4 Challenging Things God Will Use to Align You with The One

Summary

This video script discusses how God uses life's challenges to guide us towards the right partner. It outlines four signs indicating divine alignment: realizing you must let go of someone you thought was 'the one', sacrificing a desire for another relationship goal, facing fears that block healthy relationships, and accepting that no one can fulfill you like Jesus can. The speaker encourages viewers to trust in God's plan, even when it diverges from their own, and to embrace the journey towards finding a partner aligned with God's will.

Takeaways

• 😇 God uses life's challenges to help us align with His will, including finding the right partner.
• 💔 Letting go of someone you thought was 'the one' can be a sign that God is preparing you for the right person.
• 🙏 Remembering that God's ways are superior to ours can provide comfort during periods of heartbreak or confusion about relationships.
• 🔄 Sacrificing one relationship desire for another can indicate that you are aligning with the person God has for you.
• 🤔 It's common to face the realization that a person you're attracted to may not fulfill all your desires or callings, requiring a choice.
• 💑 Accepting that a potential partner may not share all your passions, like missions, can be part of God's plan for your relationship.
• 🚫 Letting go of desires that conflict with having a healthy relationship is a sign of spiritual growth and preparation for the right partner.
• 😨 Facing and overcoming fears that have prevented you from having a healthy relationship is a positive step towards alignment with God's will.
• 🛑 Dealing with unresolved issues or traumas from the past is crucial for entering into a healthy relationship as God intends.
• 🤗 Accepting that no one can fulfill all your needs and that Jesus is our ultimate sustainer is a sign of maturity in preparation for a relationship.
• 👍 The speaker encourages viewers to support the ministry by liking and sharing videos to spread the message to others who may benefit.

Q & A

What is the main purpose of the video script?

The main purpose of the video script is to discuss how God uses challenging experiences to help individuals align their hearts with the right person He has for them to marry.

Why might realizing you have to let go of someone you thought was 'the one' be a positive sign?

Realizing you have to let go of someone you thought was 'the one' can be a positive sign because it indicates that God is aligning you with the real one, and it's a common experience for Christians during their season of singleness.

What does the script suggest about having to sacrifice one relationship desire for another?

The script suggests that having to sacrifice one relationship desire for another is a good sign that God is aligning you to meet the right person, as it implies that desires may conflict and one must be let go to experience the other.

Can someone experience all of their desires in a relationship according to the script?

According to the script, it's rare for someone to experience all of their desires in a relationship, as often one must be sacrificed for another, reflecting the reality of life and the need for compromise.

What is an example of a conflict between relationship desires mentioned in the script?

An example given in the script is wanting to marry someone who shares the same passion for missions, but meeting someone who loves Jesus and has a strong passion for ministry, yet does not feel called to missions.

What does the script suggest about facing fears that block healthy relationships?

The script suggests that facing and overcoming fears that have directly blocked one from getting into a healthy relationship is a good sign that God is aligning you with the right person.

Why is it important to deal with past traumas or issues before entering a relationship according to the script?

Dealing with past traumas or issues is important because they can derail a relationship if not addressed, and as an adult, one should choose to deal with these things to function in a healthy relationship.

What does the script imply about the role of unrealistic expectations in relationships?

The script implies that having unrealistic expectations can hinder one's ability to be aligned with the right person, and accepting that a partner cannot fulfill all needs is a step towards being prepared for the right relationship.

What is the script's stance on the idea that a partner should fulfill all of one's needs?

The script's stance is that a partner should not be expected to fulfill all of one's needs, as Jesus alone is the sustainer and savior, and it's important to have realistic expectations in a relationship.

Who is the speaker in the video script and what is his role?

The speaker in the video script is Mark from applygodsword.com, and his role is to provide spiritual guidance and insights based on the Christian perspective on relationships and finding the right person to marry.

Outlines

00:00

🙏 Embracing God's Will in Love and Relationships

This paragraph discusses the belief that God uses life's challenges to guide us towards fulfilling His will, particularly in finding the right partner. It suggests that realizing the need to let go of someone thought to be 'the one' is a sign of God's alignment with the true partner. The speaker encourages viewers not to be disheartened by this realization, as it is a common experience among Christians. The paragraph emphasizes that God's plans are superior to our own, and even if we end up with someone different from our initial expectations, it is for our greater good. It also touches on the idea of sacrifice in relationships, where one must sometimes give up a desire to achieve another.

05:01

🔄 Navigating Desires and Sacrifices in the Pursuit of Love

The second paragraph delves into the concept of sacrificing one desire for another in the journey towards finding the right partner. It uses the example of someone who desires to marry someone with a shared passion for missions, but falls in love with someone who does not share this specific calling. The paragraph highlights the need to make choices and potentially let go of certain desires to embrace the person God has for us. It also mentions that while it's rare to have all our desires met, it's important to recognize that there are many ways to serve God and that true love may require some form of sacrifice.

