How to START APPROACHING WOMEN (RESULTS GUARANTEED!!)
Summary
TLDRThe video script discusses the mindset required for successful social interactions, particularly with women. It contrasts the ineffective approach of a character named Jeffrey, who views women as adversaries, with the more positive experiences of the narrator and his friend Levi. The script emphasizes the importance of overcoming approach anxiety and the need to practice and build habits, rather than overthinking or setting unrealistic expectations. It encourages viewers to focus on the act of approaching and initiating conversations, viewing each interaction as a step towards improvement, regardless of the outcome.
Takeaways
- 😀 Jeffrey has a negative view of women, which hinders his ability to approach them effectively.
- 😔 Jeffrey spends time learning about approaching women but fails to take action, remaining stuck in his comfort zone.
- 😎 The speaker and his friend Levi have had success with cold approaching women in clubs, but the speaker acknowledges the importance of having the right mindset.
- 🌞 The speaker finds day game (approaching women during the day) to be relatively successful, but notes that his past mindset was a barrier to better success.
- 🤔 Overthinking and watching too many videos can lead to inaction and missed opportunities in approaching women.
- 💪 Adonis, a character in the script, is portrayed as confident and unafraid to approach women due to his physical stature and mindset.
- 🚀 The best mindset for approaching women is to focus on the act of approaching itself, rather than overthinking the outcome.
- 🏋️♂️ The analogy of going to the gym is used to illustrate that initial attempts may not be perfect, but consistency and practice lead to improvement.
- 🤝 Approaching women should be seen as a habit to be built, with the initial goal being to simply initiate conversation, not necessarily to achieve a specific outcome.
- 💬 The speaker emphasizes that even if the conversation is not perfect, the act of approaching and speaking is progress and should be celebrated.
Q & A
What is the main issue Jeffrey faces when trying to approach women?
-Jeffrey views women as the enemy and does not see them as human beings, which leads to him never actually taking action to approach them.
What does the speaker suggest is the wrong approach to learning how to approach women?
-The speaker suggests that watching videos without taking action, as Jeffrey does, is the wrong approach to learning how to approach women.
What did the speaker and his friend Levi do when they first learned about cold approaching women?
-The speaker and Levi would go to clubs, speak to girls, and often end up kissing girls or sometimes bringing a girl back to sleep with.
What is the speaker's experience with day game compared to night game?
-The speaker finds day game to be relatively successful, but he admits that he had the wrong mindset and overthought the process, which affected his performance.
Why does the speaker believe that many people fail to approach women effectively?
-The speaker believes that people overthink the process, set the bar for success too high, and focus on the wrong aspects like the perfect script or conversation, rather than just starting the interaction.
What mindset does the speaker recommend for approaching women?
-The speaker recommends a mindset where success is defined as simply approaching and speaking to women, regardless of the outcome of the conversation.
What is the analogy the speaker uses to explain the importance of starting the habit of approaching women?
-The speaker uses the analogy of going to the gym and focusing on just showing up and starting a workout, even if it's not perfect, to emphasize the importance of beginning the habit of approaching women.
What is the main reason the speaker believes people should not overthink when approaching women?
-The speaker believes that overthinking leads to inaction and missed opportunities, as it creates unnecessary anxiety and prevents people from starting conversations.
According to the speaker, what is the best way to overcome approach anxiety?
-The best way to overcome approach anxiety, according to the speaker, is to focus on approaching as fast as possible and to accept that the first few interactions will likely be awkward or 'trash'.
What is the speaker's view on the importance of the initial conversations when approaching women?
-The speaker views the initial conversations as a necessary step to build the habit of approaching and speaking to women, emphasizing that it's more important to start the conversation than to have a perfect one.
Why does the speaker compare the process of approaching women to a 'lean startup' mindset?
-The speaker compares it to a 'lean startup' mindset to illustrate the importance of taking action and making progress, even if imperfect, rather than overpreparing and potentially missing out on opportunities.
Outlines
🚫 Overcoming Approach Anxiety
The first paragraph of the video script discusses the character Jeffrey's negative perceptions and approach to women, highlighting his misguided attempts to learn how to approach them. It contrasts Jeffrey's ineffective strategies with the speaker's own experiences with cold approaching in both night and day settings. The speaker emphasizes the importance of mindset over specific techniques, stressing that success in approaching women comes from taking action and not overthinking. The paragraph also touches on the idea that initial attempts may not be perfect, but they are necessary steps in building the habit and skill of approaching women.
