What Is Life Like Being Intersex? | DEEP

Summary

The video script tells the story of an intersex individual born with both male and female genitalia. They underwent surgery to close the vagina and live authentically as a man. The speaker shares their journey of self-acceptance, societal reactions, and the importance of being true to oneself. They discuss their experiences with relationships, gender identity, and the impact of their advocacy on raising intersex awareness.

Takeaways

• 🌟 The individual was born with both male and female genitalia, and has undergone surgeries to align their physical appearance with their male identity.
• 🔒 They have always felt more like a man and have lived authentically as such after surgical procedures.
• 👶 Born with an intersex condition, they were assigned female at birth but changed their gender marker to male at age 11.
• 📚 There was a lack of information and understanding about intersex conditions when they were growing up, leading to feelings of alienation.
• 💪 They have a strong sense of self-confidence and self-love, embracing their unique identity.
• 🏋️‍♂️ They were very athletic and participated in various sports, excelling in many areas.
• 👨‍👧 They are a parent, having gone through IVF and pregnancy, and embrace the roles of both father and mother.
• 🏥 They underwent over 200 hours of surgery and chose not to reverse any of the procedures, accepting the changes as part of their journey.
• 💊 They took hormones to deepen their voice and develop facial hair, further aligning with their male identity.
• 🌐 They have used their platform to raise awareness about intersex conditions, contributing to a greater societal understanding and acceptance.
• 🤔 They sometimes experience regret about the surgical decisions, considering the possibility of a more fulfilled life if they had remained female.

Q & A

What condition was the individual born with?

The individual was born with an inverted testicles, a micro penis, and a vagina (HLE).

How did they feel about their body before the surgery?

They compared themselves to a 'Domino's Pizza half and half' due to having both male and female genitalia.

What changes were made to their body?

They had the vagina closed, and they describe living as authentically as possible as a male.

How did they identify after the surgery?

After the surgery, they identified as a man and felt more authentic in their male identity.

What was their experience growing up with this condition?

They felt alienated due to the differences they noticed during puberty, but also developed a strong sense of self-acceptance.

How did their family react to their condition?

Their parents were supportive and allowed them to wear whatever they wanted, not forcing gender-specific clothing.

What challenges did they face in terms of societal understanding?

They faced ignorance and misunderstanding from extended family and society due to lack of awareness about intersex conditions.

How did they deal with the curiosity and questions from others?

They felt it was inappropriate and sexualizing at times but chose to embrace their uniqueness and confidence.

What is their stance on gender roles and expectations?

They reject the concept of 'hyper masculinity' and believe in the freedom to express one's gender identity without societal constraints.

How has their experience influenced their views on sexuality?

They identify as pansexual, stating that love transcends gender, race, and other factors.

What impact has their public advocacy had on the visibility of intersex issues?

They claim to have increased awareness significantly, with a 5% rise in people identifying as intersex since they began speaking out.

Outlines

00:00

🌈 Identity and Intersex Experiences

The speaker shares their personal journey with being intersex, having both male and female genitalia from birth. They underwent surgery to remove the vagina and live authentically as a male. They discuss societal perceptions and their own self-comparison to a 'half and half' pizza. The speaker's gender marker changed from female to male at age 11. They emphasize their inner confidence despite feeling alienated during puberty due to physical differences. They also touch on the lack of information and understanding about intersex conditions in the past, and how they've embraced their identity and received support.

05:00

🏋️‍♂️ Sportsmanship and Self-Love

The individual talks about their prowess in various sports and their self-acceptance. They recount experiences of being perceived as both male and female, and how they've dealt with intrusive questions about their gender. They express a strong sense of self-love and confidence, and how they've navigated different hairstyles and appearances. The speaker also discusses their openness about their intersex identity and the reactions from others, including friends and family.

10:02

💪 Embracing Dual Gender Identity

The speaker discusses their comfort with their dual gender identity, feeling at ease with both masculine and feminine presentations. They describe their decision-making process during surgeries and the impact on their body, including the choice to leave their micropenis. They also reflect on societal expectations of gender and the importance of breaking down hyper-masculine stereotypes. The individual shares their experiences with dating and relationships, emphasizing their pansexual identity.

15:03

👨‍👧‍👦 Parenthood and Personal Growth

The speaker shares their experience of becoming a parent, embracing both roles of father and mother. They discuss the challenges of pregnancy, including health complications, and the joy of having a child that resembles them. They also talk about societal reactions to their parenting and the complexities of their identity as an intersex person. The speaker reflects on their life choices and the impact on their family.

