Tammy's Story - People Like Us episode #5
Summary
TLDRThe transcript follows Tammy Crabtree, a struggling single mother in a small Ohio town. Embarrassed by her living conditions, she expresses her frustration over the state of her home, her strained relationship with her mother, and the judgment she faces from others. Despite working hard at Burger King and walking over ten miles to work, she feels judged by her community and even her children. Her son distances himself due to their socioeconomic status, while she dreams of improving her life, aspiring to attend college and provide a better future for her children.
Takeaways
- 😔 The speaker feels embarrassed about their living situation, including the condition of their trailer and yard, and is hesitant to let friends know where they live.
- 😊 Despite the issues with their living space, the speaker and their mother both like living there.
- 😕 The speaker appreciates that someone helps clean the house while they work, but dislikes it when things are moved out of place.
- 😟 The speaker avoids introducing their mother to people due to concerns about her appearance, feeling that people judge more by looks than by character.
- 🏚️ The living space, including the kitchen, lacks essentials like a furnace, and there is a lot of junk around, which is difficult to organize.
- 😒 The speaker and their mother argue frequently about cleaning and responsibilities, with the speaker expressing frustration about their mother's laziness.
- 👷 The speaker's father worked hard for 27 years, and the speaker is proud of him and wants to make him proud by working and providing for their own children.
- 🚶 The speaker walks over 10 miles to work at Burger King because they don’t have a car or a driver's license, and they feel judged by others for their circumstances.
- 🎓 The speaker dreams of going to college and becoming a school teacher, despite criticism from friends who think they should stay home and rely on welfare.
- 👨👩👧👦 The speaker feels a divide between themselves and their children, and their son acts as though he's better than the rest of the family due to his appearance and lifestyle.
Q & A
Why does the speaker feel embarrassed about where they live?
-The speaker feels embarrassed about living in a trailer with a messy yard, which they worry will be judged by others, particularly their friends.
How does the speaker feel about their mother's appearance?
-The speaker feels embarrassed about their mother's appearance because she doesn't 'fix herself up,' which the speaker believes people judge more than behavior.
What is the relationship between the speaker and their mother like?
-The speaker and their mother have a tense relationship, arguing frequently. The speaker criticizes their mother for not helping clean or straighten up, while the mother suggests moving as a solution.
What does the speaker appreciate about their partner?
-The speaker appreciates that their partner helps clean the house while they are at work, although they dislike when things are moved and can't be found later.
What is the speaker's current job and how do they feel about it?
-The speaker works at Burger King and expresses pride in working to make a living for their family, despite the challenges they face.
Why does the speaker walk to work, and what reactions do they receive from others?
-The speaker walks 10.5 miles to work because they don’t have a car or a driver’s license. They feel mistreated by others, who mock them by calling them 'trashy.'
What are the speaker's aspirations for the future?
-The speaker hopes to go to college to become a schoolteacher, a goal they've had since they were five years old.
How does the speaker's son view them, and what impact does this have on the family dynamic?
-The speaker's son sees himself as 'high class' and better than the rest of the family, particularly criticizing the speaker's work uniform and distancing himself from his brother.
How does the speaker's other son feel about his brother, and what does he aspire to be like?
-The other son wishes to be more popular like his brother. He wants to go to college, possibly to become a lawyer or study architectural design.
What are some of the challenges the speaker faces with their car?
-The speaker's car has wiring issues that prevent them from using the lights, and they also need new tires. They're trying to get it fixed so they can use it for transportation.
Outlines
🏠 Struggles with Home and Social Image
The speaker expresses embarrassment about living in a disorganized trailer, concerned about what friends might think. They appreciate their partner’s help around the house but feel frustrated when things are misplaced. They avoid introducing their mother to others due to her unkempt appearance, fearing that people focus on looks over behavior. The speaker highlights the challenges of maintaining their home, lacking basic amenities like a furnace, and a strained relationship with their mother, leading to frequent arguments. Despite their poor upbringing, they take pride in their hard-working father, hoping to make a better life for their own children while working at Burger King.
👔 Family Expectations and Personal Aspirations
The speaker talks about their discomfort with how their mother dresses, especially her constant wearing of her Burger King uniform, which causes embarrassment. Their son sees himself as more sophisticated, distancing himself from the family due to his perceived social status. The speaker describes their brother’s similar behavior, noting that his desire to appear higher class influences how he interacts with others. The speaker reveals ambitions to attend college and pursue either law or architectural design, despite challenges like a broken-down car. They strive to improve their situation for their children while acknowledging ongoing struggles.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Embarrassment
💡Poverty
💡Social Class
💡Appearance
💡Family Tension
💡Work Ethic
💡Hope
💡Judgment
💡Self-Worth
💡Dreams
Highlights
Embarrassment about living conditions and reluctance to show friends the trailer home due to its state.
Despite issues with the home, there is a sense of attachment to it shared between the speaker and their mom.
