4 Messages you should NEVER send while chatting

Summary

In this video, the speaker emphasizes the importance of effective communication in online chatting, particularly with new subscribers. They advise against using generic and unengaging phrases like 'how are you' and 'what are you doing,' which can lead to dull conversations and missed opportunities. Instead, they recommend personalized openers that play on the subscriber's username to capture their interest. The speaker also warns against directly mentioning money or making the subscriber feel like they're being pressured to spend. They suggest building an emotional connection to encourage voluntary purchases, and stress the importance of respect and value in sales interactions.

Takeaways

• 💡 Start conversations with new subscribers with personalized and engaging messages to capture their attention from the first interaction.
• 🎯 Avoid generic and uninteresting questions like 'How are you?' as they waste the opportunity to make a compelling first impression.
• 🚫 Refrain from asking subscribers directly about their financial status or implying they are wealthy, as it can be off-putting and disrespectful.
• 💌 Show genuine interest in the subscriber by asking personalized questions and creating an emotional connection, which can lead to more sales.
• 💬 Do not use lazy questions like 'What are you doing?' which show a lack of effort and do not add value to the conversation.
• 🙅‍♂️ Never directly ask if a subscriber will purchase content or unlock a pay-per-view; this can come across as desperate and undermines the relationship.
• 🔒 Focus on building a relationship with the subscriber where they feel valued and connected, making them more likely to willingly spend money.
• 💰 Remember that sales are proportional to the effort you put into communicating with the customer; the more effort, the more likely you are to succeed.
• 🤝 Treat the subscriber with respect and courtesy, just as you would in any sales interaction, to foster a positive buyer-seller dynamic.
• ⏳ Be patient and strategic in your approach; don't rush subscribers into making a purchase, but instead, let the relationship develop naturally.

Q & A

What is the main takeaway from the speaker's experience with chatting and learning how to train Chatters?

The main takeaway is that the speaker's life and financial situation improved significantly after starting to chat and train Chatters, despite initial reluctance.

Why does the speaker emphasize the importance of not asking 'how are you' at the beginning of a chat?

The speaker believes 'how are you' is a waste of the first impression and does not engage the subscriber effectively, leading to a loss of momentum and a less compelling conversation.

What alternative does the speaker suggest to the generic 'how are you' question?

The speaker suggests using a personalized opener that plays on the subscriber's username, which is more likely to elicit a response and build engagement.

According to the speaker, what is the overarching principle of successful chatting?

The overarching principle is to put a lot of effort into the conversation, which will be rewarded proportionally in sales and building a genuine interest in the subscriber.

Why is asking 'what are you doing' considered a low-effort question by the speaker?

It's considered low-effort because it's predictable and doesn't require much thought, and it doesn't show genuine interest in the subscriber beyond the obvious.

What is the speaker's advice regarding discussing money or wealth with subscribers?

The speaker advises against directly mentioning money or wealth because it can come off as disrespectful and can negatively affect the sales process by making the subscriber uncomfortable.

Can you explain the analogy the speaker uses about family friend Christian and respecting parents?

The analogy is used to illustrate the importance of respecting the buyer's position by not being too direct about the seller's intentions, similar to how one wouldn't openly disrespect a parent by flaunting behavior they disapprove of.

Why does the speaker say it's a bad idea to ask subscribers directly if they are going to unlock or buy content?

Directly asking about unlocking or buying content can put the subscriber on the defensive, leading them to make excuses instead of building a connection that would naturally lead to a purchase.

What is the speaker's view on the importance of building an emotional connection with subscribers?

The speaker views building an emotional connection as crucial because it can make subscribers more willing to pay for content, even at high prices, due to the value of the relationship over the content itself.

How does the speaker feel about the approach of begging subscribers to unlock or buy content?

The speaker is against begging as it lowers the value of the chatter, puts the subscriber in an uncomfortable position, and is ineffective in促成 sales.

Outlines

00:00

🗣️ Effective Communication in Chatting

The speaker emphasizes the importance of effective communication in chatting, particularly with new subscribers. They share their personal experience of improved financial success and life quality after learning to chat well. The speaker advises against using generic and unengaging phrases like 'how are you' in conversations, as they can lead to boring and unproductive interactions. Instead, they suggest creating personalized openers that play on the subscriber's username to capture their attention and create a more engaging conversation.

