How to Start to Find Purpose in Your Life

Summary

Dieses Video skizziert die Herausforderungen des Lebens als Hedonismus, der zu Gefühlen der Leere, Schuld und Selbstvorwürfen führen kann. Der Sprecher teilt seine Erfahrungen mit verschiedenen Berufen und Studiengängen und wie diese seine Mental Health beeinträchtigten. Er reflektiert über die Suche nach einem Job, der nicht nur Freude, sondern auch Frieden und Zufriedenheit bringt. Der Schwerpunkt liegt auf der inneren Arbeit, die notwendig ist, um die Ursachen von Unzufriedenheit zu verstehen und nicht nur nach Symptomen zu suchen. Es wird empfohlen, die Natur von Glück, Freude, Leidenschaft und Schmerz zu erforschen und die Weisheiten des Yogi Patanjali über die Bedeutung von Achtsamkeit und Gelassenheit im Leben zu nutzen.

Takeaways

• 😔 Das Leben im Hedonismus kann zu Gefühlen der Leere, Schuld und Scham führen, da man denkt, nichts mit dem Leben zu bewirken.
• 🤔 Ohne Träume oder Interessen anzugehen und keine positiven Erfahrungen im Online-Posting zu haben, kann zu einer Lebenszufriedenheit führen, obwohl man sich ineffektiv fühlt.
• 🔍 Die Suche nach einem Job oder Studiengang, der länger als einen Monat Freude bereitet, zeigt die Schwierigkeit, ein Gefühl der Belonging zu finden.
• 🌐 Die Erkenntnis, dass viele Menschen eine gute Lebensqualität haben, aber trotzdem Schwierigkeiten haben, etwas, das sie begeistert, aufzubauen, zeigt die allgemeine Herausforderung.
• 😓 Die Verschlechterung der mentalen Gesundheit, die mit Arbeits- und Studienerfahrungen einhergeht, kann zu einem Zustand des Gleichgültigkeits führen.
• 🧘 Die Worte eines alten Yogis, Patanjali, über das Zusammenspiel von Achtsamkeit und Geistesruhe, bieten einen Einblick in die Natur von Glückseligkeit und Frieden.
• 💭 Die Idee, dass jede Fluktuation des Geistes zu einem Mangel an Frieden führt, deutet darauf hin, dass die Kontrolle des Geistes Schlüssel zu innerem Frieden ist.
• 🚫 Die Ablehnung der hedonistischen Lebensweise und der Fokus auf die Bedeutung von Achtsamkeit und Gelassenheit, um eine tiefere Zufriedenheit zu erreichen.
• 🔄 Die Erkenntnis, dass das Streben nach äußeren Lösungen für innere Unzufriedenheit oft nicht erfolgreich ist und dass man stattdessen die innere Haltung verändern sollte.
• 🤷‍♂️ Die Betonung der Tatsache, dass manchmal eine Entfernung von den eigenen Wünschen und der Fokussierung auf die Arbeit selbst zu einer Verbesserung der Arbeitsleistung führt.
• 💡 Der Schluss, dass die Selbstkenntnis und die Fähigkeit, die eigenen Geistesfluktuationen zu kontrollieren, entscheidend für das Erreichen eines Zustandes des Glücks und Friedens sind.

Q & A

Was ist Hedonismus und warum könnte ein Leben davon zu einem Gefühl der Leere führen?

Hedonismus ist eine Lebensauffassung, die das Streben nach Freude und das Vermeiden von Schmerz als höchstes Gut ansieht. Ein Leben des Hedonismus kann zu einem Gefühl der Leere führen, weil die ständige Suche nach kurzfristigen Freuden ohne tiefere Bedeutung oder Ziele letztlich unzufriedenstellend und unfertigend sein kann, was Schuld- und Schamgefühle hervorruft.

Wie kann das Gefühl der Leere und der Mangel an Interessen an verschiedenen Tätigkeiten mit der Mentalität in Verbindung gebracht werden?

Das Gefühl der Leere und das Fehlen von Interessen können auf eine ständige innere Unsicherheit und das Streben nach ständigen äußeren Freuden zurückzuführen sein. Ohne tiefere Ziele oder Bedeutungen fühlt sich das Leben oft sinnlos an und führt zu einer inneren Leere.

Was könnte die Ursache für das Mangel an Motivation sein, Aktivitäten außerhalb der Arbeit zu verfolgen?

Die Mangel an Motivation kann durch eine fehlende Klarheit über persönliche Ziele oder ein Mangel an positiver Verstärkung für neue Aktivitäten verursacht sein. Wenn frühere Versuche, Interessen zu finden, gescheitert sind, kann die Motivation nachlassen, neue Erfahrungen zu machen.

Was ist die Rolle der Meditation und Achtsamkeit in der Überwindung von negativen Geistesfluktuationen?

Meditation und Achtsamkeit können helfen, die Geistesfluktuationen zu kontrollieren, die oft zu negativen Emotionen und Gedanken führen. Durch die Praxis der Achtsamkeit kann man lernt, seine Gedanken zu beobachten und nicht von ihnen mitgerissen zu werden, was zu mehr Frieden und weniger Leid führen kann.

Wie unterscheidet sich das Streben nach Freude (Dopamin) von dem Streben nach Frieden und Zufriedenheit?