20:04

🛠️ Surgical Transitions and Reflections

The individual details their surgical journey, including complications and the decision to undergo extensive surgeries to align their physical appearance with their male identity. They discuss the process of hormone therapy and the impact on their body. The speaker also shares moments of regret about the surgical choices and the implications for their family. They provide advice for others who might be questioning their gender identity or considering transitioning.

Keywords

💡intersex

Intersex refers to individuals who are born with reproductive or sexual anatomy that doesn't fit typical definitions of female or male. In the video, the speaker openly discusses their intersex condition, sharing personal experiences and advocating for increased understanding and acceptance. The term is central to the video's theme of self-acceptance and authenticity.

💡micro penis

A micro penis is a medical condition where the penis is significantly smaller than the average size. The speaker mentions having a micro penis at birth, which is part of their intersex condition. This term is significant as it contributes to the speaker's journey towards self-acceptance and their decision to undergo surgeries to align their physical appearance with their gender identity.

💡vagina hle

Vagina hle, or hypospadias, is a condition where the urethral opening is located on the underside of the penis, or in cases like the speaker's, the presence of a vagina. The speaker discusses having a vagina hle and later having the vagina closed, which is a critical part of their physical transition and identity exploration.

💡authenticity

Authenticity in this context means being true to one's own personality, spirit, or character. The speaker emphasizes living authentically as a man after surgeries and other treatments, showcasing their commitment to embracing their identity despite societal norms or expectations.

💡gender identity

Gender identity refers to a person's internal sense of being male, female, or something else. The video's narrative heavily revolves around the speaker's gender identity as male, their journey to affirm this identity, and the societal and personal implications of this process.

💡surgery

Surgery, in the context of the video, refers to the medical procedures undertaken by the speaker to modify their physical characteristics to align with their gender identity. The speaker discusses multiple surgeries, indicating the complex medical journey intersex individuals might undertake.

💡hormone therapy

Hormone therapy is the use of hormones to change physical characteristics that are inconsistent with an individual's gender identity. The speaker mentions being on Sustanon, a type of testosterone, to deepen their voice and increase facial hair, illustrating the medical interventions used to affirm one's gender identity.

💡self-acceptance

Self-acceptance is the process of embracing and accepting oneself for who they are, including their unique characteristics, strengths, and weaknesses. The speaker discusses their journey of self-acceptance, highlighting the importance of internal validation and confidence in one's identity.

💡sexuality

Sexuality in the video refers to the speaker's sexual orientation and how they identify in terms of attraction and behavior. The speaker mentions being attracted to both men and women, identifying as pansexual, which is a rejection of traditional gender binaries in terms of sexual attraction.

💡representation

Representation in this context means having someone who embodies or portrays a particular group or identity. The speaker sees themselves as a representative for the intersex community, aiming to increase visibility and understanding of intersex individuals' experiences.

💡scrutiny

Scrutiny refers to the detailed examination or critical attention given to someone or something. The speaker discusses facing scrutiny and criticism online, reflecting the challenges that come with being a public figure, especially one who is advocating for a less understood or marginalized identity.

Highlights

Born with inverted testicles, micro penis, and a vagina hle.

Compared self to a Domino's Pizza half and half due to having both male and female genitalia.

Had the vagina closed and now identifies as a man.

Initially assigned female at birth (F), changed to male (M) at age 11.

Lacked information about being intersex during youth.

Felt alienated during puberty due to physical differences.

Developed overconfidence and learned to embrace being intersex.

Encouraged by supportive parents to express gender identity freely.

Educated others on intersex realities through media appearances.

Increased awareness has led to a 5% rise in people identifying as intersex.

Surgery and hormone therapy played a role in affirming male identity.

Gave birth to a daughter, embracing both male and female parental roles.

Faced challenges with acceptance during Mother's Day due to giving birth.

Considered the possibility of living a more fulfilled life as a female.

Encourages others to embrace their uniqueness and seek medical advice if needed.

Advocates for inclusivity and understanding of intersex individuals.

Remains a role model for intersex people and promotes living authentically.

