Healing Trapped Emotions
Summary
TLDRThe speaker discusses strategies for dealing with difficult emotions and subconscious suffering. They emphasize the importance of inviting these emotions into conscious awareness with a loving approach, rather than clinical investigation. By visualizing oneself as an open, empty, loving space of awareness, one can invite deep-seated feelings to surface, especially during relaxation before sleep. This method is contrasted with the Tantric approach of 'devouring' emotions while remaining as awareness. The summary highlights the need for relaxation, sensitivity, and a shift from investigation to a more compassionate engagement with one's inner experiences.
Takeaways
- 🧘♂️ The speaker suggests dealing with subconscious emotions by inviting them into conscious awareness with a loving and open approach.
- 🌱 It's important to stay connected with the body and the breath as a method to maintain equilibrium and deal with emotions.
- 🌙 Nightmares may indicate unresolved emotions that are hidden during the day but surface at night when the mind is quieter.
- 🤗 The practice involves feeling oneself as an open, empty, loving space of awareness, which can help in inviting deep-seated emotions to the surface.
- 🛌 A bedtime practice is recommended to relax the focus of attention away from thoughts and perceptions and towards a loving awareness of emotions.
- 💭 The emotions that appear in nightmares are seeking attention, and it's beneficial to give them loving attention while awake.
- 🔄 The process involves making friends with these feelings, acknowledging their presence, and not treating them as problems to be solved.
- 🧐 The speaker distinguishes between clinical investigation and a loving approach, emphasizing the latter for dealing with deep emotions.
- 🌀 The practice is described as a first step towards 'devouring' emotions, which means fully embracing them without resistance.
- 💡 Relaxation and sensitivity are key components of the process, allowing for the surfacing of subtle emotions that may be overlooked.
- 🌈 The ultimate goal is to be the open, loving space of awareness that welcomes and integrates all experiences, rather than just investigating or analyzing them.
Q & A
How does one deal with difficult emotions and psychological suffering that reside in the subconscious?
-The speaker suggests feeling oneself as an open, empty, loving space of awareness and inviting these feelings to come out of their hiding places in the subconscious into this space, rather than investigating them as one would in a clinical manner.
What is the speaker's current approach to dealing with emotions and conditioning?
-The speaker's current approach involves investigating the self, emotions, and conditioning during the waking state and maintaining a connection with the breath to stay in the body, which helps in returning to a state of equilibrium.
Why might deep-seated feelings appear during the night rather than during the day?
-Deep-seated feelings emerge at night because during the day they are buried under superficial layers of experience such as thoughts and perceptions. At night, when these layers are reduced, these feelings come to the surface.
What is the recommended practice before going to bed to deal with subconscious feelings?
-The recommended practice is to relax the focus of attention from thoughts and perceptions, feel oneself as an open, empty, loving space of awareness, and invite the feelings to come out of their hiding places before falling asleep.
How does the speaker define the approach of feeling oneself as an open, empty, loving space of awareness?
-This approach is about being knowingly this loving, open awareness, rather than just relaxing or investigating. It involves a more loving and accepting stance towards one's emotions.
What is the difference between the suggested approach and a clinical investigation of emotions?
-The suggested approach is more about creating a loving and welcoming space for emotions to surface and be acknowledged, rather than dissecting or analyzing them in a clinical manner.
Why might the feelings that appear in nightmares be important to address?
-The feelings that appear in nightmares are important because they are calling for loving attention, indicating that they need to be acknowledged and integrated into conscious awareness during waking life.
What is the significance of the phrase 'bringing them close, kissing the toad' in the context of the discussion?
-The phrase 'bringing them close, kissing the toad' metaphorically represents the act of embracing and accepting the difficult emotions, which is a step towards devouring or integrating them into one's awareness.
How can one create a space of loving awareness during the day?
-One can create a space of loving awareness by relaxing the focus of attention from content such as thoughts and perceptions, and extending an invitation to deeper emotional experiences to surface and be acknowledged.
What is the role of relaxation and sensitivity in dealing with subconscious emotions?
