Ngaji Jomblo 07: Menikah Karena Allah Atau Modus Pacaran Syariah

Summary

In this video, the speaker emphasizes the importance of building relationships based on faith and adherence to Islamic teachings. They stress that love and marriage should be pursued for the sake of Allah, not driven by personal desires. The speaker advises against dating and physical closeness outside marriage, urging viewers to end any unhealthy relationships. They highlight the significance of seeking a spouse who shares a commitment to Allah’s commands and building a relationship rooted in piety. The message centers on seeking Allah's guidance for a blessed, fulfilling marriage.

Takeaways

• 😀 Love and marriage should be based on faith in Allah, prioritizing Him over personal desires.
• 😀 Relationships that start with actions that contradict Islamic teachings, such as khalwat (being alone with someone who is not a mahram), should be ended.
• 😀 True love means loving someone for the sake of Allah, not for personal gains or because they bring one closer to Allah.
• 😀 Marriage is a serious commitment, and pursuing relationships based on casual dating or improper means leads to a flawed foundation.
• 😀 Islam provides a clear path to finding a spouse, one that does not involve casual relationships or dating, but instead focuses on devotion to Allah.
• 😀 Individuals should seek a partner who is devout and shares a commitment to Allah, trusting that Allah will bring the right partner at the right time.
• 😀 Relationships built on improper actions (like private conversations without a valid reason) can lead to attachment and are considered prohibited (khalwat).
• 😀 The concept of khalwat is not limited to physical spaces but extends to virtual spaces, like text messages and calls, when they lead to inappropriate attachment.
• 😀 It’s important to break off relationships that go against Islamic principles before pursuing marriage, as a pure foundation is essential for a blessed marriage.
• 😀 By prioritizing love for Allah above everything else, Allah will guide individuals toward the right spouse who will also love and respect Allah.

Q & A

What is the speaker's main advice regarding dating?

The speaker advises against dating or 'pacaran' as it is considered sinful in Islam. He encourages individuals to end such relationships in order to begin a marriage that aligns with Allah's commands.

What is the concept of 'love because of Allah' as discussed in the script?

'Love because of Allah' means prioritizing Allah's commands above all else. This approach encourages individuals to love others for their devotion to Allah, ensuring that relationships are rooted in faith and obedience to Allah, rather than personal desires.

Why does the speaker discourage relationships that begin with actions against Islamic teachings?

The speaker believes that relationships starting with sinful actions, such as engaging in khalwat (being alone with someone who is not a mahram), will lead to negative outcomes and cannot be part of a successful, blessed marriage.

What is khalwat, and why is it discouraged?

Khalwat refers to a situation where a man and a woman who are not mahrams (close family members) are alone in a private space. This is discouraged in Islam because it can lead to temptation and is considered sinful.

How does the speaker explain the idea of marriage in Islam?

Marriage in Islam should be based on a shared devotion to Allah. The speaker emphasizes that love should be rooted in love for Allah, and that individuals should seek a spouse who is obedient to Allah, as this ensures a marriage that is spiritually fulfilling.

What does the speaker say about the practice of 'chatting' with someone of the opposite gender?

The speaker clarifies that chatting with the opposite gender is permissible if there is a legitimate reason, such as discussing a work-related matter. However, any conversation that leads to private, flirtatious exchanges is considered inappropriate and sinful.

How does the speaker differentiate between permissible communication and improper 'modus'?

Permissible communication involves having a valid reason, such as business or official matters. 'Modus' refers to manipulative or inappropriate interactions where one person is attempting to form a relationship for the wrong reasons, often disguised as casual communication.

What does the speaker recommend for individuals currently in a relationship that does not follow Islamic guidelines?

The speaker advises individuals to break off any relationship that does not align with Islamic teachings, particularly if it involves behaviors such as khalwat or actions contrary to Allah’s commands. He stresses that relationships founded on sin cannot lead to a blessed marriage.

How does the speaker suggest people should approach finding a spouse?

The speaker recommends that individuals look for a spouse who is devoted to Allah, rather than pursuing relationships based on romantic desire or worldly attachment. Marriage should be pursued with the intention of honoring Allah, not through methods like dating or 'pacaran'.

What is the importance of repentance in starting a relationship according to the speaker?

Repentance is crucial because starting a relationship that is not in line with Islamic teachings, such as one that involves sinful actions, contaminates the foundation of the marriage. The speaker advises individuals to cleanse themselves through repentance before pursuing a relationship that is pleasing to Allah.