You’re pushing girls away by doing THIS without realising
Summary
TLDRIn this narrative, a 14-year-old Overwatch player recounts his experience of receiving praise from a girl, leading to a blossoming online friendship. The relationship deepens, culminating in a movie date invitation. However, peer influence sways him to abruptly end the connection, causing regret. Four years later, reflecting on the past, he realizes his mistake and attempts to apologize, only to find she's moved on. The story concludes with advice on maintaining an 'abundance mindset' to attract and maintain healthy relationships.
Takeaways
- 🎮 The narrator was highly skilled at the game Overwatch, achieving the highest rank and attracting attention for his gameplay.
- 💬 He received a message from a girl's username, which was a significant event for him due to his lack of interaction with females.
- 🤗 They began messaging and playing games together, developing a relationship that made the narrator very happy.
- 🏡 They lived in the same city, which added a layer of excitement and potential to their budding relationship.
- 📸 The girl was attractive, which was a surprise to the narrator and boosted his confidence in their interactions.
- 💔 Influenced by his friends, he began to distance himself from the girl without a clear reason, causing confusion and hurt.
- 🚫 He made a regrettable decision to end their interactions based on the misguided advice of others, which he later deeply regretted.
- 🕒 Years later, he reflected on his actions and realized the mistake he made, reaching out to apologize to the girl.
- 🔄 The girl had moved on and did not hold a grudge, but the experience left a lasting impact on the narrator.
- 💡 He learned the importance of self-confidence and not relying on others' opinions when it comes to personal relationships.
Q & A
What game was the narrator playing when he first interacted with the girl?
-The narrator was playing Overwatch when he first interacted with the girl.
What was the highest rank the narrator achieved in Overwatch?
-The highest rank the narrator achieved in Overwatch was Grandmaster, within the top 500.
How old were the narrator and the girl when they first started playing games together?
-The narrator was 14 years old and the girl was 15 years old when they first started playing games together.
What was the narrator's initial reaction to receiving a message from a girl on Overwatch?
-The narrator felt euphoric and scared, as he had never had any female interaction before.
Why did the narrator hesitate to show his face to the girl initially?
-The narrator hesitated to show his face because he was not confident in his appearance and did not have any facial pictures on social media.
What event led to the narrator's decision to stop communicating with the girl?
-The narrator was influenced by his friends who did not like the girl and manipulated him into believing that he should not be with her.
How did the girl react when the narrator stopped communicating with her?
-The girl was confused and later expressed her disappointment when the narrator told her he was easily convinced by others.
What game was the narrator playing when he thought about the girl four years later?
-The narrator was playing Dark Souls 3 when he thought about the girl four years later.
What did the narrator do to try to make amends with the girl after realizing his mistake?
-The narrator messaged the girl four years later to apologize for his past behavior.
What advice does the narrator give about approaching relationships with the opposite sex?
-The narrator advises to act as if one already has an abundance of girls or is in a relationship with a 10 out of 10 girl, which can help in attracting more girls and not appearing needy.
Outlines
🎮 Gaming Connection and First Encounter
The speaker recounts being a 14-year-old highly skilled Overwatch player in 2016-2017, reaching the highest rank. After an impressive game, he receives a message from a presumed girl praising his skills. This interaction is significant as he had no prior meaningful contact with girls. They start messaging and decide to play together. The speaker is nervous but excited, and they develop a deeper relationship, even discovering they live in the same city. They exchange social media and continue to bond over games and messages, with the speaker eventually revealing his appearance to her.
💔 Missed Opportunity and Regret
The girl, who is revealed to be attractive and only a year older, asks the speaker to go out for a movie. He agrees but is influenced by friends who discourage the relationship, leading him to treat her poorly in their next gaming session. She confronts him about his behavior, and he responds immaturely, causing her to cut off contact. Four years later, the speaker, now 18 and playing Dark Souls 3, reflects on this past relationship with regret. He checks their old messages and realizes his mistake, reaching out to apologize. However, she has moved on, and he is left with a sense of loss and the lesson that he should have acted differently.
