How to tell if you’re trans
Summary
TLDRIn this video, Summer Iy and Bol discuss the introspective journey of self-discovery, particularly focusing on recognizing and accepting one's transgender identity. They touch on the importance of listening to one's inner voice and the personal struggle with acceptance. Summer shares her own experiences, from initial confusion to a swift commitment to her identity, contrasting with Bol's slower, more exploratory path. The video encourages viewers to embrace their authentic selves, highlighting the transformative power of self-acceptance and the community's support in navigating the complexities of gender identity.
Takeaways
- 😀 The video discusses the journey of self-discovery and acceptance for transgender individuals.
- 🤔 It emphasizes that the question isn't 'how do I know I'm trans?' but rather 'can I accept this?'
- 🧐 The speaker suggests that questioning one's identity is a normal part of the process and doesn't necessarily confirm one's transgender status.
- 🌟 The video acknowledges that everyone's journey of self-discovery is unique, with some finding clarity quickly and others taking longer.
- 📚 Research and self-reflection play a significant role in understanding one's gender identity.
- 🕰 The speaker shares personal experiences, including the realization that they were trans after years of not knowing.
- 💔 The struggle with expressing one's true self, especially during lockdown, can lead to negative self-perceptions and emotional pain.
- 💡 A moment of clarity, such as a thought about body dysphoria, can be a pivotal point in accepting one's transgender identity.
- 💪 The video encourages viewers to embrace the process, even if it's scary, and to take steps towards living authentically.
- 🌈 It highlights the joy of normalization, where aspects of one's identity become a natural part of life, allowing focus on other personal goals and relationships.
Q & A
What is the main topic of the video?
-The main topic of the video is about self-discovery and acceptance, particularly for individuals questioning their gender identity and considering whether they might be transgender.
Why does the speaker mention 'check nerds' in the video?
-The term 'check nerds' is used humorously to refer to people who are introspective or analytical about their identity, possibly overthinking or seeking validation or answers through external means like online communities.
What does the speaker suggest about the process of realizing one's transgender identity?
-The speaker suggests that realizing one's transgender identity is a personal journey that varies for everyone. It's not just about knowing but also about accepting oneself, which can be a long and complex process.
Why does the speaker mention that even researching gender identity doesn't necessarily mean one is transgender?
-The speaker points out that researching gender identity is a natural part of questioning one's identity, but it doesn't confirm that someone is transgender. It's okay to explore and question without being definitive about one's identity.
What is the significance of the speaker's mention of 'eggs' in the context of the video?
-The term 'eggs' refers to individuals who are in a denial phase of their transgender identity,比喻那些尚未准备好接受或公开自己跨性别身份的人。The speaker uses this term to illustrate the different stages and mindsets people go through in their journey of self-discovery.
How does the speaker describe their own journey of discovering their transgender identity?
-The speaker describes their journey as a quick realization after years of not understanding their gender identity. They found a sense of relief and recognition in learning about transgender experiences and quickly committed to their identity.
What advice does the speaker give to those who are unsure about starting hormone replacement therapy (HRT)?
-The speaker advises that it's okay to be unsure and scared about starting HRT. They suggest considering the potential benefits and the fact that life is a one-time journey, encouraging individuals to embrace the possibility of change.
Why does the speaker mention the importance of normalization in the context of being transgender?
-The speaker emphasizes the importance of normalization because it signifies a point where one's transgender identity becomes a natural part of their life, allowing them to focus on other aspects of life and personal growth.
What is the significance of the speaker's mention of an upcoming event at MCM?
-The mention of the MCM event is a personal touch where the speaker invites viewers to meet them, indicating a level of openness and community engagement. It also serves as a way to connect with the audience on a more personal level.
How does the speaker address the fear and anxiety associated with the process of self-discovery and acceptance?
-The speaker acknowledges the fear and anxiety associated with self-discovery and acceptance by sharing their own experiences and thoughts. They encourage viewers to embrace the process, suggesting that it's a part of life and that it's okay to feel uncertain.
Outlines
🌈 Exploring Trans Identity and Acceptance
In this paragraph, Summer discusses the process of discovering and accepting one's transgender identity. They mention that people often ask how they know they are trans, and Summer suggests that there's an inner voice that already knows, but the challenge lies in accepting it. They emphasize that it's normal to question one's identity and that everyone's journey is different. Summer shares their own experience of quickly realizing they were trans after years of not understanding what it meant, contrasting it with their partner's slower and more confusing journey. They also touch on the importance of not letting fear hold you back from exploring your identity and the relief that comes from living authentically.
