Why You Shouldn't Settle For Average Women As A Man

Summary

In diesem Gespräch geht es um die Herausforderungen nach einer Trennung und die Suche nach einer 'höheren Qualität' von Partnerinnen. Der Gesprächsteilnehmer aus Nashville, 28 Jahre alt, reflektiert über seine bisherigen Beziehungen und erkennt, dass er sich verbessern muss, sowohl äußerlich als auch im Umgang mit Frauen. Er diskutiert auch die Bedeutung von Selbstbeherrschung und emotionaler Intelligenz, um die Anziehungskraft gegenüber 'A-Spielerinnen' zu erhöhen und langfristig erfolgreiche Beziehungen zu führen.

Takeaways

• 💔 Der Protagonist hat vor etwa drei bis vier Monaten eine schwere Trennung erlebt und möchte nun nach besseren Beziehungen suchen.
• 🚀 Er möchte die Qualität der Frauen, mit denen er sich auseinandersetzt, erhöhen und hat erkannt, dass er sich mehr einbringen muss, um das zu erreichen.
• 📍 Er lebt in Nashville, ist 28 Jahre alt und hat Bedenken, dass er zuwenig auf sein Äußeres und seinen Stil achtet.
• 🤔 Er reflektiert über die Art und Weise, wie Frauen ihn ansprechen und wie er seine Beziehungen zu ihnen einstellt.
• 🔄 Er hat erkannt, dass die frühen Zeichen einer Beziehung, wie die leichte Verfügbarkeit, oft auf eine niedrigere Qualität hindeuten können.
• 👔 Er ist sich bewusst, dass sein äußeres Erscheinungsbild und sein Stil verbessert werden könnten, um mehr Erfolg zu haben.
• 🤳 Er hat einen moderaten Einfluss im Bereich Immobilien und eine solide Präsenz in den sozialen Medien.
• 🔍 Er hat Schwierigkeiten, die Qualität der Frauen zu beurteilen, die er trifft, und erkennt, dass er möglicherweise seine inneren Eigenschaften verbessern muss.
• 🛑 Er hat ein Problem, Beziehungen zu behalten, insbesondere mit Frauen, die er als attraktiver ansieht.
• 🚶‍♂️ Er hat eine Tendenz, selbstzentriert zu sein und weniger Zeit auf die Interaktion mit Frauen zu verwenden.
• 🚫 Er hat eine Neigung, zu kontrollieren und zu dominieren, was in Beziehungen zu Problemen führen kann.

Q & A

Was ist das Hauptproblem des Gesprächspartners?

Das Hauptproblem ist, dass er nach einer harten Trennung festgestellt hat, dass er die Qualität der Frauen, mit denen er sich auseinandersetzt, verbessern muss, und er möchte sich selbst verbessern, um eine bessere Beziehung zu haben.

Woher stammt der Gesprächsteilnehmer?

Der Gesprächsteilnehmer kommt aus Nashville.

Wie alt ist der Gesprächsteilnehmer?

Der Gesprächsteilnehmer ist 28 Jahre alt.

Wo trifft sich der Gesprächsteilnehmer normalerweise auf Frauen?

Er trifft sich auf Frauen in verschiedenen Einrichtungen wie dem Supermarkt, im Fitnessstudio und in der Innenstadt Nashville.

Was sind die frühen Anzeichen für den Gesprächsteilnehmer, dass die Frauen, die er kennt, nicht die bestmögliche Wahl sind?

Eines der frühen Anzeichen ist, wie einfach diese Frauen zu bekommen sind, was normalerweise kein gutes Zeichen ist.

Was ist der Meinung des Gesprächsteilnehmers über das Aussehen und die Kleidung?

Er glaubt, dass er einige Verbesserungen in Bezug auf sein Äußeres und seine Kleidung vornehmen könnte, um einen besseren Eindruck zu hinterlassen.

