9 Things Intelligent Man Should Not Do With Women | Stoicism
Summary
TLDRThis video explores nine behaviors to avoid in relationships with women, drawing on Stoic philosophy. It advises men to seek self-worth internally, not from women's validation; to support, not fix, emotional states; to maintain personal purpose and goals; to demand respect and set boundaries; to pace investment in new relationships; to control emotions and respond rationally; to prioritize self-care and growth; to respect emotional space when a woman pulls away; and to uphold personal values and integrity. By following these principles, men can build stronger, more fulfilling relationships while preserving their sense of self.
Takeaways
- 😀 Don't seek validation from women. An intelligent man understands his value comes from within and doesn't depend on external approval.
- 😊 Don't try to fix her emotions. Women often need emotional support, not solutions. Listen and validate their feelings instead of offering fixes.
- 🏆 Don't abandon your purpose for a woman. Maintaining your goals and passions is essential to staying grounded and attractive.
- 🚫 Don't tolerate disrespect. Address disrespectful behavior immediately and set clear boundaries while maintaining your dignity.
- 💡 Don't overinvest in a new relationship. Rushing into a relationship by overcommitting can signal desperation. Take things at a balanced pace.
- 🧠 Don't lose control of your emotions. Emotional intelligence and composure are vital, especially in conflict situations. Stay calm under pressure.
- 💪 Don't neglect self-care and growth. Taking care of your physical, mental, and spiritual well-being makes you more attractive and fulfilled.
- 🔄 Don't chase after her when she pulls away. Giving emotional space shows confidence. Let her return on her own terms if she's interested.
- 💯 Don't sacrifice your values for her. Stay true to your core principles and never compromise your integrity to please someone else.
- 📚 Stoic wisdom emphasizes self-mastery, emotional control, and maintaining purpose in relationships. An intelligent man remains grounded in these values.
Q & A
What is the main philosophy that the video draws upon to give advice about relationships?
-The video draws heavily on Stoic philosophy to provide guidance on how intelligent men should conduct themselves in relationships, emphasizing purpose, emotional balance, and integrity.
Why does Stoicism discourage seeking validation from women?
-Stoicism teaches that external validation is fleeting and beyond our control. Seeking validation from women stems from insecurity and gives them power over a man's self-worth, which should come from within through personal growth and self-mastery.
How should an intelligent man respond to a woman’s emotional fluctuations according to Stoic philosophy?
-Instead of trying to 'fix' her emotions, an intelligent man should focus on listening, validating her feelings, and offering support. He must remember that he can only control his own emotions, not hers.
What mistake do men often make when they prioritize relationships over their personal purpose?
-Men often abandon their purpose, career, or personal development to please a woman, which leads to losing their sense of identity. Stoicism teaches that living with purpose is paramount, and a man's mission should always come first.
How should a man handle disrespect in a relationship?
-According to Stoic philosophy, a man should calmly and assertively establish boundaries if disrespected. He must never tolerate disrespect, as it undermines his dignity, and repeated disrespect may signal that the relationship should be reconsidered.
What does over-investing early in a relationship signal, and why should it be avoided?
-Over-investing early in a relationship signals desperation and a lack of self-control. It is essential to pace the relationship and ensure that the woman reciprocates effort, as giving too much too soon can damage a man’s emotional balance and the relationship.
Why is emotional control important for an intelligent man in relationships?
-Emotional control is important because women respect men who remain calm and composed under pressure. Losing control of emotions like anger or jealousy can lead to unnecessary drama and loss of respect, while emotional composure demonstrates strength and maturity.
How does Stoicism view self-care and personal growth in the context of relationships?
-Stoicism encourages self-discipline and self-care as essential aspects of life. An intelligent man should prioritize his health, personal grooming, and continuous self-improvement, as it helps him attract the right kind of partner and stay fulfilled.
What should a man do if a woman pulls away in a relationship?
-When a woman pulls away, Stoic principles suggest giving her space and not chasing after her. Instead of panicking or seeking explanations, a man should focus on his own life and personal growth, allowing the relationship to develop naturally.
Why is it important not to sacrifice personal values in a relationship?
-Sacrificing core values for the sake of a relationship undermines a man's integrity and self-worth. Stoicism teaches that virtue and maintaining one's values are the highest goods, and compromising them for temporary peace leads to dissatisfaction and instability in the long term.
Outlines
💡 The Stoic Approach to Relationships: What Intelligent Men Should Avoid
This paragraph introduces the video and the core message: intelligent men should avoid certain behaviors with women, especially in romantic contexts, to maintain emotional balance and self-worth. The teachings of Stoic philosophy—purpose, integrity, and rationality—are highlighted as key traits for personal growth and successful relationships. The audience is encouraged to watch the video to gain insight into these nine behaviors.
