You're STUPID if You Think Doing THIS is Cool
Summary
TLDRIn this reflective video, the speaker shares a personal anecdote about observing people at a mall and realizing the pressures of social media to appear perfect. They discuss the futility of pretending to be someone else for the sake of attractiveness, emphasizing the importance of authenticity and self-acceptance. The speaker encourages viewers to embrace their true selves, as being genuine is more attractive than striving for an unachievable standard of perfection. The message is to be true to oneself and not to be swayed by superficial online influences.
Takeaways
- 🏃♂️ The narrator starts with a personal anecdote about being early for work and deciding to observe people in the mall to pass the time.
- 👀 The act of observing people led to a realization about the pressure to conform to certain body image standards, particularly among 'gym bros'.
- 💪 The narrator criticizes the trend of men with muscular arms and chests but bloated stomachs, questioning the authenticity of their fitness.
- 🤳 The influence of social media is highlighted as a driving force behind people's desire to appear perfect, even if it means being unauthentic.
- 👦 The script discusses the narrator's own past experiences of trying to fit in by emulating others, which ultimately led to feeling unattractive.
- 🙅♂️ The importance of authenticity is emphasized, suggesting that pretending to be someone else does not lead to true attractiveness or self-confidence.
- 🧍♂️ The narrator argues that being skinny or having a certain body type is not inherently attractive and that attractiveness comes from being comfortable in one's own skin.
- 🤷♂️ The script touches on the idea that people often feel insecure because they compare themselves to unrealistic standards set by social media influencers.
- 👥 The narrator points out that being unauthentic can lead to insecurity and a false sense of perfection, which is ultimately flawed.
- 👫 The importance of being genuine is stressed, as it is suggested that true friends will appreciate you for who you are, not for a facade.
- 🌟 The final takeaway is a call to action: to be true to oneself, as authenticity is the key to attractiveness and self-acceptance.
Q & A
What was the narrator's initial plan after realizing they were early for work?
-The narrator decided to walk around the mall to kill time instead of rushing to work.
What did the narrator do while walking around the mall?
-The narrator started to purposefully observe people, looking at their faces, eyes, clothing, and bodies.
What caught the narrator's attention about the man in the light gray shirt?
-The man's bloated stomach caught the narrator's attention, which seemed uncool for someone who appeared muscular and fit.
Why did the narrator find the man's bloated stomach unusual?
-The narrator found it unusual because the man was muscular and fit, and the bloated stomach seemed inconsistent with the body image often portrayed by gym-goers.
What is the narrator's view on people who pretend to have a flat stomach like those seen on social media?
-The narrator believes that being unauthentic towards one's own body is a sign of insecurity and that pretending to be someone else does not make one more attractive.
How does the narrator relate the gym bros' behavior to the pressure from social media?
-The narrator suggests that the gym bros' behavior of tightening their abs for social media is a response to the unrealistic body standards often portrayed online.
What personal experience from middle school does the narrator share to illustrate the point about authenticity?
-The narrator shared an experience of trying to fit in with a 'cool' group by dressing and speaking like them, but eventually realizing that it didn't make them more attractive.
What is the narrator's opinion on the relationship between being a perfectionist and being insecure?
-The narrator believes that being a perfectionist, especially in terms of body image, is a form of insecurity and that pretending to be perfect is actually a sign of imperfection.
What advice does the narrator give to those who are insecure about their looks or body?
-The narrator advises people to be comfortable in their own skin and to be authentic, as this is more attractive than pretending to be someone else.
How does the narrator describe the impact of being unauthentic on one's social relationships?
-The narrator suggests that being unauthentic will not bring true friends, and that people will only appreciate you more when you stop pretending and are genuine.
What conclusion does the narrator draw about the nature of attractiveness?
-The narrator concludes that attractiveness is not about conforming to unrealistic standards but about being authentic and comfortable with who you are.
What final advice does the narrator offer to the viewers of the video?
-The narrator's final advice is to never ignore the truth about attraction and to always be yourself.
Outlines
🤔 Observations on Inauthenticity and Body Image
The speaker recounts a personal experience of observing people in a mall, leading to a realization about the pressure to conform to unrealistic body standards perpetuated by social media. They describe noticing a man with a muscular build but a bloated stomach, which contrasts the typical image of 'gym bros' who appear perfectly fit. The narrative delves into the speaker's own past experiences with trying to fit in and the realization that authenticity is more attractive than pretending to be someone else. It critiques the influence of social media on self-image and the pursuit of perfection, advocating for self-acceptance and the recognition that everyone has unique attractiveness.
💪 Embracing Authenticity Over Perfection
In this paragraph, the speaker emphasizes the importance of being true to oneself rather than striving for an unattainable standard of perfection often portrayed online. They suggest that the perception of attractiveness is subjective and that feeling comfortable in one's own skin is the key to genuine appeal. The speaker concludes with advice to the audience to always be authentic and to not be swayed by the superficial ideals promoted by social media. They leave the viewer with a call to action to apply this mindset to their own lives and to look forward to the next video for further insights.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Authenticity
💡Insecurity
💡Perfectionism
💡Social Media Influence
💡Body Image
💡Self-Acceptance
💡Gym Bros
💡Middle School
💡Attraction
💡Personality
💡Endocrine Disease
Highlights
The narrator unexpectedly finds time to observe people at the mall, leading to a realization about authenticity.