Wie oft kommt es vor, dass der Gesprächsteilnehmer Frauen mit einer Bewertung von acht oder mehr trifft?

Er schätzt, dass von fünf Frauen, die er auf ein Date einlädt, möglicherweise eine oder zwei eine Bewertung von acht oder mehr haben, während die anderen darunter liegen.

Was ist der Meinung des Gesprächsteilnehmers über seine eigene sexuelle Marktbewertung?

Er glaubt, dass er die Fähigkeit hat, mindestens neun zu sein, was seine sexuelle Marktbewertung betrifft.

Was ist das Hauptproblem des Gesprächsteilnehmers in Bezug auf die Interaktion mit Frauen?

Das Hauptproblem ist, dass er sich nicht selbst verbessert und seine Grenzen nicht setzt, was zu einer mangelnden Respekt bei Frauen führt, die er als hochwertig erachtet.

Was ist die Meinung des Gesprächsteilnehmers über seine Fähigkeit, Frauen zu treffen?

Er glaubt, dass er in der Lage ist, Frauen zu treffen, aber er hat Schwierigkeiten, sie langfristig zu behalten und ihre Respekt zu erhalten.

Was hat der Gesprächsteilnehmer aus früheren Beziehungen gelernt?

Er hat gelernt, dass er möglicherweise zu kontrollierend ist und dass er seine Charakterfehler beheben muss, um eine erfolgreiche Beziehung zu haben.

Wie plant der Gesprächsteilnehmer, seine Beziehungen zu verbessern?

Er plant, sich sowohl extern als auch intern zu verbessern, indem er seine Erscheinung und Modeverbesserungen plant und gleichzeitig seine Charakterfehler behebt.

Was ist die Meinung des Gesprächsteilnehmers über seine Interaktion mit einer bestimmten Frau?

Er glaubt, dass er zu schnell in die Beziehung eingestiegen ist und dass er seine Grenzen nicht setzt, was zu einer Verlust der Respekt bei der Frau führt.

Was ist das Hauptfazit des Gesprächsteilnehmers aus den Diskussionen?

Das Hauptfazit ist, dass er aufhören muss, zu kontrollieren und Frauen in sein Rahmen zu zwingen, sondern sie muss lediglich führen, bevor sie sich vollständig ihm unterwerfen kann.

Outlines

00:00

😔 Probleme nach einer Trennung

Der Sprecher reflektiert über seine Erfahrungen nach einer harten Trennung vor drei bis vier Monaten. Er erkennt, dass er eine schlechte Gewohnheit entwickelt hat, die Frauen zu akzeptieren, die ihn ansprechen, ohne dabei wählerisch zu sein. Dies hat zu schlechten Beziehungen geführt. Er möchte sich verbessern, indem er sich selbst stärker bewirbt und nach Frauen sucht, die eine höhere Qualität haben. Er lebt in Nashville, ist 28 Jahre alt und trifft sich mit Frauen in verschiedenen Einkaufs- und Freizeitumgebungen, wobei einige Begegnungen in der Innenstadt stattfinden, die er als weniger geeignete Partnerinnenquellen ansieht.

05:01

🤔 Selbstreflexion und ästhetische Verbesserungen

Der Sprecher und sein Gesprächspartner diskutieren, wie einfache Erreichbarkeit von Frauen oft ein negatives Zeichen ist und dass jedermann anscheinend 'einfach' ist, wenn er die richtige Person findet. Der Sprecher ist sich nicht sicher, ob er seine äußere Erscheinung optimieren sollte, da er natürlich gute Aussehensmerkmale hat, die ihm erlauben, sich in weniger ansprechender Kleidung gut zu stellen. Er und sein Gesprächspartner kommen zu dem Schluss, dass er sowohl seine äußere Erscheinung als auch seinen sozialen Status verbessern könnte, um die Chancen auf eine Beziehung mit einer 'höheren Qualität' zu erhöhen.