🚫 Don't Seek Validation from Women
The first behavior discussed is the mistake of seeking validation from women. This need stems from insecurity and weakens a man's self-worth. Stoicism teaches that validation must come from within, not from others. Men who base their self-esteem on how women perceive them lose control and respect. Confidence, self-mastery, and personal growth are vital for an intelligent man, who should live in alignment with his values and not rely on external approval.
🛠 Don't Try to Fix Her Emotions
The second behavior to avoid is attempting to fix a woman's emotions. Men often feel that solving emotional issues will make them more appreciated, but this can come across as patronizing. Stoic philosophy emphasizes that you can only control your own emotions, not others'. Women often seek emotional support, not solutions. An intelligent man provides a steady presence and listens rather than trying to 'fix' emotional states, respecting her autonomy and emotional journey.
🎯 Don't Abandon Your Purpose for a Woman
The third mistake is abandoning personal goals and purpose for a woman. Men may sacrifice their careers, hobbies, or personal development to win a woman's approval, which leads to losing one's identity and fulfillment. According to Stoicism, purpose and wisdom are essential for living virtuously. A man driven by something greater than himself remains attractive and grounded. Prioritizing one’s mission over a relationship creates a healthy balance and ensures long-term respect.
⚖️ Don't Tolerate Disrespect
The fourth behavior to avoid is allowing disrespect from women. Respect is essential in any relationship, and ignoring disrespectful behavior for fear of conflict only leads to more. Stoicism teaches standing firm in principles while maintaining integrity. An intelligent man calmly sets boundaries without stooping to a disrespectful level. Tolerating disrespect undermines dignity, and mutual respect is key to a healthy relationship. If a woman consistently disrespects you, it may be time to reconsider the relationship.
🎁 Don't Overinvest Early in a Relationship
The fifth mistake is overinvesting in a woman too soon, through excessive attention, gifts, or compromising one's life to accommodate her. This can signal desperation and lack of self-control. Stoicism advocates for balance and freedom from external dependencies. Intelligent men pace themselves and maintain their own lives, assessing the relationship over time. By keeping their life balanced, they avoid putting too much into something unproven, and they evaluate compatibility before fully committing.
😌 Don't Lose Control of Your Emotions
The sixth behavior to avoid is losing control of emotions, especially during conflict. Women often test emotional stability, and a man’s ability to remain calm under pressure is key to earning respect. Stoicism stresses the importance of emotional composure. Reacting impulsively or letting emotions dictate actions often leads to regret. An intelligent man practices rationality, emotional detachment, and responds calmly to challenges, demonstrating strength, maturity, and confidence.
🏋️♂️ Don't Neglect Self-Care and Personal Growth
The seventh mistake is neglecting self-care and personal growth. Men sometimes focus so much on pleasing women that they forget to prioritize their physical, mental, and spiritual well-being. Stoicism encourages self-discipline and self-improvement, with the belief that personal growth enhances fulfillment and attraction. An intelligent man invests in his own health, appearance, and continuous learning, which helps him stay attractive, confident, and grounded in relationships.
🏃♂️ Don't Chase Her When She Pulls Away
The eighth behavior is chasing after a woman when she becomes distant. This common mistake only pushes her further away, signaling neediness and insecurity. Stoic philosophy teaches that one cannot control others' actions but only their response. An intelligent man gives her space, remains calm, and focuses on his own life without letting her behavior affect his happiness. If she’s truly interested, she will return on her own, and by staying composed, the man demonstrates his high value.
🛡️ Don't Sacrifice Your Values for Her
The ninth mistake is compromising personal values and beliefs to please a woman. Stoicism teaches that virtue is the highest good, and sacrificing integrity for external rewards leads to inner conflict. An intelligent man stands firm in his values, even when pressured to change. While compromise is necessary in relationships, it should never come at the expense of core beliefs. A relationship built on mutual respect for personal integrity will be more fulfilling in the long run.
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Keywords
💡Stoicism
💡Validation
💡Emotional Control
💡Purpose
💡Respect
💡Overinvestment
💡Self-Care
💡Emotional Space
💡Boundaries
💡Values
Highlights
Stoicism teaches men to act with purpose, integrity, and rationality, which are essential traits for thriving in relationships.
One critical mistake men make is seeking validation from women, which stems from insecurity and weakens their self-worth.
An intelligent man builds confidence through personal growth, discipline, and self-mastery, rather than external approval.
