Social Media Corrupts Human Interactions | Cherry Healey | Part 5 of 6
Summary
TLDRCherry Healing, a mother of two, candidly discusses the impact of social media on personal value and human interaction. She humorously admits to being swayed by follower counts and shares her struggle with feeling left out, leading to a decision to leave Facebook. Healing emphasizes the importance of being present, especially with children, and the challenges posed by the constant need for social media validation. She calls for a more mindful approach to using technology, to ensure it enhances rather than corrupts our connections and to model this for the next generation.
Takeaways
- 😀 The speaker, Cherry Healing, is a mother of two children, Bear and Coco, and admits to being influenced by social media numbers.
- 🤔 Cherry discusses the struggle with social media, feeling unvaluable and disconnected from others, and her decision to leave Facebook.
- 📱 She acknowledges the positive aspects of social media, such as providing connection during lonely times, but also recognizes its addictive nature.
- 👀 Cherry emphasizes the importance of being present in the moment, which is difficult due to the constant pull of social media and technology.
- 👨👧👦 As a parent, Cherry is concerned about the impact of her social media habits on her children and the example she sets for them.
- 🚫 She highlights the need for setting boundaries with technology, as it can corrupt human interaction and lead to impatience and disconnection.
- 💬 Cherry mentions the internet as a lifeline for some, but stresses the importance of controlling its influence to ensure it doesn't overshadow real-life experiences.
- 📝 The speaker calls for a demonstration of self-soothing and being with oneself, as a way to model healthy behavior for children.
- 🔍 Cherry sought opinions from the internet about the impact of technology on human interaction, and the responses indicated a general consensus that it has corrupted interaction.
- 💔 She shares anecdotes from people who feel they have wasted time scrolling and wish they could give that time back to their children.
- 🌐 Lastly, Cherry Healing concludes with the idea that while the internet can be beneficial, it's crucial to manage its role in our lives to maintain genuine human connections.
Q & A
Who is Cherry Healing and what is her profession?
-Cherry Healing is a 36-year-old mother of two children, Bear and Coco. The script does not explicitly state her profession, but it is implied that she is a social media influencer with a significant following on platforms like Instagram and Facebook.
What is Cherry Healing's perspective on social media numbers?
-Cherry Healing admits to being impressed by social media numbers, even though she is not proud of it. She finds it vexing and wishes she was stronger and a better person for not being swayed by such metrics.
Why did Cherry Healing decide to leave Facebook?
-Cherry Healing felt unvaluable and discontent after seeing her friends' posts on Facebook, which made her feel left out and isolated. To avoid missing out on her daughter's life, she decided to leave Facebook.
What was Cherry's experience after leaving Facebook?
-After leaving Facebook, Cherry experienced a terrifying moment of uncertainty, but she found out that her life continued as normal. Her best friend still called her, and they continued to enjoy social activities like having margaritas and nachos on Friday nights.
How does Cherry describe the impact of social media on her life as a mother?
-Cherry describes social media as a lifeline, especially during the lonely hours of breastfeeding at odd hours. It connects her to the world and makes her feel less alone.
What does Cherry Healing find challenging about being present in the moment?
-Cherry Healing finds it difficult to be present in the moment because of the constant pull of social media for quick hits of interest and excitement. This makes her impatient and less engaged with her children and others around her.
What is Cherry's opinion on the importance of being present for her children?
-Cherry believes that being present is critically important for her children. She acknowledges that her children learn from her and that she needs to demonstrate the value of being present and not constantly distracted by technology.
How does Cherry view the impact of social media on human interaction?
-Cherry views social media as having a corrupting influence on human interaction. It has led to a need for creating boundaries and policing behavior, which she sees as a sign of its negative impact.
What did the internet users tell Cherry about the impact of social media on human interaction?
-The internet users Cherry asked confirmed her belief that social media has corrupted human interaction. Some shared stories of becoming impatient, wasting time, and feeling the need to limit their social media use.
What does Cherry want for her daughter in terms of dealing with solitude?
-Cherry wants her daughter to be able to be with herself, to experience silence, and to learn self-soothing. She does not want her daughter to constantly run away from herself and seeks to model this behavior for her.
How does Cherry feel about the societal changes brought about by the internet and social media?
-Cherry feels that the internet and social media have led to a loss of certain human interactions, such as handwritten letters and face-to-face arguments. She believes that while it can be a lifeline for some, it is important to control its influence on our lives.
Outlines
🤳 Social Media's Impact on Self-Worth
Cherry Healing, a 36-year-old mother of two, opens up about her struggle with social media's influence on her self-esteem. She humorously introduces herself and her family, then candidly admits to feeling unimportant and uncool when comparing her life to the seemingly perfect lives of her friends on Facebook. Despite having a fulfilling life, she experiences a sense of isolation and depression. In an effort to not miss out on her children's lives, she makes the bold move of leaving Facebook, which she describes as a terrifying yet ultimately positive experience. She acknowledges her love for the internet and social networking, but also recognizes the need to separate from the negative impacts of social media.