10:02

😠 Interne Faktoren und Beziehungsprobleme

Der Sprecher erkennt, dass er möglicherweise einige interne Faktoren bearbeiten muss, die seine Beziehungen beeinträchtigen. Er hat das Gefühl, zu dominant zu sein und hat von Frauen, mit denen er Beziehungen hatte, ähnliche Feedback erhalten. Er reflektiert über seine Kindheit und die möglichen Auswirkungen seines kontrollierenden Vaters auf sein Verhalten. Er und sein Gesprächspartner diskutieren, wie man trotz der Notwendigkeit, Grenzen zu setzen, nicht als kontrollierend oder toxisch wahrgenommen werden sollte und wie man seine sexuelle Marktwert steigern kann, um mehr 'Wiggle Room' für Selbstbehauptung zu haben.

15:03

🤯 Missverständnisse in der Beziehungsführung

Der Sprecher und sein Gesprächspartner besprechen, wie man Frauen, die man attrahiert, nicht zwingen sollte, in einen eigenen Rahmen zu passen. Sie erläutern, dass Frauen nicht gemocht werden, wenn sie das Gefühl haben, dass sie in einen Rahmen gedrängt werden, und dass dies zu Missverständnissen und Rückzugstendenzen führen kann. Der Sprecher erkennt, dass er möglicherweise versucht, Beziehungen zu erzwingen, anstatt sie natürlich zu gestalten. Er und sein Gesprächspartner kommen zu dem Schluss, dass es wichtig ist, Frauen führen zu lassen, bevor man von ihnen erwartet, in einen bestimmten Rahmen zu passen.

Keywords

💡Verliebtheit

Verliebtheit bezieht sich auf die emotionale Befindlichkeit, die mit der Anfänglichkeit einer romantischen Beziehung einhergeht. Im Video spiegelt sich dies wider, als der Sprecher über seine kürzliche Trennung spricht und seine Notwendigkeit, sich auf eine neue Beziehungsebene zu konzentrieren.

💡Beziehungstier

Das Konzept des 'Beziehungstiers' wird verwendet, um die Qualität oder den Status der Partner, die jemand datet, zu beschreiben. Im Video möchte der Sprecher 'den Tier seiner Beziehungen upgraden', was bedeutet, dass er nach einer Reihe von schlechten Beziehungen bessere Partner auswählen möchte.

💡Selbstmitleid

Selbstmitleid kann die Neigung sein, sich selbst zu verschönern oder zu entschuldigen, was im Video thematisiert wird, als der Sprecher seine früheren Beziehungsentscheidungen kritisiert und erkennt, dass er 'fauler' Ansatz hatte, indem er die Frauen annahm, die sich ihm nahten.

💡Aussehen

Aussehen spielt im Video eine wichtige Rolle, da der Sprecher überlegt, wie er sein äußeres Erscheinungsbild verbessern kann, um 'höhere Qualität' von Frauen anzuziehen. Er reflektiert über seine Mode und sein physisches Erscheinungsbild im Kontext der 'Sexual Market Value'.

💡Status

Status wird als ein Faktor diskutiert, der Einfluss auf die Art von Partnern hat, die jemand anspricht. Im Video erwähnt der Sprecher seinen Status in der Immobilienszene und auf sozialen Medien, was darauf hindeutet, dass er versucht, seinen Einfluss und seinen Status zu maximieren, um bessere Beziehungspartner zu ziehen.

💡Charakterfehler

Charakterfehler beziehen sich auf die inneren Eigenschaften oder Mängel einer Person, die ihre Beziehungen beeinträchtigen können. Im Video spiegelt sich dies wider, als der Sprecher über seine Tendenz zur Kontrolle und sein mögliches Problem mit der Selbstbehauptung in Beziehungen spricht.