-Relaxation and sensitivity are important as they allow one to let the subconscious emotions come up to the surface and to be sensitive to even the most subtle emotions, creating an environment conducive to emotional healing.
How does the speaker differentiate between the practice of investigation and the practice of feeling as an open, empty loving space of awareness?
-The speaker differentiates by stating that investigation is about examining the self on whose behalf feelings arise, whereas feeling as an open, empty loving space of awareness is about creating a welcoming environment for emotions to surface without the need for analysis.
Outlines
🧘 Dealing with Subconscious Emotions
The speaker discusses the challenge of managing difficult emotions and psychological suffering that reside in the subconscious. They share their current approach of self-investigation and staying connected with their breath to maintain equilibrium. However, they acknowledge that deeper issues persist, as evidenced by nightmares. The advice given is to adopt a softer, more loving approach, feeling oneself as an open, empty space of loving awareness, and inviting these emotions to surface rather than clinically investigating them. The speaker emphasizes the importance of making friends with these feelings and giving them loving attention during the waking state, as they are likely to resurface during sleep when conscious distractions are reduced.
🌙 Nurturing Emotional Awareness at Night
This paragraph delves into a method for bringing subconscious emotions to the surface, particularly at night. The speaker suggests lying in bed and relaxing the focus of attention away from thoughts and perceptions to feel oneself as an open, empty, loving space of awareness. The goal is to invite deeper emotional layers to emerge and to connect with the deepest feelings without being preoccupied with the superficial layers of experience. The process involves relaxation and sensitivity to subtle emotions, and it's distinguished from self-investigation by emphasizing the importance of feeling and being in a state of loving openness. The speaker clarifies that this practice is not about merely relaxing but about embodying a specific state of awareness that naturally leads to relaxation.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Difficult Emotions
💡Psychological Suffering
💡Subconscious
💡Investigating the Self
💡Equilibrium
💡Loving Space of Awareness
💡Nightmares
💡Tantra Approach
💡Devouring Emotions
💡Relaxation and Sensitivity
💡Open, Empty Loving Space
Highlights
Investigating the self and emotions consciously can lead to a state of equilibrium, but deeper subconscious issues may still persist.
Nightmares can indicate unresolved emotions in the subconscious.
Staying in the body and connecting with the breath is a current approach to emotional investigation.
A softer, more loving approach is recommended for dealing with deep-seated emotions.
Feeling oneself as an open, empty, loving space of awareness can invite emotions to surface.
Surrendering emotions to a loving space can help instead of clinical investigation.
Emotions often surface at night when thoughts and perceptions are reduced.
Practicing relaxation and inviting emotions before sleep can be beneficial.
Making friends with emotions in the waking state can address issues that appear in nightmares.
The Tantric approach involves devouring emotions while remaining as awareness.
The first step towards emotional devouring is inviting emotions into conscious awareness.
Relaxation and sensitivity are key components in allowing emotions to surface.
Feeling oneself as an open, empty loving space of awareness is more specific than just relaxation.
Investigation is not the same as feeling; it's about understanding the self from which feelings arise.
Deep-seated feelings are often immune to investigation and require a different approach.
Being knowingly the loving open awareness is the key to inviting deep experiences to the surface.
The practice involves extending an invitation to deeper layers of experience to rise to the surface.
Getting in touch with the deepest feelings is a process of inviting them into conscious awareness.