🛡 Overcoming Personal Fears to Foster Healthy Relationships

In this paragraph, the focus shifts to overcoming personal fears and issues that may be hindering the formation of a healthy relationship. It acknowledges that some individuals have specific fears or unresolved past traumas that prevent them from entering into relationships. The speaker advises those who recognize such issues to seek God's guidance and healing, as dealing with these fears is crucial for aligning with the right person. The paragraph also touches on the importance of timing and accepting that sometimes God's plan may not align with our immediate desires.

🌟 Accepting Realities and Letting Go of Unrealistic Expectations

The final paragraph addresses the realization that no one can completely fulfill us except for Jesus, who is our ultimate sustainer and savior. It suggests that accepting the inadequacy of a partner to solve all our problems is a sign of God's alignment with the right person. The paragraph encourages viewers to let go of unrealistic expectations and to understand that true fulfillment comes from God, not from a relationship. It concludes with a reminder that being aligned with the right person at God's timing is a blessing.

Keywords

💡Difficult Things

In the context of the video, 'difficult things' refers to the challenges and hardships that individuals face in life. These are portrayed as tools used by God to guide people towards fulfilling His will for them. The script mentions that such difficulties can help in aligning one's heart with the right person God has chosen for them to marry, signifying that overcoming these challenges is part of God's plan.

💡God's Will

'God's Will' is a central concept in the video, indicating the divine plan or intention that God has for each individual's life. The video suggests that even through difficult times, God is guiding people to accomplish what He wants for them, particularly in the context of finding a life partner.

💡Right Person

The term 'right person' is used to describe the individual that God has destined for someone to marry. The video discusses the process of recognizing and aligning with this person, which may involve letting go of past relationships or desires that do not align with God's plan.

💡Letting Go

'Letting Go' in the script refers to the process of releasing oneself from past attachments or desires that are not in line with God's will. It is presented as a necessary step towards finding the right person to marry and signifies a willingness to accept God's plan over one's own expectations.

💡Desire

In the video, 'desire' is used to describe the personal wishes or longings that individuals have, particularly in relation to their future spouse. It is highlighted that sometimes these desires may need to be sacrificed in order to align with God's will, as one may have to choose between conflicting desires.

💡Sacrifice

'Sacrifice' is a key theme in the video, illustrating the concept of giving up something valuable or important for a higher purpose. In the context of finding a spouse, it may mean giving up a specific desire or expectation to be with the person God has chosen for you.

💡Fear

The script discusses 'fear' as a barrier that can prevent individuals from entering into healthy relationships. It suggests that facing and overcoming these fears is a sign that God is aligning one with the right person, indicating personal growth and readiness for a relationship that aligns with God's will.

💡Unrealistic Expectations

The term 'unrealistic expectations' is used to describe the idealized but often impractical hopes that people have for their future spouse or relationship. The video emphasizes the importance of letting go of these expectations to accept the reality of the person God has chosen for them.

💡Adequacy

'Adequacy' in the video refers to the realization that no one, not even a spouse, can fulfill all of one's needs or solve all of their problems. It suggests that understanding and accepting this is a sign of spiritual maturity and alignment with God's plan for one's life.

💡Idol

In the context of the video, an 'idol' is something or someone that one places above God in their life, such as an idealized image of a future spouse. The script encourages viewers to let go of these idols to make room for God's true plan for their lives.

💡God's Timing

'God's Timing' is a concept in the video that refers to the belief that everything happens according to God's plan and at the right moment. It is suggested that understanding and accepting God's timing is crucial for aligning with the right person and fulfilling His will.

Highlights

God uses difficult experiences to help us fulfill His will, including finding the right person to marry.

Realizing you must let go of someone you thought was 'the one' can indicate God is aligning you with the right person.

Christians often go through a period of accepting they were wrong about someone being 'the one' before finding the right match.

Scripture teaches that God's ways are better than ours and He has better plans than we can imagine.

Sacrificing one relationship desire for another can be a sign of God aligning you with the right person.

Desires can conflict, and meeting the right person may require giving up other desires.

Example given: Choosing between marrying someone with a shared passion for missions or accepting someone without that passion.

True love involves some sacrifice and it's rare to have all desires met in a relationship.

Facing and overcoming fears that block healthy relationships is a sign of God's alignment.

Identifying and dealing with personal issues can lead to a healthier relationship with the right person.

Accepting that the right person won't fulfill all your needs is a step towards God's timing and plan.

Jesus is our sustainer and letting go of unrealistic expectations brings us closer to the right person.

The speaker, Mark, encourages viewers to engage with the ministry and share the videos.

Mark's video aims to provide spiritual guidance and practical advice for finding a life partner.