💡Selbstbehauptung

Selbstbehauptung bedeutet, dass eine Person ihre Bedürfnisse, Grenzen und Überzeugungen klar und respektvoll artikuliert. Im Video wird dies thematisiert, als der Sprecher seine Erfahrungen mit Frauen teilt, die ihn als 'überkontrollierend' wahrnehmen, weil er seine Meinungen und Gefühle offensiv zum Ausdruck bringt.

💡Sexuelle Marktwert

Der 'sexuelle Marktwert' ist ein Konzept, das die Attraktivität und desirability einer Person im dating Markt misst. Im Video wird dies diskutiert, als der Sprecher und der辅导员 sich die Bedeutung von Selbstvermarktung und -optimierung anschauen, um die Chancen auf eine erfolgreiche Beziehung zu erhöhen.

💡Führungsstärke

Führungsstärke bezieht sich auf die Fähigkeit, anderen zuvorzugehen und Entscheidungen zu treffen. Im Video wird dies thematisiert, als der辅导员 der Sprecher, dass Frauen Männer respektieren, die sie für dominanter halten, und dass der Sprecher möglicherweise in seinen Beziehungen nicht genug führt.

💡Selbstkontrolle

Selbstkontrolle ist die Fähigkeit, einen eigenen Verhaltens- und Reaktionsweisen zu steuern. Im Video erwähnt der Sprecher, dass er Selbstkontrolle ausübt, indem er nicht in die Anziehungskraft einer Frau kapituliert, die er mag, was als ein Zeichen von Stärke interpretiert werden kann.

Highlights

The individual experienced a breakup and is seeking advice on improving dating habits.

The person realized the need to 'upgrade' the quality of women they date after a series of bad relationships.

Lack of initiative in seeking relationships and settling for what comes naturally is identified as a problem.

The individual lives in Nashville and is 28 years old.

Meeting women in organic settings such as grocery stores and gyms is common, but not always fruitful.

The person acknowledges the need to improve their appearance and fashion sense.

A discussion on the misconception that 'every girl is easy' if she finds you attractive.

The individual's social media presence is tied to their real estate career, with over 8,000 followers.

Internal character flaws are suspected to be the cause of failed relationships with 'A-list' women.

The person has a history of being overly assertive and possibly controlling in relationships.

Childhood experiences with a controlling father may have influenced current behavior in relationships.

The importance of not being controlling while still maintaining boundaries in relationships is discussed.

The person is advised to work on both external appearance and internal character traits.

A strategy of delaying physical intimacy to seek a deeper connection is critiqued as counterproductive.

The individual's approach to relationships is seen as forcing interactions rather than allowing natural progression.

The conversation concludes with the person understanding the need to lead naturally rather than forcing outcomes.