Transcripts

I was born with in inverted testicles um

and I had a micro penis uh and also a

vagina hle from birth always compared

myself to a Domino's Pizza half and half

that's basically how I felt when I had

both a penis and a vagina since getting

the vagina closed I just try and live as

authentic as I can um as as as a guy

really so uh most intersex people they

don't even let anybody know that they're

intersex they kind of just live in

however they feel comfortable for me

because I'm so out there and everybody

knows about me being interex and how I

was born so it's normally meant to be

just uh cross for unidentified but my I

had F from um when I was little and that

got changed when I was 11 to an M it's

about genitalia really and truly for me

I was born with in inverted testicles um

and I had a micro penis uh and also a

vagina hle from birth I always compared

myself to a Domino's Pizza half and half

that's basically how I felt when I had

both a penis and a vagina since getting

the vagina closed and since just having

you know both of my penises I just feel

like a man and you know I just try and

live as authentic as I can um as as as a

guy

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really so there was barely any

information back when I was younger

about interex um or being um the other

term which is obviously as I always say

a more Deary term H afrodite um you

know I always felt like because I didn't

know any different that I was pretty

much normal um then obviously as I got

older and when puberty hit I didn't

notice there was a massive difference

between me and other people and other

people pointed out to me as well uh so

I've always kind of been like alienated

in a way but also really accepted it's

quite strange I feel like my over

confidence in the way I'm born and you

know um what my god-given equipment is

that I've just learned to rock it and

just accept it and because of my inner

confidence you know it's gotten me a lot

of a lot of love out there a lot of

support loads of people love me because

I was a jist my parents would allow

people to just call me he uh cuz that's

what I looked like and that's how I

identified even from back then um you

know I suppose in certain family cires

situation social situations that's when

they would call me a girl because you

know my outer family did not understand

anything to do with intersex um you know

due to religion and due to ignorance um

now they're way more understanding to be

fair it it all came down to me because

of the how I felt and the way I dealt

with finding out about being intersex

and even before that when I look at my

baby pictures I was not in like pink or

dresses I was I was able to wear

whatever I wanted to wear and stuff like

like that like my parents weren't

forceful at all and uh that's why I

always say I feel like they they must

have subconsciously known sometimes you

know things about your kid but you just

can't put a name to it because like I

said even though intersex people have

been around for ages including the

angels and all sorts you know um they

are all uh inter insects or you know

like I said h aphrodites h h aphrodites

being the Greek God as well um so yeah

like just more and more as we got to

learn about it and when we went to

different places met different other

parents you know not many but you know

met other parents that have been through

similar situations um yeah they kind of

just grew a bigger understanding on it

and yeah just became more easier over

time

really unshakable confidence is a great

way to be able to put it of what I have

I have an astounding amount of

confidence and self- love for myself uh

if I could marry myself I would but I

can't if that becomes legal that I'm

doing it and uh yeah I just feel like

you know

I just don't really let anything get to

me like I'm 5'8 so I'm not the tallest

I'm not the most biggest I'm not I've

not got you know like like a I don't

know big nose prominent jaw anything

like that I've got a very even up till

now a very erogenous look to me and I

just love

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it my dad you know he's the most known

