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Summary

In this video, the creator shares her personal journey with modesty, including her decision to wear a headscarf in March 2023. She discusses the different interpretations of modesty and the reasons behind her choice, such as seeking a closer relationship with God and herself. The creator also talks about her work with Gym Shark to create inclusive activewear and organizes a modesty dinner to gather insights from other women on their modesty journeys. She emphasizes the importance of staying true to one's beliefs and the personal growth that comes from embracing modesty.

Takeaways

• 🧕 Modesty looks different to everyone and it's important to respect individual interpretations and reasons for practicing it.
• 🔍 The speaker's personal journey with modesty began in March 2023, and it was a transformative process that included deleting social media content.
• 🤔 Modesty is not just about physical covering; it's also about developing a better relationship with oneself and seeking internal validation.
• 👚 The decision to wear a headscarf was driven by a desire to get closer to God and to find protection from being sexualized in society.
• 🏋️‍♀️ Modesty in activewear is important, and the speaker has been working with Gym Shark to create inclusive and modest options for women.
• 🤝 A modesty dinner was organized with Gym Shark to gather feedback from creators and audience members about their modesty journeys.
• 🗣️ The speaker participated in a panel talk to share stories and discuss modesty with women from different faiths and cultures.
• 💡 The speaker emphasizes that modesty is a personal journey and should not be rushed or forced upon anyone.
• 🚫 The speaker had to overcome the challenge of seeking validation from others and learned to find self-acceptance and confidence.
• 🌟 Despite the challenges, the speaker feels that the journey towards modesty has been rewarding and has led to personal growth and success.

Q & A

When did the speaker start her journey with modesty?

The speaker started her journey with modesty in March of 2023.

What was the main reason the speaker decided to wear a headscarf?

The main reason the speaker decided to wear a headscarf was to get closer to God and to develop a better relationship with herself.

How does the speaker feel about the societal sexualization of women?

The speaker feels that societal sexualization of women is prevalent and that it can be mitigated by wearing modest clothing.

What was the turning point for the speaker in terms of seeking external validation?

The speaker's turning point was when she realized she was seeking external validation from her audience and social media, which she decided to change by covering up and seeking validation from within.

What was the outcome of the speaker's decision to cover up and delete her social media content?

The outcome was that the speaker experienced more success and blessings, and she developed her characteristics on another level, becoming a better person.

What is the significance of the modesty dinner mentioned in the script?

The modesty dinner was significant because it was an event where the speaker, along with Gym Shark, invited creators and audience members to discuss modesty and preview her upcoming collection.

What is the speaker's view on modesty being inclusive of different cultures and faiths?

The speaker believes that modesty should be inclusive of different cultures and faiths, as it looks different to everyone and has different interpretations.

What was the main message the speaker wanted to convey during the panel talk at the event?

The main message the speaker wanted to convey was the importance of coverage, confidence, and comfort in the gym, and the need for more options for women who want modest active wear.

How does the speaker feel about her own modesty journey in relation to her faith?

The speaker feels that her modesty journey is personal and that it took her about two years after finding faith to fully embrace wearing a headscarf.

What advice does the speaker have for those who are going through a similar modesty journey?

The speaker advises going at your own pace, not letting anyone rush you into it, and developing a personal relationship with your beliefs without seeking validation from others.

Outlines

00:00

🧕 Journey to Modesty

The speaker discusses her personal journey towards modesty, beginning with her decision to wear a headscarf in March 2023. She reflects on her initial resistance to modesty, stemming from a belief that it represented oppression. However, she embarked on a quest to understand modesty better, motivated by a desire for a closer relationship with God and a better understanding of herself. She shares her past reliance on external validation for confidence, contrasting it with the internal confidence she has developed since embracing modesty. The speaker also addresses societal sexualization of women and how modesty has provided her with a sense of protection and self-respect.