Transcripts

what's good man what's happening Brother

what you got for me G all right man so I

went through a pretty rough

breakup about three four months ago now

and I think I just kind of came to the

determination after talking to you know

friends and family was man I gotta

upgrade the tier of women that I'm

dating you know I kind of got in this

bad habit of

allowing the women that approach me

which AR always you know probably in my

league I would say uh just to put it in

the best way uh I've gotten a little

lazy with that approach just kind of

taking what comes to me and and it's

kind of led to a couple bad

relationships along the way man it's

just I think the problem is I need to

start kind of putting myself out there a

little more and um trying to meet women

I think that are of higher quality

better tier okay so where are you living

Nashville all how old are you 28 so

these girls that are approaching you

that you're settling for where are they

approaching you at mostly organic

settings so I mean I mean it could be

the one was in the grocery store one was

while I was at the

gym uh a couple down Broadway you're

gonna have that on the weekends so it's

it's been a mix of places but uh a good

I'm not gonna lie there's been a good

portion of them that are down town which

is not the best pool to

be yeah right so you're relying on girls

approaching you downtown and then what

what ends up happening that you realize

that These Girls Aren't good

quality

H there's a lot of early signs I mean

one how easy they are to get off the bat

which is usually not a good sign for me

I obviously you know things worth having

are usually a little bit more of a fight

or there's usually some kind of uh dance

between the two of you right some kind

of mystery she creates a lot of these

girls have just been too easy um they

just kind of give it over and let me let

me let me stop you right there I think

this is a mistake that a lot of guys

make yeah every girl is

easy it's just the level of where she

thinks you are yeah don't get that

confused guys some of you y' you will

sit up here and be dealing with a girl

that is purposely making your life

harder because she doesn't think your

sexual market value is that high or

she's playing a game and you you now

confusing that as her being high quality

no no no no every girl is easy if she

sees you as a nine at 10 so that

shouldn't be your only metric yeah for

judging if a girl is high quality keep

going yeah well and I'm sure there's

probably some aspects of me that I could

improve on the outside aesthetically

that would put me on the higher end of

what I could be looking like right I

don't yeah I don't necessarily walk

around I don't have a high sense of

fashion all right I kind of just I put

on whatever I put on and I kind of get

away with that being that I naturally

have some better looking features that

you know so I get away with wearing

lesser than desirable clothes and stuff

like that but

um there's probably some some

improvements I could make there um okay

so okay let me ask you how often are you

getting with girls who you consider as

eights and

above gotta think about that hang on I

got I wantan I want to come with with an

accurate answer so that I don't want to

just [ __ ] you so the let's just say

for

every for every five girls I would take

on a

date it might be one or two the rest are

kind of just below that they're solid

six maybe a seven

um hey you wna get it you want to get it

to more what like five out of

five for me I I think I've got what it

takes to be nines at

least okay so you you got you got what

it takes to get

nines yeah okay in

my okay so in in order for you to get

that high quality girl she has to see

you as being a nine of 10 or even more

so if if you're just kind of like oh I'm

gonna get whatever I can get mentality

I'm not GNA maximize who I am as a man

maximize my looks maximize my fashion

maximize my status you're not getting

that nine yeah because the guys that the

you as much as you want her the guys who

are nines and tens want her as

well do you have any

status uh in the real estate scene here

I do okay but social

media social media uh I've got a pretty

decent I mean a little over 8,000 um

okay so and it mainly all through real

estate um but nothing nothing phenomenal

um

not there's been a couple of them they

were a players there's been a couple

along the way

um but I think that some of the you know

they they they they fell for what they

seen and then they kind of met I think

there was some flaws on the inside and

I'm the guy that that you uh that you

kind of that you talked about the other

day about that had the issues with you

know questions about what kind of work

we can do on the inside so I think there

was some character flaws that they're

encountering you know because every now

and then I get with these a players here

there's only been a couple of them here

that I've you know been on first dat

with and talked with for a second but

it's not the outside that they had a

problem with it was there I think there

was a couple character flaws that what

what do you mean by that what do you

what do you think what do you think it

was uh so for one of them I think there

it was the main thing was there was she

was getting a large a sense that I was

being uh that I would be overly

controlling okay why is that what were

you doing that that gave that away I

don't know if it was me being overly

assertive or if