💉 The Significance of HRT and Embracing Change
Summer continues the conversation by delving into the decision-making process regarding hormone replacement therapy (HRT) and the fear that can accompany such a significant life change. They recount a moment of clarity where they realized the importance of pursuing their true self, even if it meant making a mistake. The paragraph highlights the signs that can indicate one's trans identity and the relief that comes from embracing it. Summer also talks about the process of learning to adapt to a new identity, including voice training and personal style, and the joy of reaching a point where one's identity becomes normalized. They end with an invitation to a meet and greet at MCM, expressing hope that the video helps viewers in their own journeys of self-discovery.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Transgender
💡Identity
💡Acceptance
💡Cisgender
💡Crossdressing
💡Denial Phase
💡HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy)
💡Authentic Self
💡Disassociation
💡Normalize
💡Indoctrination
Highlights
Summer discusses the introspective journey of understanding one's gender identity and the acceptance of being transgender.
The video addresses the common question of how individuals come to realize their transgender identity.
Summer shares that there is often an internal voice that hints at one's transgender identity, but acceptance is the key.
The video emphasizes that questioning one's identity is a normal part of the self-discovery process.
Summer points out that the journey to self-discovery is unique for everyone, with different paces and complexities.
The video mentions that even researching transgender topics can indicate a level of curiosity and self-exploration.
Summer's partner, Finn, is used as an example to illustrate different paces of self-discovery within a relationship.
The concept of 'eggs' in the transgender community is explained, referring to individuals in a phase of denial or early exploration.
Summer's personal experience with crossdressing during lockdown and its impact on her self-realization is shared.
The importance of not letting fear hold you back from exploring your gender identity is highlighted.
Summer talks about the struggle of not being able to express her gender identity while living at home during lockdown.
The video discusses the negative thoughts and self-hatred that can arise from suppressing one's true identity.
Summer shares her thought process leading to the decision to pursue HRT (hormone replacement therapy).
The video encourages viewers to embrace the process of self-discovery, even if it feels uncomfortable or 'cringe'.
Summer provides reassurance that there is a lifetime to figure out one's identity after accepting being transgender.
The video ends with an invitation to a meet and greet event where Summer and Finn will be present.
Summer concludes with a message of hope, emphasizing the normalization and joy that comes with living authentically.
Transcripts
hello hi I'm summer iy you can tell by
my summer haircut me and the homie are
here me and Bol are here to make content
this video is about check nerds how do I
know that I'm trans how do you know that
you are trans how does anybody know it's
easy don't worry your girlfriend will
tell
you people used to ask me a lot online
because you know I've been on I've been
an Instagram person for for a while now
and I do a lot of ask question boxes cuz
I think they're fun and people would
always ask me like how do you know I
think that you already know I think
there is a little voice in the back of
your head that's telling you and you
already know that's why you're doing
this and I think it isn't a question of
how do I know it's more a question of
can I accept this I think even
researching this like I don't know any
CIS people that have done this kind of
research or have asked these kind of
questions about their identity I think
even having the thought bumps you up a
couple of percentage points but it does
not mean that you are because it's
completely okay to question yourself and
your identity the journey is different
for everybody somebody who is very
confident in the knowledge that they are
trans and they discover it very quickly
and they like find themselves and they
do not ever look back does not take away
from somebody who has a very confusing
very long-winded Journey th is that a
word does not take away from somebody
who was a long-winded Journey where they
do not figure anything out and they do
not know themselves very
well Finster genuinely you can take me
and Finn as an example of this I
discovered myself quite quickly I say
quickly I spent about 23 years of my
life not knowing what being trans is or
what a transgender person is or does or
thinks about but once I kind of got the
brainworms about it and did some
research and was like oh this sounds
kind of like my dream life I very
quickly committed I I was a very
committed woman I went the whole way fer
my my partner they they spent like a
billion years streaming crossdressing
and it barely scratched the surface of
what they understand about themselves
which is very very little which is
obviously completely okay you canot be
sure you know you kind of have to figure
stuff
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out time for iyw
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I spent a lot of time not understanding
my my gender not understanding myself in
social situations not feeling