05:01

👚 Modesty Beyond Clothing

In this paragraph, the speaker elaborates on the concept of modesty, explaining that it is not just about covering the body but also about seeking internal confidence and ceasing the pursuit of external validation. She shares her experiences with unwanted sexual attention and how modest clothing has helped her feel safer and more respected. The speaker also touches on the broader implications of modesty, including how it has influenced her interactions with others and her own self-perception. She discusses a recent event she hosted with Gym Shark, focusing on modesty in activewear, and her efforts to create more inclusive and diverse options for women.

10:02

🌟 Empowering Through Modesty

The speaker shares her experiences working with Gym Shark to create modest activewear, emphasizing the importance of representation and inclusivity across different cultures and faiths. She recounts a dinner event where she engaged with other women on their modesty journeys, highlighting the collective goal of providing more choices and comfort for women in gym settings. The speaker also discusses her own growth in confidence and the realization that modesty is a deeply personal journey that cannot be rushed or forced.

15:03

💭 Internal Struggle and Growth

In this section, the speaker delves into her internal struggles with seeking validation and the pressure she felt to conform to certain standards within the Muslim community. She talks about her identity crisis and the process of learning to seek validation from within rather than from external sources. The speaker also reflects on her transition to modesty and the challenges she faced, including the fear of losing her audience and the reality of still needing to work on herself despite her external changes.

20:03

📈 Growth and Gratitude

The speaker concludes by expressing gratitude for her journey and the support she has received. She acknowledges the challenges of transitioning to a more modest lifestyle but emphasizes the blessings and personal growth that have resulted. She encourages others on similar journeys to be true to themselves and to go at their own pace, recognizing that the path to modesty is a personal one that cannot be dictated by others.

Keywords

💡Modesty

Modesty refers to the quality of being humble and not drawing attention to oneself. In the video, modesty is explored as a personal journey and a form of self-expression through clothing choices. The speaker discusses her decision to wear a headscarf as a symbol of modesty, which is not only a religious practice but also a means to develop a better relationship with herself and to seek less external validation.

💡Validation

Validation in this context means the confirmation or approval of a person's feelings, beliefs, or decisions. The video discusses how the speaker used to seek validation from external sources, such as social media and the way she dressed, but has since learned to find validation internally and through her faith.

💡Headscarf

A headscarf is a piece of cloth worn by some women to cover their hair, often for religious or cultural reasons. In the script, the headscarf is a symbol of modesty and a part of the speaker's personal journey towards finding a deeper connection with her faith and herself.

💡Self-Acceptance

Self-acceptance is the act of positively accepting oneself. The video talks about the importance of self-acceptance in the journey towards modesty. The speaker shares her struggle with self-love and how covering up and embracing modesty has helped her accept herself more.

💡Social Media

Social media is a platform for people to create and share content or to participate in social networking. In the video, social media is discussed as a place where the speaker used to seek external validation through likes and comments, but she has since shifted her focus to internal validation.

💡Sexualization

Sexualization refers to the imposition of sexual characteristics upon someone. The video discusses how women are often sexualized in society, and how covering up can offer a form of protection against unwanted sexual attention.

💡Confidence

Confidence is a feeling or belief that one can rely on oneself, which is something the speaker lacked initially and sought from external sources. The video narrative shows how she has learned to build confidence from within through her modesty journey.

💡External Validation

External validation is the need for approval or confirmation from outside sources, such as other people or social media. The speaker discusses how she used to rely on external validation for her self-worth but has since learned to find validation from within.

💡Internal Validation

Internal validation is the self-assurance and confidence that comes from within oneself, rather than from external sources. The video emphasizes the importance of developing internal validation as part of the modesty journey.

💡Identity Crisis

An identity crisis is a period of uncertainty and confusion about one's identity. The speaker mentions going through an identity crisis after deciding to embrace modesty, as she had to redefine who she was without relying on external validation.

💡Gym Shark

Gym Shark is a fitness apparel brand. In the video, the speaker discusses her collaboration with Gym Shark to create modest activewear, which is a significant part of her journey to provide more choices for women who seek modesty in their sportswear.