🌐 The Internet as a Lifeline and Distraction
Cherry discusses the double-edged sword of the internet, highlighting its role as a lifeline for those who are isolated, such as new mothers or those who are ill. However, she also points out the downsides of constant connectivity, such as the difficulty of being truly present in the moment due to the constant pull of social media. She talks about the addictive nature of these platforms and how they can disrupt genuine human interaction, leading to impatience and a lack of depth in conversations. Cherry admits her own struggles with being present with her children and the impact it has on them, emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries and being mindful of how technology affects our relationships.
🔒 Regaining Control Over Technology
In the final paragraph, Cherry emphasizes the need to take control of our relationship with technology, especially for the sake of our children. She stresses the importance of teaching kids to be comfortable with silence and introspection, as this ability to be with oneself is crucial for emotional health. Cherry acknowledges the challenges of this endeavor, admitting her own temptation to check her phone. She calls for a demonstration of self-soothing and mindfulness as a way to model healthy behavior for the next generation, aiming to counteract the tendency to escape from oneself through constant digital stimulation.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Social Media
💡Presence
💡Dopamine
💡Isolation
💡Disconnect
💡Self-Esteem
💡Parenting
💡Addiction
💡Authenticity
💡Self-Soothing
💡Boundaries
Highlights
Cherry Healing, a mother of two, discusses the impact of social media on personal value and presence.
Cherry admits to being impressed by social media follower counts, despite not being proud of it.
She humorously describes her life and family, including her children named Bear and Coco, and her cats, Party Time and Ruby.
Cherry shares her experience of feeling isolated and uncool after seeing friends' social media posts.
In 2013, after the birth of her second child, she felt disconnected from her social media friends.
Cherry's decision to leave Facebook to avoid missing out on her daughter's life.
The fear and relief experienced when disconnecting from social media.
Cherry's appreciation for the internet and social networking, especially during late-night breastfeeding sessions.
The struggle with being present in the moment due to the constant pull of social media.
Cherry calls for a need to be more present with each other and with our children.
She acknowledges the addictive nature of social media, comparing it to substances harder to break than alcohol and cigarettes.
Cherry asks the internet about its impact on human interaction and receives mixed responses.
The internet suggests that social media has corrupted human interaction, making people impatient and disconnected.
Cherry emphasizes the importance of teaching children to be with themselves and not constantly seek external stimulation.
The need for boundaries and self-policing behavior in the digital age.
Cherry's personal challenge to model being present for her children and to limit her own phone use.
The speech concludes with a call to action for controlling our digital habits to foster healthier human connections.
Transcripts
[Music]
I now look to Cherry healing to close
the case for a
proposition sort myself out so hi
everyone thank you so much for having me
it's a real it really is a real honor to
be here so my name is Cherry healing
and I'm 36 and I have two children one
is three he's called bear and one is
seven she's called Coco now based on
that would you elbow your way through a
busy drinks party to hang out with
me probably not um I make the best
lasagna in West
London would you would you fight your
way through a busy social occasion to
have a word with me probably not I've
got two cats one is called party time I
know and one is called Ruby I had
nothing to do with that name it's
entirely my daughter's
fault would you would you make an effort
at wedding to come and spend half an
hour finding out about my life do you
consider me seriously valuable to you
what if I told you I had over 600,000
followers on Instagram and over a
million on
Facebook check me out
you might you might reply to my WhatsApp
I reckon I reckon you
would it's actually not true I don't
have that many followers at all at all
but I have to admit that I for prey to
being impressed by people's social media
numbers it's not something I'm proud of
but I really do get sucked into that
that and it's it's vexing it's deeply
vexing I wish I was Stronger than that I
wish I was a better person than that but
I'm not at all now in uh in
2013 God please let me get the date
right is it oh God no it's 2009 I did
get it wrong I had my first
child do you know
what do you know what's awful is I've
got it tattooed there so I don't forget
it so uh it's really hard to check it
out when wearing a cat suit it's just
not appropriate so uh 2013 was my second
child so my first child was 2009 I'm
really happy I'm really excited she's
like the dream she's a dream and it's
like magical it's magical and I'm like
trundling her down the Oxbridge Road
I've been to get my nappies I got my
bugger boot breaking people's ankles not
really caring um and then had you know
lovely weekend really fun and then on
Monday morning I opened Facebook and a
group of friends have been to Berlin
together together they're all wearing
like Deo day glow Ray bands they're all
really good-looking they're all
like and I feel so depressed I feel so
depressed I feel really left out I feel
really isolated in my flat with my baby
and my stupid
nappies I feel old I feel out of it I
just feel awful and I did this again and
again and again with my beautiful
amazing e
baby right next to me having had the
most like beautiful weekend with her and
yeah on Monday morning I'd have the same
experience of feeling
so unvaluable and uncool and
discontent and I thought this is
ridiculous I don't want to miss my
daughter's life so I came off Facebook
and it was such a terrifying moment I
don't know if any of you have come off
social media but when you press delete
you're like come
on you kind of have to make the other
