I'm leaving Paris.
Summary
TLDRThe video explores the creator's journey of self-discovery as he grapples with wanting a slower, more introspective life than the busy one he created for himself in Paris. He explains this realization came recently at 26, countering assumptions that this should be a fast-paced phase. Detailing profound goodbyes he didn't fully take in, to his dog and childhood home, he concludes by reciting a poem underscoring the importance of presence - of standing and staring, not rushing through life unaware you're doing something for the last time.
Takeaways
- 😀 He is finding that getting older leads to his priorities and desires shifting over time
- 👴 He feels less rushed now and wants to be more present in whatever he is doing
- 😕 Questioning his current life path has been confusing and turbulent
- 🌄 He wants to spend more time in quiet countryside open spaces
- 🎥 His YouTube channel tells the story of him figuring out life in real time
- 🐶 He regrets not being fully present during final visits with his childhood home and dog
- ⌛ You don't know when you're experiencing something or someone for the last time
- 🚗 Life changes quickly - you have to appreciate each moment
- 🐢 Going slower allows you to get more out of life
- 📖 The poem shares the idea of making time to appreciate life's beauty
Q & A
What realizations has Nathaniel come to recently about his life and desires?
-Nathaniel has realized that his priorities and desires have shifted as he has gotten older. He now wants to spend more time in nature, be alone more, and feels less of a rush to constantly be active and busy.
Why was Nathaniel unable to see his family for over a year after moving to Paris?
-Nathaniel was unable to see his family for over a year after moving to Paris because the COVID-19 pandemic began right after he moved. This prevented him from traveling back home.
What happened with Nathaniel's family dog Peanut while he was gone?
-Peanut unfortunately passed away under unfortunate circumstances while Nathaniel was gone for over a year, which he did not realize would be the last time he saw her.
Why does Nathaniel say his mother was pleading with him before he left home?
-Nathaniel's mother could sense he was not fully present and kept asking him to really be with the family in the moment before he left, but he did not fully hear her plea at the time.
Why didn't Nathaniel realize the gravity of his last visit home?
-Nathaniel did not realize that his last visit home was the final time he would be in his childhood home, because he did not know his parents would soon sell the house and leave the country.
What has Nathaniel learned from his experiences of big life changes?
-Nathaniel has learned that you often don't realize you are doing or seeing something for the last time when going through big life changes. He wants to appreciate each moment more fully going forward.
What poem does Nathaniel share at the end and why?
-Nathaniel shares the poem 'Leisure' by William Henry Davies, which emphasizes slowing down to appreciate life, staring at nature's beauty, and taking time to be present. This aligns with his realizations.
How can therapy help with life transitions?
-Therapy can provide guidance and perspective when going through major life changes and questioning one's path. It facilitates self-understanding and growth.
What does Nathaniel say is the one consistent thing he aims for?
-Nathaniel says the one thing he always aims for despite other changes is his own character development, which he has publicly shared through his YouTube channel over time.
How can going slower help you get more out of life?
-Going slower, being more mindful and present lets you appreciate and soak in each moment more fully. Rushing through prevents you from noticing meaning, beauty and connections.
Outlines
😊 Getting older brings dynamic personal changes
The first paragraph discusses the speaker's experience with getting older and how his sense of identity and desires continue to shift over time. He moved to Paris 4 years ago seeking community and stimulation, but lately has felt the urge to change directions, questioning if he still wants the life he created. This growth and self-discovery can be turbulent yet he trusts it's leading him where he needs to go.
😢 Saying unknowing goodbyes is a poignant part of change
The second paragraph recounts two painful stories illustrating the speaker's regrets about unknowingly saying final goodbyes. First with his dog Peanut when he left home, and then later with his childhood home when he visited his parents one last time before they moved. He realizes how change is constant and you can't know when you're experiencing something for the last time.