💡Risk

Risk is the possibility of loss or injury. The video talks about the risks the speaker took by changing her content and image, which could have resulted in losing followers or brand partnerships, but she stayed true to herself and her beliefs.

Highlights

Modesty looks different to all of us and it's important to be inclusive of everyone's journey.

The speaker put on the headscarf in March 2023 and deleted all social media content to start anew.

Modesty is about developing a better relationship with oneself and seeking internal validation.

The realization that being covered can offer protection from being sexualized by society.

The speaker's journey towards modesty was also a journey of self-discovery and personal growth.

The importance of staying true to oneself and one's beliefs for personal and professional success.

The speaker's collaboration with Gym Shark to create a modesty clothing line.

The challenges of seeking external validation and the transition to seeking validation from within.

The speaker's experience of being judged within the Muslim community despite her modesty journey.

The significance of the modesty dinner organized with Gym Shark to discuss modesty in clothing.

The panel talk at the event aimed at highlighting the importance of coverage, confidence, and comfort.

The speaker's advice to go at your own pace in the journey towards modesty.

The realization that even after covering up, internal work is needed to fully embrace modesty.

The importance of being true to oneself and not seeking validation from others.

The speaker's identity crisis and the process of finding her own style while embracing modesty.

The challenges faced during the transition to a more modest lifestyle and the eventual acceptance of self.

