The Key to Anal Sex?
Summary
TLDR本视频由Dr T和Gabriel D主持,深入探讨了肛门性行为的关键要素。他们强调放松对于初次尝试或经验丰富的人至关重要,以避免疼痛和不适。视频中讨论了肛门的解剖结构、为何该区域特别敏感,以及如何通过深呼吸、音乐和沟通来实现身体和心理的放松。此外,还介绍了使用扩张器和润滑剂等工具来帮助放松,并强调了沟通的重要性。视频还提到了不放松可能带来的风险,如肛门裂、痔疮和大便失禁,并提供了预防和处理这些问题的建议。
Takeaways
- 😌 放松是肛门性交的关键,它有助于避免疼痛和不适,增加愉悦感。
- 🔍 了解肛门区域的解剖学知识,包括内括约肌和外括约肌,对于进行肛门性交至关重要。
- 🌟 肛门区域富含神经末梢,因此非常敏感,放松状态可以增加愉悦感。
- 🧘♀️ 放松技巧,如深呼吸、舒缓音乐和良好的沟通,对于提升肛门性交的体验非常重要。
- 🚫 焦虑是性体验的杀手,可能导致括约肌紧张和性欲望下降。
- 💧 使用润滑剂可以减少摩擦,帮助放松并增加愉悦感。
- 🤝 与伴侣的沟通对于理解彼此的界限和舒适度至关重要。
- 🚨 不放松可能导致肛门区域的物理损伤,如撕裂、肛裂或痔疮。
- 🤔 建立对肛门性交的信心需要克服恐惧和焦虑,沟通和自我认知是关键。
- 🛑 如果感到不适,应该停止并等待症状缓解,然后再尝试。
Q & A
为什么说放松是肛交的关键?
-放松对于肛交至关重要,因为它有助于减少身体紧张,避免疼痛和不适,同时增加愉悦感。放松可以使得肛门区域的肌肉,包括内括约肌和外括约肌,能够更好地放松,从而增加神经末梢的暴露,提高性快感。
肛交时需要了解哪些解剖学知识?
-了解肛管和括约肌的解剖学知识很重要。肛管内有内括约肌和外括约肌,内括约肌由平滑肌构成,不受意识控制,而外括约肌由骨骼肌构成,可以通过意识来放松。
为什么肛门区域特别敏感?
-肛门区域富含神经末梢,这些神经末梢对触摸、温度等刺激反应敏感。如果肛门区域紧张或收缩,会减少神经末梢的暴露,从而减少快感。
在肛交前如何进行放松?
-在肛交前,可以通过深呼吸、放松音乐、确保环境舒适等方式来实现身体和心理的放松。此外,还可以通过凯格尔运动来加强盆底肌肉的控制能力。
如果不放松可能会有哪些风险?
-不放松可能会导致撕裂、肛裂、痔疮、肛门失禁或疼痛痉挛等医疗问题。这些情况通常是因为肛门区域的肌肉过于紧张或被强行拉伸造成的。
什么是肛裂,它是怎样形成的?
-肛裂是肛门区域的小撕裂,通常由于肛门区域没有足够的润滑和放松,导致过度拉伸而形成。这会引起剧烈疼痛、出血和不适。
痔疮是什么,它们是怎样形成的?
-痔疮是直肠区域肿胀的血管,可能导致不适、出血、瘙痒和疼痛。在肛交过程中,如果存在压力或摩擦,可能会加剧现有的痔疮或导致新的痔疮形成。
如何通过沟通提高肛交时的放松和愉悦感?
-与伴侣进行有效的沟通,明确自己的界限和舒适度,可以帮助缓解焦虑,提高放松程度。同时,确保双方都有共同的目标和心态,可以增加性体验的愉悦感。
如果肛交时感到疼痛或不适应该怎么办?
-如果在肛交时感到疼痛或不适,应该停止活动,等待症状缓解后再尝试。必要时可以寻求医生的帮助,以确保没有造成更严重的伤害。
使用扩张器对肛交有什么帮助?
