12 Life Settings That F*ck Teens

Summary

This video script addresses 12 life settings that can sabotage teens' lives, offering solutions to enhance productivity and well-being. It covers phone distraction, procrastination, easy access to conveniences, power-hungry habits, and 'simp' dating behaviors. The speaker advises on finding purpose, managing energy, communicating effectively, and building a supportive community. The script also touches on avoiding isolation, comparison, poor body language, and toxic friendships, aiming to empower young men to make conscious choices for a better life.

Takeaways

• 📱 Use 'Assistive Access Mode' on your iPhone to simplify usage and reduce distractions.
• 🔄 Procrastination is common, but overcoming it can place you in the top 5%. List the costs of procrastination to motivate action.
• 🍔 'Easy Access Mode', where convenience is a click away, can lead to a sedentary lifestyle. Replace food delivery and taxi apps with more active options.
• 🔌 Be aware of 'Power Hungry Mode' in life, where certain activities drain your energy. Moderation is key to prevent burnout.
• 🤦‍♂️ 'Simp Mode' in dating can be off-putting. Follow five rules to improve dating habits and self-respect.
• ⚡️ Recognize 'High Power Mode' in life and learn to switch to 'Low Power Mode' to conserve energy and prevent exhaustion.
• 📶 'Data Roaming Mode' symbolizes aimlessness. Set clear goals and work towards them to find purpose.
• 🚫 'Silent Mode' can lead to isolation and depression. Open communication about problems is crucial for mental health.
• 🏙️ 'Isolation Mode' is common among men. Joining male-dominated communities can help combat loneliness.
• 📊 'Comparison Mode' can be detrimental. Compare yourself to the average for a more realistic and healthy perspective.
• 🚶‍♂️ 'Restricted Mode' is characterized by poor body language. Improve posture and eye contact to appear more confident and approachable.
• 🔗 'Hotspot Mode' can be positive when shared with supportive friends. Evaluate your friendships based on mutual support and energy exchange.

Q & A

What is the first life setting discussed in the script that can negatively impact a young person's life?

The first life setting discussed is 'Phone Distraction Mode', which refers to the way young people use their smartphones and get distracted by apps and notifications.

What is the third way to use a phone that is suggested to double productivity without distractions?

The third way to use a phone is by enabling 'Assistive Access Mode', which allows for a simplified version of the iPhone with only the necessary apps, reducing distractions.

According to the script, what percentage of people are said to procrastinate and what is the suggested solution?

The script states that 95% of people procrastinate. The suggested solution is to list all the costs associated with procrastination to understand its impact and motivate action.

What is 'Easy Access Mode' and how does it contribute to ruining one's life according to the script?

'Easy Access Mode' refers to the convenience of modern life where services like food delivery and taxi apps are readily available with a click. It contributes to a sedentary lifestyle and lack of personal effort.

Which five apps are suggested to be deleted to combat 'Easy Access Mode' and what habits should replace them?

The five apps to delete are food delivery, taxi service, dating, social media, and wallet apps. They should be replaced with habits like picking up takeout, walking or using public transport, meeting people in real life, reading, and using physical cash to avoid overspending.

What is 'Power Hungry Mode' and how can it be reduced in one's life?

'Power Hungry Mode' is when activities that consume a lot of one's life, such as alcohol, drugs, social media, and video games, are all engaged in simultaneously. It can be reduced by practicing moderation and being mindful of these draining activities.

What is 'Simp Mode' and what are the five dating rules suggested to turn it off?

'Simp Mode' refers to men chasing after women in a way that decreases their attractiveness. The five dating rules to turn it off include not settling for indecisive women, not abandoning friends for a partner, not paying to see a woman naked, not looking at a woman twice without approaching her, and taking her for a coffee date before a dinner.

What is 'High Power Mode' and how can it be switched off to conserve energy?