Transcripts

if you give something up for the sake of

staying true to your beliefs you will be

rewarded with so much and if you are a

person who wants to be liked by everyone

I am telling you right now it is

impossible and you just have to accept

it and you just have to be

yourself hello and welcome back to

another video I'm actually really

excited to film this because the last

time I did a modesty video was the first

time time I ever posted again after

deleting all of my videos on YouTube and

if you've been a subscriber from the

beginning then you know it's been a

minute yeah in this video I'm really

just going to be sharing a little bit

about my journey with modesty so far

because I put on the head scarf in March

of 2023 I deleted everything off of my

social media yeah I haven't really done

an update so we are getting into a

modesty update and I'm going to tell you

a little bit about things that I have

been working on regarding modesty as

well which is very exciting so let's

just start with my journey of modesty so

far and what it's been like so first

thing I want to mention is Modesty looks

different to all of us and I think

that's something that I really invocal

about well on my short form social media

platforms like Instagram and Tik Tok is

being inclusive of everyone's journey

and understanding that we all have

different interpretations of what

modesty looks like and even different

reasonings for modesty why why did I put

it on in hindsight I put it on to get

closer to God okay that that is

obviously the main thing why I put it on

but to be honest that wasn't the only

reason that I put it on I am a person

who has to know the reasoning behind why

okay and that was probably the hardest

thing for me to accept was the headscarf

and modesty because I thought to be

honest I thought women were oppressed

even though I was raised in a family

where my dad was Muslim and my mom was

of the Catholic faith she converted but

because I was raised in a Muslim

household you kind of reject religion in

a way sometimes when it's like you don't

understand it in fool I don't know we

just all grow up differently okay and so

I was just like low-key rejecting

religion and then later down in my life

I found it myself I had to rete myself

the whole religion and understand

why and I got curious and I doubted some

things as well I was like but then I

kept researching and researching and

watching videos like why should I put on

the hijab why aren't men wearing the

hijab that's what I thought instantly

but actually men do have to be modest

too so anyways the reason why I put it

on besides getting closer to God was to

develop a better relationship with

myself I was constantly seeking external

validation I didn't love myself and it

didn't make sense because I would go to

the gym and shorts and a sports bra and

at home I would literally be in hoodies

and sweatpants all the time the only

reason why I wore those clothes was

because I thought that's what I needed

to wear in order to look beautiful and

in order to feel accepted especially

with social media I built my platform

off of showing my body like let's just

be honest and not only that like take it

back from even whenever I started social

media y'all I would use my beauty my

hair my body whatever it is to gain

confidence like that is what gave me

confidence when I walked into a room I

would instantly feel confident because I

would seek that external validation from

people looking at me like being 100%

honest and the fact that I didn't have

confidence from within and that I

constantly had to seek out that

validation to make me feel confident is

something just not good and I realized

that whenever I started learning about

being covered and not only that it's

genuinely protection we live in a world

where men sexualize women you can be

wearing anything if it shows any form of

your body you will be sexualized like

that is just the society that we live in

when it comes to men and after realizing

the difference of not being covered

versus being covered and being

sexualized all the time and now not

getting sexualized all the time it's a

massive massive difference and I'm not

saying even if you're fully covered up

you won't get sexualized but the chances

is so much lower and I actually got into

a conversation with my esthetician and

she literally went to a grocery store

and she wore leggings right she was just

chilling like cozy going to the grocery

store in her leggings and a man

literally takes a picture of her crotch

ever since that day she does not wear

leggings to the grocery store anymore

because she does not like getting

sexualized and that's actually crazy

because as women we just want to wear

what we want to wear but it also comes

with the fact that you are going to have

the attraction that you might not want

to get by wearing those things and so

you really just have to put into

perspective off of your own beliefs

because I know so many women that cover

not even for religious reasons just

because they feel protected they feel

safer and so modest to me is more than

just covering my body it's fully relying

on my internal self for confidence not

seeking that external validation anymore

not feeling like I have to not be true

to myself I wasn't being true to myself

and it also has made me treat people

differently in a positive way because

when you are covered it just means that

you need to respect others more more and

because I'm also covered I have found

that I respect myself more and that

might trigger some people because hear

me out I want to give you a scenario all

right I didn't respect myself when I

wasn't covered not saying that if you

show your body you don't respect

yourself but I wasn't respecting myself

in my case I guess a year and a half

later I did not think I was going to be

here today though like y'all the

sacrifices that I had to make by leading

all of my content I could have lost

everything I could have lost brand

Partnerships I could have lost my whole

audience but because I stayed true to

myself the only thing that came with it

was more success more blessings in

different ways different ways I have

developed my characteristics on another

level I am a much much better person

than I was before I have lowered my ego

that's for sure and I have created

not only more opportunities for women

when it comes to modesty and being

represented but I am actively working

with brands in order to give

representation as a whole more Choice

when it comes to active wear and also

making sure that it's inclusive to every

single culture and Faith because modesty

comes in different ways and that leads

me into where I was at this past weekend

which was in New York and y'all this

literally all happened in one weekend it

was just insane and super quick but the

first thing I want to mention is the

modesty dinner that I did with Jim

Sharp I'm shy nice to meet you we'll be

taking care of your hospitality and food

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tday the dinner was around modesty and

