8 Charts That Will Change The Way You See Dating

Summary

The video explores how men and women perceive attractiveness on dating platforms like OKCupid, Match, and Tinder. It discusses differences in standards for casual hookups, the high importance of physical attractiveness for both genders, and how attractiveness correlates with online dating success. The video also delves into the effects of age, occupation, height, and neuroticism on dating and relationships. It concludes by highlighting the significant role of physical appearance and other factors like social status in shaping the modern dating landscape.

Takeaways

• 📊 Men perceive women's attractiveness following a bell curve, with the majority rating women as average (3 out of 5).
• 🚹 Only one in six men are considered above average by women, suggesting a skewed perception in dating standards.
• 🔍 The perception of male attractiveness by women varies significantly based on the context of the dating platform, becoming stricter for more casual encounters.
• 📚 Data from OK Cupid, Match.com, and Tinder reveal that women's standards for casual dating are higher compared to serious dating.
• 🤔 The study indicates that women's higher standards in casual dating might be a response to the additional risks they face in such scenarios.
• 💃 In speed dating settings, physical attractiveness is the most valued trait by women, with a strong correlation to positive responses.
• 💼 Men's social status, particularly their occupation, plays a significant role in their perceived attractiveness, independent of income.
• 🔝 The most attractive men on dating platforms are those in the top 5% of physical attractiveness, demonstrating an exponential effect on dating success.
• 👵 Men's and women's desirability peaks at different ages, with men consistently preferring younger women, while women's preferences shift slightly as they age.
• 🤝 Both men and women have similar preferences for height in potential partners, with both genders generally preferring partners of similar or greater height.
• 💔 Women initiate a majority of divorces, and this trend is consistent across different types of relationships, potentially linked to higher neuroticism in women.

Q & A

How do men perceive women's attractiveness according to the bell curve mentioned in the script?

Men perceive women's attractiveness on a standard bell curve, with the average rating being 2.83 out of 5, and the most common rating being three.

What does the script suggest about the attractiveness standards of women on dating sites?

The script suggests that women's standards for men increase as the dating site becomes more casual, indicating that higher standards are applied for casual intimacy.

What does the 'Dataclysm' book by Christian Rudder reveal about the differences in how men and women view each other's attractiveness?

The book 'Dataclysm' summarizes data from OK Cupid, revealing that men and women have different perceptions of each other's attractiveness, with women's standards varying based on the nature of the dating site.

How does the script describe the correlation between physical attractiveness and the perceived attractiveness of a profile on online dating sites?

The script describes a strong correlation between physical attractiveness and the perceived attractiveness of a profile on online dating sites, with a correlation coefficient of 0.92 from OK Cupid data.

What was the average distribution of points women assigned to different traits in the 2016 speed dating study mentioned in the script?

In the 2016 speed dating study, women assigned points to six traits, giving all attributes near even value, indicating that they initially considered all traits to be of similar importance.

What did the actual distribution of points assigned by women during the speed dating event reveal about their preferences?

The actual distribution of points assigned by women during the speed dating event revealed that physical attractiveness was by far the most important attribute, with a correlation coefficient of 0.801.

How does the script explain the exponential effect of attractiveness on online dating?

The script explains that the effect of attractiveness on online dating is exponential, with the top 5% of men being seen as more than twice as desirable as a 90th percentile man, and each percentile making a bigger difference the closer one gets to the top.

What role does a man's social status play in his perceived attractiveness according to the 'what makes you click' study?

According to the 'what makes you click' study, a man's social status, particularly his occupation, plays a significant role in his perceived attractiveness, with some industries boosting attractiveness more than others.

How do men's and women's preferences for age change as they get older, as described in the script?

Men's preferences for age do not change much as they age, consistently being most interested in women aged 20 to 22. However, women's preferences do change, with older women starting to prefer dating men slightly younger than when they were younger.

What does the script suggest about the relationship between height preferences and gender in dating?

The script suggests that both men and women prefer dating partners of similar height, with men preferring women shorter than themselves and women preferring men taller than themselves.

How does the script explain the high percentage of divorces initiated by women?

The script explains the high percentage of divorces initiated by women by suggesting that women are more sensitive to negative emotions due to higher neuroticism, which makes them more likely to initiate divorce.