if it was when I had a problem with

things I was overly vocal about that or

overly opinionated but I I I tend to

have a strong opinion about the way that

I feel about things and when she does

something wrong I mean I have no problem

letting her know I have a problem with

that I don't know maybe it was maybe I

still really assertive for her but

there's been a couple where it's

repeated that I've got similar feedback

so maybe I tra it Trace back to my

childhood in some way you know because I

had I had a controlling father and maybe

that somehow kind of trickled its way

down to me but he was controlling with

women so you know I don't want to be

that way um I want to be

different especially especially with

hotter girls right because most men are

trying to do everything they can to get

her yeah right so you never want to be

controlling or you never want to be

toxic but you still want to have some

balls yeah you still want to have you

still want to establish you know that

you have boundaries right but let what

I'm talking about if your sexual market

value was maxed

out women would give you a lot more

wiggle room to be more assertive yeah

and and and I get on the external like

outside there's a few things uh I'd hit

the gym but like if we if me and you

went shirtless right now I'm sure you

got me right you're probably your your

your physique is phenomenal you're lean

I'm I'm probably I've let my gut go a

little bit it's not I'm not rocking a

beer gun or anything but it's like you

know could I step up my physique a

little bit more yes uh could I could I

revamp my wardrobe absolutely you know

there's some tweaks that I could make I

think that would uh probably afford me

like you said a little bit more

privilege yeah but

uh yeah I I guess I guess I don't know

if I'm prioritizing that over the main

concern is like do is there something on

the inside that I need to address

because like or do I just focusing

primarily on those external factors you

can do both you can do both I don't know

why you guys think that is always either

or why can't you work on both why can't

you work on your wardrobe maximize your

looks be more

fashionable and work on having more

self-control yeah and work on not losing

your mind whenever go to something wrong

having some emotional intelligence why

can't you do both

yeah why can't you be more

self-aware and and and when the

conversation is happening or an

interaction is going

you are conscious about what you're

doing and saying and how you're handling

it by still establishing your boundaries

but not coming across as like a crazy

person right I mean yeah personality

wise con like the conversation I can

have the I do fantastic with the intro

like meeting women there's no problem I

have in getting them to like me off the

bat I think it's once once I they get I

get used to them and then they start to

see the full spectrum of some of my

flaws and my personality I think those

are the things that um and does that

happen usually more with the girls you

think are hotter or every girl mainly

with the girls that I think that are

hotter I mean the ones that I would

consider a players the what the ones

that I would commit to on in a long-term

relation right so that's the problem the

women that you have a higher attraction

level for you t you tend to kind of want

to force it to work out maybe I am and

it's

yeah I mean with the girls who you don't

really give a [ __ ] about you don't you

you don't really give a [ __ ] yeah so

they they might want to stay longer but

the girls that you think are hot you

like act right because I want you to act

right that's where you get the

disconnect from the girl like oh this

[ __ ] is crazy yeah instead of

you having that nonchalant Tak it a

leave it Vibe regardless of how

attractive you find the girl so maybe

what's really going on is you don't know

how to keep women that you're really

attracted to and get them to respect you

at the same level that a girl who you

don't find that attractive I think

you're kind of hitting right on the on

the head there it's

because like I said I don't actively get

out I don't put myself out there very of

I've always been more let me just put it

this I'm more selfish right I've always

been more self-focused I put I've always

put more time into myself and my career

than in women and uh

while I'm young I want to take advantage

of that opportunity to do that for

myself but it's like uh what time women

have always been kind of something that

fit into my schedule let me just put it

that way um right and you

don't you don't have to make them a

priority yeah I think when you guys

think when you guys hear me say hey work

on women you you think I'm saying hey

bro go spend five hours a day talking to

girls that's not what I mean I'm saying

have enough practice with them so these

kind of things don't happen I'm sure

Brandon you would like to have maybe one

or two girls who you think are nines in

your life that you can keep without

having to go through this vicious cycle

again of not getting the kind of girls

you want maybe them running away like it

just takes a little bit of work yeah I

I'm G bring I'm gonna bring one one to

your attention like I got one that I'm

hanging on to that is one of those a

players where it's like we got past the

initial dates but she started to kind of

see some of that like my personality as

well and then started to get you know

question so I've distanced her a little