Stoicism emphasizes that one cannot control others' emotions, only their own. Instead of fixing a woman's emotions, intelligent men offer support.
A major mistake is abandoning one's purpose or goals for a woman, which can lead to losing personal direction and identity.
Women are attracted to men who maintain a strong sense of purpose and don't sacrifice their ambitions for relationships.
Disrespect should never be tolerated. An intelligent man calmly asserts boundaries while maintaining self-respect.
Over-investing in a new relationship too soon can signal desperation. An intelligent man paces himself and maintains balance.
Emotional intelligence is key; an intelligent man stays calm under pressure and does not react impulsively to conflict.
Neglecting self-care and personal growth is a common mistake. An intelligent man prioritizes his well-being and continuous improvement.
When a woman pulls away, chasing after her often pushes her further. An intelligent man gives space and focuses on his own life.
Never sacrifice your core values to please someone else. Integrity and virtue should always come first, even in relationships.
Compromise is essential in relationships, but never at the expense of betraying your fundamental beliefs.
Stoicism encourages men to remain grounded in their purpose and values, cultivating stronger relationships in the process.
An intelligent man attracts respect and admiration by staying true to himself, rather than seeking validation or approval from others.
Transcripts
welcome to the channel in today's video
we're diving deep into the nine things
an intelligent man should never do with
women drawing wisdom from stoic
philosophy stoicism teaches us to act
with purpose integrity and rationality
traits essential for thriving in life
and
relationships when it comes to dealing
with women especially in romantic
contexts an intelligent man must
maintain a strong sense of self and
emotional balance
avoiding common traps that can lead to
unnecessary suffering or frustration so
if you're ready to elevate your
understanding and interactions with
women keep watching let's get started
one don't seek validation from women one
of the most critical mistakes men make
is seeking validation and approval from
women this behavior stems from
insecurity which intelligent men must
guard against stoicism teaches us that
external validation is fleeting and
outside our control epicus once said it
is not what happens to you but how you
react to it that matters when you base
your self-worth on how women perceive
you you give away your power you become
a slave to the opinions of others an
intelligent man understands that his
value comes from within he builds his
confidence through personal growth
discipline and self-mastery
women are naturally attracted to men who
are confident in who they are not those
who desperately seek
approval when you chase validation you
lose respect from both women and
yourself instead of seeking approval
focus on living in alignment with your
values whether a woman likes you or not
should have no bearing on how you feel
about yourself be the man who is
grounded in his purpose and doesn't need
constant
reassurance two don't try to fix her
emotions women are emotional beings and
it's natural for them to go through
various moods and emotional states
however one common mistake men make is
trying to fix these emotions you might
think that helping her solve her
emotional issues will make her
appreciate you more but in reality this
approach often backfires sto ISM teaches
us that we cannot control others
emotions only our own Marcus Aurelia
said you have power over your mind not
outside events realize this and you will
find strength women don't want you to
fix their problems they want you to
listen and provide emotional
support trying to fix her emotions can
come across as patronizing making her
feel like you don't respect her ability
to handle her own life an intelligent
man knows that emotional stability comes
from within and he must focus on
managing his own emotions first instead
of jumping in with Solutions listen to
her validate her feelings and offer
support when
appropriate understand that it's okay
for her to feel what she's feeling and
your role is to provide a calm steady
presence three don't abandon your
purpose for a woman a major mistake many
men make is abandoning their purpose and
goals for a woman this could mean
neglecting their career Hobbies or
personal development just to spend more
time with her or to win her approval but
a man without purpose quickly loses his
sense of identity and becomes dependent
on his relationship for fulfillment in
stoic philosophy living with purpose is
Paramount the stoics believed that we
are meant to pursue virtue and wisdom as
the ultimate goals in life when you give
up your purpose for the sake of a
relationship you not only lose your
direction but also your attractiveness
women are drawn to men who are
passionate and driven by something
greater than themselves an intelligent
man maintains his purpose no matter who
comes into his life he knows that his
mission must come first and his
relationship should comp lient not
hinder his progress stay true to your
goals and never let a woman take you off
your path when you prioritize your
purpose you become more magnetic
confident and grounded four don't let
her disrespect you respect is
fundamental to any healthy
relationship if a woman disrespects you
whether through harsh words manipulation
or belittling Behavior it's crucial that
you address it immediately medely Too
Many Men Overlook disrespectful behavior
in fear of losing the woman or causing
conflict this is a mistake stoicism
teaches us to stand firm in our
principles and never compromise our
integrity as Marcus Aurelius put it the
best revenge is not to be like your
enemy this means not stooping to her
level of disrespect but calmly and
assertively establishing