05:00

💡 The Art of Effort and Genuine Interest

This paragraph discusses the principles of putting effort into chatting and showing genuine interest in the subscriber. The speaker stresses that effort is proportionally rewarded with sales and that a lazy approach, such as asking 'what are you doing,' can lead to missed opportunities. They advocate for developing a real interest in the subscriber and not just being interesting. The speaker also warns against being too forward about the desire for money, comparing it to not throwing in the face that one wants to smoke weed in front of a parent who disapproves.

10:02

🚫 Avoiding Direct Requests for Purchases

The speaker advises against making direct requests for purchases, such as asking if a subscriber is going to unlock content. They argue that this approach is ineffective and can lead to excuses from the subscriber rather than sales. Instead, the speaker suggests building an emotional connection with the subscriber, which can make them more willing to pay for content. They use the analogy of dating to explain that being direct about one's intentions can be off-putting and disrespectful to the other party.

15:04

💰 The Impact of Value and Respect in Sales

In the final paragraph, the speaker talks about the importance of providing value and respect in sales. They discuss how begging for a sale or asking directly if a subscriber will unlock content can lower the seller's value and lead to excuses rather than purchases. The speaker emphasizes that the goal should be to create such a connection and value that the subscriber wants to unlock and engage with the content without being prompted. They conclude by summarizing the key points and encouraging viewers to apply these strategies to improve their chatting and sales.

Keywords

💡Chatters

Chatters refer to individuals who engage in live chats, often in the context of online platforms where users can interact with content creators in real-time. In the video script, the term is used to describe people who are interacting with the content creator, and the speaker emphasizes the importance of effective communication with them to build a relationship and increase sales.

💡Subs

Subs is short for 'subscribers,' and in this context, it likely refers to subscribers to a content creator's channel or service, particularly in the realm of online content where fans pay to access exclusive material. The video discusses strategies for engaging with these subscribers to enhance their experience and encourage financial support.

💡First impression

First impression is a concept that highlights the significance of initial interactions between people. The video script stresses that the first message sent to a new subscriber sets the tone for the relationship and can greatly influence their perception and engagement. The speaker advises against using generic and uninteresting questions that fail to make a strong first impression.

💡Effort

Effort, in the context of the video, pertains to the energy and thought a content creator puts into their interactions with subscribers. The speaker suggests that the more effort one invests in crafting engaging and personalized messages, the more likely they are to see a return in terms of sales and subscriber loyalty.

💡Personalized opener

A personalized opener is a tailored message that uses specific details about the recipient to initiate a conversation. The video script provides an example of using a subscriber's username in a playful and engaging way to start a conversation. This approach is contrasted with generic greetings and is recommended as a strategy to capture the subscriber's attention.

💡Sales

Sales in this video refers to the act of selling content or services to subscribers. The speaker discusses the importance of sales techniques in the context of online content creation, emphasizing that building rapport and showing genuine interest in subscribers can lead to increased sales.

💡Respect

Respect is a key theme in the video, where the speaker advises content creators to approach their subscribers with respect, avoiding direct requests for purchases or highlighting the financial aspect of the relationship. The speaker uses analogies from personal and professional scenarios to illustrate how respecting the buyer's experience can lead to more successful outcomes.

💡Emotional connection

Emotional connection refers to the bond or sense of affinity that can develop between a content creator and their subscribers. The video script suggests that establishing such a connection can lead to increased sales, as subscribers are more likely to invest in content from creators they feel a personal connection with.

💡Value

Value, in the context of the video, is the perceived worth or benefit that a subscriber receives from the content or service provided by the content creator. The speaker argues that if a content creator can effectively communicate the value of their offerings, subscribers are more likely to make purchases, even for seemingly small or insignificant items.

💡Unlocking content

Unlocking content refers to the process where a subscriber gains access to exclusive material by making a payment or fulfilling certain conditions set by the content creator. The video script warns against directly asking subscribers if they will unlock content, as this can come across as pushy or desperate and may detract from the relationship-building process.

Highlights

The speaker emphasizes the importance of learning how to effectively chat and train Chatters for financial gain and personal well-being.

The speaker shares personal experience, noting a significant improvement in income and life quality after starting to chat and train Chatters.

Four key phrases or questions are identified as things to never say in a conversation with a subscriber, especially new ones without an established relationship.

The phrase 'how are you' is criticized as a poor conversation starter due to its lack of originality and inability to engage the subscriber.

The speaker advises against using generic openers, suggesting personalized messages that play on the subscriber's username instead.

The importance of effort in chatting is highlighted, with the speaker asserting that more effort leads to higher sales.

The phrase 'what are you doing' is criticized for being low-effort and showing little interest in the subscriber.