person around our area and some of his

friends would have completely forgotten

that he had a daughter and they just be

like oh you know oh my God your son

looks just like you and all this kind of

stuff and son son son son oh your little

boy all this stuff and my dad would just

go with it cuz you know uh sometimes I

don't think he even realized what was

going on uh but I heard it and I was

like you know yeah I'd roll with it as

well be like yeah man thank you you know

what I'm saying um like I said I was

always dressed in boy clothes I I I

didn't look like a girl so I can't blame

them um but yeah I came across loads of

different comments from uh my friends

parents and stuff like that all the time

you know they would

do do you sit down or do you stand up to

go toilet

do I'm just like listen yo relax I'm a

kid stop stop like you know asking me

all these questions man you're

sexualizing me in a way as well man it's

a bit creepy I didn't feel uncomfortable

at the time but when I think about it

now I'm like boy you put up with way too

much man you should have told him get

lost to mind your own business never

have I ever felt a way about myself at

all um I'm in love with myself and I

feel like I've got good reason to be as

well I'm unique I'm an individual who

knows exactly what they want and uh you

know I'm very open and I will never stop

being open until the day that I die I

was one of the best when it comes to

Sports in my school uh I'm amazing at

football I'm amazing at basketball I'm

amazing at badminton tennis golf

whatever you name it I can do it um and

in terms of things like gymnastics you

know I I you know I was doing

cheerleading where I was a boy and I was

lifting up the girls dashing them in the

air people took it as how they took it I

had dreadlocks and then i cho my

dreadlocks off then I just had an afro

then after the afro I just shaved the

full my hair which everybody loved had

like a little high top um yeah the girls

loved it you know uh what can I say I'm

just a

charmer uh year five with uh a very

popular singer uh Sierra there was this

rumor going around that she was a h

afrodite uh it turns out that I really

don't think she is I don't know where

the the the rumor came from but when it

did come out everybody immediately

looked to me because this is what I'm

trying to say even before I found out I

was interx people already thought that I

was a boy girl like it was always hey

hey hey boy girl boy girl boy girl

that's what people used to call me from

even back then it's funny now that we

got the actual terminology to it first

of all I was stupid enough to believe it

uh without actually doing any proper

research cuz I was a kid I didn't care

uh but at the same time yeah I did kind

of feel like maybe maybe that's me

because I didn't really understand the

full um uh I didn't the full magnitude

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story all right so couple of stories

really quick um I had a girl that I was

dating uh I was 16 she was 24 call it

what you like and um one of her male

best friends took a shine to me he's

straight um you know but he took a shine

to me I actually thought that them two

were cheating you know them two were

sleeping with each other and I was

getting cheated on but it turned out the

guy liked me and tried it on with me and

I was uh I was young myself at this time

as well and I was like whoo but um what

can I say men and women both love me

straight lesbian gay by anything I

always would say that I'm bisexual I

mean bisexual man people think I'm

bisexual I'm pansexual so pansexual is

when you just love anybody really it

doesn't really matter about their gender

race anything like that you know there's

also sapio sexual which I was back in

2008 18 St sexual when you fall in love

with the mind cuz I was going through a

phe when you know I was really spiritual

and really falling in love with people's

minds it's got nothing to do with the

way anyone looks at all it's all about

the mind you fall in love with the way

the person's thought processes the

relability in their life and yours all

that kind of stuff it's a beautiful

beautiful sexuality to

adopt I have a Del energy Del energy is

basically when you possess this really

feminine Aura which can kind of entice

anyone male or or female anyway and that

got in the way of a lot of my

friendships including the one um with my

ex's uh best friend who took a shine to

me and they always didn't realize what

it was why they were so attracted to me

it's cuz I got a big booty stuff like

that like these guys were you know these

guys they' be liking big booties and all

that stuff and because I got a nice once

again I don't think I I don't feel like

I look like a guy I feel like I look

still like I could just be both if I

Just sh shaved off the beard wig boom

hot Gil but like you know I feel like

their guys would probably say that they

gay straight away because obviously I

sound and look like a guy and all that

kind of stuff but back then when I had

both it could be argued against I would

say that they're just bisexual and they

also are curious curiosity killed the

cat but in my case curiosity had all

these guys hooked and all these females

hooked hyper masculinity has been dashed

in the bin if I want to act feminine and

just you know like how I am now hoodie

track suit suit whatever I'm going to do

that I can act feminine and as much as I

like cuz I can adopt that personality

cuz I I have I have I have a right to um

you know if if I want to go and be silly

and put on you know a female friend's

clothes and walk around and you know it

looks crazy cuz my muscles are bursting

out at the top and I'm about to tear it

and you know I could do that too like

I'm just so comfortable with how I am

you know I hope that that makes other

people

within their skin no matter what they're

going through feel the same way as well

like you've not got to be hyper

masculine or adopt some toxic

masculinity to be viewed as a much old

man this hyper male uh stuff needs to be

thrown away somewhere because it just

ain't working you know I think some of

the best people out there are people

that can be very diverse like Prince

like me yeah

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22 22 they dashed my vagina in the bin

and then obviously now I've just got the

two penises I had to leave the micr

penis

because you don't even want to know how

good it feels leave the micropenis alone

leave it alone because you know in

surgery things can get damaged nerves

could get destroyed sensation goes

you're leaving it alone is what I said

to the surgeon straight away um and it's

amazing because then I've got the bigger

one that's in front so a lot of the time

I'm aroused by my own penis it's so

complicated and it's so complex if you

want me to you know point it out for you

and really go and divulge into that I

can yeah I've only fans 20

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$20 in the late 60s right around to the

early 2000s it was 2% since I came and

did all of the work I've done on TV and

social media um you know speaking out on

interex people um worldwide it's now at

7% so that's a dramatic 5% increase

since um I started talking about it um

if you go and you you go to a sexual

health clinic intersex is there now if

you're at the doctor's intersex is there

now how and intersex is there now to be

able to describe yourself just like you

do with um race and and religion

intersex is also now down on how you

want to identify yourself and it wasn't

there before I started coming on TV

talking about it I'm just saying I'm

just

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saying the God on this truth is when

