This Is How Women Fall in Love (Explained)

Summary

In this video, the speaker explains the process by which women fall in love, emphasizing two key principles: time and investment. He compares women to 'barbecue brisket,' requiring time to 'cook' emotionally, while men tend to fall for women quickly. The speaker breaks down investment into three types: compliance (getting her to agree), mental rumination (keeping her thinking about you), and temporal investment (spending time together). Understanding these elements helps men build attraction by creating emotional bonds and making women invest in them over time.

Takeaways

• 😀 A woman needs time to fall in love; it’s a gradual process, unlike the quick attraction that men often experience.
• 😀 Investment is crucial for emotional chemistry to develop; the more a woman invests in a man, the more she values and desires him.
• 😀 Compliance is key for creating investment; starting with simple requests can lead to deeper emotional attachment over time.
• 😀 Men should not rush or be overly eager when interacting with women. Patience and taking time help in building attraction.
• 😀 The more a woman thinks about you (mental rumination), the deeper her emotional connection will become.
• 😀 Temporal investment (spending time together) helps build emotional attachment, but should not be the only method used.
• 😀 Women prefer men who take the lead, setting the rhythm for the relationship while they respond.
• 😀 There are three levels of compliance: requests, demands, and taken compliance, each building on the previous one to increase investment.
• 😀 Simple compliance requests are easy for a woman to agree to and serve as a stepping stone for further investment.
• 😀 Asking women to do tasks or leaving them with questions about you can increase their mental rumination and make them think about you more.
• 😀 Emotional investment increases when a woman feels emotionally engaged, not just physically present, and when her efforts are reciprocated.

Q & A

Why is time an essential factor for a woman to fall in love?

Time is crucial because, like a barbecue brisket, a woman needs time to emotionally 'cook' and develop feelings. Unlike men, who may fall quickly, women need a longer process to feel emotionally connected and invested.

What does the analogy between 'instant ramen' and 'barbecue brisket' represent?

The analogy explains the difference between how quickly men and women develop feelings. Men tend to fall quickly, like instant ramen, whereas women need more time to build emotional chemistry, similar to how a barbecue brisket takes hours to cook.

How does 'investment' play a role in a woman’s attraction to a man?

Investment is a key factor in emotional attraction. The more time, effort, or energy a woman invests in a man, the more attached and desirous she becomes. This can include emotional, physical, and mental investment.

What is the common mistake most men make when trying to attract women?

Most men try to make things easy for women by doing everything for them—buying dinner, opening doors, etc. This undermines emotional investment, as women don’t feel the need to invest in a relationship where everything is handed to them.

What are 'compliance requests' and how should they be used?

Compliance requests are simple, polite asks that encourage a woman to engage with you. They’re best used by beginners or when interacting with dominant women. They help establish an initial investment without feeling demanding.

What is the difference between 'compliance requests' and 'compliance demands'?

Compliance requests are polite and less direct, while compliance demands are more assertive and require a woman to follow specific instructions. Moving from requests to demands can deepen emotional investment.

What is 'taken compliance' and why is it important?

'Taken compliance' occurs when a man takes action, like holding a woman's hand or initiating physical closeness. This demonstrates leadership and control, helping to escalate the emotional connection and attraction.

How can 'mental rumination' contribute to emotional investment?

Mental rumination happens when a woman thinks about you constantly. You can trigger this by giving her tasks, keeping some mystery about yourself, or engaging her curiosity, all of which lead her to invest emotionally over time.

What role does 'mystery' play in a woman’s attraction to a man?

Mystery is crucial because it keeps a woman intrigued. If a man is too easy to figure out, he becomes boring. By keeping some things unclear and allowing her to ponder, you encourage emotional investment and fascination.

How does 'temporal investment' affect a woman’s feelings over time?

Temporal investment refers to the time a woman spends with a man. While it’s passive compared to other forms of investment, it’s still significant. The more time she spends with him, the more emotionally invested she becomes, especially in long-term relationships.

What should men understand about leadership in the context of attraction?

Leadership in attraction is about guiding the interaction, taking the lead, and encouraging the woman to invest in you. A man who shows leadership makes a woman feel more feminine and connected, which increases her desire for him.