Das Streben nach Freude ist oft mit dem Suchen von Dopamin verbunden, einem Neurotransmitter, der das Gefühl von Belohnung und Genuss auslöst. Frieden und Zufriedenheit hingegen sind langfristig und kommen durch das Beenden der Geistesfluktuationen, nicht durch die ständige Suche nach äußeren Freuden erreicht.

Was ist die Bedeutung von 'Yoga' im Kontext der Gesprächstranskript und wie kann es helfen?

Im Kontext der Transkript bedeutet Yoga 'Vereinigung' oder 'Frieden'. Es bezieht sich auf die Praxis, innere Ruhe und Frieden durch das Beenden der Geistesfluktuationen zu erreichen, was zu einer dauerhafteren Zufriedenheit führen kann als die kurzlebige Freude durch äußere Reize.

Was ist die 'U-Formige Lücke', auf die in der Transkript Bezug genommen wird und was bedeutet sie?

Die 'U-Formige Lücke' ist eine Metapher für die Suche nach dem richtigen Platz in der Welt, der einem nur persönlich entspricht. Es geht darum, dass jede Person ein einzigartiges Ziel oder eine Rolle hat, die sie zu vervollkommnen hat, und die Suche danach manchmal frustrierend und schmerzhaft sein kann, bevor sie gefunden wird.

Wie kann man Detachment oder 'Vairagya' in Bezug auf den Arbeitsplatz entwickeln?

Detachment oder Vairagya kann durch das Ignorieren von unerfüllten Wünschen und das Akzeptieren von Erfahrungen, auch wenn sie nicht den Erwartungen entsprechen, entwickelt werden. Es geht darum, die innere Ruhe beizubehalten, unabhängig von den Umständen, was zu einer Verbesserung der Arbeitsleistung und Zufriedenheit führen kann.

Was ist der Unterschied zwischen dem Streben nach äußeren Freuden und dem Streben nach innerem Frieden?

Äußere Freuden basieren auf äußeren Reizen und Belohnungen, die temporär und unzuverlässig sind. Innerer Frieden hingegen entsteht durch das Beenden der Geistesfluktuationen und das Akzeptieren von Erfahrungen ohne extreme Reaktionen, was zu einer dauerhafteren Zufriedenheit führt.

Wie kann man die interne Komponente der Zufriedenheit am Arbeitsplatz steigern?

Die interne Komponente der Zufriedenheit kann durch das Entwickeln von Achtsamkeit, Detachment und eine positive Einstellung gesteigert werden. Es ist wichtig, die Ursachen von Unzufriedenheit zu identifizieren und zu verstehen, wie man sie durch eine Veränderung der eigenen Reaktionen und Gedanken kontrollieren kann.

Was sind einige der Konsequenzen, wenn man ständig nach der 'perfekten' Arbeit sucht und sie nie findet?

Die ständige Suche nach der perfekten Arbeit ohne Erfolg kann zu Burnout, Frustration, einem Mangel an Selbstvertrauen und einer Verschlechterung der mentalen Gesundheit führen. Es kann auch dazu führen, dass man andere Aspekte des Lebens vernachlässigt,因为他太专注于找到理想的工作。

Wie kann man das innere Konfliktgefühl in Bezug auf die Arbeit überwinden?

Man kann das innere Konfliktgefühl überwinden, indem man Detachment entwickelt und lernt, nicht von den ständigen Wünschen und Erwartungen des Geistes mitgerissen zu werden. Indem man eine realistische und ausgewogene Sicht auf die Arbeit entwickelt, kann man innere Ruhe finden und die Arbeitsleistung verbessern.

Was ist die Rolle der Selbstreflektion in der Suche nach einer befriedigenden Tätigkeit oder einem Job?

Selbstreflektion ist entscheidend, um zu verstehen, was man tatsächlich von einer Tätigkeit oder einem Job erwartet und was man nicht mag. Durch das Beobachten und Analysieren eigener Gedanken und Emotionen kann man tiefergehende Erkenntnisse über die Ursachen von Unzufriedenheit gewinnen und möglicherweise Wege finden, sie zu adressieren.

Outlines

00:00

😔 Suche nach Bedeutung im Leben

Der erste Absatz spiegelt die Suche nach einem Sinn im Leben wider, der durch Hedonismus und die Konsequenzen von Arbeitsunzufriedenheit geprägt ist. Der Autor beschreibt das Gefühl der Leere, Schuld und Scham, das mit einem Leben ohne Ziele und Interessen einhergeht. Er diskutiert das Konzept von Freude und Beschäftigung und wie das Streben nach neuen Erfahrungen und Studiengängen nicht zu Zufriedenheit führt. Die Erwartung, etwas Interessantes zu finden, hat sich in Zweifel und eine Verschlechterung der mentalen Gesundheit umgewandelt, was zu einer Lebensweise führt, die von Passivität und Resignation geprägt ist.

05:01

🧘‍♂️ Yoga und die Suche nach innerem Frieden

Der zweite Absatz stellt die Idee des inneren Friedens dar, wie es durch die Praxis des Yoga, also der Einheit oder Stille des Geistes, erreicht werden kann. Der Sprecher erklärt, dass Freude und Leidenschaft durch die Stille des Geistes entstehen und dass die kontinuierlichen Versuche, neue Jobs oder Studiengänge zu finden, zu einem Zustand des Ausdauerens und der Erschöpfung führen. Es wird betont, dass die wahre Freude nicht in der Erfüllung von Wünschen, sondern in der Stille des Geistes zu finden ist.

