What I Learned After Approaching 500 Girls

Summary

In this video, the creator shares insights from approaching 500 women over three months, leading to 12 dates and one ongoing relationship. He outlines five key lessons learned about dating, focusing on appearance, the importance of body language and signals, and how women categorize men into three 'tiers.' He emphasizes that dating is often a numbers game, with success depending on matching women's preferences. The video also critiques societal expectations around dating, claiming that many women prefer to meet highly attractive men in real life while turning to dating apps for 'better' matches.

Takeaways

• 😀 The speaker cold-approached 500 girls over 3 months in public spaces and went on 12 dates, with the goal of finding a serious relationship.
• 😅 He emphasizes that he didn't approach women to 'mess around' but was genuinely seeking love and a potential family in the future.
• 😎 Looks are the most important factor in the success of these approaches. Face, height, age, and race are key, and approaching women outside one's 'league' leads to failure.
• 🤷‍♂️ What is said during an approach doesn't matter much; it's more about numbers and persistence. On average, he needed 5 approaches for 1 number and 10 numbers for 1 date.
• 🤔 Women categorize men into 3 tiers: happy you approached and want to know you, happy you approached but don't want to know you, and unhappy you approached.
• 🙅‍♂️ Single women were more likely to be dry and disinterested during approaches, while women with boyfriends were generally more polite and receptive.
• 📱 Online dating was more effective for arranging dates than real-life approaches, with apps yielding better results despite methodical efforts in public.
• 😬 He observed a strong correlation between women preferring to meet 'Chads' (highly attractive men) in real life and online, despite claiming they want to meet men offline.
• 😔 Many women who gave numbers didn't follow up, and those who initially seemed interested often ghosted after seeing the speaker with other girls or exploring online options.
• 📖 He has written a book titled *The BP Bible* that shares his experiences and insights, offering advice on navigating the dating world as a man.

Q & A

What was the main purpose of the speaker's experiment with cold approaching 500 girls?

The speaker's main purpose was to find a serious relationship, as he has long-term desires to start a family. He approached each date with the intention of finding love and learning from his experiences.

How successful was the speaker in terms of dates and relationships from the 500 cold approaches?

Out of 500 cold approaches, the speaker went on 12 dates and is now consistently seeing one of the girls who may become his girlfriend.

What was the speaker's conclusion about the importance of looks when approaching women?

The speaker concluded that looks are the most important factor in attracting women during cold approaches. He emphasized that facial appearance, height, age, hairline, and race play a major role in determining success.

What did the speaker learn about the role of what you say during an approach?

The speaker learned that what you say during an approach doesn't matter as much. Cold approaches are more of a numbers game, and success depends more on the woman's initial 'choosing signals' than on the specific words used.

What are the three tiers of responses the speaker observed from women during his cold approaches?

The speaker categorized women's responses into three tiers: (1) happy you approached and want to get to know you, (2) happy you approached but not interested in getting to know you, and (3) unhappy you approached and don't want to know you.

What advice does the speaker offer about approaching women who give 'B tier' signals?

The speaker advises not to waste time on women giving 'B tier' signals because there is a 99% chance they will flake. He recommends focusing on women giving 'A or S tier' signals for better chances of getting a date.

What correlation did the speaker find between a woman’s relationship status and her reaction to being approached?

The speaker observed that women in relationships tended to be more polite and receptive to his approaches, while single women were often more dry or hostile. He attributed this to selection bias, suggesting that pleasant women are more likely to already be in relationships.

What does the speaker believe women mean when they say they want to meet men in real life?

The speaker believes that when women say they want to meet men in real life, they are actually referring to wanting to meet highly attractive men, or 'Chads,' rather than average men.

What did the speaker learn from a girl who seemed interested in him during a cold approach but later flaked?

The speaker learned that even when a girl gives strong 'S tier' signals during an approach and date, she may still prefer to look for a 'Chad' online. This realization came when he saw the same girl, who initially claimed she wasn’t on dating apps, later appear on Tinder.

What is the speaker promoting at the end of the video, and what does it offer?

The speaker is promoting his book, 'The BP Bible: The Ten Commandments of How Dating is Rigged Against Men and What You Can Do About It.' The book and its accompanying materials offer insights into the speaker’s experiences and research, as well as strategies for navigating modern dating.