How to Quit Watching P*rn (you don't need to stop)
Summary
TLDRThis video script addresses overcoming pornography addiction by emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and understanding the root cause of the addiction. It suggests replacing the craving with a new habit and setting achievable boundaries, such as allowing oneself to watch porn at a specific time each day, which can lead to skipping it due to a shift in priorities. The speaker also stresses the significance of finding a purpose in life that outweighs the urge to indulge in pornography and the value of accountability through community support.
Takeaways
- đ Pornography addiction is common due to its instant pleasure and accessibility.
- đ The first step to overcoming any addiction is self-awareness, understanding why you're drawn to pornography.
- đȘ You should quit porn for the future version of yourself, not just for immediate gratification.
- đ§ It's crucial to break the cycle of instant gratification by training your mind to resist urges.
- đ« Replacing the craving for pornography with a new habit is essential for managing the addiction.
- â° Moderation can be a strategy for overcoming porn addiction, setting a specific time to watch as a personal guideline.
- đ Finding a purpose or goal in life that outweighs the urge to watch porn can help in managing the addiction.
- đ« Accountability and a supportive environment are vital for staying on the path to overcoming addiction.
- đ The speaker offers a private community, the S-Class, as a resource for those looking for support and self-improvement.
- đ„ The video aims to provide clarity and help for individuals struggling with pornography addiction.
Q & A
Why is pornography considered one of the most common addictions?
-Pornography is considered one of the most common addictions because it offers instant pleasure and is highly accessible, requiring no external substances and being available at all times with a device that is always with the individual.
What is the first step in addressing a pornography addiction according to the video?
-The first step in addressing a pornography addiction is self-awareness, which involves acknowledging the problem and understanding why one feels the urge to watch pornography.
How does the video suggest changing one's mindset when it comes to overcoming a pornography addiction?
-The video suggests changing one's mindset by getting rid of the victim mentality and realizing that overcoming the addiction is not for immediate gratification but for the future self.
What role does the concept of 'training the brain' play in the video's approach to addiction?
-The video explains that 'training the brain' is about not giving in to the urge immediately, which eventually helps in gaining more control over one's mind, similar to not giving in to a baby's cry to change its behavior.
Why does the video recommend replacing the craving for pornography with a new habit?
-The video recommends replacing the craving with a new habit because the brain needs stimulation, and going from hyper-stimulation to none is not feasible. Replacing the craving helps in avoiding the control of the addiction.
What does the video suggest as a strategy for moderating pornography use?
-The video suggests setting a specific time for watching pornography, such as every night at 9 p.m., which allows an individual to win the battle against the urge throughout the day and may eventually lead to skipping the activity.
How does the video explain the difference between physical addictions and the mental game of pornography addiction?
-The video explains that unlike physical addictions like nicotine or alcohol, which have a physical withdrawal, pornography addiction is a mental game where the craving does not lead to physical withdrawal but can be managed by setting boundaries and finding purpose.
What is the importance of finding a purpose in life according to the video?
-Finding a purpose in life is crucial as it gives meaning and helps to outweigh the urge to watch pornography, making it easier to resist the addiction.
How does the video use the example of boxers to illustrate the power of purpose in overcoming urges?
-The video uses the example of boxers abstaining from sex for six weeks before a fight to show that a strong purpose, such as winning a fight, can easily overcome the urge for activities that are typically pleasurable.
What role does accountability play in overcoming addiction according to the video?
-Accountability plays a significant role in overcoming addiction by providing a supportive environment and community where individuals can seek advice, provide support, and grow together.
What is the 'S-Class' community mentioned in the video and how does it relate to self-improvement?
-The 'S-Class' community is a private group created by the video's speaker to connect individuals focused on self-improvement. It offers resources, calls, and a platform to interact with like-minded people to support each other's growth and struggles.
Outlines
đ« Overcoming Pornography Addiction
The speaker begins by challenging the notion that one must quit pornography completely to overcome addiction, suggesting that understanding the nature of the addiction is key. They explain that pornography is a common and accessible addiction that provides instant pleasure. The speaker emphasizes the importance of self-awareness to understand why one is drawn to pornography and suggests that it's often due to boredom and the desire for instant gratification. They advise against adopting a victim mentality and instead encourage focusing on the future self, arguing that resisting the urge to watch porn now can benefit future self. The speaker also introduces the idea of replacing the craving for pornography with new habits and setting achievable boundaries, such as allowing oneself to watch at a specific time each day, which can help in reducing the frequency and eventually overcoming the addiction.
