哈佛教授:這才是人生真正快樂的3大要素 ► 少了其中一項,你這輩子就不會真正的快樂 - Dr. Arthur Brooks 亞瑟.布魯克斯(中英字幕)
Summary
TLDR视频脚本探讨了幸福的本质,强调了三个关键的宏观营养素:享受、满足和目标。讲师指出,只有当这三个要素达到平衡和充足时,一个人才能感到真正的幸福。他通过与学生和成功人士的对话,揭示了不同群体在这些宏观营养素上的不同表现,如学生可能在享受上得分很高,但在寻找意义上得分很低。讲师还提到,满足感是短暂的,人们需要管理自己的欲望,以获得更持久的满足。他强调,避免痛苦实际上就是避免学习和成长,而痛苦和牺牲是实现个人目标和发现生活意义的重要部分。
Takeaways
- 🍽️ 幸福有三个主要的宏观营养素:享受、满足和目的,这三者需要平衡和充足。
- 🎓 哈佛商学院的课程竞争激烈,学生们通过积分系统选择选修课。
- 🧐 幸福不仅仅是一种感觉,它更像是感恩节晚餐时火鸡的香味,是幸福的证据。
- 🌟 最快乐的人共有的三个宏观营养素是享受、满足和目的。
- 🚫 缺乏这三个要素中的任何一个,人都不太可能感到幸福。
- 💼 努力工作的人往往在享受方面得分很低,而大学生则在享受方面得分很高,但在意义上得分很低。
- 🚶♂️ 成功痴迷者追求尽可能多的满足感,但这种感觉往往是短暂的。
- 🌞 加州现象表明,搬到加州的满足感只能持续六个月,而税收是永久的。
- 🔍 要诊断理解自己的幸福感,需要平衡宏观营养素的配置。
- 🧗♀️ 通过理解并对抗本性,可以获得持久的满足感。
- 💭 管理欲望比增加拥有更重要,减少欲望是提高满足感的秘密。
- 🛡️ 避免痛苦等同于避免意义,我们需要痛苦和牺牲来学习我们的目的和能力。
Q & A
幸福被描述为需要平衡和充足的三种宏量营养素,它们分别是什么?
-幸福需要的三种宏量营养素是享受、满足和目的。
为什么说幸福不仅仅是一种感觉?
-幸福不仅仅是一种感觉,因为感觉是暂时的,而幸福是一个更持久的状态,它由享受、满足和目的这三个宏量营养素共同构成。
在哈佛商学院的选修课中,学生是如何进入这个竞争激烈的班级的?
-学生通过一个积分系统进入这个竞争激烈的班级,他们需要用积分来竞标选修课。
为什么说追求满足感是有问题的?
-追求满足感有问题,因为满足感往往是短暂的,人们在获得满足后很快就会失去它,从而陷入不断追求的循环中。
如何理解‘满足’在幸福中的作用?
-‘满足’是幸福的一个重要组成部分,它来源于追求和获得奖励的过程。但真正的挑战在于如何获得持久的满足感,而不是短暂的高潮。
为什么说‘想要更少’是获得更多满足感的秘密?
-‘想要更少’意味着管理好自己的欲望和期望,这样可以减少不满和失望,从而提高满足感。
为什么说避免痛苦实际上是在避免意义和幸福?
-避免痛苦意味着避免面对挑战和困难,这会阻碍个人的成长和学习,从而无法发现和实现自己的真正目的和意义。
为什么说‘母亲自然’不在乎我们的快乐?
-‘母亲自然’指的是自然界的进化过程,它通过激励我们追求更多(如金钱、权力、荣誉)来提高我们的基因传递机会,但这并不保证我们的长期幸福。
为什么说加利福尼亚现象表明了满足感的短暂性?
-加利福尼亚现象指的是搬到加州的人最初会因为阳光等因素感到满意,但这种满意感通常只能持续几个月,之后就会因为其他因素(如税收)而消失。
为什么说年轻人作为心理享乐主义者,他们避免痛苦的努力实际上是在避免幸福?
-因为通过避免痛苦,他们同时也错过了通过挑战和困难获得成长、发现个人目的和意义的机会,这些都是实现真正幸福的重要组成部分。
为什么说我们需要痛苦和牺牲?