Appreciation for the help provided by the son, although frustration arises when things are moved out of place.
Self-consciousness about the mother’s appearance and how others perceive her based on looks rather than behavior.
Struggles with maintaining the home, including a lack of a furnace and piles of junk in the yard.
A candid admission of laziness as the reason for not cleaning up, describing the tendency to be a 'couch potato.'
The speaker grew up poor, with a hardworking father who worked for 27 years to support a large family of 22 kids.
Pride in their father’s work ethic and belief that he would be proud of the speaker’s efforts to support their own family.
Challenges of walking 10.5 miles to work at Burger King due to not having a car or a driver's license.
Frustration with being called 'trashy' by others while walking to work, and a desire for respect and happiness.
Embarrassment felt by the speaker’s child about their mother always wearing a Burger King uniform, even to nice restaurants.
A sense of superiority felt by the speaker’s child, believing themselves to be 'high class' and better than their siblings.
Desire from a sibling to emulate their brother’s popularity and achievements, including aspirations for college and a career.
Career goals of studying architectural design or law, with ambitions to attend a local college for training.
Ongoing struggles with car maintenance, including issues with wiring and tires, as part of a broader effort to improve the family’s situation.
Transcripts
I'm embarrassed a little bit about
living here cuz the trailer and the yard
and stuff it's all messed up and Mom
likes the place I like the place a
little bit too but I don't I don't like
want all my friends and stuff to know
where I live at
cuz like class up from us and stuff this
is my living
room and I he does clean house when I'm
at work he try to help out and
everything I appreciate that
okay but things I don't like him do is
move things where I can't find them and
I don't like to introduce my mom to a
lot of people cuz I don't like for them
to see her image what she looks like she
don't fix herself up and that's what
more or less what people look at their
appearance not what the how they act and
this here is my kitchen may not look
like much but it's
something and you can see I don't have a
furnace which I like to have one like
know where it went Tammy Crabtree and
her four children cling to the Bottom
Rung of the social ladder in their small
Ohio town but even down here they're not
AR ready to be counted out just yet all
this junk and stuff I don't know where
to put it and my mom or nobody would
tell me so I just throw it over there in
a big pile this is all
junk we got it going down over top that
bank and junk all over there clothes
burnt
things messed
up why don't you want to clean it up
lazy just playing simple set huh I like
s being a couch potato that's all I
know my mom she won't lift a hand Nei I
get on her all the time and she says uh
all you can do is move and stuff and I
go I don't want to move but I want you
to you to straighten up and start acting
we do argue all the time a't going to
lie that's all me and my mom
does I was on well for 18 years you and
now I work at Burger King and now I'm
trying to make a living and make it home
for the
kids you ain't my fault because I'm poor
I growed up poor my dad worked hard he
worked 27 years on County engineer
trying to make a living for 22
kids and it ain't easy you know I was
proud of my dad he be proud of me now
you know for just
trying kids I'm going to work see you
after a
while I walk to work 10 and a half
miles cuz don't have a car don't have
license even when I'm walking to work or
something someone holler hey trashy
what are you doing I'm just
walking to
work all I want is just a li where I can
be happy but right now I'm not because
the way people treat me and the way my
own kids treat
me
morning anybody in
here
my friends think I should stay at home
take care of my kids and then draw
welfare I know a me I'm hoping to go to
college and B school teacher that was my
goal the time I was 5 years old up until
now sometimes I am embarrassed by mom
cuz she wears that burger king outfit
every day I mean no I don't I I I have
never seen her like go to a real nice
restaurant and wear not that burger king
outfit it's either the shirt or the
pants say or it's both she wears it
constantly but it's different outfits
but it's the same damn outfit sorry for
using that word my son you think he's
high class and preppy you know he's the
best you think he's better than me
better than his brother this is my
brother B he dresses like this compared
to this and I don't like how he dresses
cuz it's why I don't hang out with him I
don't talk about him or anything when
people say he's my brother again no no I
I don't know him and but when he dresses
better and stuff I walk around with him
and me and my friend over here come here
me me and
Josh the only way we walk around with
him if he starts looking good and we
help him dress good and calm his hair
and like make him look better and M
think he's in a different class really
he's in the same class I am he just
trying to prove to his friends that he's
in their class that I know different
right here I got like 30 or 40 Awards
and I got those
little got like PR presidential Awards
and I got school athletes Awards would
you like to be like your brother
yeah what is it about your brother that
you would like to
be
popular I'm going to go to college like
for lawyer you have to go to four to six
my go the fouryear term to be a basic
thing an architectural design it only
takes two years in college so might go
down here to shaie or Hawking
College somewhere around in there and
get little school going on cuz I know I
ain't no
material or anything like that but
there's my
car I got short in the wiring somewhere
cuz I can't use my
lights I need
tires and I've been trying to get
someone to fix it where I can get on the
road you
know I just basically need to get things
are going you know get my
kids going did just run to their friends
and
everything excuse
me I don't know what else to
do
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