The speaker stresses the need to develop a genuine interest in the subscriber and to be respectful in the sales process.

Refraining from directly asking about a subscriber's wealth or ability to pay is advised to maintain respect and avoid turning off the subscriber.

An analogy is made between sales and dating, suggesting that being upfront about wanting money can be off-putting to subscribers.

The speaker explains that building an emotional connection with subscribers can lead them to be more willing to pay for content.

Asking subscribers directly if they will unlock or buy content is discouraged as it can lower the speaker's perceived value and lead to excuses.

The speaker suggests that subscribers should unlock content because they like the speaker, not because they are being asked to.

The video concludes with a call to action for viewers to like, comment, and subscribe, as well as to check out the provided links for more information.

Transcripts

I put off chatting and learning how to

train Chatters for a very long time to

my detriment and now that I have started

to do it I have made way more money and

my life is unironically actually no

exaggeration much better a lot more

stress but you know it's part of the

game and as my own knowledge of chatting

develops um I come across from time to

time things that I see my Chatters do

that I don't like and one of those

things is using one of these phrases or

questions in their

chatting so in this video I'm going to

go over I've got four here I might think

of some more as I'm doing this but I've

got four things to never say in a

conversation with a sub now this is a

like most of these are for like a new

sub that you don't have a relationship

with and you haven't sold any content

with it's not like somebody that you've

known for a long time and there's you

know it's like not a a friend friend

right okay so things to Never Say in

chatting I'm going to tell you what they

are and I'm going to tell you why by the

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question number one or thing number one