Transcripts

God uses difficult things in our life to

help us accomplish the will that he

wants for us and this truth applies to

finding the right person God has for us

as well therefore here are four

challenging things God will use to help

your heart align with the right person

he wants you to marry number one if

you're beginning to realize you have to

let go of someone who you thought was

the one that's a good sign that God is

actually aligning you to be with the

real one maybe you clicked on this video

hoping to see some signs that would

confirm you'll be with that person you

have in your mind that you think may be

the one for you and maybe this video

will confirm that and maybe you will see

signs that God is going to let you marry

that person who you think is the one but

I just want to point out that it's very

common for Christians to have to go

through a period of where they thought

someone was the one but then they have

to go through this challenging

experience of accepting that they were

wrong that this isn't the one so you're

not alone that's usually something that

happens to most of us in our season of

singleness before God does align us with

the right one so be encouraged that if

you are going through that process and

if you think you know you could just

never be happy with anyone but the this

one person remember the truth of

scripture that God's ways are better

than our ways that he has things planned

that are better than we can even imagine

so while you might be with someone

different than you thought you'll also

have to REM remember that this means God

has someone better for you than you

thought number two if you have to

sacrifice one relationship desire in

order to experience a another

relationship desire that's a good sign

God is aligning you to meet the one

sometimes our desires conflict with each

other in other words to experience one

desire that you have you have to let go

of a different desire I know it's

tempting to think that we can have it

all and maybe you'll be one of those

people who does get to experience all of

those desires that you currently have

but more often than not what happens is

that you meet a real person and you

realize that they aren't going to be

able to have all of those desires that

you thought in other words to have one

of the things you really want you have

to sacrifice one of the other things

that you also really want so for example

to help us understand this here's here's

something to think about maybe you're

someone who wants to marry someone else

who loves missions like you you want to

be be a missionary right now you're not

a missionary but you think you know down

the line that's something I want to do

and I want to marry someone with that

same desire but then you actually meet a

real person you fall in love with that

person this person loves Jesus they have

a strong passion for Ministry but

missions is not one of those strong

passions they're not like against

missions but that's just not what they

feel called to do with their life now

you're going to be presented with a

choice are you going to not choose this

person because you're going to wait for

someone else that you're going to fall

in love with who also loves missions or

are you willing to accept that maybe God

is saying this is the person I have for

you but you're going to have to let go

of that other desire to do missions I

you know God still wants you to serve

him but you don't have to just serve him

in one narrow way there's millions of

ways that you can love God and and serve

him and other people that's often what

happens when you're aligning with the

one you have to be letting go of some so

that you can actually receive some other

things because in real life it's very

rare that everything on your list

actually comes true and just as a quick

side note before we move on I'm not

saying that you need to let go of

everything if you have to literally just

let go of every other desire you have in

order to be with somebody that's

probably a sign that you shouldn't be

with that person there's going to be a

lot of congruity in your life when you

meet the right person but also when true

love is present there always will be

some sacrifice number three if you're

beginning to face one of those fears

that have directly blocked you from

getting into a healthy relationship

that's a good sign that God is aligning

you to be with the right person for some

of you there isn't some glaring issue

that's you know definitely the reason

why you haven't met somebody sometimes

it's just a timing thing there's just a

general you know lack of order or

direction and you just haven't met that

person we all are in that phase at some

point in life you know you before you

meet somebody you're in that General

confusion phase of I don't know who to

meet but for other people

there's an exact issue they know is the

issue so you know they know I have a

death fear of talking to women obviously

that is probably the number one reason

you haven't actually gotten in a

relationship with a woman or you've been

abused as a child and you know you

haven't dealt with that trauma and every

time you get in a relationship with

someone all those issues start coming

out and just completely derail the

relationship the trauma the issues in

your childhood weren't your fault but

now as an adult you haven't yet chosen

to deal with those things so that you

can function in a healthy relationship

again there are millions of examples

that could be the specific issue and you

know what that issue is for you if there

is that issue if you're like I don't

know what that issue is well certainly

wise to just pray about it you know pray

what it says in Psalms 139 that God

would reveal anything in you that needs

to be exposed but if there isn't

something then just accept that there

isn't and it's just not God's timing and

number four if you are beginning to

accept how inadequate it the one

actually is to fulfill you like they

that you thought they would fill you

that's a great sign that God is actually

preparing you and aligning you to be

with this person maybe you have very

realistic expectations and you don't

need to go through this process of

letting the idol go but a lot of us

almost all of us it's basically

impossible to have a full true real

expectation of this relationship until

you get into that relationship because

we all just naturally dream hope and

some of those things just aren't going

to happen so when you can accept that

this person is not going to solve my

deepest problems Jesus alone is our

sustainer Our Savior and when we can let

go of those unrealistic expectations we

are that much closer to being aligned

with the right person and God's timing a

thumbs Up's a huge blessing into this

ministry it helps these videos spread to

other people who might need to see them

I'm Mark from applygodsword decom and

I'll see you at the next video God bless