you're born into sex you're just used to

you yourself yeah and you don't want to

complicate things anymore a lot of

people don't want to be ridiculed for

something that they can't help so they

just prefer to just live stealth um I

don't always think it's even about shame

or anything I think it's about privacy

with me I'm might open books so this is

the reason why I'm breaking barriers

left right and Center to make sure that

people understand you can have an

intersex child you might not know

straight away from the birth and uh I

want to be the person that people can

look at as representation to that with

how candidly I speak and how open and

honest I am I'm happy to be a

spokesperson for Life 100% there's so

much that goes into it that people don't

realize I think even the mental aspect

of it is so important because it can

really it could be the make or break to

wherever you want to be alive and you

know in live in your truth or or whether

you you it's too much for you you can't

be here and and I've had I've had dark

days I've had dark days where I'm just

like you know loads of people on a

certain social um uh media app will just

be Pro self- projecting you know they

they hate the fact that I'm so confident

they hate the fact that I'm so sure of

myself so they will do anything they can

to be able to belittle me um in you know

me being my authentic self you know I

was with an agency I was meant to be

doing my book which took um a year and

it was scars made the man very powerful

book and I didn't even complete that and

I left the agency due to the fact that I

couldn't handle the pressure of the

amount of scrutiny that people were

giving me from fake profiles trolls

online accounts and I have so much

support and so many people that love me

but when there's so much negativity and

you don't know where it's coming from

who it's coming from the reason why it

is because people don't understand it um

and it's down to a lot of it's really

down to religion let's be real a lot of

the time for a lot of people the way

that they were raised um you know what

they what they saw or have seen their

environment once again as well if you go

to Brighton for example you're more

likely to be accepted as a gay man than

if you go to Brixton I've changed

people's lives who are evangelists who

are Muslim who are you

know is Islamic streams everything you

name it I've changed their way of

thinking about it I explain it in a way

of that hermaphrodites ins six people

have been about for centuries and and

you know in certain countries we are

literally um we are

worshiped so yeah westernized uh

countries not so much it opens the minds

to people who are hiding even the

smallest minute thing about them

themselves because they are scared to be

judged you know I dare to be judged and

I do what I want I say what I want just

like I said in my intro in my YouTube

videos and I will forever be that and do

that I will stand by myself as a overly

confident uh Happy gol lucky Giza

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definitely I'm the father I'm the mommy

daddy yeah you look can call me Mommy

Daddy I don't care my job was getting my

daughter to this earth and I had options

in able to be able to do that but let's

be real man I wanted to have full

control so whatever baby came from me

judge me if you will but I wasn't given

a damn about anybody's opinion when I

was having my kid not only that but she

came out perfectly we almost died on the

operating table but nonetheless she

looks just like me she's an amazing kid

and she uh she's just like her daddy

mommy daddy mommy daddy whatever the

hell you want to call me I don't care

either way I'm a great uh parent and my

daughter loves me more than anything in

the world and I love her more than life

I had pre clamps here and all that

rubbish as well so yeah I lost teeth

when I was carrying my child and stuff

um yeah it was really difficult you know

it's even difficult up to this dat

because since it all came out about you

know the way I had my child there'll be

people like when Mother's Day comes

they'll be like happy Mother's day and

I'm just like M cuz the thing is um you

know it's it's weird I'm living as a man

now but I am still connected to my

female side part of my female side would

mean that I could either give birth to a

child or I could give a woman my child

to carry um you know that I've done also

in the past too um I donated all my eggs

so I've got kids out there I've got my

own child as well you know um there are

women right now that are looking to want

to carry my kid because they just want a

kid that looks like me I'm an

interesting person so people can't take

that away from me no matter how I'm

different with my life you know you

might not understand it you might not

get it you might think it's weird you

might think it's disgusting I don't care

I don't care because essentially when

I'm older and I'm lonely and I ain't got

no kids but everybody else has got kids

that I'm running around happy no one's

going to be there to support me when I'm

there you know depressed cuz I've not

got my own child for myself so yeah I

did it all for me and my

so I did IVF I um got free IVF cuz I

donated a couple of cycles of my eggs

and um yeah I I could carry a child

straight away it worked first time

basically um so you just get to choose

basically you go into a room you know

you click on the computer it has the

face it has the height it has the the

the the um the origin uh ethnicity all

that kind of stuff and yeah I'm probably

one of the first people in the UK I've

never heard of a story like mine before

in my life so as crazy as it is

everybody else imagine how I

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feel it kills me sometimes looking at my