🚀 Growth and Future Prospects
The speaker concludes by sharing that he has learned from his past and is now focused on self-improvement, believing that by bettering himself, he will attract a better partner. He emphasizes the importance of not dwelling on past mistakes but using them as stepping stones for growth. He offers advice for others in similar situations, suggesting that maintaining a positive mindset and not being overly needy are key to attracting a good partner. He promotes a link for personal help with dating and encourages viewers to subscribe for more content.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Overwatch
💡Grandmaster
💡Interaction
💡Insecurity
💡Snapchat
💡Ready Player One
💡Manipulation
💡Regret
💡Scarcity Mindset
💡Abundance Mindset
💡Personal Growth
Highlights
A 14-year-old Overwatch player achieves the highest rank and receives a message from a girl, marking his first interaction with a female.
The player and the girl begin messaging and playing games together, leading to a deepening relationship.
The girl, who is 15 and lives in the same city, asks the player out to watch a movie.
Influenced by friends, the player starts treating the girl poorly in a PlayStation party, leading to confusion and hurt feelings.
The player admits to being easily convinced by others and ends the relationship, causing the girl to be upset.
Four years later, the now 18-year-old player reflects on his actions and regrets how he treated the girl.
The player reaches out to the girl to apologize, but she has moved on and the conversation ends abruptly.
The experience leads the player to develop a scarcity mindset, affecting his approach to dating.
The player advises acting as if you already have a perfect girl in your life to avoid appearing needy.
The player emphasizes the importance of not displaying a lack of interest in a girl you like.
The player suggests that by improving oneself and maintaining a positive mindset, one can attract better partners.
The player offers personal help with dating and securing one's dating life through a link in the description.
The player encourages subscribers to check out the link for help with dating and to subscribe for more content.
Transcripts
all right bro picture this right I'm 14
years old and I was grinding OverWatch
back in 2016 2017 and I was genuinely
very good at this game I got the highest
rank which was grandm top 500 whatever
right and I was playing a game one day
and I absolutely curb stomped this game
I carried the [ __ ] out of my team and
afterwards I got a message from one of
the players on the enemy team and this
was a girl's username and it said
something like hey you're really good at
uh you know the character I was playing
whatever I was playing and up to this
point in my life I haven't had a single
female interaction in my entire life
probably if I'm being honest like I was
scared of girls very very much so this
this was a euphoric feeling to me
getting a message from a girl well
presumably a girl yes so I'm messaging
her back and forth yada yada yada and we
actually end up deciding to play a game
together and so I'm about to hop into a
PlayStation party with this presumably
girl that I'm about to play with and by
this point bro my heart is beating out
of my [ __ ] chest because you know I
don't talk to girls right so I enter the
PlayStation party and I wait for her to
say something first before I do because
I'm just scared and I hear her voice
it's a girl yes this is exactly what I
wanted right we played we played some
games together you know I got to know
her a little bit more she's she was 15
years old and I was 14 she actually
lived in the same city as I did and by
this point I'm playing with her every
single day our our relationship is
deepening I actually really like this
girl she's the first girl that I'm
actually properly speaking to on a daily
basis and life is good life was really
really good it was going so well and
fast that I actually ended up getting
her Instagram and her Snapchat right and
I did not want to show her my face right
this was around the point when you know
I didn't have really have any of you
know facial pictures on Instagram or I
didn't show my face on social media
because frankly guys I wasn't very uh
let's say I wasn't very so I wasn't very
appealing to look at but bro let me tell
you this when I got her
Instagram [ __ ] dude I'm not even joking
you she was fine and I'm not saying this
I I had you know I'm a person with
pretty high standards She Was Out of My
League straight up she was five times
better looking than I was I found a
[ __ ] gem on [ __ ] OverWatch what a
[ __ ] what is this world I'm pretty sure
she lived literally 15 minutes from me
like a literal 10 to 15 minutes drive
and so every single day we would be
texting back and forth on Instagram on
Snapchat and it would be a really fun
time I did end up showing her my face
and she you know she didn't say anything
but I could tell that she wanted to keep
on speaking to me so that was that was
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now all righty where was I one day I
woke up and I checked my phone and I
checked my messages with her and you
won't believe me when I say this but she
actually asked me if she if if you if I
wanted to go out with
her like and see a movie
together my God holy [ __ ] [ __ ] bro I
was literally like a three out of 10 4
out of 10 person like in terms of looks
and stuff and she was more of like an 8
n and she asked me bro what the [ __ ] and
you know I was really really really
scared like because again I have never
done this stuff before I haven't really