-扩张器可以帮助身体适应肛门区域的扩张,通过逐渐增加尺寸,让身体学会放松,从而减少肛交时的不适和风险。
Outlines
🔑 肛门性行为的关键:放松
本段落介绍了肛门性行为中放松的重要性。强调了放松对于体验的愉悦性至关重要,尤其是对于接受方。讨论了肛门的解剖结构,包括内括约肌和外括约肌,以及它们在放松状态下如何影响性体验。提到了肛门区域富含神经末梢,因此在放松时能增加快感。还提到了心理准备和环境舒适对于放松的重要性,并建议了一些放松技巧,如深呼吸和营造轻松氛围。
🌟 放松与肛门性行为的愉悦
这一段落深入探讨了放松如何增加肛门性行为的愉悦感。讨论了放松状态下,肛门内括约肌和外括约肌的放松有助于增加神经末梢的暴露,从而增加快感。还提到了适当的润滑剂使用和渐进式的插入对于减少摩擦和增加放松的重要性。此外,还强调了沟通和了解个人界限在性行为中的作用,以及如何通过放松来避免焦虑和紧张,从而减少性功能障碍的风险。
⚠️ 放松不足的风险
本段落讨论了在肛门性行为中不放松可能带来的风险,包括内括约肌和外括约肌的损伤、肛门粘膜的损伤、肛门周围区域的疼痛和不适。特别提到了肛门裂、痔疮和肛门失禁等可能的并发症,并解释了这些状况的成因和治疗方法。强调了放松、适当的润滑和渐进式的性行为对于避免这些风险的重要性。
💡 放松技巧与建议
这一段落提供了一些帮助放松的技巧和建议,以便在肛门性行为中获得更好的体验。建议使用扩张器来帮助身体适应插入,选择合适的润滑剂以减少摩擦,以及在性行为中进行有效沟通。还提到了在性行为中适时休息的重要性,以及如何通过锻炼(如凯格尔运动)来加强盆底肌肉,从而预防肛门失禁等问题。最后,鼓励观众在性行为中保持放松和积极的态度,以享受愉悦的性体验。
Mindmap
Keywords
💡放松
💡肛门
💡肛门括约肌
💡神经末梢
💡润滑剂
💡沟通
💡前列腺刺激
💡肛门裂
💡痔疮
💡肛门失禁
💡扩张器
Highlights
探讨了肛门性行为的关键要素,强调放松的重要性。
解释了为什么肛门性行为是一个重要且经常被讨论的话题。
讨论了肛门区域的解剖学,包括内外括约肌的作用。
强调了放松对于肛门性行为中避免疼痛和不适的重要性。
提供了如何通过深呼吸和放松音乐来达到身体和心理放松的建议。
解释了为什么渐进和缓慢的插入对于肛门性行为至关重要。
讨论了沟通在肛门性行为中的作用,包括与伴侣和自我沟通。
强调了放松对于前列腺刺激的重要性。
提供了建立肛门性行为信心的方法,包括克服恐惧和焦虑。
讨论了不放松可能导致的身体风险,如肛门裂和痔疮。
解释了肛门不放松可能导致的医疗问题,如肛门失禁。
提供了一些帮助放松的技巧,如使用扩张器和润滑剂。
强调了在肛门性行为中采取休息的重要性,以确保身体适应。
总结了本次讨论的要点,包括放松、沟通和采取休息的重要性。
鼓励观众在评论区提出他们想要讨论的话题。
以幽默的方式结束了视频,增加了观看的趣味性。
Transcripts
welcome back to another episode of
spilling the tea with Dr T and Gabriel D
that's me and Laval that's her so the
Trio's back today we're going to be
diving into another topic and today it's
going to be the key to anos sex the key
to anal sex we're going to be talking
about something that I guess we have
touched on in the past a little bit but
what is the key to anal sex today we're
going to get to learn so many things and
details and I have a few questions for
you as always that's what I'm here for
and of course anal SE can be a
fulfilling experience for many but it's
very important to understand what's
going on prepare so you can make sure
that you're comfortable and have the
maximum amount of pleasure throughout
the process awesome so why is this topic
of anal sex is so important that we keep
talking about it over and over again
well I think it's so important because I
have so many patients that ask me about
it and I've had patients recently and
the past and also throughout my training
it was never really um educated the the
Family Medicine practice or residency
programs and it's such a taboo issue I
feel like I never knew anything about it
especially growing up I certainly wasn't
going to talk to my parents about it so
hopefully someone out there this video
reaches them and they're just looking
for some education or understanding on
how they can best prepare themselves and
make it as an enjoyable experience as
possible and hopefully today we're going
to get to learn a few of the things that
you learn with your experience exactly
and so really we're going to be diving
into this episode to discuss relaxation
how it is extremely important especially
for the receptive partner in anal sex so
that they can enjoy themselves and avoid
any irritation any pain any poor
outcomes we want to make this a good
experience for you so remember to relax
if you haven't already sit back relax
now and we're going to dive in to why
relaxation is so important I guess
that's the answer for the question
relaxation is key to animal sex yeah
because again this topic this idea
especially if it's your first time or
you're not really sure what's going on
can be very anxiety provoking and that's
going to result and a lot of tension all
over your body and you do not want to go
into this type of experience with
tension and you want to have fun you
want to enjoy yourself yeah so we're
going to help you learn to relax so you
can enjoy it to the maximum ability and
so what Anatomy should we know of course
we got to start with the basics so the
anatomy we need to know of course is the
anal canal and there are two sphincter
in this area one is an internal
sphincter and one is an external
sphincter the internal actually is not
voluntary it's created by something
called smooth muscle smooth muscle is
not something our brain can trigger on a
own by our Command to relax so it's not
something we can really do much about
you actually have to be relaxed yourself
you can't say all right it's time to
relax your body truly has to be relaxed
and then the external sphincter which is
made of skeletal muscle like the muscles
in your biceps or your legs those
respond to your control so you can
always use your control to relax that
muscle but still you do have to be quite
relaxed to be able to really allow it to
open up so to speak fascinating how the
