FALLING IN LOVE, RELIGION AND INSECURITIES

Summary

In this solo podcast episode, the host addresses a series of listener questions with thoughtful advice. Topics include the uncertainty of love and relationships at 24, the personal journey of questioning faith and beliefs, handling toxic relationships, and overcoming insecurities influenced by social media. Emphasizing self-love, authenticity, and emotional growth, the host encourages listeners to focus on personal happiness and self-improvement rather than seeking validation from external sources. The episode offers practical insights for anyone navigating love, spirituality, and self-image, with a compassionate, empowering message.

Takeaways

• 😀 Love is not bound by age; it happens when it's meant to, and it’s not something you can force or plan for.
• 😀 Being in love is different from loving someone enough to build a life together—relationships require compromise and effort beyond just emotions.
• 😀 If you're not in love with someone, ask yourself whether you’re settling or waiting for the right person who you can truly build with.
• 😀 If a partner repeatedly brings up your insecurities or past in arguments, it shows a lack of respect and empathy, and you should consider leaving the relationship.
• 😀 It’s okay to question your beliefs. Struggling with religion or beliefs is a normal part of personal growth, and it’s a journey only you can navigate.
• 😀 The right beliefs should resonate with your soul, not just your mind—look for what makes you feel connected and at peace.
• 😀 Living a fulfilling life isn’t about following a specific religion, but about being a kind person, treating others well, and finding inner peace.
• 😀 Constantly comparing yourself to others, especially on social media, only breeds insecurity. Instead, focus on improving and becoming the best version of yourself.
• 😀 Rather than focusing on others' appearances, channel your energy into self-improvement and learn to love who you are.
• 😀 Insecurity at a young age, like 16, is common and part of personal growth. With time, self-love and confidence will follow as you learn to embrace your uniqueness.

Q & A

What should I do if I feel like I’ve never been in love by the age of 24?

Don’t worry about timelines or age. Love comes naturally and cannot be forced. Instead of focusing on finding love, live your life, focus on personal growth, and let love come to you when it’s meant to happen.

Is it okay to settle for someone I’m not head over heels in love with?

Settling is not advisable if you’re not emotionally invested in the relationship. True love requires more than just feelings—it involves compatibility, shared goals, and a willingness to work together. It's important to find someone who makes you a better person, not just someone you are infatuated with.

How do I distinguish between being in love and loving someone in a relationship?

Being in love is about feelings, butterflies, and emotional highs. Loving someone, on the other hand, is about working together, compromising, and putting effort into building a strong, lasting relationship. Love requires action and commitment.

How do I deal with questioning my religious beliefs?

It's normal to question your beliefs. Finding what resonates with you personally is important, as religious and spiritual journeys are deeply individual. Focus on being a good person, and trust that answers will come through experience and self-reflection.

What is the best way to live a happy life according to the speaker?

The key to a happy life is being kind to others, not causing harm, and being good to yourself. While the path to personal fulfillment might vary, living with kindness and empathy is a foundation for peace and happiness.

What should I do if my partner constantly brings up my insecurities during fights?

This is an abusive and disrespectful behavior. No one should use your past or vulnerabilities against you. If your partner continues to do this, it’s crucial to reassess the relationship and consider leaving, as it can cause lasting emotional damage.

How can I trust someone who uses my past against me in an argument?

If someone uses your vulnerabilities or past struggles against you, it’s a sign of a lack of empathy and respect. Trust cannot be rebuilt after such behavior, and it’s best to walk away from the relationship to protect your emotional well-being.

What advice would you give to someone struggling with body image issues at the age of 16?

At 16, it's common to feel insecure. Instead of comparing yourself to others on social media, focus on improving yourself and finding happiness within. Self-acceptance and confidence come when you put energy into self-love and stop worrying about others' appearances.

How do I stop comparing myself to others, especially when it comes to beauty standards on social media?

Comparing yourself to others can lead to unhappiness. Instead, focus on your own growth, set personal goals, and embrace your uniqueness. Confidence grows when you stop seeking validation from others and start valuing your own worth.

Is it normal to feel insecure about your appearance at a young age?

Yes, feeling insecure at a young age is completely normal. Adolescence is a time of self-discovery, and many young people go through phases of feeling unsure about themselves. With time, self-love, and personal growth, these insecurities tend to lessen.