bit and she wants another date but I'm

kind of holding off to see if I need to

do some personal work before I have you

have you slept with her yet oh this is

crazy so

um we've had she's been in my bed

multiple

times and I just decided to exercise

like the

self-control uh but she been in my bed

multiple times in her thong thinking

that I was going to make a move and I

didn't that's what's caught her off

guard is because most men that get her

in bed would have and I've not so that's

what's kept her kind of on the hook okay

okay okay slow down slow down why aren

if she's been in your bested every times

why haven't you [ __ ] her you just

don't want to see because I when I met

her I kind of seen her as like a

potential long-term fit and I was

wanting to take it a little more serious

I

um I decided to slow it down a little

bit oh my Lord God this is a card no sin

Cardinal mistake do not make this

mistake guys I had I literally had a

call I had I had a call today with a

student of mine who was explaining to me

the exact same thing that is a horrible

strategy here's why a girl being that

hot right you know what she's you know

what she's attracted to dominance she's

attracted to men that are not afraid of

leading what she listen when a when

a no matter if you want something

longterm or not women these days are

[ __ ] and if she feels like you're not

confident enough to at least her

emotionally and physically she won't

have any respect for you so if you

haven't already [ __ ] her and she's

already behaving to the point where you

having a pull back she's already started

to lose respect for

you so you're making a you think that's

a connection there bro you gota bro

women love they love to get [ __ ] you

got

F it's I don't you know I don't I

wouldn't say that I've necessarily just

been afraid to make a move I'm I'm I'm

very

your plan is safe your plane is safe

your plane is safe Brandon because you

want it to work out and that's that's

operating out of scarcity this girl is

really bad she's really hot let me take

it slower and hopefully she stays

longer look I'm not

gonna if I took her on she's waiting on

me to take her on a date again if I took

on a date if I wanted to bring her back

here I I would the last time I asked her

to hang out she wanted me to come to her

pool

right and do a night swing so it's like

I know what she's expecting next it's

not that it's not that the opportunities

necessarily lost or off the table it's

just that I'm kind of like saying okay

fine whatever if maybe I go have sex

with her but like at the same time I

still got to make sure that um whatever

is going on on the inside the character

right is fixed that that way once we get

past you know we get past sex and all

that and we try to do something that's

more committed long term it's like it

you know is but you got to slow it down

bro you gotta get to some [ __ ] first

before you can see here's the thing

here's the thing fit I'm here's the

difference between me and probably a lot

of the other guys you talk to is like

I've got that out of my system man I the

amount in my college days the amount of

I've had all the sex that I need I don't

I don't necessarily need I've tried the

options I've tried you know I've tried

everything I was curious about right

I've gotten to that point where it's not

necessarily in my system to go go find

somebody else to [ __ ] again it's saying

it is I'm saying I'm saying women their

biological nature is to respect men that

they think are better than them right

when you're not [ __ ] her it's hard

for her to she doesn't so why do you

okay let me ask you this I'm end with

this why why has she been pulling back

for you to pull back what's been going

on there's been a couple like just most

of it's been in conversations we've had

where we've had

disagreements and there's arents there's

been some arguments that have come from

that but it's it's it's stemming around

the same subject like ways that I am

that are different from her uh but kind

of pointing to similar issues I think

their character flaws that other women

have already pointed out which was why I

was like you know maybe I need to get

that addressed I don't know so it seems

like you're trying to force these

interactions to work out yeah and with

women no matter what your your stances

and perspective I are you kind of have

to let things play out and she will over

time fall into your frame it's where I

think what's going wrong is where these

girls are feeling like you're

controlling is they feel like you're

trying to force them into your frame and

women hate that [ __ ] you're trying to

like make her I think that that made

that just clicked when you said that I'm

trying to force them into my frame right

that's why that's why she feels like

hold the [ __ ] up man we ain't even

[ __ ] here this [ __ ] sharing

me sharing all bro you no you got me

there because that was one of our dates

I

uh I did a couple moves that were more

kind of like in the Romantic category

before we had even had sex and that and

she kind of pointed them out like bro

like we haven't even so yeah yeah that's

what I'm saying bro she's waiting for

you to lead her fully before she can

fully submit to you you're trying to

make her submit to you and then lead

her no women have to be led to be to to

then

yeah yeah all right okay that makes

sense all right you got it bro you got

you can figure this out you got it take

my right all right