to Never Say in chatting how are you

you got to understand like

this when you chat okay every every

message that you send especially early

on every message that you send right is

a sniper bullet that if you do not hit

your mark with that

bullet you're going to lose or it

becomes much harder to like dig yourself

out and turn around a stupid or [ __ ] or

boring conversation than it is to like

nail it right from the get-go and start

off on the right foot uh my dad always

used to tell me you never get a second

chance to make a first impression and

that's very true and it is the same with

chatting as well now why is how are you

a [ __ ] stupid question that if if I

see my Chatters ask that question like I

I I go berserk like I lose my [ __ ] and

the reason I'll say it I'll say it one

more time just for

emphasis the reason is that when you

have when you're starting a conversation

with a new sub this usually happens at

the beginning of a conversation where

you ask [ __ ] dumb questions like this

when you're starting a new conversation

with them you are obviously competing

with a lot of other stuff for their

attention and if you don't capture their

uh if you don't send something

compelling in the first message and

you're not interesting immediately from

the get-go then you just lost a ton of

the momentum so why is how are you

stupid it's like there's what are they

going to say right what is the sub going

to say oh I'm good I'm

fine and then what and then that's it I

maybe he'll say oh I'm good how are you

what have you accomplished nothing

nothing what's what's the point of

asking that you could you could have

said anything else and gotten a much

more interesting engaged invested

response but you just wasted your first

sniper bullets the most important one

arguably on some dumb [ __ ] now what I

like to have people do now okay so this

is usually um done in like the first

message or two messages so usually what

Chatters will do if they're you know

unaware of this let's give them the

benefit of the doubt and just say that

they it never occurred to them that was

a stupid

question what they'll say is they'll be

like hey you know Steve how are

you um what I will have them do instead

and this you know assumes that the sub

has like an actual username

is I will make them do a personalized

opener with a play on the username so if

it's Steve for example it be like uh hey

Steve so glad you're here um by the way

are you Steve Jobs uh I hate to tell you

this but I don't have an iPhone I have a

Samsung right it's a lot of work right a

lot of investment early on from the

chatter to do that but that message or

series of messages is much more likely

to get a response and it doesn't it

doesn't and there's a few reasons for

that I don't want to go into them all

right now but that's much more likely to

get a response than how are you how are

you is not interesting it's like oh she

just asked me how I am like it's boring

like who cares like let me see what else

there is but now she's talking about

Steve Job Samsung there's a lot of

threads for the sub to pull on so that's

number one I [ __ ] lose my [ __ ] when I

see that and all variations of how are

you are included in this what's up how's

it going it's all the same doesn't have

to be how are you

the second thing that you should never

say in chatting this is similar to the

last one but what are you

doing when I see that okay so so when I

train Chatters I tell them a few things

but like the overarching principle of

chatting you put effort put a lot of

effort into it okay you will be rewarded

proportionally in sales any kind of

sales with the amount of effort that you

put in to communicating with your

customer let's just call it that if you

don't put a lot of effort in yeah you'll

get the easy customers here and there

but you won't get a lot from them you

won't get as much as if you put effort

into them you might make a sale or two

here and there but you will not turn

them into a lifelong customer who gives

them gives you all their money because

they [ __ ] like

you number one is effort number two is

develop a genuine interest in the sub

develop an interest don't be interesting

be interested right it's another tip

from

sales what are you doing is is low

effort and very little interest very

little interest I guess it's some

interest because you are technically

asking them a question about themselves

but it's such a lazy question number one

it's a lazy question okay like what are

you doing [ __ ] what do you think

he's doing he's on the [ __ ] computer

or on the phone talking to you that's

what he's doing and that's what he's

going to say well he's not going to say

that he's going to be like oh

nothing okay and and what have you done

with that with that very valuable

opportunity to communicate with somebody

who could be could put thousands of

dollars in your pocket and what did you

decide to do you decided to ask them

what they're doing you know what they're

doing you know exactly what they're

doing [ __ ] makes me want to lose my

[ __ ] the third thing to Never Say in

chatting is some variation of this of

like oh wow you're rich or oh wow you

must make a lot of money or oh wow you

know [ __ ] whatever

you don't I tell this to my Chatters I

say yes you are there to get money the

sub knows you want money but you do not

want to throw it in their face okay so

this is something slightly unrelated but

this is something that like so I used to

go for the holidays I used to go to my

cousin's house and there was like a

family friend there he was a couple

years older than me and he was like he

wasn't related to us but him and his dad

were like very close with my uncle's

family and so he was like basically like

family like I I considered him one of my

cousins very cool guy um so we used to

like go off in the family you know get

togethers and go smoke

weed um and like I remember one time cuz

he would tell me that his he his dad

knew that he smoked wheed and it was it

was the type of thing that like you know

they had that relationship I didn't have

that relationship with my parents where

I could go [ __ ] tell them I'm going

to go smoke a joint with his name was

Christian like yeah me and Christian

we're going to go [ __ ] hit the blunt

like down the street um we'll be back in

a couple hours maybe like I couldn't say

that to them and I and I said to him

like I don't know we were talking about

it one day and he goes you know you can

you can do whatever you want but you

just have to show them respect and not

throw it in their face like you can't

[ __ ] talk about smoking The Joint in

front of him you can't [ __ ] smoke the

joint in front of him whatever like that

would be disrespectful to him because

it's his obligation as a parent to not

allow you to do that and it puts him in

an awkward position so this is this is

kind of like that except this is you

know different obviously this is a a

buyer seller Dynamic so you you want to

show the sub respect you want to show

them the respect you want to do them the

courtesy of not throwing it in their

face that you want their money it's so

disrespectful as a

salesperson you might think and I I fell

into this trap myself when I do

commission only sales all the time

like you might think like I just want to

be real with this person I just want to

tell this person the unfiltered full

[ __ ] truth about what I'm saying so I

would say stuff like well look to be

honest with you I really want to make

the sale so blah blah blah and when I

did that the chances of me making money

actually getting the sale went way down

because I was even if it was honest even

if it was genuine like it was bringing

to the attention to the customer the

fact that if they took a specific action

the action that I wanted them to take I

would directly receive a benefit from

that and that tints everything that you

say in a negative way in a way that is

not going to you know help you [ __ ]