gone out with girls so I was genuinely
so [ __ ] scared but I ended up saying
yes and we scheduled a day to go out and
watch was it ready player one and around
a couple days before we plan to meet up
I was on I was on OverWatch again and I
was playing playing with a couple of
other friends that I used to play with
but these guys they didn't they didn't
like the girl very much that I was that
I was playing with I don't quite
remember why they pretty much
brainwashed me into believing that you
know I shouldn't be playing with her I
shouldn't be with her I shouldn't be you
know meting up with her or anything like
that and I believed them because I was
young and dumb and these guys
manipulated me into saying something
that I didn't want to
say and so we would we just waiting for
her to join in on the PlayStation party
as well with us in it and as soon as she
joined I didn't say a
word I I treated her with silence
because these guys convinced me that she
wasn't a good person that you know I'm
I'm carrying her on on the game or
whatever she was confused she was
genuinely so confused why why I'm
treating her like this why am I treating
her like [ __ ] and you know rightfully so
I don't know I don't know why I did that
and then a day later she asked me on
text why you know why you why you
treating me like that and I ended up
saying something really [ __ ] stupid
again I I think I ended up saying I'm
easily convinced by other people I don't
know I said something very stupid
basically right and at that point you
know she was obviously a lot more mature
than I was and
uh
she she literally said [ __ ] you
to
me
yeah she hated me after that and you
know this is extremely childish stuff
obviously we didn't meet up we never met
up and I was okay at first in fact I
felt uh I felt like I did the right
thing of doing that but in
reality that's not what happened and
those those guys I was with that I was
talking to were [ __ ] and she didn't
deserve any of that I gave her and she
had every right
to say [ __ ] off yeah nothing else came
out of that however fast
forward 4 years yep 4 years later and
I'm 18 years old and I'm playing Dark
Souls 3 I was still lonely I was still
hugless I was still all these things
right one lonely night of me playing
Dark Souls 3 I had a thought and I
remember
this girl that I used to play with and
then I did what no man should ever
do and it's check old
messages yeah I started scrolling I went
to the top of our messages on Instagram
when we used to message each other and I
started
reading and it hit me hard bro by this
point I would have matured a little bit
more hopefully and I did realize that I
was a stupid [ __ ] F an idiot and I
regretted it so bad and I should not
have read those messages because it just
made me my mental health five times
worse holy [ __ ] [ __ ] I just lost an
absolute gem I am never going to be able
to attract a girl like her ever again
what the [ __ ] is wrong with me am I
[ __ ] [ __ ] this was the biggest
regret I have ever had in my entire life
up to that point I was so down bad to
the point where I actually messaged her
4 years later telling her how sorry I
was and guess how she reacted she was
fine with it she forgot she forgot about
me and then I tried to carry on the
conversation but she left me on red and
that was that was it I was truly gone at
this point and this exact event put me
into what it's called as a scarcity
mindset you know in the mindset of okay
I lost that I can't lose another girl
that I'm talking to so I'm just going to
come off as super needy and guys do you
think I ended up getting any girls
acting this way [ __ ] no bro girls can
biologically sense in us that we
probably don't have much going on in our
lives and they can sense this right and
they will run away so guys it's simple
man in order to actually get girls you
need to act like you already do gay
girls and I'm not saying to you know
Flex that you just you got this many
girls you got this many girls no no no
don't show off or anything like that
there's a different way of uh alluding
that you do get girls I'll always say
this till the day I die bro but bro I
need you to imagine that you had your 10
out of 10 girl with you in a
relationship she is your 10 out of 10 in
terms of looks personality
now how would you talk to other girls at
that point
that's exactly how you should be talking
with girls
now that's all there is to that you'll
notice you're going to act a lot less
desperate you notice you're going to act
a lot less needy just because you have
this abundance of the perfect girl with
you well
theoretically but girls love this
behavior and no bro I'm not saying to
you know purposely not display any
amount of interest in any girl even if
you do like the girl I'm not saying that
guys I'm not I'm not saying that
absolutely go ahead display your
interest in a girl what I'm saying is
your general personality style this the
way you act on a day-to-day basis you
kind of brainwash your own brain into
believing that you have an abundance of
girls that already like you or you
already have that 10 out 10 girl with
you because you will actually attract
more girls if you are in this mindset
believe it or not bro it's a fact and
let me tell you this bro the girl that I
was talking to she's not special she's
not special in the slightest because I
know for a fact that I if I keep
improving my life and if I keep this
mindset up if I just keep on improving
on myself every single day I will find a
girl that is better than her so don't
worry about it bro cuz you'll find a
girl that's like her if not even
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