💡 Embracing the Lean Startup Mindset in Social Interactions
The second paragraph continues the theme of approaching women by addressing the common issue of overthinking and the importance of taking action. It suggests that focusing on having the 'perfect' conversation or approach is counterproductive. The speaker advises viewers to adopt a 'lean startup' mindset, emphasizing the value of making progress through action and learning from initial, potentially awkward interactions. The paragraph also uses the analogy of a gym workout to illustrate the idea that consistency and practice, rather than perfection, are what lead to success. It concludes by encouraging the viewer to approach women without the pressure of having to perform perfectly on the first try.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Approach Anxiety
💡Cold Approach
💡Mindset
💡Overthinking
💡Success
💡Habit
💡Day Game
💡Scripting
💡Eye Contact
💡Body Language
💡New Year's Resolutions
Highlights
Jeffrey's negative perception of women and his unsuccessful attempts to approach them.
Jeffrey's approach to learning about women by watching videos without taking action.
The importance of approaching women with the right mindset and not overthinking.
The speaker's personal experiences with cold approaching women both at night and during the day.
The contrast between Jeffrey's and the speaker's approach to day game.
The mindset of not being afraid to approach women, exemplified by Adonis.
The analogy of approaching women to going to the gym for a workout.
The concept that success in approaching women is simply about initiating the interaction.
The idea that overthinking can prevent individuals from taking the first step in approaching.
The comparison of setting unrealistic expectations to a beginner's gym workout.
The emphasis on the importance of building the habit of approaching women.
The advice against worrying about what to say when approaching women.
The suggestion that even if the initial conversations are not successful, they are still progress.
The speaker's preference for his own mindset over other methods found on YouTube.
The encouragement to approach women without overthinking, even when feeling unprepared.
The final message about the importance of taking action and not waiting for the perfect moment.
Transcripts
jeffrey thinks all women are [ __ ] i
hate them all they're all [ __ ] they're
all stupid why won't they be my [ __ ]
jeffrey spends 40 days and 40 nights
trying to learn how to approach women
but he does it all in the wrong way he
sees them as the enemy he doesn't even
see them as a human being and so what
you think happens when jeffrey goes out
and tries to approach women nothing he
never even takes action he never even
leaves his crusty computer chair but he
just continuously watches videos on how
to approach women the right way that's
not you is it i first learned about cold
approaching women a few years ago and i
was hooked straight away me and my
friend levi would go to clubs and we'd
be speaking to girls and we'd just be
like
and we actually did pretty well very
often in the middle of the club
everyone's drinking we'd end up kissing
loads of girls and every now and then
every couple of nights would bring a
girl back to sleep with but that was at
night time what about in the daytime
what about day game and you know i'm
pretty blessed to say that for me
personally day game has always pretty
much been relatively successful it's
just that i've always had the wrong
mindset so i was never able to do it
properly i would watch too many videos
and start overthinking i'd see the girl
that i wanted to talk to and i would
just not really do it when i would build
up the courage to go speak to that girl
oftentimes it would go really well i
remember that i got some of the best
experiences of my life in terms of
getting girls with cold approaching and
just going up to a girl and just asking
her a random question like hey excuse me
do you know what time this gym closes
and she'll say something like uh i think
it's like 10 p.m i'm still there looking
at her i go to this gym every single day
i know that the gym is 24 hours and i'm
like oh like yeah
thank you so what's your name my name's
samson you dumbass it's not 10 pm stupid
[ __ ]
adonis isn't afraid to go speak to a
woman why would he he's 7 foot 3 376
pounds what is this puny human going to
do to him adonis hasn't felt approach
anxiety since he was a teenager and
although things were pretty difficult
when he would go up and try and speak to
girls when he was younger he overcame
the trials and tribulations and learnt
the skills and the right mindset and now
adonis feels comfortable around new
women the best mindset that you can have
when you're going out to approach women
is simply success equals approaching
instantly focus entirely on that the
reason why approaching seems so hard the
reason why sometimes when you get the
thought okay i should speak to her and
you start overthinking and you don't
want to do it is because we play out the
conversation in our mind and we're
trying to think okay what should i say
how do i get her into bed with the
highest percentage conversion rate of
the thing that i can say but there's
people looking and we overthink things
too much we simply need to build up the
habit of literally just going up to a
girl as fast as possible and saying
anything with the mindset and the
humility to understand that the first
tens if not hundreds of times that we go
up to speak to girls it's gonna be