10:02

🤔 Der Einfluss von Wünschen auf unser Wohlbefinden

In diesem Absatz wird die Rolle von Wünschen im menschlichen Leben diskutiert. Der Sprecher erklärt, dass die Erfüllung von Wünschen nur eine vorübergehende Lösung ist und dass die dauerhafte Suche nach Freude durch äußere Faktoren, wie Jobs oder Studiengänge, zu einer unerfüllten Sehnsucht und einem Mangel an Frieden führen kann. Es wird betont, dass die wahre Freude in der Stille des Geistes und nicht in der Erfüllung von Wünschen liegt.

15:03

🛠 Die Bedeutung von Achtsamkeit und Detachment am Arbeitsplatz

Der vierte Absatz konzentriert sich auf die Arbeit und wie man durch Achtsamkeit und Detachment eine Verbesserung der Arbeitsleistung erzielen kann. Der Sprecher diskutiert die Unterschiede zwischen der Achse von Freude und Schmerz und der Achse von Frieden und Leiden. Er erklärt, dass die wahre Freude nicht durch äußere Faktoren, sondern durch das Beenden der Geistesfluktuationen erreicht wird und wie man durch die Praxis der Detachment und Achtsamkeit eine bessere Beurteilung von Arbeitssituationen entwickeln kann.

20:04

🧘‍♀️ Meditation und die Entwicklung von Detachment

In diesem Absatz wird die Praxis der Meditation als Mittel zur Entwicklung von Detachment und Achtsamkeit vorgestellt. Der Sprecher erklärt, wie man durch das Ignorieren von Wünschen und das Üben der Selbstbeherrschung die Kontrolle über den Geist erlangen kann. Er betont, dass die Entwicklung von Detachment nicht zu einer Verringerung der Arbeitsleistung, sondern im Gegenteil zu einer Verbesserung führt, da man dadurch von inneren Konflikten befreit ist.

25:06

💡 Selbstkontrolle und die Suche nach wahrer Freude

Der sechste und letzte Absatz schließt den Kreis und kehrt zurück zu der Idee der Selbstkontrolle und der Suche nach wahrer Freude. Der Sprecher betont, dass man durch die Erkenntnis, dass die wahre Freude nicht von äußeren Faktoren abhängt, sondern von der inneren Ruhe und dem Beenden der Geistesfluktuationen, eine bessere Lebensqualität erreichen kann. Er erklärt, dass man durch die Praxis der Achtsamkeit und des Detachments eine größere Objektivität und Klarheit in der Wahrnehmung von Arbeitssituationen entwickeln kann.

Keywords

💡Hedonismus

Hedonismus ist eine Lebensauffassung, bei der der Laster des Genusses und die Suche nach Vergnügen das höchste Gut darstellt. Im Video wird argumentiert, dass ein Leben, das ausschließlich diesem Prinzip folgt, zu einem Gefühl der Leere, Schuld und Scham führen kann, da es keine tieferen Ziele oder Bedeutungen verfolgt.

💡Lebensleere

Die 'Lebensleere' beschreibt ein Gefühl des Mangels an Bedeutsamkeit oder Zielen im Leben. Im Kontext des Videos wird dies als eine der Konsequenzen des Hedonismus beschrieben, wenn keine tieferen Interessen oder Aspirationen gefunden werden können.

💡Interesse

Im Video wird das Fehlen von Interessen thematisiert, was zu einer Unzufriedenheit mit verschiedenen Jobs und Studiengängen führt. Das Finden von Interessen ist zentral für das Erleben von Zufriedenheit und Motivation in der Arbeit und im Leben allgemein.

💡Jugendliche Krise

Die 'Jugendliche Krise' ist ein psychologischer Begriff, der ein Stadium des Lebens beschreibt, in dem eine Person ihre Lebensziele und -wege in Frage stellt. Im Video spiegelt sich dies wider, als die Sprecherin ihre Unzufriedenheit mit verschiedenen Jobs und Studiengängen beschreibt.

💡Mental Health

Das 'Mental Health' bezieht sich auf den psychologischen Wohlbefinden einer Person. Im Video wird erwähnt, dass die Suche nach einem Beruf oder einer Tätigkeit, die man mag, zu einer Verschlechterung des mentalen Gesundheitszustandes führen kann, wenn keine Zufriedenheit gefunden wird.

💡Depression

Depression ist ein schwerwiegendes mentales Gesundheitsproblem, das mit Gefühlen der Schwermut, Entmutigung und einem Mangel an Freude an normalen Aktivitäten einhergeht. Im Video wird die Vermutung geäußert, dass die Sprecherin möglicherweise depressiv ist, aufgrund ihres Mangel an Motivation und Freude am Leben.

💡Willenskraft

Willenskraft ist die Fähigkeit, selbst bei Schwierigkeiten oder ohne Belohnung, an einem Ziel festzuhalten. Im Video wird darauf hingewiesen, dass die Suche nach einem befriedigenden Job oder einer Tätigkeit oft die Willenskraft erfordert, insbesondere wenn keine positive Rückkopplung vorhanden ist.

💡Achtsamkeit

Achtsamkeit ist ein Konzept, das Wahrnehmen im Hier und Jetzt ohne Vorurteile oder Befindlichkeiten beschreibt. Im Video wird angedeutet, dass Achtsamkeit, durch die Entwicklung von Abstinenten und Entfernungsfähigkeit, zu einer besseren Fähigkeit beitragen kann, die eigenen Geistesfluktuationen zu kontrollieren und dadurch das mentale Wohlbefinden zu verbessern.