đȘ Moderation and Finding Purpose
In the second paragraph, the speaker discusses the concept of moderation as a strategy for managing pornography addiction. They argue that setting a specific time for watching porn can help in reducing the urge throughout the day, as one can feel a sense of victory by avoiding it until the designated time. The speaker suggests that this approach can lead to skipping the activity altogether as the craving diminishes over time. They also stress the importance of finding a purpose or meaning in life that can outweigh the urge to watch pornography. Examples given include athletes abstaining from sex to improve performance, indicating that a strong purpose can help in managing addiction. The speaker concludes by advocating for accountability and community support, mentioning their own private community, the S-Class, as a resource for individuals seeking self-improvement and support in overcoming addiction.
Mindmap
Keywords
đĄPornography addiction
đĄSelf-awareness
đĄVictim mentality
đĄInstant pleasure
đĄDopamine Rush
đĄCraving
đĄModeration
đĄPurpose
đĄAccountability
đĄS-Class Community
Highlights
Pornography is a common addiction due to its instant pleasure and accessibility.
Self-awareness is the first step to addressing any addiction.
Understanding the reasons behind the addiction is crucial for overcoming it.
The addiction to pornography is often driven by the desire for pleasure and boredom.
Replacing the craving with a new habit is essential for breaking the addiction cycle.
Setting a specific time for the addiction can help moderate it and reduce its control over you.
Finding a purpose in life can help outweigh the urge to engage in addictive behaviors.
Accountability and a supportive environment are key to overcoming addiction.
Moderation can be a strategy for managing pornography addiction.
The longer you wait, the less intense the craving for pornography becomes.
Prioritizing daily activities and finding meaning can reduce the need for instant pleasure.
Having a strong purpose, like a boxing match, can help suppress the urge for addiction.
Creating a new habit to replace the addiction can help avoid the feeling of restriction.
The speaker suggests that setting a specific time to engage in the addiction can help in the long run.
The speaker shares personal strategies for overcoming pornography addiction.
Joining a community for support and accountability can aid in the recovery process.
The speaker invites viewers to join his private community for self-improvement.
Transcripts
to quit porn you don't have to
completely stop now I know it's a very
bold statement but it'll all make sense
so just keep watching the video first of
all pornography is one of the most
common addictions so you're not alone
now why is it that way because it offers
instant pleasure and it's very
accessible you see if you're addicted to
cigarettes you're addicted to alcohol
you need to go out of your way buy that
substance take it somewhere drink it or
smoke it and then you feel it for
pornography and masturbating all you
need is this device which you always
have on you your boy down there which is
not going anywhere and you probably
spend a lot of time in your room so you
can do it anytime so that also makes it
a very hard addiction to overcome
because it's always accessible to you
you can always do it the first step to
curing a problem comes from
self-awareness you need to acknowledge
it why do you have this problem why do
you want to watch pornography so bad you
know with alcohol it's because you're
trying to escape reality it's something
you become dependent on with nicotine
maybe it's something that started off
with a head rush and then now it's
something that your body depends on with
pornography for the most part it's
simply because you want pleasure and
you're bored that's pretty much it
you're bored you got nothing else to do
and you know that jerking off watching
porn will give you instant pleasure and
an instant dopamine Rush right now now
once you become self-aware to why you
have this problem and why it is you're
doing it you need to then get rid of
that victim mentality and realize that
it's not about you you're not stopping
porn for you right now this is not to
help you right now then you might be
asking well Pier who am I doing this for
you're doing this for the future version
of yourself and the reason I say this is
because often times when you have the
urge to watch porn it's for yourself
right now and you feel like oh my God I
have to do this right now or else I'll
be bored or else I won't feel as good
it's something I can get instant
pleasure right now why not do it let me
just do it but you're completely
forgetting about that version of view
that will have that post not Clarity and
be like oh why did I do that or that
version of you that will wake up
tomorrow morning and be like I wish I
didn't watch porn last night because
what happens when you really feel the
urge to do it right now and then you
give into it it's the exact same thing
as when a baby cries and eventually you
give in and give it what it wants you
train the baby that it needs to cry for
this amount of time and eventually
you'll give in and it's the same thing
with your brain you have the urge you
give in you do it but now you're
training yourself mentally that okay if
I have the urge if I sit on it for a
little bit I'll give into it eventually
and I'll do it what if the baby cries
and you don't give it what it wants you
let it cry and you let it cry and you
let it cry eventually they'll learn that
themb crying doesn't amend to anything
they don't get what they want and so if
you get that urge mentally but you
constantly let it go you don't give into
it eventually you'll gain more control
over your mind than your mind has over
you and that's simply to acknowledge
what pornography addiction is and how it