we invited creators and some of my

audience members that are on their

coverage journey to come out they got to

look at my collection with gym Shar

coming out in January we have definitely

spent a long time working with Lanna to

build this collection and ensure that we

have the right product for our customer

and for the beautiful women in this room

and this isn't to say that these are the

only modest pieces within the assortment

gym shark is really dedicated to

ensuring that we have covered Styles

across all of our key ranges so that way

it's not just this is the one uh

assortment for you to wear there's same

mix of items within jym sh that you can

feel really comfortable in but also

beautiful everyone here in the

gym I really want to get to know you all

and hear about what you are struggling

with in the gym what we can do for you

and thank you guys so much for coming

out and I hope you guys enjoy the

dinner we all had dinner together it was

such an amazing event to get to know

every single person to understand their

Journey with modesty to understand what

struggles they go through through and

asking them genuine questions of how can

we help you in your journey when it

comes to active wear or what they

believe where brands are going wrong

when it does come to modesty as a whole

unfortunately there's a lot of like

judgment in some of our communities so I

think even people that want to

experiment with stuff is like a lot of

push back I personally like like a more

for fitting top like I think like again

being in gym like for of I'm trying to

really work on my form sometimes like if

I'm wearing something too baggy it's

hard to look in the mirror and be like

is my back B the right way my Straight

For Me often the issue is my mid so um

super breathable materials like I feel

like there are materials that I've tried

with other brands that I can literally

feel the wind coming through and I'm

like okay I can breathe like I don't

like to layer at

all in no Brands really put events

together like this especially a Big

Brand like jym shark which is crazy and

I'm looking back at the day where I was

worrying about if I was going to lose

everything and now I am giving creators

more opportunity which is honestly

surreal to me it's very very surreal to

me because as a Creator I never thought

that I would be put in a position where

I could help other creators which is the

biggest blessing of all I think that

genuinely gives me so much fulfillment

and even helping you all like that makes

me feel so whole in myself and that is

why this mission is so so big and it's

great greater than me and it's greater

than any single problem that I go

through in my life and I think that will

resonate with all of us because most of

the times we get in our own heads we

don't stay true to ourselves we don't

trust our instincts we don't take risks

because we fear that we will lose it all

but when you take risks and you trust in

yourself and whatever it is that you

want to accomplish you will get there

but you cannot let the doubt creep in on

behalf of Jim shark really want to thank

you all for coming tonight um it was

amazing to meet you all um and hear your

experiences as it relates to modest and

how you wear it um through your life

especially as we think about the gym

space and it's definitely given us a lot

of wonderful feedback that we can then

take and Implement into our future

product so thank you so much I hope this

was as amazing for you as it was for

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us adding on to that point like when I

was working with jym shark some of

youall have actually seen the clips of

me getting on calls with them going

through hard conversations literally

like genuinely trying to make sure that

they understand the sensitivity and what

we need because y'all I was wearing

men's clothing for so long and I'm not

going to lie this whole process of

waiting for product has given me so much

patience and has helped me understand

that in order to do anything great in

life it will be hard the journey the

process figuring things out it's going

to feel like constant fail after fail

until you finally get it right and then

once you get it right it will be so

worth it and here's a quote that I

honestly want to share with you that

resonates with this message everything

worth doing is hard the more worth doing

it is the harder it is the greater the

payoff the greater the hardship so much

of what we endure is how we train our

minds to perceive it train your mind for

hard basically the harder it is the more

epic the story will be and you always

have to have that mindset so every

struggle that you're going through I

want you to remember that you know this

is going to be a great story that one

day I will get to tell so that was the

modesty dinner let's get into the event

though so we're expecting big big

numbers this weekend you want to get as

many fans in the doors and in front of

you guys as possible I think that's I

wanted to do a panel talk and I told Jim

shark that I don't want it to just be

myself I want to do this panel talk at

the event with other women from

different Faith from different cultures

L is going to be like hosting it and

leading it directing it so she'll be

talking about her own modesty story a

little bit but then definitely asking a

lot of questions to everyone it's really

about telling everyone's story it's not

a lyana panel and you know it was

definitely important that it's about

everybody I do feel a little bit

insecure as a Muslim woman who isn't

hijabi speaking on modesty because I

know I'm not the perfect example but

even that what you just

shared somebody in the audience would

resonate with that they will love that

from you because they probably feel the

same exact way I have a very diverse

audience of different faiths and I want

to make sure that when I am doing this

journey with modesty it is speaking to

everyone it's not only speaking to

people of the Islam faith it is speaking

to everyone who is on their Journey with

coverage or modesty for whatever reason

they want so we did this panel it was so

good to hear other people's stories

about their Journey their

interpretations and what modesty means

to them give it up for

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led to do this panel today to highlight