old pictures and stuff I I always think

to myself what would I have looked like

if I'd just been a woman I'm not being

funny I would have been app so beautiful

like come on now like this is what I'm

saying so but it's not all about looks

as well like I just know I would have

had like probably I had a sugar daddy I

would have had a husband and I would

have had like about 177,000 men with

loads of money running after me and like

this is kind of the opposite now I've

just I'm the provider I'm the one that

likes to make the money and do the

running after when you embark on surgery

you pretty much sign that side away um

there is no such thing as reversing um

phop plasty surgery unfortunately so

even if I wanted to do that I couldn't

my voice would never go back to um being

even a tiny bit higher um my facial hair

would still be there i' have to have

electris on my face

um the hair like the whole everything's

just it's it's done it's done I'm a man

forever so even if people you know want

to make jokes and say what they like at

the end of the day I was brave enough to

go through 200 hours plus worth of

surgery to you know live like this you

know so the facial hair and stuff like I

already had facial hair but um yeah when

you go on um hormones you can go on

Sustanon nebido there's multitud there's

a magnitude of different um uh hormone

uh therapy replacement therapy you can

go on uh but but yeah I was on Sustanon

to begin with and that just um that that

that made my my my body more straight

than more like curvaceous um and the

facial Hood I already had anyway uh the

voice my voice was already pretty much

deep but I did it does it does FI in the

facial it does thicking the vocal cords

and all that stuff so that's what makes

you um you know more more more like

looking like an elder male then looking

like a a young boy basically so yeah the

hormones did help with the surgery um

like I always explain in all of my

videos all of my interviews you know you

do have um quite a few stages if you

have complications you have even more

stages I had a complication every single

stage which means that I had even more

surgery more hours added on than the

average person who suffers with no

complications Etc and I also made sure

that I I didn't have a nurse or nothing

after surgery I um i' basically leave

the hospital and I'd look after myself

so yeah I healed myself back to um being

able to function I could have Tak

estrogen tablets instead I could have

had estrogen patches or gel or stuff

like that I could have had like um

breast augmentation surgery um I could

had a BBL Brazilian butt lift I could

have had whatever I wanted even though I

don't really need a Brazilian buttlift

cuz my butt's big enough as it is um

yeah there's loads of things I could

have done um I could have still had um

you know like my facial hair lasered off

as well um cuz I've always had a

mustache um I could have just practiced

height making my voice voice more high

and sounded a bit more feminine and

essentially I killed off the um female

side to me especially when I went under

the knife and had surgery I do feel a

lot of deep regret sometimes about that

because I feel bad um not for myself but

for my family a lot of the time

because even though they're so proud of

me and you know they're so loving and

such a great family I just sometimes

feel like you know I would have maybe

lived a more better fulfilled life as a

female instead of living as a male and

um getting into some of the trouble that

you know guys can find them in more so

um you know with the law with um you

know day-to-day things um the challenges

that you know most men have you know the

bravado the ego everything

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yeah when I was younger I feel like I

set the tone I I keep not to blow my own

horn all the time but seriously I set

the tone to being intersex and what it

means to be interx um nowadays you know

if someone was to come out and say that

they're interex they would often say oh

well I've watched Rajon Anderson and you

know he's like my hero and this is the

reason why I can now come out and you

know say that I'm inter sex and blah

blah blah blah blah however they're

still ridiculed and they're still

scrutinized I wasn't even I've never

been ridiculed scrutinized anything like

that until social media um a lot of the

time you know people just they just bang

on about what they believe and what they

feel like you are and stuff like that we

just need to just you know bring a lot

of inclusivity back into the world and

you know understand that everyone is

different in her own

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R just embrace it understand it get to

know yourself figure out who you are as

a person get down to the doctors see if

you could potentially be interx if you

are and you got any like differences

about yourself head off to an

endocrinologist they'll be able to help

you out and tell you what's going on man

get them uh X-Rays done uh you know get

anything relevant that needs to be done

to you know set you sure of yourself you

know what's going on uh you know just

stay cool man you know life is short

just be easy you know what I'm saying uh

you know don't don't don't feed into

anything too much if you are

experiencing difference with yourself if

you if you if you're you know you feel

like like you know you're more unique

than others or you there might be

something wrong with you there ain't

nothing wrong at all man like I said

before everyone's different just live in

your truth and be you and just do it do

it positively and uh do it properly