body is connected our brain needs to be
really relax so our body also needs to
be in that relaxation mode exactly and
so why is this AA so sensitive so the
anal region is Rich in nerve endings and
so nerve endings are always going to be
responding to stimuli so touch sensation
temperature all of those things and
because there's so many nerve endings
it's going to make it very sensitive
that being said if it's tense or if it's
constricted in the anal region there's
going to be less nerve endings as it's
trying to protect itself and if there's
less nerve endings there's also going to
be less pleasure those nerve endings
need to be at their maximum you can have
your maximum pleasure and so what is the
game plan for relaxation before anal sex
first we want to aim for physical
relaxation again those skeleton muscles
in the pelvic floor and the perenium we
can control those so you want to try to
relax them with your brain with your
control as best as possible for some
people out there this can actually be
very difficult there's actually some
physical therapy available to some
patients that are not able to relax this
area because either trauma anxiety or
other past medical history issues can
make it extremely tight and difficult
for them to relax completely so if
you're out there and you're struggling
to relax that area you're not alone you
should definitely consider talking to
your doctor or a physical therapist
there are many treatment options to help
you walk you through the process of how
you can relax so you're able to enjoy
your sexual experiences I feel like
relaxation is going to be the main
character of our topic today but it's
important to point out that in order to
feel pleasure you need to be comfortable
exactly so that means comfortable in
your environment comfortable with your
partner comfortable with yourself too so
all those things need to be checked off
before going going forward with this
activity and again so now that you've
focused on the physical relaxation part
that you can control by trying to relax
those muscles that external sphincter
should then be responding because again
that is skeletal muscle like the muscles
we can control in our arms and legs next
you want to work on internal relaxation
because we need to relax that internal
sphincter which we can't necessarily
control so things like deep breathing
relaxing music making sure you're in a
calm environment can make a big
difference there as well create a mood
for yourself find a good playlist yeah
and then when you're ready for insertion
or your partner is ready for inser ition
you want to continue those same
activities so slow deep breaths gentle
breaths as well you don't want to make
too much of a fuss for yourself
techniques like deep breathing while
your partner is gradually and slowly
inserting is going to make a huge
difference in how you're able to respond
by relaxing during the initial process I
like that you mentioned gradually and
slow because this is something that we
keep talking in our videos and why hurry
exactly and the gradual insertion is
also going to help those fainters in the
anal Canal relax so it's sort of working
with your Brea breathing techniques to
ensure they able to relax you're able to
reach that pleasure Zone and enjoy
yourself and I feel like sometimes in
the middle of the rendevu we forget to
breathe so it's important to remember
that yes so it's also important like you
mentioned mental relaxation is also key
making sure you're keeping yourself calm
breathing that way you can just focus on
the pleasure and avoid any pain and
communicating effectively with your
partner about your boundaries things
you're comfortable with if this is your
first time if this is something that
you're not sure is going to work well
that's going to also put you at at ease
and let your partner know what your
limits are so that way you're both going
in this together with the same sort of
mentality both relaxed with the same
common goal and we never talk about
communication here in this channel
exactly and it's important to note that
anxiety is the ultimate sexual killer so
if you're going into your experience
with anxiety that can cause the release
of these fight ORF flight hormones that
may result in constriction and tension
in both spiners as well as the fact that
anxiety can cause a loss of erection and
a decrease in sexual desire libido so
want to avoid all of that if you're
feeling a little anxious maybe take some
time and definitely wait until that has
passed before going into a sexual
encounter especially if it's one that is