'High Power Mode' is a state of constant high energy output that can lead to burnout. It can be switched off by engaging in nature, going for walks while listening to music, and reducing stress levels.

What is 'Data Roaming Mode' and how can one find purpose to turn it off?

'Data Roaming Mode' is a state of aimlessness in life. To turn it off, one should identify and work towards achievable goals such as having a certain amount of savings, a part-time job, a healthy BMI, a good GPA, and physical fitness.

What is 'Silent Mode' and how can young men learn to turn it off to improve their mental health?

'Silent Mode' refers to not expressing one's problems and feelings. To turn it off, young men should write down their issues and make an effort to communicate them with the relevant people within 24 hours, or seek help from a licensed therapist.

What is 'Isolation Mode' and how can joining a community help to overcome it?

'Isolation Mode' is the feeling of loneliness and not being understood. Joining a community, especially sports teams or other male-dominated groups, can provide a sense of belonging and support to overcome isolation.

What is 'Comparison Mode' and how can one change their comparison habits to avoid feeling depressed?

'Comparison Mode' is the habit of comparing oneself to the best of the best, leading to feelings of depression. To change this, one should compare themselves to the average for their age group in various aspects of life to set more realistic goals.

What is 'Restricted Mode' and what are the body language tips to turn it off?

'Restricted Mode' refers to the limitations one's body language can impose on their social interactions. To turn it off, one should stand up straight, stand tall, look casual, appear confident, and maintain direct eye contact.

What is 'Hotspot Mode' and how should one manage their social circle to ensure positive energy exchange?

'Hotspot Mode' is when friends are draining one's energy without giving back. To manage this, one should evaluate their friends based on their reciprocal behavior, support, and genuine interest in one's well-being.

Outlines

00:00

📱 Overcoming Smartphone Distractions

The first paragraph discusses the impact of smartphones on productivity and introduces three types of smartphone users. The first type is easily distracted by their phones, the second tries to limit distractions by deleting apps but often redownloads them, and the third uses 'Assistive Access Mode' to simplify their phone use and stay focused. The speaker suggests setting up this mode for increased productivity. Additionally, the paragraph addresses procrastination, suggesting that by recognizing and listing the costs of procrastination, one can overcome it and join the top 5% who do not procrastinate.

05:02

🏃‍♂️ Combating Procrastination and Easy Access

The second paragraph continues the discussion on life-disrupting habits, focusing on 'easy access mode,' which refers to the convenience of modern services that can lead to complacency. The speaker recommends deleting certain apps like food delivery and replacing them with more active behaviors, such as picking up food oneself. Also mentioned is 'power hungry mode,' which parallels a phone's power consumption when running many apps simultaneously, suggesting that engaging in multiple draining activities can deplete one's energy and life quality. The paragraph concludes with a recommendation to use 'Better Help' for professional guidance in managing social pressures and developing healthier habits.

10:02

🤦‍♂️ Avoiding the 'Simp' Mode and High Power Mode

The third paragraph introduces 'simp mode,' where men chase after women without realizing it decreases their attractiveness. To counter this, five dating rules are provided to help men become more appealing. The concept of 'high power mode' is also discussed, drawing a parallel to a phone's power-saving mode, and suggesting that one should find ways to conserve energy to prevent burnout. The speaker proposes being in nature and listening to music as ways to achieve this. Lastly, the paragraph touches on the importance of having a sense of purpose and setting achievable goals, recommending the use of 'Better Help' for accountability and support in reaching those goals.

🗣️ Breaking the Silence and Finding Community

The fourth paragraph addresses the issue of 'silent mode,' where men do not express their problems, leading to feelings of loneliness and higher rates of suicide. The speaker encourages writing down issues and confronting them with the involved parties. If direct confrontation is uncomfortable, seeking help from a licensed therapist is suggested. The paragraph also introduces 'isolation mode,' discussing the importance of joining a male-dominated community for support and self-improvement. The speaker expresses a desire to create such a community, called 'The Institute,' which will offer real-life experiences and education for men to grow together.