pretty trash you can't expect to walk
into the gym and have the perfect gym
workout on your first ever session can
you but that's what a lot of people do
that's what a lot of people who have
waited for the new year's resolutions
and everything they think of the
ultimate hardcore workout and that's
exactly why they don't go to the gym
consistently because they've set the bar
of success too damn high when you go out
to approach girls or when you've had the
thought to do it you've set the bar of
success too high for you the bar of
successes oh like the the number closed
and she's gonna fall in love with me
maybe we can have a sex straight away
and maybe we'll go on a date straight
away and i've got to be able to be
really good at no you can't expect any
of those other things like the more
advanced things just yet that's like
hitting a pr that's like hitting three
plate bench press it takes time to
practice to get to those results right
now we need you to just show up and just
go speak and say anything to a girl just
like for the beginner we need this
beginner to literally just show up to
the gym forget the best workout forget
like you know overthinking about so many
uh strength training or hypertrophic
traits before rapper two second he said
forget about everything else bro just
come to the gym come to the gym for 20
minutes you'll make progress go outside
speak to a girl stutter mess up your
words slow your words save some random
[ __ ] doesn't matter specifically
training that habit of walking up and
just saying something is the most
important part that's like the
bottleneck that you need to be focused
on right now and imagine that imagine
training the habit that would allow you
to literally just go up smoothly
instantly and go speak to a girl
hey yo you're disturbing her she doesn't
want to speak to straight shut up bro
she doesn't want to speak the strange
shut up it's always guys who say this
like i don't want to disturb a girl's
work bro trust me when i say and anyone
who's like done a fair amount of
approaching can back me up in the
comments the overwhelming pretty much
all the time when you go up and you
speak in like a nice friendly way she is
pleasant she actually speaks to you with
a massive smile on your face there's
barely ever any times of the
stereotypical time of like you'll go up
to speak to a girl she'll be scared and
she'll be like getting ready to fight
you some it doesn't happen in real life
bro almost every time i go to speak to a
girl afterwards i just think like why
was i overthinking so much you might
overthink so what are these people gonna
say okay what's the best sentence to use
i'd go up say something silly like say
anything and it ends we end up having a
pleasant conversation and even if i
don't get her number even if i don't end
up dating her or sleeping with her it's
always quite a pleasant interaction and
i always think to myself why did my
brain overthink beforehand it's because
i have set the intention that the
success in this interaction is like me
getting the number close success simply
equals you going up and speaking to us
saying anything you need to do that like
a hundred times first before you can
actually get into the groove and get
used to this then you can start having
the better intellectual attractive
conversations but first we need you to
at least enter those conversations i
could make this video longer and i could
tell you that the best uh sentence is to
say the eye contact body language and
all of that stuff bro but get everything
because that's what's making you
overthink and that's what's stopping you
from actually going out there and at
least starting the initial process i
love my mindset more than everyone
else's i've seen on youtube get into a
hundred conversations even if the
conversation is trashed you've made
progress you've shown up to the gym even
if the workout is trash if you've shown
up as a beginner you're making progress
do not be like that fat 43 year old
susan who's waiting for the new years
because she had one workout of like the
body power class where they do like a
bunch of [ __ ] cardio and like 50 reps
and she never comes to the gym again
because it's too hard because success
equals going to that class in her mind
for you success equals having the best
conversation and too often when i speak
about approaching and going up to speak
to girls a lot of guys will come to
comment about hamsa tell us what to say
tell me what to say hamza if that's what
your mindset is like right now i see you
scrolling down looking for those
comments and also ready to like type one
if no one else don't want if that is
your mindset i have full confidence that
you're not gonna do this because you're
overthinking you're like the guy who
writes a [ __ ] script before he calls
like his local takeaway before you call
someone you've already prepared the
script you don't need to know what to
say because even if you prepare the
script even if you know what to say or
you don't know what to say the first few
conversations are gonna be awkward
they're gonna be trash but the guy who's
prepared the script will overthink so
much more that he'll miss the
opportunity of the first few
interactions whereas the guy who has
like the lean startup like you know hit
the ground running type of mindset he'll
go up and breeze through that progress
forget about everything else literally
just focus on approaching as fast as
possible do the hard work especially
when you don't feel like it
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