💡Innere Konflikte

Innere Konflikte beziehen sich auf die Diskrepanz zwischen den Erwartungen, Wünschen und Bedürfnissen einer Person und der Realität. Im Video wird erörtert, wie die Suche nach einer befriedigenden Arbeit oft durch innere Konflikte geprägt ist, die durch die Ablehnung der eigenen Geistesfluktuationen überwunden werden können.

💡Zufriedenheit

Zufriedenheit ist das Gefühl des Genusses, der Erfüllung und des Friedens mit der eigenen Situation. Im Video wird diskutiert, dass Zufriedenheit nicht unbedingt durch äußere Faktoren wie einen 'perfekten' Job erzielt werden kann, sondern durch die Fähigkeit, die eigenen Geistesfluktuationen zu kontrollieren und dadurch einen Zustand des Friedens zu erreichen.

💡Geistesfluktuationen

Geistesfluktuationen beziehen sich auf die ständigen Veränderungen und Umschwünge im menschlichen Bewusstsein, die von Gedanken, Emotionen und Wünschen ausgelöst werden. Im Video wird argumentiert, dass die Kontrolle und Stilllegung dieser Fluktuationen zentral für das Erreichen eines Zustandes der Zufriedenheit und des Friedens ist.

Highlights

Die Diskussion über Hedonismus und seine Auswirkungen auf das Gefühl von Leere, Schuld und Scham.

Die Schwierigkeit, Interessen oder Ziele im Leben zu finden, was zu einer Lebensleistung ohne Motivation führt.

Der Einfluss von familiären und sozialen Beziehungen auf das persönliche Wohlbefinden trotz beruflicher Unsicherheit.

Die Suche nach der 'richtigen' Berufung trotz wiederholter Diskontinuität in verschiedenen Jobs und Studiengängen.

Die psychologische Auswirkungen der fehlenden Arbeitszufriedenheit und die zunehmende Zweifel an der eigenen Existenz.

Die Bedeutung der Mentalgesundheit und die Notwendigkeit, Depressionen selbst ohne medizinische Diagnose zu erkennen.

Die Herausforderungen, die mit Überstunden und einem unfreundlichen Arbeitsumfeld verbunden sind.

Die Hoffnung auf eine bessere Zukunft durch eine neue Berufsmöglichkeit, die nach einer langen Wartezeit erscheinen könnte.

Die Bedenken und Ängste, dass die nächste Jobänderung möglicherweise das letzte Versuch sein könnte, bevor man aufgibt.

Die philosophische Reflexion über das Wesen von Glück, Freude, Leid und Schmerz.

Die Einführung des Konzepts von Yoga als Weg zur Erreichung von Frieden und Zufriedenheit durch die Beendigung geistiger Schwankungen.

Die Bedeutung der Achtsamkeit und Meditation für das Verständnis und Steuern der eigenen Gedanken und Gefühle.

Die Unterscheidung zwischen dem Streben nach Freude und dem Streben nach Frieden und wie sie sich auf das Arbeitsleben auswirken.

Die Rolle von Dopamin und Technologie in der Verwirrung von Freude und Frieden sowie dem Streben nach kurzfristigen Freuden.

Die praktischen Anwendungen von Achtsamkeit und Meditation im Arbeitsalltag, um die interne Zufriedenheit zu erhöhen.

Die Erkenntnis, dass die innere Zufriedenheit und Leistung im Arbeitsplatz durch Entfernung von inneren Konflikten und Wunschverfolgung gesteigert werden kann.

Die Bedeutung der Entfernung und Toleranz gegenüber den eigenen Wünschen, um eine größere Unabhängigkeit von äußeren Belohnungen zu erreichen.

Die praktischen Schritte zur Bewältigung von Arbeitsunzufriedenheit durch das Erkennen und Steuern der eigenen Gedankenmuster.