Transcripts
hi rert I do I have a question about
difficult emotions and uh and
psychological
suffering so and the question is how do
you deal with difficult emotion and
emotions and suffering that's in the
subconscious so during the waking State
when I'm conscious I'm always
investigating the self or the eye and
always investigating my emotions and
conditioning
and most more often than not I'm able to
return to a state of
equilibrium but I feel that
underneath in the subconscious there's
still a lot of stuff there so for
example I still have nightmares
sometimes and my current approach is
just to keep
investigating and I think for me also
it's important to stay in the body and
connect with the breath
so that's my current approach I don't
know if you have any other
recommendations or
advice on dealing with
that yes the these very deep feelings
um tend to be immune to
investigation you need to take a a
softer more loving approach with
them for for instance we we T touched on
it yesterday they a little bit I think
um
um feeling yourself as the as the open
empty loving space of
awareness it's not about investigating
it's it's not a clinical investigative
practice you it's a more loving you feel
yourself as the open empty loving space
of awareness and you invite these
feelings to come out of their hiding
places in the body up in to that space
and you
just it's like you you you you soak
these feelings in that loving
space you surrender the feelings to that
loving
space instead of instead of them feeling
them as difficult emotions that need to
be investigated into that that's not a
very that's not a very loving approach
and and it as a result it tends to keep
the feelings buried you need to do the
opposite you need to to invite them very
lovingly to come out of their hiding
place in the in the subconscious as you
call it up into
the conscious space of
awareness and most of the most of the
time these feelings the reason they come
out at night and not in the day is that
during the day they're they they're
buried
underneath the more um superficial
layers of your experience such as
thoughts and
perceptions so so they they remain
buried however at night when your
thoughts and
perceptions are at least greatly reduced
then these feelings come up to the
surface so you could just
um practice before you go to bed or
while you're in bed at night but before
you fallen asleep just relaxing the
focus of your attention from thoughts
and
perceptions remaining feeling yourself
as this open empty loving space of
awareness and then invite the feelings
to come out of their hiding place before
you fall
asleep make friends with these
feelings they're appearing in your
nightmares because they're they're
calling for your loving
attention so give them your loving
attention in the waking
State I I asked you about this actually
a few months ago I think fairly recently
in one of the Oxford
meetings I asked you about the tantri
approach um and and I asked you at the
time what's the difference between the
Tantra approach and just getting lost in
emotions and your response because is
the exact opposite it's devouring the
emotions but you remain as awareness and
you what
I've the the practice if we can call it
a practice that I just suggested now
would be the the first step towards
devouring your emotions so we haven't
got as far as devouring them I just
suggested lovingly inviting them out of
their hiding places in the subconscious
and just welcoming them just being the
the loving welcoming space of a
bringing them close kissing the toad
devouring that that would be the The
Next
Step I I didn't go that that far this
time just bringing them up into the open
empty loving space of awareness already
that that will make a big
difference how do I bring them
up just lie in bed at
night um or you can do it any time
during the day but at night's a good
time you you relax the focus of your
attention from its content mostly
thoughts and
perceptions and you feel that you are
this open empty loving space of
awareness and just just extend this
invitation Ju
Just just allow the deeper layers of
your
experience to Bubble Up to the surface
try and get in touch with the the
deepest feeling rather than being giving
your attention to your thoughts and
perceptions try and get in touch with
the deepest experience you're having at
that moment and just invite it to come
to come up and you you'll find that it's
a the the a well of feelings more and
more feelings will come up to the
surface so is it about relaxation and
sensitivity you because I have to relax
to let them come up and also I have to
be sensitive to even the most subtle
emotions yes relaxation and sensitivity
would be a part of it
yes but but if you're if you're if
you're feeling yourself as this open
empty loving space of awareness that
that by
definition is a a a position of
relaxation but I didn't I'm not
suggesting
relax relaxation is is the consequence
of what I'm suggesting I'm not just
saying relax it's more specific than
that it's feel understand but feel
yourself as the open empty loving space
of attention you can relax of awareness
you you can relax without feeling
yourself to be the open empty loving
space of awareness so although
relaxation is is one of the inevitable
consequences of feeling yourself as such
so know it's not enough to
relax
so it's also I know you said not to
investigate but I sort of associate that
also as a form of self investigation
like no no that's not investigation it's
it's not investigation it's it's a it's
more at the feeling
level I'm not saying there isn't a value
in investigating when you're
investigating you're investigating the
self on whose behalf your feelings arise
that's the lantic approach but we're not
doing that here and and these
deep-seated feelings are are kind of
immune to
investigation so feeling feeling and
sensing no not feeling and sensing
feeling that you are the open empty
loving space of
awareness and inviting your deepest
experiences to come up into that space
it's not about sensing the body or
feeling your emotions it's
about being knowingly
this loving open
awareness
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