💡 Slowing down helps you fully live life
The third and final paragraph shares a poem emphasizing the importance of living slowly, standing still and being fully present instead of rushing. The speaker resolves to follow this wisdom himself as a reminder to live as completely as possible without taking things for granted.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡getting older
💡life changes
💡listening to my heart
💡character development
💡being present
💡change
💡questioning assumptions
💡inconsistencies
💡life story
💡goodbyes
Highlights
I don't fully know who I am, I think a more accurate statement would be, I'm getting to know myself
I keep thinking I figured out what I want and how I want it and then I get a little bit older and my priorities and my desires shift
I'm feeling really drawn to spend time, way more time in the countryside in big quiet Open Spaces. I like being alone more than I ever have
What I want is not something you're supposed to do when you're my age. I'm 26 - this is the phase of life that you're supposed to be living fast
I feel like I've lived a very full life so far but I feel that The Art of Living requires us to question the assumptions of society around us
I'm a little bit in that place right now, but I have faith that everything that I've done so far has led me to this point and that things are going to unfold as they naturally should
What I've been doing with this YouTube channel over all these years is I'm I'm telling you the story of my life and it's a story about being human
The one thing I am always aiming for, and this has never changed since the very beginning is character development
When I did return over a year later our family dog peanut had passed away under unfortunate circumstances.
I didn't realize this but I was visiting for the final time the most important House of my upbringing of my childhood. That's it - it belongs to somebody else now
Change is happening, it's always happening. You can't stop it.
It's best to not rush through whatever it is that you're doing because you don't know when you're doing or seeing or interacting with someone or something for the very last time
I am taking all of this as seriously as I can. I don't want to take things for granted
You do not get more out of Life by going faster you get more out of Life by going slower
How do you live fully? Come in the form of a poem by William Henry Davies called Leisure
Transcripts
getting older is something I am finding
to be an endlessly fascinating
experience I don't fully know who I am I
think a more accurate statement would be
I'm getting to know myself I keep
thinking I figured out what I want and
how I want it and then I get a little
bit older and my priorities and my
desires shift it keeps happening what am
I talking about four years ago I moved
to Paris and it's been four really rich
years of everything that I was looking
for at that time creating a sense of
community of belonging of making friends
of stimulating conversations about art
and life I had all of it but I've had
this growing feeling that is becoming
impossible for me to ignore it's like
the universe is nudging me in a new
direction that I'm supposed to go and
let me tell you it is a scary moment
when you come to the realization that
you maybe don't want the life that you
created for yourself or that you don't
want it anymore we make the best
decisions that we can with the
information we've got the only problem
is that that information information can
quickly become outdated because we're
all learning and growing as we go
recently I made a video sharing my
desire to change the kinds of things
that I want to make to make things that
are more artistic more intimate and I'm
calling this new phase of my life
Nathaniel Drew 4.0 what I didn't fully
take into consideration was that to do
work like that that feels more
intentional more connected I have to
live my life like that as well now
here's the hard part I'm feeling really
drunk on to spend time way more time in
the countryside in big quiet Open Spaces
I like being alone more than I ever
have I don't feel such a rush to do a
million things anymore that's how I used
to think that you had to do things to
squeeze the juice out of life and now I
feel like a much better way to do that
is to be as present as I possibly can be
in whatever I'm doing and that actually
means doing less things at once less
things overall cuz you're not cramming
so much into the 24 hours of a day the
challenge here for me is that what I
want is not something you're supposed to
do when you're my age I'm 26 like this
is the phase of life that you're
supposed to be living fast doing as much
as you possibly can look I feel like
I've lived a very full life so far but I
feel that The Art of Living requires us
to question the assumptions of society
around us so obviously this has been a
bit of a confusing and I'll admit a
little a bit of a turbulent period for
me because I'm just I'm doing a lot of
questioning but I've made it as far as I
have by listening to my heart and my
heart is telling me to explore this New
Path this new Avenue and I don't have it
all figured out but I'm working on it
and I know a lot of people panic at this
point where they question everything
right and they want to make a big change
but they don't know exactly what they