Transcripts

if we live a life of Hedonism we're

going to feel empty we're going to feel

guilty we're going to feel ashamed of

ourselves I'm not doing anything with my

life I'm going to feel like other people

are like good and like I'm like a waste

of space and all this kind of stuff I

have no dreams or aspirations and I

can't find anything that interests me no

experience in posting online stuff but I

will try to be as short and concise as

possible generally most people I know

would say I have a pretty good life I'm

pretty happy with myself and my

personality have a good family and a

good group of friends the only problem

is I simply is simply that I can't find

any job degree or field that I can work

with for more than a month without

hating everything about it being

somewhat easy going I first thought that

the solution would be to try out new

things until I find something I can be

happy doing I've studied for multiple

different degrees and worked a whole lot

of jobs in my search for something over

the past five years but have never found

anything I find even remotely fun or

interesting every single day that I have

spent working slash studying so far have

been nothing but tiresome and

excruciatingly painful in the beginning

I was motivated to find my place in the

world now I'm beginning to doubt that it

even exists as a result my mental health

has been deteriorating to the point

where I spend my time after work and

weekends doing almost nothing but laying

in bed staring at the ceiling I have no

motivation to go out to meet new people

or start a relationship or other things

that I actually want to do I believe I

might be depressed but I don't want to

prescribe any sort of illness to myself

without talking to a doctor or

psychiatrist first good smart without

going into detail that is currently not

an option nor will it be for some time

that's sag and unfortunate my current

job was yet another attempt at finding

something that might catch my interest

however it has turned out to be the

worst one so far as I have to work a

painful amount of overtime to fulfill my

duties I'm currently in contact with

someone who has offered me a job within

a new field but I will have to endure my

current job for almost a year until I

can start working there if it turns out

to be be as bad as everything else I've

tried so far I have absolutely no idea

what to do I can feel that I am quickly

running out of gas and I think my next

job is the last attempt I get before

giving up on everything and start living

on state welfare welfare while lying in

bed 24 7. I have no requirements when it

comes to salary location or status only

that I can find something I can enjoy at

least every now and then what am I

supposed to do keep searching until I

inevitably burn out am I perhaps failing

to deal with the problem at its root

while focusing only on the symptoms any

help is appreciated so sometimes we get

into this situation where we don't like

any work we're looking for our place in

the world right there's a place there's

a there's a U-shaped hole out there

somewhere that only you can fill and we

go looking for it and each thing that we

try is not something that we find happy

like we're not filled with happiness and

joy and so like we're like okay this is

not for me and it becomes excruciatingly

painful because I I don't enjoy it right

it's not fun and then people out there

may say like oh but a job isn't supposed

to be fun right you're supposed to

suffer kind of true and kind of like

really bad right because I mean if

that's true does that mean that I

essentially have to sign up for a life

that's excruciatingly painful and

there's something really Insidious about

that because if we sort of assume that a

job is not supposed to be fun and we

kind of write off peace or enjoyment or

excitement in a job because we say oh

it's like just not a possibility then we

could be writing something off that's

very very significant right so what do

you do in this situation where you've

tried a bunch of things and it's not

just jobs right it's also degrees right

like oh I'm gonna try to figure out what

I want to do with my life so I'm going

to study this that's not fun I'm going

to try something else that's not fun I'm

going to try something else that's not

fun and then what do I do like how do

you move forward because the more that

you pull yourself out of the hole

because let's let's understand like how

you get into the hole for a second right

so as I try something and I don't enjoy

it I try something and I don't enjoy it

I try something and I don't enjoy it

what am I doing to myself am I getting

any kind of positive reinforcement for

going out there and trying no of course

not every time I try it's like an epic

fail excruciatingly painful as this

person puts it then what is my brain

doing it's telling me why are you

wasting your time going out there and

trying something like clearly there's

nothing positive that's reinforcing this

Behavior so then as your brain is

starting to tell you don't bother I.E

lay in bed all day you have to use

willpower to overcome a lack of

reinforcement so you go out there and

once more into the breach and then like

that's not fun and you come back and so

then you without any kind of positive

reinforcement you end up using willpower

over and over and over again then you

end up burning out it becomes easier to

lay in bed so how do you overcome this

situation so this is going to sound kind

of weird but we're actually going to

take an approach that's like really

really like in a sense simple but quite

profound and also quite old we're gonna

dig into what is like the nature of

Happiness enjoyment Pleasure and Pain

like how do these things work and it

turns out that there's actually one

phrase which will sort of explain all of

this stuff and also how to navigate

forward like how to move forward so we

sort of talk about happiness as

something that's Elusive and difficult

to understand or like hard to find like

what is the meaning of happiness it

turns out that there was this guy named

patanjali who lived maybe about two

thousand to three thousand years ago who

figured it out and he said one thing

which is Yoga

okay that we may be like what what on

Earth does that mean so I'll explain

I'll translate it for you yoga which

means Union in this case we're going to

kind of talk about peace and contentment

so peace happiness and contentment comes

from fluctuation cessation of

fluctuations of the mind so when our

mind stops fluctuating that's when we'll

be at peace so the first thing that I'm

going to ask y'all is like when you're

in an excruciatingly painful work

situation what is your mind doing

chances are it's going to be having lots

of thoughts okay so this is something

that we're going to illustrate using a

diagram so this is something that's like

really simple actually but we we just

never we never discuss it like we don't

actually teach this but even just out of

this one sort of insight from a yogi a

meditator basically we're going to learn

a lot about how to fix this okay so

let's understand this okay so remember

we said yoga

which means Union or peace is attained

by cessation of fluctuations in the mind

so let's understand this principle and

you're like what does this have to do

with finding like happiness in life

let's talk about it okay let's say that