the importance of coverage confidence

and comfort in the gym and Jim shark and

I have also been on a mission of giving

women more options when it comes to

wearing things in the gym that help you

feel confident it took me a long time to

actually realized what I was wearing to

jump for in the Mee and I what it

protected me from I just felt the

conviction when I was going to the gym

of oh I don't really feel comfortable in

this anymore so I had to make the

decision am I going to grow closer to

God and decide to cover up and explore

what that looks like for me or am I

going to stay stagnant in my eyes

modesty was as long as I'm not showing

skin I'm okay but the older that I've

grown and the closer that I've become to

God and my religion I realized that it's

not just about showing skin and that's

how I me my head mention it is about the

way that you care yourself the way that

you interact with others what do you do

when you're dealing with any kind of

negative comments and how do you really

tell yourself like this is me this is my

journey I'm going to take it one step at

a time how do you

how do you navigate through that it's

not easy by any means especially when

you know you're putting your best foot

forward that that's not enough for a lot

of people but at the end of the day I'm

not doing it for people I'm doing it for

myself and I'm doing it for the sake of

God and to be able to share that to an

audience was honestly just so beautiful

and amazing and Jim shark made this all

come together and it's actually so crazy

to me bro like if I think about it when

I was 16 years old I was wearing gym

shark leggings and now here I am trying

to bring more choice for women that want

modesty it's actually insane because if

you give something up for the sake of

God or for the sake of just you know

staying true to your beliefs you will be

rewarded with so much with so much just

because you stayed true to you and

stayed true to your beliefs and so on

this journey of modesty if I could give

you one piece of advice if you were

going through the same thing I would say

you will still be successful you will

still be accepted you will still be

beautiful and to go at your own pace and

to not let anyone rush you into it

because you have to develop that

relationship with the creator of the

world on your own and it cannot be

forced on to you otherwise you will end

up resenting the religion it has to be a

very very personal Journey it took me

about two years after finding Faith to

really put it on I would say two years

in full after learning and learning and

learning so I just want to say thank you

because I would have none of this

without you and God of course but

genuinely for those that have supported

me and stuck by my side like I love you

so much it's actually insane like I

legit did the whole 180 and and you're

still here which is crazy and I know

this like journey of me transitioning

has also meant that I've been low-key

miia on like creating content like for

my socials y' I was not creating content

a lot this year going to be completely

honest but I was also just having an

identity crisis like legit I was having

a genuine identity crisis I didn't know

who to be so I like made that transition

oh my God this is another point that I

need to mention I made that transition

and because I was a person who who SE

validation right I would seek validation

from my audience off of my body right

always wanting to feel beautiful and

like would constantly get that

validation from them and that confidence

okay fully cover up boom transition now

I'm I'm covered up but I'm still wanting

validation just because you cover up and

you start transitioning towards modesty

doesn't mean you're a perfect person

means that you've got a lot of internal

work to do so I then started seeking

validation from the Community let's just

be completely honest I started seeking

validation from another community that

probably wouldn't ever accept me and I

don't want to say wouldn't ever accept

me the online space of the Muslim

Community there's some good and then

there's some very judgmental it was then

I'm not perfect enough right like I'm

not covered up enough and then that led

me into like okay I'm seeking validation

from another Community like what is

going on like why am I seeking

validation from like so many different

things I need to just seek validation

for myself so I literally shut out that

side shut out that side went on my own

freaking sto like looking for things to

fulfill this emptiness inside me started

filling it with the right things and

then yeah fully locked into myself and I

was like you know what I'll be me and

whoever likes me for me likes me whoever

doesn't like me a goodbye legit because

you cannot please everyone and if you

are a person who wants to be liked by

everyone I am telling you right now it

is

impossible people are going to hate you

and you just have to accept it and you

just have to be yourself because at the

end of the day if you consistently

people please for the rest of your life

you will end up losing yourself so do

not do that so um yeah that's a modesty

update it's been a great journey I have

finally found a little bit of my style

I'm still searching for it somewhat um

but transitioning was the best best

decision of my life and even though it

came with many challenges the blessings

weigh out the challenges so I hope you

enjoyed this video and I love you all so

much sorry if it was a bit all over the

place but yeah very very grateful and

blessed so I will see you in the next

video