🌐 Turning Off Comparison and Restrictive Modes

The fifth and final paragraph talks about 'comparison mode,' where men compare themselves to the best instead of the average, leading to depression. The speaker advises comparing oneself to the average for a more realistic and motivating goal. 'Restricted mode' is also discussed, which refers to poor body language that can limit a man's social success. To overcome this, the paragraph provides tips on improving body language. Lastly, 'hotspot mode' is introduced, which is about friends taking more than giving. The speaker suggests a checklist to evaluate friendships and recommends keeping only those friends who reciprocate and support each other.

Keywords

💡Phone distraction mode

Phone distraction mode refers to the state where an individual's attention is constantly drawn to their smartphone, leading to a lack of focus on more important tasks. In the video, it's described as a common pitfall for young men, where the phone is used either passively or actively, but the third way suggested is 'assistive access mode' which helps to simplify the phone's use and reduce distractions, thereby increasing productivity.

💡Procrastination

Procrastination is the act of delaying or postponing tasks or actions, often leading to reduced efficiency and increased stress. The video emphasizes that overcoming procrastination can place one in the top 5% of people, as 95% of individuals are said to procrastinate. The script suggests listing the long-term costs of procrastination to motivate oneself to avoid it.

💡Easy access mode

Easy access mode in the context of the video describes the convenience of modern technology that allows for minimal effort in fulfilling needs, such as food delivery apps and taxi services. However, the video argues that this convenience can be detrimental, promoting laziness and a lack of personal initiative, and suggests replacing these services with more active behaviors like walking or picking up food oneself.

💡Power hungry mode

Power hungry mode is a metaphor for activities or habits that consume a lot of one's energy or resources, leading to exhaustion or depletion. The video lists activities like excessive use of social media, alcohol, drugs, and video games as examples. It advises moderation and awareness of these activities to prevent them from draining one's life force.

💡Simp mode

Simp mode is a slang term used in the video to describe men who excessively pursue women, often to the point of devaluing themselves. To avoid this, the video provides five dating rules that promote self-respect and discourage behavior that could make one seem overly eager or desperate, such as not dropping friends to hang out with a romantic interest.

💡High power mode

High power mode is a concept that compares the constant operation of a phone at full capacity to a person's energy levels. The video suggests that without learning to switch to 'low power mode' by taking breaks and conserving energy, one risks burnout. It recommends activities like spending time in nature and listening to music to achieve this state of reduced energy consumption.

💡Data roaming mode

Data roaming mode is used to illustrate a life without purpose or direction, where one drifts aimlessly. The video advises finding purpose by setting and working towards achievable goals, such as financial savings, physical fitness, or academic performance, to avoid the negative impacts of aimlessness.

💡Silent mode

Silent mode in the video refers to the tendency of men to keep their problems to themselves, not communicating their issues, which can lead to feelings of loneliness and depression. The script encourages writing down problems and addressing them with the relevant people or seeking professional help through therapy to break this silence and improve mental health.

💡Isolation mode

Isolation mode describes the state of feeling lonely and disconnected from others. The video suggests joining male-dominated communities or sports teams to combat this feeling. It also introduces 'The Institute,' an online community aimed at providing real-life experiences and education to bring men together and foster personal growth.

💡Comparison mode

Comparison mode is the act of measuring oneself against others, which can often lead to feelings of inadequacy. The video recommends comparing oneself to the average of one's peer group rather than exceptional individuals to set more realistic goals and avoid unnecessary stress and depression.

💡Restricted mode

Restricted mode pertains to the limitations one imposes on themselves through poor body language, which can hinder social interactions and attractiveness. The video provides tips on improving body language, such as standing straight, maintaining eye contact, and adopting confident poses, to 'turn off' restricted mode and become more open and appealing.