new or you're not sure how it's going to
go and does relaxation improve pleasure
yes you don't have to worry about
whether or not those nerve endings are
going to give you pleasure when you're
relaxed during anal sex you are good to
go the reason is is that when you're
relaxed those muscles in the anal cavity
specifically the internal and external
sphincter are going to release allowing
your partner to penetrate and to get
more surface area exposed to those nerve
IND the more nerve Indies exposed the
more likely you're going to experience
pleasure and not only that when you
relax the blood flow is going to
increase to the area more blood flow
similarly to those nerve endings is
going to result in more pleasure again
the muscles relaxing in the perenium
around the pelvic floor also going to be
more vascular and more responsive to the
pleasure that you're going to get from
friction during intercourse so
relaxation equals pleasure that's great
news if you're not feeling enough
pleasure in your sexual activity be more
relaxed easy to do right yeah and while
we're at it don't forget to add in some
lubricant that's going to only
facilitate further relaxation by
reducing that friction that can occur so
make sure your lube ready relaxed and
the pleasure should be on its way and is
relaxation important for prostate
stimulation yeah so for those of us that
have prostates relaxation is going to be
really important allowing the
penetrative finger device or partner to
reach the prostate and allowing that to
have more surface area as well the more
relaxed you are in the area the more
likely those Nerf fibers are going to
get stimulated and of course that's
again going to increase vasculature to
the area and increase blood flow so
relaxation is key to both anal sex and
prostate stimulation someone in comments
asked if everyone has a prostate great
question if you're a signed male at
Birth it's very likely you have a
prostate unless there's some sort of
genetic problem or some very rare case
where someone is born without one but
many men have theirs removed if they
have a history of prostate cancer or
other medical conditions so not all men
have a prostate see keep asking us
questions we'll get to them right doctor
absolutely and what are some ways people
can build confidence around anal sex
focusing on overcoming fear and anxiety
is going to be step one a lot of people
have anxiety around anal sex because
they have fear of pain or discomfort or
the taboo around it or maybe they're not
quite ready yet and if you are not ready
that is completely okay that is number
one to identify and a number one concern
to bring to your partner communication
just as saying that is the most
important thing to consider right up
there with trying to overcome your
anxiety and fear that's because if
you're you're not communicating
effectively especially before sex you're
certainly not going to be communicating
well during sex and very unlikely to be
communicating better after sex so make
sure you are able to address your
anxiety and fear first and then you want
to make sure you're communicating
effectively and that being said it's
important to also communicate with
yourself if you're not sure how you feel
in the situation always go towards that
negative side right I usually say focus
on the positive but if you're unsure you
always want to say no you always want to
go to something that is going to prevent
you from making a choice that could put
you in pain due to the fact that you
haven't quite overcome those concerns
you have in your head absolutely I think
when going to sex you should be the
priority yeah at first you need to think
about yourself and then once you're with
your partner and the activity has
started then it's about you both
together yes exactly sex is meant to be
fun it's meant to be pleasurable it's
meant to be a positive experience and as
you build those positive experiences
you're going to build more confidence in
yourself and your sexual abilities and
never get discouraged it's really
important to remember that it can take
some time to get comfortable and every
step forward is a success are there any
risks to non relaxing to be frank yes
and we can break these into the physical
risks associated with the anatomical
areas that the risks are present in and
so you want to think about the internal
sphincter which we talked about the
external sphincter the mucosal lining as
well as the anus itself and the pennium
and what happens to the internal
sphincter if we do not relax so if the
internal sphincter remains tense or if
it's forcibly stretched this can of