arm do it come on you feel like you're
going to fall off the edge of the
world and you don't everything's fine
and your best friend still call you and
still go and have margaritas and nachos
on a Friday night and everything good
still happened but it it was an
interesting
moment to separate from it because it
was really
really
painful and I think that says so
much I can't deny that I love the
internet and I love love social
networking I am an Instagram nut that's
how me and Emma met I love it it's
fantastic you know I any mother who's
breastfed at 4:48 in the morning knows
how valuable it is it's a very
it's one of the loneliest places on
Earth night after night after night you
do 1:00 a.m. you do 2:30 a.m. your boobs
are gigantic and red and angry and you
feel like a thousand pins are going in
them like daggers but you're all alone
and you feel like you're the only person
on the planet who's awake and maybe even
alive you know in one of those armagedon
movies when they walk through London and
they're like I'm the only person and
it's horrible and creepy and awful and
at 4:48 in the morning when you're
breastfeeding your baby who's also a bit
sleepy and it takes an hour it is
deathly quiet and lonely and painful and
scary and then you swipe your phone open
and boom the world is alive and it's
there for you and it's like I have the
same feelings and I get it and I know it
and you just feel connected and you're
thanking God for Instagram and Twitter
and and all of the social media years
can't really cope with Snapchat so I'm
just going to leave that going pretend
it doesn't
happen so yes the internet really does
enhance human interaction in the most
profoundly beautiful way but not all
types of human interaction so let's talk
about being present with each other that
is so hard you know when someone's
talking to you and actually not even
really that interested in what they're
saying but to really be present now it
was hard before the internet it it's now
almost impossible because you expect a
hit of interest and excitement and it's
the dopamine Emma was talking about
you're like come on get to the point
come on 130 characters what are you
saying move it along move it
along and you just want them to be
faster and I feel like I do that a lot
come on and I do it with my children a
bit what's the point what's the point
they're three and seven come
on you know and it is critically
important that we are
able to be
present in the moment I mean I'm scared
to be present right now cuz you're all
here and if I'm present in the moment I
have to be present with the fact that
you're all watching me and I feel a bit
anxious and I'm a bit nervous and like
my thing is a bit tight and so yes being
present's hard because you have to face
really scary things like I might be
feeling sad about something holy
moly that's page one um so being present
is really really difficult but it's
absolutely the glue that holds us
together it's the healthiest most
beautiful thing in the world and it's
also what children need and I again just
admitting all my awful things to you my
children learn from me they watch me how
do I interact with them how much time do
I give them and so often I sit next to
them and they're watching Paw Patrol I
mean you get me so I'm on my phone I'm
scrolling and I'm scrolling and they ask
me a question and I answer answer them
something generic like eh or I know it's
so interesting and I'm not interested in
talk cuz I'm just scrolling getting this
delicious hit of dopamine it's so
addictive I think they've just done a um
piece of research recently that says
it's harder to break than alcohol and
cigarettes I mean it's so so
powerful I mean there are a thousand
examples of why it's bad but I'm running
out of times I'm going to ignore them
cuz you know them you know letting your
children children play on the iPad too
much putting your phone on the table
when you're having dinner with friends I
mean you're not a brain surgeon although
some of you probably
are but most of us are not like you're
fine put it in your
bag and I think the very fact that we're
having to so quickly catch up with
creating
boundaries it that in itself shows that
it is corrupting human interaction
because we are needing to police our own
behavior not not very successfully in
many
cases so I asked the internet what it
thought because I felt like that was
fair you know WR of reply and stuff and
the internet said categorically yes it
is corrupted human interaction and some
people wrote me really wonderful stories
but you can go on my Instagram if you're
interested so some people
said can I just ignore that no um so
some people said it's made me impa
patient I wish I could give my children
back all the wasted scrolling hours
isn't that sad that break your heart
breaks my heart because I know that I'd
do it um I wish it was easier to limit
no one speaks to each other anymore I
hate Facebook it's a manufactured life
parade I personally love a good
handwritten letter and postage stamp
seriously um busy mom of two that's like
an act of War um the internet has ruined
all those fabulous drunken arguments we
used to have these days it's solved with
a quick Google search I I understand
that too
um it is a Lifeline for many people
people who are bedridden through illness
people who moved to a new community moms
at 4:30 in the morning of course but we
absolutely need to grab it by the
rains we need to control it we need to
do something to make sure that our
children are able to sit with them elves
they're able to have silence not be
entertained to be able to listen to
themselves because when you are quiet
you hear all the the difficult things
like the
sadness the anxiety the
worry and if you can't learn to self
soothe if you can't learn to work
through that slowly and it takes time
you can't do it fast you start to look
for different kind of medication you
start to medicate with different things
and I
personally desperately want my daughter
to be able to be with herself I don't
want her to constantly be running away
from herself and the only way that's
going to happen is if I demonstrate that
to her and of course it's very much
easier said than done I really want to
check my phone now can I
[Applause]
go
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