Ex 'Gigo' reveals what women really want but will never say

Summary

This video reveals 20 hidden desires that most women have but may never express. These insights, shared by a man experienced with women, range from the desire for a confident, strong partner to the importance of emotional connection and attention. Key points include women wanting to feel safe yet excited by risk, desiring emotional safety while testing their partner's patience, and appreciating small gestures of attention. By understanding these unspoken needs, men can elevate their relationships and stand out in the eyes of women.

Takeaways

• 😀 Women want to feel controlled, but only by someone they deeply respect, and this control should be calm and confident, not loud or forceful.
• 😀 Attention is valued by women, but it should be given without prompting. Genuine attention, like recalling small details, creates stronger emotional connections.
• 😀 Women like the idea of being desired by other men, but it should remain a fantasy. They feel more secure when others show interest in their partner, as long as it stays respectful.
• 😀 Women love a man with high standards, but will be drawn to him more if he occasionally breaks his own rules for her. This shows she is unique, but it should not become a pattern.
• 😀 Women desire a sense of safety but also want excitement. They enjoy the feeling of protection when the world still feels unpredictable and wild.
• 😀 Sweet lies, such as complimenting her appearance even when she's tired, are preferred over harsh truths. These lies protect self-image and emotional safety.
• 😀 Women prefer to influence the relationship subtly, guiding the man while still allowing him to feel in control. A direct display of leadership can create resentment.
• 😀 Women enjoy helping a man improve, but only if he is already mostly complete. Too much fixing turns the man into a project, which is unattractive.
• 😀 Women enjoy the thrill of being pursued, but it works best when the man could walk away at any time. A sense of scarcity makes the pursuit more exciting and meaningful.
• 😀 Women want to feel smart in private conversations but prefer the man to take charge in public settings. The balance between these roles makes her feel respected and valued.

Q & A

What does it mean when the script says women want to lose control but only to someone they believe is stronger than them?

This refers to the psychological concept that women desire a partner who exhibits silent strength and calm control, rather than someone who is overly aggressive or needy. They test men to see if they can truly lead, and only trust a man who can maintain authority while staying calm.

Why do women want attention, but only when they don't have to ask for it?

The script mentions that women are wired to notice small, subtle signals that indicate attention without being explicitly asked for. If a woman has to ask for attention, it feels insincere, but if a man remembers small details or shows interest naturally, it feels special and thoughtful.

What is 'mate choice copying' and how does it apply to women?

Mate choice copying is a concept from evolutionary biology where a person is perceived as more attractive when others also desire them. For women, if other women are attracted to their partner but he remains loyal, it reinforces the feeling that they have chosen something rare and valuable.

Why do women like men who break their personal rules for them, but only once?

Breaking a personal rule for someone signals that they are important and rare, creating a sense of value. However, if a man breaks his rules too often, it can indicate a lack of boundaries, which may diminish his perceived strength and value.

Why do women feel safer when there is a hint of danger nearby?

Women enjoy the thrill of feeling protected, but the excitement is heightened when there is a sense of danger or risk just outside the door. This balance of safety and thrill is what keeps the feeling of protection meaningful.

How do lies that feel good relate to the psychological concept of cognitive dissonance?

Cognitive dissonance explains how the brain avoids discomfort and pain. In relationships, sweet lies that make a woman feel good (such as compliments when she's tired) help protect her self-image and avoid the discomfort of harsh truths.

What is hidden influence, and how does it apply to women wanting to lead without seeming like a leader?

Hidden influence is the idea of subtly guiding or controlling a situation without overtly showing it. In relationships, women often influence emotional dynamics and decisions without directly asserting control. They want to feel like they're leading, but without overtly taking charge.

Why do women want to fix a man but only a little?

Women are often drawn to men who are mostly complete but have small flaws or areas where they can offer help. This makes them feel needed and valued. However, if the man needs too much fixing, it becomes overwhelming and feels more like a project than a relationship.

What does it mean when women want to be chased but only by someone who could stop chasing at any time?

The chase in romantic relationships is exciting because it involves tension and scarcity. Women enjoy being pursued, but if the man seems desperate or has no other options, it loses its appeal. The chase is thrilling when it feels like the man could walk away at any moment.

How does dual social roles affect women wanting to feel smarter than their partner in private?

Dual social roles refer to the different ways people present themselves depending on the environment. In private, women may want to feel intellectually superior to their partner, but in public, they still want him to lead. This balance allows them to feel respected without feeling embarrassed.

Why do women want to feel like a queen, but not if their partner treats himself like a servant?

Women enjoy being adored, but they also want a partner who has self-respect and strong boundaries. If a man constantly sacrifices his own needs and standards to please her, it diminishes his value in her eyes. A queen wants a king, not someone who bends over backward without self-respect.

What role does the zygarnic effect play in women wanting mystery in their relationships?

The zygarnic effect explains why unfinished stories stay in our minds. Women are attracted to a little mystery in a relationship, but it must be balanced. Too much mystery can feel shady, while too little can be predictable. The key is to leave just one question mark to keep them curious and engaged.

Why do women want to control the pace of a relationship, but not the destination?

Women want to feel in control of the emotional pace of a relationship, but they still want to believe that it is progressing towards a strong future. If the pace is too fast or too slow, they may lose interest or feel pressured. The ideal situation is for the man to lead the direction while letting her feel in control of the tempo.

What is the significance of women testing a man's patience in a relationship?

Women often test a man's patience as a way to assess his emotional stability and ability to remain calm in difficult situations. If he passes the test, it provides emotional safety and security. If he fails, it can lead to feelings of uncertainty and a lack of trust.

How does jealousy function in a relationship according to the script?

Jealousy, in small doses, can reignite attraction and remind a woman that her relationship is valuable. If she never feels any jealousy, the relationship may become too secure, leading to boredom. A little competitive tension can keep the spark alive.

Why do women want men to be emotional, but only with them?

Women want their partner to open up emotionally, but only in private, because it signals trust and intimacy. If a man shows vulnerability to the public or to others too frequently, it can feel like weakness. She wants to be the safe space for his emotions, not just another audience.

What is the importance of setting boundaries in a relationship, especially when a woman is upset?

Setting boundaries when a woman is upset shows emotional stability and strength. If a man folds too easily to avoid conflict, it can erode respect. However, if he calmly says no with kindness, it builds trust and demonstrates that he has control over his emotions.

Why is it important for men to remember the emotional details of what women share with them?

Women store memories of conversations in the emotional areas of the brain, so remembering the emotions behind their words is more meaningful than recalling specific details. This shows deep listening and emotional connection, making the woman feel truly understood and valued.

How can small gestures in long-term relationships keep the romance alive?

In long-term relationships, small gestures like compliments, glances, or little acts of affection can remind a woman that she is still chosen and desired. This daily affirmation, rather than grand gestures, helps maintain a sense of romance and emotional security.

Why do women want to appear soft, even if they are strong and tough in other areas of life?

Many women, despite being strong in their professional and personal lives, desire to feel soft and vulnerable in the right context. This softness is not a sign of weakness but a form of trust, showing that they can let go and rely on their partner for protection and care.