my mind

is still so when I'm enjoying myself I

know it sounds kind of weird but there's

going to actually be like Stillness of

the mind so let's say that like I'm

meditating right so when I'm meditating

and if I'm in a good meditative session

my mind is still when I'm watching a

sunset sitting on the beach and just

like vibing my mind is still when I'm

like let's say I'm go to a party and I'm

dancing and I'm having a good time like

my mind isn't going to be filled with

thoughts now let's look at something

like boredom so if I'm sitting somewhere

and I start to get bored what happens to

my mind my mind starts to fluctuate okay

so as I get bored I think about this

thing I think about this thing I think

about this thing I go over here I start

thinking in all these different

directions and if I dislike my job or if

I dislike what I'm studying what's gonna

happen my mind is going to start

thinking in a bunch of different ways

I'm going to create more fluctuations in

the mind and the more fluctuations I

create in the mind the more unhappy I

become so I have a question for you if

you're in this situation you can do a

simple experiment which is when you go

to a place where you're not not enjoying

yourself notice what your mind is doing

is there a bunch of activity in your

mind because chances are there is how

long do I have to do this oh man I can't

believe I have to do this this sucks I

don't want to be here I want to be

somewhere else I don't like this person

this isn't Fun am I ever gonna find

something how do I find what am I going

to do if this doesn't work out what if I

do how do I find this should I keep

looking should I not keep looking all of

those are fluctuations of the mind it's

all not being at peace so I'll give you

all another example to illustrate this

let's say my mind is peace at peace and

then I smell chicken nuggets I smell

some nuggies suddenly I have a desire

and there's a fluctuation of the mind

I'm no longer at peace because I smell

something and then I start thinking

about nuggies I want the Nuggie I want

to eat the Nuggie I want the Nuggie oh

my God it's so good and then if I eat

the Nuggie what happens in my mind so

experiment number two next time you have

a desire what does it do to your mind it

creates a fluctuation it starts to

create thoughts I want a nugget am I

going to be able to afford it is it

healthy for me is it unhealthy for me oh

my God if I eat it I'm gonna it's not

good for my health it creates guilt I

worry about finances I've got food at

home so many fluctuations of the Mind do

you all see that and with each of these

fluctuations am I happy am I at peace no

now what happens if I eat the Nagi as I

eat the Nagi I experience enjoyment my

mind calms down right oh man that nug is

so good I'm just sitting there I'm

enjoying it so now we've returned to the

Baseline of the mind and we've become

content but only for so long right

because then what happens there's

another fluctuation I'm unhealthy this

thought pops up and then your peace is

destroyed you all see this so

potentially figured it out any

fluctuation of the mind is going to lead

to a lack of peace and so what what

tends to happen in our life is we have

desires we have all these Desires in the

only way that we know how to bring our

mind back to peace is to fulfill our

desires that's why we fulfill our

desires so the problem though is that

even when we fulfill our desires by

eating nuggies this doesn't it's not a

sustainable solution because this will

result if we live a life of Hedonism

we're going to feel empty we're going to

feel guilty we're going to feel ashamed

of ourselves I'm not doing anything with

my life I'm going to feel like other

people are like good and like I'm like a

waste of space and all this kind of

stuff so even fulfilling desires doesn't

fix it forever the other basic problem

with nuggies is like if I eat nuggies

today what's going to happen tomorrow

right so even if I have nuggies for a

little bit and even if I distract myself

through video games or whatever so I

don't feel guilty after eating nuggies

right because that's what we do because

in order to make the bad thoughts go

away I'm going to distract myself

tomorrow will come around and I will

want nuggies again I'm personally

struggling with this because I had

nuggies on Friday and so I've wanted

them all weekend it's been hard Chad you

guys see this so even fulfilling our

desires is only a temporary solution at

best but here's the key principle to

understand forget about desires for a

second where does the happiness exist

where does the peace exist here here and

here this is what patanjali figured out

so then the question becomes is there a

way to hang out here without fulfilling

our desires the answer is absolutely and

if we understand that then we will be

happy so let's talk about work for a

second in the case of work my first

question to you is to be happy at work

what are the parts of being happy at

work is there an external component if I

find the right job what percentage of

Happiness can I get and is there an

internal component what percentage of

Happiness can I get at work with an

internal through internal work so if I

go looking for the perfect job will I

ever be able to find a job that will

make me 100 happy right so what is the

percentage contribution of internal

versus external like is it 100 and zero

so my happiness involves finding the

perfect job or is it 50 50 right or is

it zero one hundred what is it so let me

put the question to you all another way

so one person is suggesting 2080. can

you if I take a fixed job that does not

change at all is it possible that I can

do something internally that will

increase my enjoyment of the work or

decrease my enjoyment of the work is

that possible so that answer I think is

absolutely yes so here's the other way

that I put it here's a person I've tried

this job this job this job this job they

are all excruciatingly painful let's use

a different analogy I've dated this

person this person this person this

person this person all people suck are

this person's an this

person's an this person's an

this person I've dated so many

people I keep on dating

everyone out there is an where's

the problem are they really all

do all jobs truly suck I'm not saying

that jobs don't suck right we're not

saying well we'll get there eventually

we're not necessarily espousing that my

point is that if you're out there and

you think everything around you is the

problem you can go look for the perfect

job and who knows you may find it but my

point is that if you're looking for an

external solution you've got to be super

careful because it could be at least

partially an internal problem and in

this case like I think that's the

direction that this person should look

so this is what's kind of interesting is

that as we look to our own happiness

within a work situation we'll realize a

couple of different things so there's a

difference between the axis of Pleasure

and Pain and the axis of peace and

suffering and this is the big problem

with society today is that we confuse

these two axes why do we confuse these

two axes because of Technology because

of dopamine so we know that people who

live hedonistic lives if I just spend

all my time chasing dopamine and I move

in this direction do these people live