comfortable in my body or my life or
anything really and I never questioned
it I thought it was very normal I
thought it was normal to disassociate
when you look at yourself for too long
in a mirror that's not normal I missed a
lot of Clues because they're a lot
easier to look at retroactively I was
dating somebody at the time and they
proposed to me that maybe I'm trans and
I kind of was like well I don't know
what that is I'm going to look into it
and I'd already started I guess
crossdressing like in private during
lockdown I was figuring stuff out and
I'd also already started doing like only
fans so I was advertising on like Reddit
and stuff I stumbled across like egg IRL
which is a subreddit where people who
are eggs which means when your trans
it's it's like a denial phase you are
within your shell you are safe you've
all seen Finster you know what an egg is
it started with like wow these memes are
not relatable but they're a little bit
funny and then it was like oh wait that
that one hits I'm like oh wait this is
my brain you're just writing down words
from my brain in a funny meme format and
I continued to felt personally attacked
I learned kind of what it is to be trans
from there I saw like trans timelines
and like wow that person like looks
incredible in such a short amount of
time that that's crazy that can't be
real so I did a bunch of research I
looked into it different types all this
stuff and I was like okay this is slowly
seeming more like something I'm
experiencing and still I was not
convinced because you can read yourself
to a tea and still not think you're a
part of that group because it's scary
and it's a huge change and all the
social aspects to it are kind of a
little bit terrifying I was in lockdown
during Co
like a lot of us were a lot of trans
people were born during those like hours
in lockdown where you had to really sip
with your thoughts and I had to leave my
student accommodation to go live at home
and then because I was going to live at
home I could not freely express myself I
could not dress up I could not try
makeup and that really hit and it hurt
so bad way more than I thought it ever
would I started to wake up with like
really horrible thoughts about myself
where I like hated my body and I hated
my face I hated how I looked and I hated
my life I caught a thought as it went
through my brain and I I was like okay
yeah that that means that I was very
unsure if I wanted this and I was very
unsure if I should go on HRT and then I
had a quick thought in the mirror it
like you know flew past in my brain and
I I snatched it out of the air and was
like this is more important than I'm
giving it credit I thought what even if
I decide to take the HRT and I am wrong
if I am not a woman and I've taken this
drug at least I'll have a female
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body if you're thinking at least you
know I'll be recognize this female at
least I'll be closer at least I'll you
know have I'll get to wear female
clothes those are all signs and it works
obviously the other way if I take
testosterone at least I'll have a m body
you know it's a big sign it's not
worth putting your life completely on
hold because you're scared you only get
one you only get one go so you may as
well you know embrace the cringe for a
little bit or pink outfits have to do
the voice training which you know it can
be easy if you just kind of do it the
icky way of just like learning one
technique and then sticking with it for
enough hours in your life that it
becomes permanent and you'll get there
you'll get to the other side you'll
learn how to dress you'll learn makeup
all that stuff just takes time but
here's the good thing if you
decide okay I'm trans you have the rest
of your life to figure all that stuff
out you will be living as you
authentically for the rest of your life
you will have a bunch of moments where
you realize F like this is great and I'm
glad I did it and one of the best Joys
is when all of it is completely
normalized when your clothes are just
clothes when your makeup is just
something you do to look nice when your
boobs are just there you know everything
becomes easy and normalized and that's
where all the best parts of life come
from when you can start focusing on
other things you can get healthier you
can go find that dream job you've been
after you can date and be in an
enriching relationship cuz you became a
person anyway that's my indoctrination
for this week maybe I'll try and
indoctrinate you some more next week but
thank you for watching I hope this
helped you figure something anything out
a little bit maybe go check out the sub
writers that I mentioned and see if they
twig anything in your brain or just
accept that you know if you've watched
this video all the way to
here it's at least
7030 that you are also on Saturday of
this week if you are watching it right
now as it is released I will be at MCM
with Finn the 25th of May Saturday 3:30
till 6 :30 I will be in a meet and greet
zone so we can meet or we can greet or
we can meet and greet and photos and
signing and and I don't know just just
you know ask me to tell you a story of
Yonder please come because it'll be
really embarrassing if nobody turns
up
bye okay I just want to say this is the
goal this there's some artwork here bags
this is the goal but if you have noticed
there is an echo and it sounds bad so
I'm going to move from this room this
this is where we'll end up there
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