A man's bloated stomach stands out among a fit body, prompting a discussion on the unrealistic body standards set by social media.
The narrator criticizes the trend of 'gym bros' who purposefully tighten their abs for social media, suggesting it's unauthentic.
The reality of gym-goers is contrasted with the social media portrayal, where many are not as muscular or lean as depicted.
The narrator reflects on personal experiences of trying to fit in by emulating 'cool' behaviors in middle school, which ultimately felt inauthentic.
The realization that pretending to be someone else does not make one more attractive, but rather highlights insecurities.
A discussion on the pressure to be a perfectionist and the false belief that it equates to attractiveness.
The narrator argues that being authentic is more attractive than trying to fit a mold of perfection.
The importance of being comfortable in one's own skin and how it contributes to true attractiveness.
The narrator shares anecdotes of people with disabilities or conditions who are confident and not held back by societal standards of beauty.
A call to action for viewers to embrace their true selves and not be swayed by the unrealistic portrayals of beauty on the internet.
The narrator emphasizes that attractiveness is not solely about physical appearance but also about personality and authenticity.
The video concludes with a reminder that being authentic will attract true friends and that pretending will not.
The narrator offers a piece of advice: 'Never AG the truth about attraction, just be yourself.'
An invitation for viewers to check out other videos if the current video has inspired them.
Transcripts
it's a typical afternoon I'm late for
work I'm sprinting to the mall my back
is in zip I ran like a little kid then I
checked my watch oh I was actually 10
minutes earlier than I thought and I was
like why don't I walk around the moreall
to kill time so then I did and that's
when I came out with a pretty sneaky
idea which sounds very exciting to me I
began to purpose
look at people yes everybody everyone
that passing by I look at their face I
look into their eyes I look that their
clothing their body I was expecting to
find something peul out and then I
spotted a man with a light gray shirt
and a pair of loose black jeans that's
not what I noticed first because what
caught my attention was his bloated
stomach it was not fat at all in fact
his arms and his chest are looking quite
big and muscular he was very fit but the
fact that he got a big bloated tummy
that lifted up his skirt seems so uncool
for a person who goes to the gym often
because I was always seeing those guys
in high school in a friend group they
didn't seem that muscular they didn't
[ __ ] have any fat instead they have
purposefully tightened their apps and
walking around with that and of course
wait and their Instagram stories are
full of them like tightening their
stomach and they're skinny as [ __ ] now
being skinny isn't their fault at all by
all means but being unauthentic towards
your own body is and the reality is
people are not that attractive than you
think most of the gym Bros I see you
know they are huge both in arms and
tummy yeah they they didn't even have
apps maybe that's what those guys saw on
social media now those influences they
seem so attractive and perfect their
body is 10 out of 10 everyone is trying
to be like them but there's another
social media was a reality [ __ ] see a
lot of us are insecure
because we pretend to be somebody that
we are not when I was in middle school
there were always a few guys acting like
Gangsta their friend group is always
seems so cool you know they're shouting
they're being loud they are cursing
every sentences no they their friend
group always seems so cool and I wanted
to be like them so I stared to dress
like them I started to speak like them
but over time I didn't find myself
attractive around girls too it's weird
for me you know because I thought
pretending to be them will make me more
attractive to people but the truth is
you don't need to be any better than you
currently are to attract
people being unauthentic equals being
insecure towards your own body being
insecure is also equal to being a
perfectionist so they fake their apps
they fake their coolness they're like
all my coolness depends on my skinny abs
and weap but the truth is fake
Perfection is equal to
imperfections and that's okay being
unauthentic will not bring you true
friends either when you stop pretending
to be other people they'll be like oh my
God I can't believe he's so ugly it won
mean ugly here
is ugly in terms of Personality it's not
about looks because I'm not going to lie
there will be also some above average
guys particularly girls who are obsessed
of their looks they think they are not
attractive enough they think they are
ugly but in other people's eyes they are
above average but they can't see it when
you look at those people who regards
thems as not attractive you can you can
say they're ugly you can say they're not
attractive but if they keep hiding and
denying the fact they are not attractive
or even pretend to be anyone else
they're just going to stay where they
are I have known someone with dis
ability being fine about life I even saw
someone with like the trro gland disease
you know you have a huge ball on the
side of the neck that's like the
endocrine disease it'll be a shame
walking around with it as a teenager
right but I saw him being perfectly
fine he's not holding anything back even
flirts with girls so a lot of time we
think we are not attractive we not
perfect enough is often because we saw
someone who is 100 times attractive than
us on the internet but in the reality
you don't need to do much work to look
ATT attactive being comfortable in your
own skin is enough so bro if you're are
going to take anything out of this video
be this three wordss this advice would
never AG the truth about
attraction just be
yourself and we'll see you in the next
video and also check out my other video
If this video has inspired you peace out
bro
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