want to replace what they currently have
I'm a little bit in that place right now
but I have faith that everything that
I've done so far has led me to this
point and that things are going to
unfold as they naturally should
sometimes it does feel a little bit like
the plot has been written already or
like at least the big plot points you
know what I mean whether it's like how
my personality or my genetics are
playing out how I was raised what I'm
realizing recently is that what I've
been doing with this YouTube channel
over all these years is I'm I'm telling
you the story of my life and it's a
story about being human and what comes
with that is a whole lot of
inconsistency let me tell you
inconsistencies in terms of what I want
to make what I want to talk about what
format that takes what upload schedule
where I want to live what I look like
but the one thing I am always aiming for
and this has never changed since the
very beginning is character development
if you've been around for a while then
you know you've been watching a guy
figure out his life in real time and so
in that spirit and as a form of
encouragement for those of you out there
that are maybe feeling similarly or
trying to navigate your own path I want
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comes the story and unfortunately it's a
little bit of a a scary one as many of
you know I moved to Europe just before
the pandemic began around well almost
exactly 4 years ago this resulted in me
being unable to see my family for over a
year and of course when I was leaving I
had no idea that this was going to
happen I don't think any of us did but I
say this because when I did return over
a year later our family dog peanut had
passed away under unfortunate
circumstances she was a sweet loving dog
so good around people totally knew how
to charm you in some ways I'm still
affected by the fact that I didn't know
I was never going to see her again when
I was leaving for the airport all of my
thinking all my thoughts were around
this new life I was going to have in
Europe it gets worse before I left to go
to the airport on this big move into
this new chapter of my new life I spent
a few months living with my parents I
needed that time to get my French Visa
which was a bit more of a process than I
realized and at that time I was so
incredibly focused on maintaining my
weekly uploads I was so busy I was
working so hard and my mom's a very
intuitive person so she picks up on
energy she can tell what's going on and
she kept telling me I don't feel like
you're present here with us right now
and it was almost like she was pleading
with me please be with us right now
you're here right now let's let's take
advantage of this time and I don't think
I really heard her the message wasn't
entering my brain I was so focused on
what I was doing that it didn't click
what she was saying until well
afterwards until I was stuck thousands
and thousands of miles away but here's
the thing I made the mistake again
because when I did return to visit my
parents over a year after having left
and started my life in Europe what I
didn't realize during that visit was
that it was going to be my last visit in
that house I had no idea that my parents
were going to sell that house and leave
the United States as well can I just say
it is so good to see you it is so good
to see you thanks same oh my God I'm
going to cry I didn't realize this but I
was visiting for the final time the most
important House of my upbringing of my
childhood that's it it belongs to
somebody else now so I'm probably never
going back there and when I was there I
had no idea that yet again I was saying
goodbye to something my point here is
very simple change is happening it's
always happening you can't stop it I'm
sorry if you've already heard this
before you probably have doesn't change
the fact that it's a super important
reminder which is that it's best to not
rush through whatever it is that you're
doing because you don't know when you're
doing or seeing or interacting with
someone or something for the very last
time I am taking all of this as
seriously as I can I don't want to take
things for granted every time I enter a
new chapter of my life I'm realizing now
I'm saying goodbye to a whole bunch of
things and I don't even know what those
things are until afterwards you do not
get more out of Life by going faster you
get more out of Life by going slower and
of course I mean this as a reminder to
myself this is these are all reminders
to myself to live as fully as I can and
how do you do that you ask I don't want
to leave you empty-handed here with this
warning I think the best answer that I
can provide you comes in the form of a
poem by William Henry Davies called
Leisure I hope you
enjoy what is this life if full of
care we have no time to stand and
stare no time to
stand beneath the
boughs and stare as long as sheep or
cows no time to see when Woods we
pass where squirrels hide their nuts and
grass no time to see in broad
daylight streams Full of
Stars like skies at
night no time to turn at Beauty's glance
and watch her feet feet how they can
dance no time to wait till her mouth can
enrich that smile her eyes
began a poor life this is if full of
care we have no time to
stand and
stare
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