course result in pain but we want to
worry about the medical conditions
associated with that such as as tearing
or anal fissure or hemorrhoid and we're
going to get more into those diagnosis
and what they actually mean later but
those are two things that can result if
you're not able to fully relax and that
internal sphincter becomes irritated wow
that's crazy and in contrast if this
occurs in the external sphincter if it's
forcibly stretched or if it's too tense
it can result in different medical
conditions something called anal
incontinence or painful spasms wow so
relaxation really is important not only
for pleasure but for our health too
exactly and remind me what is the mucose
aligning the the mucosal lining in the
anal cavity is actually made up of a
bunch of cells those cells release a
very very small amount of fluid which
could be considered lubricant and the
main goal is to help remove any excess
debris and to keep the anal cavity clear
that does make sense and can this area
be damaged absolutely if you're not able
to fully relaxed those cells are going
to also be tense and of course they are
going to be lining the entire mucosa of
the anal cavity so if they were to get
irritated or inflamed it can result in
abrasions it can result in hemorrhoids
bleeding pain so of course again
relaxation is going to be key to all the
anatomical features uh in the anal
cavity and to have a great experience
yeah exactly and what is the perenium so
the perenium is the area between the
anus and the scrotum and so all of the
muscles there if they're forced to relax
or if they uh have too much friction
upon them they can experience trauma
making it more difficult for them to
relax in the future very similarly to
our brain muscles can remember trauma as
well and that can make it much more
difficult for future encounters to relax
and to make sure that you're able to
access the area and proceed with your
rendevu it's very interesting that our
body has a memory exactly all the areas
the organs the tissues the fibers in our
body do store memories not necessarily
the same memories we have in our brain
but their version of what a memory is
very similarly to the penum the anal
cavity opening so the anus is also going
to be very fragile when it comes to
needing to relax if it's too tense or
too tight trying to force it open or
trying to stretch in any capacity is
going to result in a lot of different
options as well including those anal
fissures hemorrhoids bleeding irritation
so from the opening of the anus all the
way through to that internal sphincter
everything needs to be relaxed so you
can really enjoy yourself and avoid any
pain or discomfort and what exactly is
an ano fizure so anes are small tears
that can occur in the anus that are
often going to result in severe pain
bleeding and discomfort crazy and these
can potentially be caused by receptive
anal intercourse if there's not
sufficient lubrication and sufficient
relaxation this excessive stretch that
occurs is going to cause damage to that
delicate mucosal lining which thus
results in the tearing while there are a
lot of topical over-the-counter options
to treat them like topical anesthetics
lidocaine sits bath stool softeners
often times they result in something
called a chronic fissure because they
won't heal they continue to worsen and
may even cause increases in more
fissures to occur that often times has
to be fixed surgically only because
you're not relaxed enough that's crazy
yeah and of course there's many
different causes for these issues but
relaxation can be a key opponent
especially if that is something that you
are not comfortable with yet and the
best way to either prevent them from
occurring or prevent them from coming
back is to ensure you have plenty of
lube and lots of relaxation and what are
hemorrhoids so hemorrhoids are swollen
blood vessels in the rectal area that
often lead to discomfort bleeding
itching and pain increased pressure or
friction during anal sex can aggravate
existing hemorrhoids to make them worsen
or just aggravate the veins that are
present there and cause new hemorrhoids
to form are there any treatments for
hemorrhoids yeah and so again you can do
over-the-counter options like stool
softeners sits bath there's even some
topical creams you can try but
unfortunately they can also worsen
getting so big that they do require a
surgical intervention and sometimes if
the pain is so severe that's the only
option as well wow but in general I will
say the majority of hemorrhoids may even
heal on their own and respond really