lives of peace and fulfillment no they

end up over here dopamine puts you right

here because we try to retreat away from

pain now are there cases let's think

about this like are there cases where

you can feel at peace with yourself even

if you're struggling sure

absolutely so for example when I was in

medical school I helped women give birth

and that's this experience that is

excruciatingly painful

and yet

luckily most women that I worked with I

would put childbirth up here I'd ask

them would you do it again if you

couldn't they're like absolutely that's

kind of interesting sometimes they do do

it again sometimes they deliver a second

baby a third baby fourth baby right so

it's actually possible like to have up

here be up here and so then the question

is well well what you know what dictates

whether something is if we're sort of

saying that the axis of peace and

pleasure is different from the axis I

mean sorry pain and pleasure is

different from the axis of peace and

suffering like how do we move along this

axis and that's where we go back to this

cessation of fluctuations of the mind

and I've experienced this myself I mean

not childbirth but like for example when

I'm on call being on call for 30 hours

and working in a hospital is not fun

it's not like binge like playing video

games is fun but the problem is that

when I do a bunch of dopaminergic stuff

I end up up here being on call is in

this direction and then there's other

stuff right like there's like going on

vacation with with my family which is

actually up here right so that's like

fulfilling and it's fun there are even

times where gaming can be up here like

it depends on when you're doing it right

and there are times where there's like

pain there's stuff down here too

absolutely so if you're in this

situation like the first thing to to

really think about is what access are

you chasing because when I hear I don't

enjoy my job I think they're looking for

this so you're moving in this you're

fine trying to find a job that is like

dopaminergic and if you're trying to

find a job that's dopaminergic you can

keep looking out there but I hate to

break it to you but no job is going to

be able to compete with this

no job

will be able to compete with this and so

you're looking to get peace out of

dopaminergic jobs that ain't gonna

happen now you can find a job that you

enjoy you find more pleasurable but it

still won't bring you peace peace is

about cessation of fluctuations of the

mind so then the question becomes okay

how do I stop the fluctuations of my

mind and so that's where I really start

by like going back to this experiment

which is like what is it that you don't

enjoy about your job what is it that is

excruciatingly painful about your job

chances are it's some kind of thought I

find this boring I'm not having fun this

is not what I expected it's not living

up to my expectations right it's like

what's going to be excruciatingly

painful I mean I don't know maybe your

job is physically painful so that's a

whole different ballgame but chances are

what people find excruciatingly boring

or painful about their job is like up

here and so that's where you can control

how you react up here you can absolutely

do it so there are tasks that you can

enjoy or not enjoy like you can

cultivate that sort of internal

enjoyment how do you do that with

Detachment so this is what I'd say is

that if you're in this kind of situation

are you looking for a dopaminergic hit

from your job just ask yourself that

question if the answer is yes then like

ask yourself how reasonable is that and

this is also where I sort of recommend

tolerance right so don't give in to your

mind because your mind is like oh this

isn't as fun as gaming like screw this

and so then the question is do you want

your mind to dictate your actions does

your mind need to be satisfied in order

for you to go to work because if you if

it is then you're screwed because then

your mind if your mind is satisfied then

you luck out and if your mind is not

satisfied then you're unlucky and the

nature of the mind is to be fluctuant I

don't know how to say this but if you're

relying on your mind then like the mind

doesn't stay happy from one thing over

and over and over again that's just not

how it works right you can't play one

video game for the rest of your life

maybe people who play chess are the

exception so it does happen I suppose

but even within chess there's a variety

right you're not playing the same person

over and over and over again so you've

got to be super careful and so this is

what's kind of interesting is as you

start ignoring the desires of your mind

you will cultivate Detachment and you

can even practice that by ignoring

desires that your mind has if you want

nuggies no more nuggies for how long for

a year for a decade so between the ages

of 21 and 31 abouts I basically gave up

one of my favorite things and I was like

just not gonna get it just not gonna get

it and every time I wanted it I was like

yeah we're just not going to do that and

my mind would like squirm it'd be like

why not what's the harm why are you

doing this when is it going to end I

just be like yeah we're just not going

to do it today we're not going to do it

today and then eventually the mind like

chilled out and then what I realized is

like I'm no longer like in like I'm not

no longer controlled by this thing and

then I can start tolerating unpleasant

experiences the interesting thing is

that once you start developing

Detachment and you start stop chasing

the fluctuations of the Mind any job

becomes more enjoyable so what I found

is that like something bizarre happened

which is that people are like I hate

this class like I hated histology but I

could still study for it okay I loved

physiology way more but I you know was

it easier to study physiology sure but I

could do both and what I noticed is that

all my colleagues in medical school were

tortured so anxious oh my God like I

didn't know how to prepare for the

surgery what if the surgeon thinks that

I'm an idiot and it's like I'm gonna

prepare as best as I can the surgeon

thinks I'm an idiot he's gonna think I'm

an idiot and then I'm gonna get a bad

grade and so be it the most I can do is

study for the surgery and it's bizarre

it's liberating and the other really

bizarre thing is once you start

developing Detachment or vairagya and

not following like what your mind wants

you to do it actually people may think

but then how on Earth am I going to

succeed at work does that mean that I'm

apathetic on the contrary it actually

means that your work performance

improves right which is exactly why

places like Stanford Business School and

Harvard Business School are teaching

mindfulness which is one of the ways

that you develop Detachment because it

actually leads to improvements in

performance and you may ask but Dr K how

on Earth does not following my desires

at work how does that lead to an

improvement in work performance and I

don't know how to say this but like

imagine what your work would be like if

if you are completely free from your

desires you could like if you could do

whatever like then you can just work for

the sake of working there's no inner

conflict between oh what if like what

people don't like my ideas so I'm not

gonna do them no it's like if people

don't like it they don't like it I'm