-我们需要痛苦和牺牲,因为它们是个人成长、学习、发现目的和实现自我价值的重要途径。没有这些经历,我们就无法获得真正的满足和幸福。
Outlines
🌟 幸福的三大要素
本段主要讨论了构成幸福的三个主要要素:享受、满足和目标。强调了这三者需要平衡且充足,缺少任何一个都难以感到幸福。作者通过与哈佛商学院的学生的互动,指出幸福并非一种感觉,而是通过这三个要素来体现的。同时,作者提到了不同人群(如奋斗者和大学生)在这三个要素上的不同表现,以及如何通过管理欲望来实现更持久的满足感。
Mindmap
Keywords
💡幸福感
💡宏量营养素
💡享受
💡满足
💡目的
💡斯多葛主义
💡心理享乐主义者
💡管理欲望
💡痛苦
💡持久的满足
💡遗传适应性
Highlights
幸福有三个宏观营养素:享受、满足和目的,这三者需要平衡和充足。
哈佛商学院的选修课采用积分系统,竞争激烈。
幸福不是感觉,而是像感恩节晚餐中火鸡的香味一样,是幸福的证据。
最快乐的人有三个共同点:享受、满足和目的。
追求某物时获得的满足感是短暂的,真正的问题是你不能持续地感到满足。
通过理解并对抗本性,可以获得持久的满足感。
满足感的公式是:你所拥有的除以你想要的。
要获得更多的满足感,秘密不在于拥有更多,而在于减少欲望。
避免痛苦就是避免意义,避免学习,避免通过韧性了解你的目的和你的能力。
我们需要痛苦和牺牲来获得幸福。
成功追求者往往在享受上得分很高,但在意义上得分很低。
加州现象表明,搬到加州的满足感只能持续六个月,但税收是永久的。
斯托伊克式的工作伦理和长期意义之间存在不平衡,导致享受感很低。
大学生通常享受感很高,但意义感很低。
成功瘾君子试图获得尽可能多的满足感,但满足感是难以捉摸的。
满足感的持久性可以通过管理你的欲望来实现。
避免痛苦和牺牲会导致避免学习和成长。
Transcripts
happiness has three macronutrients which
you need in balance and abundance and if
you don't have all those three you're
not going to be a happy person
I ask my students on the first day of
class it's a hard class to get into
there's a lot of competition to get in
the class I say look you're in this
class you bid your points because this
was a point system for getting electives
at Harvard Business Schools to Market
and I say so you must know what it is
right what is it and it'll go around and
say it's the feeling I get when I
remember
wrong happiness is not a feeling any
more than the smell of the turkey is
your Thanksgiving dinner that's evidence
of your Thanksgiving dinner your feeling
is evidence of it if we look at the
happiest people and the unhappiest
people the happiest people have in
common three macronutrients enjoyment
satisfaction and purpose which you need
in balance and abundance and if you
don't have all those three you're not
going to be a happy person and so I'll
talk to you know very powerful people
say frankly I'm just not happy I will
look at their macronutrient profile in
the same way that if you said ah my
digestion's all goofed up well probably
you're not getting the right macros and
ordinarily what I'll find with Strivers
is that they're very high in stoic work
ethic to get a whole lot of long-term
meaning and they're very low in
enjoyment very low in enjoyment when I
find if I'm talking to undergraduate
students they're very high in enjoyment
on the basis of high dose of pleasure
and they're very low on meaning they're
not getting a whole lot of meaning or
they're what they're if they're real
success junkies they're trying to get as
much satisfaction as they can and it's
elusive because they're on the treadmill
you know it's like work hard get the hit
well that was good for a week the new
car smell lasts for like a week right
you know that people always say you know
it's the California phenomena there's a
lot of research on this about how long
you'll be satisfied if you move to
California and the answer is the
sunshine will give you satisfaction for
six months but the taxes are forever you
know careful with I mean yeah sorry I'm
not trying to hurt you rich I made my
piece with that but go ahead it is a
nice place so so the point is that that
the balance that you need in the
macronutrient profile of happiness is is
really the best way to diagnostically
understand how happy you are that's
where I actually start that's the
definition satisfaction enjoyment plus
meaning and purpose and they all have a
big science behind them right
satisfaction we get that sense of
satisfaction in the pursuit of something
right
the joy of reward but the problem is not
that you can't get no satisfaction as
Mick Jagger sings the problem is you
can't keep No Satisfaction
the point the pro the real problem is
you get it and then it goes so it's your
you get you get the high from cocaine or
alcohol for example but it's gone
immediately you chase it but if you
never got it in the first place it
wouldn't be a problem if you you're
literally got no satisfaction there
would be no problem but that you can't
keep No Satisfaction that's the real
problem but you can hack it you can
actually hack it if you understand and
go against you can get enduring or at
least lasting satisfaction if you go
against your nature which is a really
interesting body of literature because
it reminds us again that mother nature
doesn't care for Happy Mother Nature
wants to fool us again and again and
again and again to hit the hit the lever
because it makes us more genetically fit
it passes helps us to pass on our genes
by having more money more power more
honor than the troglodyte in the next
cave was fewer animal skins and but we
think that that car will bring us
lasting satisfaction you have to hack
that Matrix and you can get lasting
satisfaction the way to think about it
is if you have a concept of your
satisfaction in terms of what you have
you're in trouble but if you understand
a more accurate model where your
satisfaction is what you have divided by
what you want halves divided by AI wants
then you need a halves management
strategy but more importantly a wants
management strategy the secret to being
more satisfied is not having more is
wanting less that's the secret and one
that's really elusive for all young
people today who are psychological
hedonists they're they're spending all
their energy and time trying to avoid
unhappiness what that does is that that
when you avoid pain you're avoiding
meaning when you're avoiding learning
what your purpose is through resiliency
what you're capable of and the lessons
you're supposed to learn and you're
avoiding to avoid your unhappiness is to
avoid your happiness we need pain we
need sacrifice
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