well to topical options and just because
you have hemorrhoids does not mean that
you can't participate in anal sex but if
you have any pain bleeding or discomfort
that's a reason to stop and wait till
they heal before you proceeded and what
is anoing Con
anal incontinence is the loss of control
over bowel movements due to excessive
damage at the external sphincter now
many people think this is very common
especially if they've never had anal sex
before they think if you try it once
it's going to result in anal
incontinence or if you do it repeatedly
it's going to result in anal
incontinence that is not true you can
have anal receptive intercourse many
many many many times before you have any
issue like this the problem is when you
have receptive anal intercourse and
you're not ready or that sphincter is
still too tight if it's too tight or
you're not relaxed you're going to cause
trauma to it and thus that's going to
increase your risk of developing this
problem right and there are ways to even
prevent it from occurring those keegle
exercise we talked about in previous
videos you can just strengthen the
perenium muscles or the muscles in the
pelvic floor by just tightening it's
sort of like that sensation like you're
holding on to try to stop yourself from
urinating I'm doing it right now and
help to keep it strong so that you can
avoid anal incontinence well if you
haven't seen our video yet about the Keo
exercise we give an explanation step by
step how to do it yeah so take a look
and in the most extensive cases
sometimes anal incontinence can result
in the need for surgical repair the good
thing is that surgery is typically
extremely successful and oftentimes
covered by insurance so that is
something to consider for those out
there that are concerned or want to talk
to a doctor about maybe having this
issue there are remedies that can help
improve your symptoms so you can get
back on track awesome it's reversible
it's reversible are there any tips that
we can recommend to help with relaxation
absolutely so you can start by
considering dilators so if you already
know on your own you're a tense person
maybe you have anxiety maybe you have
anxiety about going into a sexual
experience you've never had anal
intercourse before or you've tried it
and it didn't work so well for you you
can consider purchasing something called
a dilator they come in multiple sizes of
course you want to start small before
going large that's going to allow you to
prepare yourself and allow your body to
respond to something penetrating that
area teaching your body to properly
relax so that you can enjoy yourself
without any irritation or the risk of
any of these medical complications that
can occur secondly think about lubricant
there are many different options you can
try water-based and silicone based are
both great find one that works best for
you one that's going to help to maintain
that reduce friction so typically that's
going to be more of a silicone base for
more people because it's going to help
it to stay moist longer then you want to
communicate we've talked about this many
many times communication is key not only
with your partner but with yourself are
you ready if you're not sure talk to
yourself a little bit more and finally
when you're in the Act take breaks you
are allowed to tap out for a moment with
your partner maybe tell them ahead of
time you want to take some breaks you're
trying to get better at this you want to
make sure that it's a good experience
for everybody involved and that you're
ready to do it again in the future I'm
sure they'll be understanding if not
that's probably a red flag so take some
breaks give yourself some time so that
your body can adjust and be ready for
whatever comes next for lessons that
were learn today here start slowing and
gradual lots of lubricant three
communication communication is key and
four take breaks it's important to take
breaks drink some water and then go back
yeah listen to a song chill have a snack
you're in no rush take as long as you
need I love that sex is meant to be fun
pleasurable and
relaxing we
match so hopefully you learn to embrace
some relaxation strategies and tips
before your next anal encounter that way
you can make sure you are achieving as
much pleasure with as little discomfort
and pain as possible hopefully this was
a somewhat entertaining video for you it
is meant to be a laid-back discussion
about a topic that is quite taboo if you
have other things you'd like us to talk
about please leave them in the comments
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