get the money so it's not a good thing

to say and when you say [ __ ] like oh

you're rich oh you must make so much

money wow you're [ __ ] you can buy

everything you can definitely buy this

content from me it's terrible it's awful

right I'll give you one more example

we'll move to the next one when you're

trying to court a woman let's call it

you're dating a girl it's the first date

second date

whatever let's be honest gentlemen like

yeah okay maybe some of you are looking

for a companion maybe some of you are

looking for your wife or whatever but

like you go out I mean this is me at

least I don't know maybe you guys are

not like this but like if I go out with

a girl I want to [ __ ] her you know what

I mean and like that's why I'm going out

with her that's why I'm going and buying

her dinner that's why we're going to get

drinks that's why I'm [ __ ] texting

her that's why I'm talking to her that's

why I'm doing all this stuff so I can

stick my dick inside her you know what I

I mean however and she knows that they

know they're not stupid they're not

idiots but they enjoy the experience as

long as you don't throw that in their

face you can't I can't say to a girl be

like well yeah like I'm going to take

you to a really nice place CU I really

want to [ __ ] you right you you can't do

that you can't say after the dinner well

you know I'm feeling kind of Tipsy um

I'd really like to [ __ ] right now do you

want to go [ __ ] like you can't do that

it's it's it's disrespectful to them not

because I'm not saying it's

disrespectful cuz you're like mean to

women or you're a pig or something like

that it's from the perspective of the

seller which you are as a man to be

honest you from the seller to the buyer

you are not respecting the buyer um

because you have not uh you

know beautified your conversation let's

say in a way that will make them want to

buy which is your responsibility as the

seller or the chatter in this case and

all you have to do is just not say that

thing right it's not it's not even an

action you need to take it's like a a

non-action it's a [ __ ] just don't do

this

thing the fourth thing to Never Say in

chatting someone drives me up the

[ __ ] wall they all drive me up the

wall is some variation

of are you going to unlock

it okay so picture the situation your

chat is talking to a sub going back and

forth going back and forth sends a ppv

to unlock sub doesn't unlock it let's

say like he doesn't respond he stops

responding after that or they continue

talking whatever doesn't matter if the

chatter sends something like oh babe

you're not going to unlock

this it why is it bad number one what's

he gonna say what's he gonna say he's

going to come up with some excuse about

why he can't buy it right he's not going

to say here's here and here's the truth

here's the truth sometimes they say this

but usually not if you've built some

kind of connection with them they

usually don't say this but you sometimes

what they say is like oh um I don't

think that how you have priced that

piece of content is worth the money that

you are asking for

it sometimes they say that like

sometimes you'll hear a [ __ ] sub say

like oh but this girl sells fulllength

videos for $10 and you want you know $10

for a 20 second video I don't think

that's Fair some of them do say that

however that same sub if he's having a

good time if he's enjoying the

conversation if he feels an emotional

bond with you know the girl then he will

pay $10 for a 20 second video he will

buy it so like that you know that uh

math is not the reason why they're not

buying it the reason they're not buying

it there's lots of reasons right but

like at the end of the day that's the

reason they're like I have money they

want my money they want me to watch this

20c video I don't feel like my money is

worth that 20 second video and there's a

lot of ways to make it worth that 20

second video the best way in my opinion

is to build an emotional connection with

the sub so that they will they would buy

air they would buy a a picture of a

white screen for $10 or $20 or $100 or

whatever good night John Sells [ __ ]

pictures of his Ramen for

$100 like you know what I mean and the

the reason that he does that obviously

you can't do that with everybody but the

reason that he does that I'm sorry the

reason he's able to do that is because

he or his Chatters or whoever it is I

mean he posted the screenshots I assume

it was him maybe it was one of his

Chatters who knows the reason he's able

to do that is because he has spent the

time to atically build adequately build

a connection with the

sub if they do not buy the content that

is the reason why and you asking oh are

you going to unlock it are you going to

buy it babe you'll really like it you'll

come so much some dumb [ __ ] like

that there what they're not going to be

like oh my bad I didn't even see that oh

it totally slipped past me I didn't even

notice that they're going to come up

with some excuse as to why they can't

buy it oh my card doesn't work oh I need

to wait for my salary I I [ __ ] hate

like sometimes I have my chatter submit

reports it doesn't happen anymore cuz

like I put a stop to it but um they'll

say like oh you know no sales weren't

good today all the all the subs are

waiting for their salary waiting for

their salary I know he's got $20 I know

he's got I know he's got $100 in his

account like they have more than that

there there is no waiting for the salary

what that means is you just didn't do a

good job giving him enough value so that

he spent that money it is possible to do

that with

everybody you know the amount of work

required to do it with like the most

difficult people I'm not saying that's

worth it like you know you know what I

mean anyway this this uh this you know

begging of like babe are you going to

unlock it are you going to are you do

you want to are you going to watch my

video babe make sure you tell me how

much you like it you're not [ __ ]

slick bro you're not you're not clever

they're not going to be like oh well I I

do want to give you my feedback on your

[ __ ] dildo video so

$20 so I hate it okay and and I and I

and I don't like seeing and not only

that here's another bad thing about it

is it puts you it it lowers your value

to the point where you are like asking

them to do something for you oh can will

you please do this thing for me no

that's not that's not how the

relationship should be like they should

just unlock everything that you send

because they [ __ ] like you there I

don't know if I [ __ ] told I did tell

this story about like the girl that I

was texting and I didn't didn't want to

go out with her and like she was so good

at conversation I was like well okay

fine let's go she super hot by the way

okay anyway those are the things to

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