💡Hotspot mode

Hotspot mode is a metaphor for relationships where one's energy or resources are being drained by others without reciprocation. The video advises keeping this mode 'on' with the right people, suggesting a checklist to evaluate friendships based on mutual support and engagement. It encourages turning off this mode with those who do not contribute positively to one's life.

Highlights

Phone distraction mode can be managed by using assistive access mode to simplify iPhone usage and increase productivity.

Procrastination is common, but overcoming it can place you in the top 5%; listing the costs of procrastination can help combat it.

Easy access mode, facilitated by apps for food delivery and transportation, can lead to a sedentary lifestyle and should be moderated.

Power hungry mode in life, similar to a phone, drains energy and should be managed in moderation to avoid burnout.

Simp mode in dating can be detrimental; five rules are provided to help improve dating habits and self-respect.

High power mode in life should be balanced with low power mode activities like nature walks to conserve energy and prevent burnout.

Data roaming mode symbolizes aimless living; setting goals and working towards them can provide purpose and direction.

Silent mode can lead to isolation and poor mental health; addressing issues directly with those involved can alleviate this.

Isolation mode can be combated by joining male-dominated communities or sports teams for camaraderie and self-improvement.

The Institute is an online community aimed at providing real-life experience-driven education for men to improve together.

Comparison mode can be harmful; comparing oneself to the average for one's age group can provide more realistic goals.

Restricted mode due to poor body language can be limiting; improving posture and eye contact can help overcome this.

Hotspot mode in friendships should be evaluated; maintaining relationships that are mutually supportive is key.

Turning off 12 life settings can lead to significant improvements in productivity, mental health, and overall success.

BetterHelp is recommended for professional guidance in managing social pressures and developing skills to improve life settings.

The importance of accountability in achieving goals, suggesting the use of services like BetterHelp for support and tracking.

A checklist is provided to evaluate friendships and decide whether to keep 'hotspot mode' on or off with certain individuals.