boundaries respect is is earned and
mutual and an intelligent man knows that
tolerating disrespect only leads to more
of it when you stand up for yourself you
command respect not just from her but
from others as well don't allow anyone
to treat you in a way that undermines
your dignity if disrespect becomes a
recurring pattern it's time to
reconsider the relationship altogether
remember a woman who truly values you
will respect respect your boundaries and
treat you with
kindness five don't
overinvestment of a new relationship but
one of the biggest mistakes men make is
over investing in a woman too soon this
could mean showering her with attention
gifts or constantly rearranging your
schedule to accommodate her needs while
it's natural to want to make a good
impression overinvestment signals
desperation and a lack of
self-control an intelligent man knows
the importance of pacing himself in the
words of epicus he who is not a Slave To
Riches luxury or women is capable of
becoming free don't make the woman the
Center of Your World before you've
established whether she deserves that
level of investment keep your life
balanced and avoid giving too much of
your time energy or resources early on
on allow the relationship to develop
naturally over time this gives you the
opportunity to assess whether she is
compatible with your values and whether
she reciprocates your efforts maintain
your own interests friendships and
routines and never sacrifice them for
the sake of winning someone
over six don't lose control of your
emotions emotional intelligence is one
of the the Hallmarks of an intelligent
man women often test men's emotional
stability whether consciously or
unconsciously and how you respond can
determine the success of the
relationship losing control of your
emotions whether through anger jealousy
or insecurity is a sure way to lose
Respect In Her Eyes stoicism emphasizes
the importance of emotional control as
senica said he who suffers before it is
necessary suffers more than is necessary
don't allow your emotions to dictate
your actions reacting impulsively to
situations especially those involving
women often leads to regret and
unnecessary drama instead practice
emotional Detachment and
composure when you encounter challenges
in your relationship take a step back
and respond from a place of rationality
rather than emotion women respect men
who are calm under pressure and can
handle conflict without losing their
cool by mastering your emotions you
demonstrate strength maturity and
confidence seven don't neglect self-care
and growth many men become so focused on
pleasing women that they forget to take
care of themselves this could mean
neglecting physical health personal
grooming mental well-being or even
spiritual growth women are attracted to
men who take pride in their appearance
and prioritize their
well-being stoicism teaches us to
cultivate self-discipline and strive for
self-improvement in all areas of life
Marcus Aurelius said the happiness of
your life depends upon the quality of
your thoughts if you're constantly
putting others before yourself
especially in relationships you'll
eventually burn out and lose your sense
of identity an intelligent man makes
time for self-care and personal growth
he knows that he must be his best self
in order to attract the right kind of
woman focus on your health maintain a
strong sense of self-worth and never
stop learning and growing a man who
invests in himself will always be more
attractive and fulfilled regardless of
his relationship status eight don't
chase after her when she pulls away one
of the most common scenarios men face in
relationships is when a woman pulls away
she may become distant less responsive
or appear
uninterested in such situations many men
make the mistake of chasing after her
seeking explanations or trying to win
her back with increased attention this
only pushes her further away an
intelligent man understands the
principle of emotional
space as the stoics taught we cannot
control the actions of others only our
response to them when a woman pulls away
give her the space she needs without
panicking or overreacting chasing her
will only make you appear needy and
insecure instead focus on your own life
maintain your routines continue your
personal growth and don't let her be
Behavior dictate your happiness if she's
truly interested she'll return on her
own terms by staying calm and composed
you communicate that you're a high value
man who doesn't need to chase after
anyone for
affection nine don't sacrifice your
values for her lastly one of the most
significant mistakes a man can make is
sacrificing his core values and beliefs
to please a woman
this could involve compromising on
important principles changing your
behavior or agreeing to things that go
against your morals just to keep the
relationship intact stoicism teaches us
that virtue is the highest good and we
must never compromise our integrity for
external rewards in the words of epicus
if you want to improve be content to be
thought foolish and stupid an
intelligent man stands firm in in his
values regardless of external pressures
a woman may ask you to change in ways
that don't align with who you truly are
while compromise is a part of any
healthy relationship never do so at the
expense of your core beliefs a
relationship built on a foundation of
Integrity will be far more fulfilling
than one where you constantly betray
your values for temporary
peace so there you have it nine things
an intelligent man should know never do
with women all grounded in the Timeless
wisdom of
stoicism by following these principles
you'll cultivate stronger more
fulfilling relationships and maintain
your sense of self-worth and integrity
remember the key to a successful
relationship is not to lose yourself in
the process but to remain steadfast in
your values and purpose if you found
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