works but now the next step is how do
you actually stop the first thing is to
replace the craving with a new habit
because the brain needs stimulation the
baby crying and you've learned it to cry
long enough until you give it but you
can't go from hyper stimulation to none
at all you can't go from doing it every
single day of the week to stopping just
like that so you need to replace that
craving because if you devote your whole
life trying to avoid something that
thing still controls you and that's why
when it comes to pornography and
addiction and trying to stop it you
don't count the day because all you're
doing is restricting yourself and
creating a battle you can't win so
instead when you get the urge replace
that with something else whether it's
you getting down and doing 30 push-ups
whether it's you going for a walk
whether it's you phoning a friend and
talking to them whether it's you working
on a skill you've been trying to develop
whether it's you creating a video
Whatever It Is have another habit and
use that to replace the craving now the
second think falls into the point I just
said which is pick a battle that you can
win this is where I explained the first
part of my video where I told you you
don't have to quit porn all around to
get rid of the addiction see if you say
I will quit forever that's a hard battle
to win and so the urge intensifies
because now you're putting the pressure
on yourself that I can't do this ever
again instead with a pornography
addiction you can moderate it you can't
do that with any other addiction that
substance abuse such as nicotine or
alcohol because there's actual physical
draw with pornography it's different
it's a mental game so you can set a new
guideline for yourself you say okay I am
allowed to do it every night at 9 p.m.
but what that does to you is that all
day you're winning the battle you wake
up at let's say 8:00 a.m. you go to
school you come back you do homework you
went to the gym you worked on a scale
you went to work all day you were
productive all day you avoided the urge
all day you won the battle and then 9:00
p.m. rolls around and you're allowed to
do it now what happens is that because
you make it okay at 9:00 p.m. because
you're winning the battle every single
day what you'll notice is that
eventually when 9:00 p.m. rolls around
you'll be like huh do I really feel like
doing it right now and a lot of times
you'll actually skip it and you might
wait until next day 9:00 p.m. I watched
this video from healthy gamer GG and he
said this with substance abuse the
longer you wait the stronger the
withdrawals become because it's actual
physical need it's something your body
depends on right if you are addicted to
alcohol and you stop drinking alcohol
like this you'll have cramps you might
have seizures you'll physically feel is
shoes with your body with porn there is
no withdrawal as you wait the craving
does intensify right away but eventually
it decreases and there is people that
watch pornography when they feel like
doing it maybe two or three times a week
and those people are probably not
watching this video because to them it's
not a problem it doesn't control them
and they don't see it as an addiction
that's why if you moderate it if you set
a battle you can win if you set a time
where you're allowed to do it and on
some days you'll actually skip it
because you'll notice hm maybe I don't
want to do it it'll become something
that doesn't control control you anymore
cuz you'll prioritize everything else in
your day and you'll find a purpose for
yourself and that is the third step find
a purpose Find meaning in your life I'll
give you an example boxers before they
have a fight they have a six week camp
and a lot of them they don't have sex
for that six week now some of them
usually have sex every single day maybe
they have a wife or a partner or they
just have a bunch of girls around but
when that six week Camp starts they stop
having sex completely and they do this
because they know that semen retention
will increase per performance and allow
them to win the fight so because they
have such a strong purpose fighting that
urge of not having sex becomes easy
their purpose is they have a boxing
fight coming up and they really want to
win this fight and so that purpose that
goal that they have completely outweighs
the urge for them to have sex or to bust
a n and so you need to find some sort of
purpose in your life that outweighs the
urge for you to watch pornography and to
masturb it now that doesn't have to be
something completely lifechanging but it
can be a project that you're working on
a business and on online business that
you're trying to start maybe you got
into a new sport and you're really
trying to increase your performance and
your level in this sport maybe your goal
is to talk to women and you know that
you'll be more confident if you stop
watching pornography you need to find
something that gives you meaning
something that gives you purpose and let
that outweigh the earth now a big big
big big big thing when it comes to
stopping addiction and being on the
right path for yourself is
accountability having people around you
having a proper environment that
supports that for you where you have the
proper resources you can seek advice you
can provide advice you can grow not only
alone as a person but with like-minded
individuals around you and so that's why
I've created my private Community called
the S-Class probably heard me talk about
this before I have all my workout
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have a private Community connecting you
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that being said I hope this video helped
at least one person or gave some
clarification on this whole pornography
thing to one person that struggles with
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