Transcripts

here are 12 life settings that screw

teens up which means you're ruining your

life before it even begins starting with

number one phone distraction mode most

young men will use your iPhone one of

two ways without realizing that there is

a third way that will double your

productivity without ever being

distracted the first type of guy will

use his phone as normal allowing the

phone to distract the second type of guy

is the guy that actually tries so he'll

delete the apps that take most of his

time but let's be real you always end up

redownloading them in the future however

the third type of guy will use something

called assistive access mode this will

allow you to use your phone without ever

being distracted so to do this you will

go into your settings accessibility and

then assistive access you're going to

tap to set up assistive access and then

follow the steps which will now allow

you to use a simplified version of your

iPhone with only the apps you actually

want making you much more productive

number two procrastination mode look

you're not alone according to research

95% of people procrastinate this this is

a good thing because it means that if

you as a young guy can help overcome

procrastination you're already in the

top 5% now this research was published

in science direct and what they found is

that the biggest reason for

procrastination is that you do it

because it comes without an immediate

cost now this is great because what they

then found is that one of the best ways

to overcome procrastination is for you

to sit down and now list all the costs

that involve every time you

procrastinate let me give you an example

of this if you're for example putting

off your homework or that project at

work I want you to sit down and start

listing everything that is costing you

every day you procrastinate this

includes getting a worse grade which

leads to a lower GPA which then leads to

having trouble finding a good job or

Landing a low paining job which will

then lead to having more trouble

attracting high quality women all

because you're still in procrastination

mode now within seconds you have now

just turned off two bat settings in your

Life phone distraction mode and

procrastination mode with just those two

you're going to feel like you have more

time and energy but there's still 10

more settings that are completely

destroying your life let's moves on to

number three easy access mode think

about it in the past when you were

hungry you would have to get up you

would have to go out and hunt for your

food and then carry that back and cook

it today all you got to do is pull out

your phone and your favorite meal gets

delivered to you in minutes the only

work you have to do is a click of a

button this is easy access mode and it

is ruining your life so I'm going to

show you the five apps you need to

delete and stop using and The Five

Habits you should replace them with

first we have food delivery apps I want

you to replace that with you getting up

and going to pick up your takeout second

we have taxi service apps I want you to

replace that with either walking or

taking public transportation third I

want you to get rid of all dating apps

and replace that with approaching women

in real life fourth I want you to

replace your social media apps with

reading apps to build better focus and

fifth I want you to replace your wallet

app with physical cash to avoid you

overspending number four is power hungry

mode when your phone has all its

applications open it's in power hungry

mode causing your battery to drain that

much faster the same principle applies

to your life those things that consume

the most out of your life are what

drains you and ruins you for example

alcohol drugs social media pornography

and video games now what I'm not telling

you to eliminate these from your life

but it's important to realize that when

you enter power hungry mode and you're

doing all of these together like you

have them all open you're going to drain

yourself and ruin your life the best

thing you can do is reduce them in

moderation now the difficult part is to

do this when you have the peer pressure

of your friends dragging you to do it

even more this is why I recommend to

reaching out to somebody like today

sponsor better help through better help

you will be connected to professional

who will help you navigate the social

pressures you're facing while also help

you develop the skill sets you need to

reduce these power hungry habits to

learn more you can go to betterhelp.com

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description number five simp mode most