gonna go ahead and do it anyway what if

there's no longer a conflict between

doing what you enjoy and financial

compensation because remember a lot of

what what causes us to struggle at work

is internal conflict do I follow my

passion or do I like you know work at an

airline and make like 150k a year as a

programmer what do I do it's this

internal conflict whereas once you're

free of the internal conflict you your

job does what the job is supposed to do

it's like no problem for you it actually

is absolutely liberating to no longer

have internal conflict at work because

of like conflicting desires and so I

know it sounds kind of weird this may

not be the answer that y'all are

expecting but if you're having trouble

enjoying anything at work and I'm not

saying that tolerate bad things just

because you're detached in fact once you

become detached you can recognize oh

this is is actually like not a good work

situation so I'm going to move the cool

thing is that once you're detached

there's no guilt around it it's like

okay this is objectively bad and you

start acting objectively instead of

subjectively because when you're

attached you're very subjective it's all

up in here oh my God and once you start

to detach yourself right you gain

distance from your problem you will

become more objective and then you can

start like making good choices because

your mind is no longer Tangled Up So if

you're struggling to find the right kind

of job because no job is enjoyable to

you you've got to start thinking a

little bit about where does enjoyment

come from does it come externally or

internally and you have to work somewhat

on yourself internally to recognize okay

what does it mean when the job is

excruciatingly painful what is my

experience of excruciatingly painful

chances are it's up here and so then the

question is does this control you or do

you control this because as long as this

controls you you're never going to find

a job that you enjoy but once you start

controlling it you will find that the

enjoyment of all jobs will increase and

I'm not saying that don't be calculating

there may be some things that you still

enjoy more than others right because

getting to Enlightenment that state of

100 and zero is very difficult but you

can get to 50 50. and as you get to 50

50 it'll be a lot easier to find jobs

that you enjoy once it becomes easier to

find jobs that you can enjoy then you've

got options instead of like burnout and

laying in bed all day okay so how do you

actually do the control though sometimes

it it seems I can and sometimes I can't

like how do I increase that chance of

being able to every day so this is

excellent question the control is

fundamentally achieved through awareness

so if your job is excruciatingly painful

do you even understand what is

excruciatingly painful about it what is

the actual substance of excruciatingly

painful because I will bet you money

that the experience of excruciatingly

painful is thoughts it's just thoughts

this is a dead end job the job is what

it is it's neither dead end or not dead

end it may not have great professional

prospects but where is the pain coming

from it's from the thought that this is

a dead end job there are some people who

will agree that this is a dead-end job

there are some people will agree that it

will say that this isn't a veteran job

it's still work experience on your

resume if you work in retail and don't

have an opportunity for promotion after

two years you still have two years of

retail experience under your belt you

can go apply for somewhere else there's

an advantage to any job but that's not

the way that your mind sees it so it

starts by awareness what is the nature

of excruciating pain where does that

come from and then what you'll realize

it's wild what you realize is it's

fictitious it's a mirage right it goes

back to what I was saying about like I

still remember on my surgery rotation I

was blown away it's like if I'm gonna do

bad like I can study that's all I can do

is study and either I'll have studied

the right thing or not studied the right

thing there are some things that I can

do so I'll even go and ask the resident

hey I've got this case tomorrow do you

have any recommendations for how I

should prepare resin is like yeah I

would read a b and c I go home and I

read a b and c if the attending asks me

if the surgeon asks me about d e and f

what was I supposed to do I went and

asked the person what I should study

should I have ignored that is that the

right move and just study other random

things that the person told me not to

study because that sounds like the wrong

move and that's when you begin to

realize that like all you can do in life

is what you can do and you can't get

hung up on what other people do now

should you ignore feedback from other

people no we're not saying that you live

a life of selfishness and ignore other

people I'm saying most you can do is

what you can do once you start to

realize that then you will start to

control your mind you can also practice

through meditation you can practice

through even to a certain degree like

the bus yard even deprivation of some

kind right so you can practice

restraining your desires so pick a food

that you enjoy don't eat it for a decade

and then you may think oh

but what what I can't eat it for a

decade what is it like you only like one

food no there's like plenty of other

good stuff to eat you're gonna survive

no but like I'm not gonna be happy well

like you eating the food right now it's

not like you're happy anyway control

your mind and then notice Watch what it

does no nuggies for a necking Watch what

it does how it Rebels but it's like hold

on a second you've been eating nuggies

for 20 years are you happy in life well

no but I want it I want it so then the

question is okay like who's gonna decide

what you do the part of your brain

that's like I want it though don't take

it away from me yeah it's just like of

course you're gonna enjoy it there's no

question that you're gonna enjoy it but

does you does it bring you peace or does

it bring you suffering how do you

control it with practice with awareness

pay attention all of these things why

are you unhappy because I didn't get

what I want so is that going to be the

criteria for happiness and unhappiness

once again let's be critical about it

when you get what you want how long does

the happiness last I want the perfect

wedding I want a dream wedding and I do

not care what any anyone else wants I'm

uninviting my older sister because she

has lost weight and is trying to make me

look bad I want it's my perfect day how

long does the happiness from your

perfect day last the really sad thing is

that oftentimes people who fight really

hard for their Perfect Day get their

perfect day and are unhappy because of

it even Soul Munchies is saying that day

I would argue that not really because I

think when they get their perfect day

there's so much resentment built up they

get their desires but they're not

actually at peace they get what they

wanted but deep down they're fuming and

if they don't get what they want they're

resentful so what's the answer what's

the solution the solution is to be not

okay and be at peace with not getting

what you want I don't need perfect I'm

happy with good enough

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