prefix menu I wanted to move into a

realm where I could choose those

influences in my life phase two in this

realm what we have we have informal

mentorship and formal mentorship

informal mentorship one of the coolest

things ever you get to choose a la carte

with on your menu so now what you can do

is number one your friends they're now

friend towards a merger between friend

and mentor because everyone that you

around they have something that's great

about them so you're going to add it to

you friend Tours number one we love this

what else can we grab oh yeah whatever

I'm reading whatever I'm watching

whatever I'm listening to the movies it

doesn't matter YouTube my favorite

websites all these things you can see a

nice list here this is all a matter of

informal mentorship but I want it more

because I need not only these things to

kind of guide me and remind me of my

ideal self but I need to also make sure

that I have people that hold me

accountable and holding me accountable

you have formal mentorship and with that

there's three different levels to this

you have examples directors sponsors

examples you can simply watch them

directors well you know they give you

directions and they believe in your

potential and sponsors they believe in

more than your potential they believe in

you and they'll make their name

synonymous to yours open up doors for

you I like sponsors but not let's move

on because okay how do I get that I like

to call it playing catch this is one

example playing catch is just like this

you see the dog you see the man

understand that the dog is the mentee

the man is the mentor that the mentee

wants so what happens okay well the dog

goes over to the mentor drops the ball

the ball is a question drops the ball

hangs around the mentors legs kind of

looks up low sheepishly the mentor picks

it up get away from your little dog and

throws the ball that's your answer

get out of here the dog now the mentee

is your job to go and get it bring it

back and when you bring it back that's

something that most mentees don't do now

the mentors I look at this Wow

matter of fact you build trust that

example because of director look

potentially try this throws it further

that dog goes and get it brings it back

I believe in you now as a matter of fact

I believe in you so much I'm going to

introduce you to more people Hey

look at this somebody look at this dog

over here look I need you to just throw

it anywhere you want to watch it's just

going to get it this is an awesome realm

so now what's cool about it because you

have this situation now you have a

sponsor so I like to make sure that you

can even have an example of this here

because I don't believe I could just

tell you something like that without a

beautiful application so I had a mentee

this kid his name is Roland Roland when

he was born his father he just was never

in his life he was incarcerated his mom

had bouts of cancer he's from Brooklyn

the same projects as Jay Z and I

remember he was going to high school and

his brother was shot and killed his mom

didn't like that situation so she said

you know what going to take you out of

New York I'm going to take you to

Virginia you'll go to school there he

went to school there and the ninth grade

he filled every single classes first

year she said you know what we're going

back to New York this is not good here

we'll go back to New York she went to

New York went to the South Bronx put him

in the school in that school I happen to

be a math teacher

there with the mentorship program so I

see rogue say I like your kid get in the

program okay sir got the program you

know when I saw him I said you know what

there's some interesting things about

this kid and from the jump I said you

know what

understand his significant emotional

events I saw his vulnerability and I

wanted to make sure I could feel void to

reach him his mind was open so I was

able to teach him he was so receptive I

was able to mold him he graduated that's

one of the top three males with respect

to GPA and he was going to college and

rank and making a brand new standard for

his family

I was excited he went off to college and

I left I left the math department I went

back home to Michigan and I'm so excited

we're keeping in touch with one another

and as he's doing his thing he went to

the school I wasn't really a fan of it I

said man you know what we talked at the

end of the semester I said hey listen I

think you can be a Michigan man there's

a wonderful program you can be in the

program for two years once you get into

that program and do it for two years you

do will you get involved in activities

you can go right on over the University

of Michigan I said you can stay here for

the summer and hey you know and then you

could just make it happen

he said okay big bro I'll call you back

except fine I hung up the phone he

called me three hours later said hey big

bro hey yep so I got my financial aid

fixed I'll be there next Tuesday and I

said wait a minute

hold on I was that I wasn't ready for

that

so fast but he was ready the thing is

you see I threw the ball he went and got

it so he came and live with me for the

summer and I'll tell you what he did his

thing he had about a 3.7 he applied to

Michigan and you guys know what happened

what happened

he got denied

I threw the ball he tried to bring it

back and he said the ball is deflated

they don't work it's not working for me

throw it again get another ball

something we said try again i'ma try

again between his denial and its

acceptance with the scholarship he

actually went out and did what he needed

to do and even came across some 70 year

old man who had stage four cancer and

decided that he was going to be the man

to raise money for him so that his

family will have a house to live in even

if the man when the man passed on so in

four days he raised one hundred and two

thousand dollars for this man applied to

the University of Michigan again like

hey guys remember me got a word from the

governor if you missed it on ABC World

News just make it short I just want to

make sure you saw his a link but

nevertheless rolling we talked out this

first semester he got all A's in the C

it was awesome and he came to me right

after he just came back from Rome this

summer and he said hey big bro you know

what I've been talking to my friend in

New York you know he said you see I

understand his significant emotional

events he's vulnerable and I want to

feel some voids his mind is open so I

want to teach him he's very receptors

for him owed him I'm going to bring my

friend from New York City over here so

he can do the same program that I just

went into and make sure that he could be

in the same place as me you see

mentorship you go from the unconscious

mentorship to conscious mentorship to

creating consciousness the beautiful

thing is i sat there and i saw rolling I

said Wow well you're doing what I'm

supposed to do that's absolutely amazing

so I bring you back to this one 90% of

people who are mentor when they are

young

grow up turn around and become mentors

himself I see it enrolling it's in me

and Roland and I both say thank you Miss

champion