men will chase after women their whole

life without without realizing that the

more they chase the less interested the

women becomes in you so I'm going to

give you five rules for dating that will

help you turn off simp mode rule one if

a girl can't decide between you and

another man stop talking to her rule

number two never drop your friends to

hang out with your girl rule three never

pay to see a girl naked both in person

or online rule four never look at a girl

twice if you have no intentions of

approaching her and rule number five

take her to a coffee date first before

you ever buy her dinner you start doing

these you will turn off SI mode

immediately this takes us to number six

high power mode when your phone has been

running in high capacity all day long

you will likely switch it to low power

mode to save on battery well the exact

same thing can be said about your energy

if you don't learn how to shut off high

power mode into low power mode you're

going to burn out in ruining your life

so to switch off high power mode in real

life I need you to do three steps first

be a nature then go on a walk while

listening to your favorite music now

scientific

all of these have been proven to reduce

your stress level when you combine them

all at once it becomes a powerful

mechanism to turn off high power mode in

your life and go into low power mode and

conserve energy number seven data

roaming mode you see most men will roam

through life without any purpose and

when men don't have purpose it's so easy

to lack motivation and turn to things

like drugs alcohol and women so I'm

going to show you a simple way to find

purpose and turn off data roaming mode

to start I want you to look at five

things every young man should have after

I reveal this list to you I want you to

pick any of these whichever one

interests you the most that you also

don't have and I want you to start

working towards it and once you achieve

it I want you to replace it for another

one that's in this list so first every

guy should have at least $11,000 in

savings second every guy should have a

part-time job third every guy should

have a BMI under 25 fourth every guy

should have a GPA over a three fifth

every guy should be able to do at least

40 push-ups now when it comes to goals

it's all about accountability and if you

can't count on your friends then use a

service like better health because as

soon as you talk about your goals with

another person especially somebody you

can trust somebody you feel safe with

you will now be held accountable because

you've already said them out loud and it

can also help you keep you on track so

essentially it's like having somebody in

your quarter 24/7 you can reach out

whenever whether it's through a video

call phone call or through text message

whatever feels comfortable and because

they have thousands of therapists you

can always switch out therapists until

you find somebody you truly feel good

with this takes us to number eight

silent mode men commit suicide more than

women in 99% of the countries one of the

biggest reasons for this is that we're

always on silent mode meaning we don't

even know how to talk about our problems

and this as a young man if you don't

learn how to turn it off will ruin your

life so I want you to sit down and write

down everything that's annoying you with

your family with your teachers with your

relationships then I want you to make it

a goal for you to bring up any of these

issues with the people you have the

issue with in the next 24 hours just

doing that will help eliminate the drain

that you feel of carrying these problems

and in the process you'll become much

healthier and happier and the more you

do it the better you'll get at it now if

you truly find it uncomfortable to

confront your friends your family or or

your girl about any of the issues you

face with or simply just don't know how

to approach it again this is where

talking to a licensed therapist can

really help you having somebody like

this in your corner can help you think

through these issues better and help you

formulate them so you do know how to

approach these people again if you guys

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going to be linked down below but by

this point you've already turned off

smartphone mode procrastination mode

easy access mode power hungry mode simp

mode high power mode data roaming mode

in silent mode you've turned off eight

terrible settings that most young guys

will never figure out how to solve but

there are four last settings I need you

to turn off before it's too late and you

end up ruining your life this takes us

to number nine isolation mode according

to research 2/3 of men feel lonely and

as if no one really knows them now to

fix this you're going to want to join

some sort of community that's dominated

by men and are always looking to improve

themselves and the best places for this

are sports team especially if you're in

school now according from a study from

2021 the most highly male dominated

Sports in order are are soccer baseball

basketball track and field and in first

place football but if you're not in

school or maybe you just don't like

sports you still need a community and

this is where it gets difficult finding

a community of men so you no longer feel

lonely till this day I haven't been able

to find one and this leads me to

something that I'm itching I've been

dying to share with you guys for a while

because that's exactly what I want to

build a community where men no longer

feel lonely and instead con constantly

improve themselves actually that's what

we've been building over the last 12

months we've been working hard on

something called The Institute an online

community where traditional learning in

a classroom it'll take a backseat over

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now the core offering here is a

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and learn from around the world now

we're still working through this and I'm

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information is coming and spots will be

limited this takes us to number 10

comparison mode comparing yourself to

other it's a great way to motivate

yourself the problem however is that

most men will compare themselves to the

best of the best this is what leads them

to feeling depressed so here's how you

change that instead of focusing on the

achievements of the best guys in the

world I need you to start comparing

yourself to the average

for your age group for example if you're

in school I want you to go to a website

called GPA standards and see what

standard or average is for your age

group if you want to compare yourself

with physical fitness you can go to

strength standard find a workout and see

what the average is for your specific

weight class this will provide you a

more realistic goal to beat and it will

no longer drain you number 11 restricted

mode you see the quality of a man is

restricted by his body language a man

with poor body language he's restricted

he's not going to get much attention

from women however a man with great body

language he turned restriction mode off

and he's going to get all the attention

he's looking for so here's how I want

you to turn off restricted mode first

stand up straight pull your shoulders

back and down second Stand Tall by

raising your head almost as if somebody

is pulling you up by a string third look

casual by leaning and putting most of

your weight on one leg fourth look

Confident by putting your arms on your

hips like a Superman pose or behind your

back back and fifth always maintain

direct eye contact and never look away

number 12 hotspot mode think about it

when you have your Hotpot turn out in

your phone you're basically sharing your

your data your internet with all your

friends when you're in Hot Spot mode in

your real life all your friends are

draining your energy they always take

and never give now unlike all the other

settings in this video this is the one

setting I actually want you to keep it

on but only with the right people so I'm

going to give you a quick checklist of

questions to know whether you should

keep your friends around or not first if

you ever buy your buddy food do they

offer to buy you food the next time next

do they ask you to hang out as much as

you ask them to hang out do they come to

your house as much as you come to their

house build you up when you're around

the girl they know you like and do they

ask about how you're doing as much as

they talk about themselves if you

answered yes to three or more of these

then they're worth keeping around three

or less turn hotspot mode off around

those type of people but if you listen

to me and switch up all these 12

settings in your life you're going to be

more successful than everybody else that

doesn't even realize all these settings

are ruining them