THE LONELY CHAPTER (FT. Alex Hormozi) | Motivational Speech
Summary
TLDRThe speaker emphasizes the relentless drive of champions, who possess an 'off button' that others lack. They discuss the initial challenges and the importance of perseverance, noting that success often comes to those who endure the most. The narrative touches on the loneliness and self-doubt faced during the journey to achievement, suggesting that the sign of success is the resistance encountered along the way. The speaker advocates for reframing life's struggles as investments of time and effort towards desired personal traits, and encourages embracing challenges as opportunities for growth.
Takeaways
- 🏆 Champions are not defined by what they have that others don't, but by what they lack that everyone else has—an 'off button'. They never stop pursuing their goals.
- 🚀 Success requires enduring the initial effort when most people doubt you. It's a long-term game measured in years, not months or days.
- 🌱 The path to achievement often involves a period of isolation and feeling like an outsider, without fitting into old or new social circles.
- 🔥 The sign of success is the resistance and 'hate' you face along the way; don't succumb to it by reverting to the comfort of conformity.
- 🤔 If you had to create a human to be tough, you wouldn't give them an easy life. Similarly, the challenges we face are what forge our resilience and patience.
- 💡 Reframe life's struggles as investments of your time towards developing the traits you desire, like patience and resilience.
- 🧠 Ask yourself, 'What would I do if I weren't afraid?' This question often reveals the big, meaningful goals you truly want to pursue.
- 🛠️ The concept of 'one of one' suggests creating unique, valuable work that only you can do, rather than settling for mediocrity.
- 💪 The early stages of any endeavor are the hardest because you have the least resources and leverage. It's a test of your resolve.
- 🗣️ The language of success is different from the language of the average person. Understanding this difference is crucial for achieving success.
- ⏳ Every hardship can be seen as a story of personal growth, an opportunity to become the person who has overcome significant obstacles.
Q & A
What is the main difference between champions and others according to the speaker?
-Champions are described as lacking an 'off button'; they don't stop pursuing their goals, unlike others who might. This relentless drive is what sets them apart.
Why do people often doubt the success of champions early in their journey?
-People tend to doubt the success of champions early on because they measure success in short time frames like days or months, whereas champions are thinking in terms of years or decades.
What is the 'lonely chapter' mentioned in the script?
-The 'lonely chapter' refers to the period where someone is working towards their goals without fitting into their old social circles and not yet having achieved the success to join a new group, often feeling isolated.
How does the speaker suggest reframing the challenges faced during the pursuit of success?
-The speaker suggests viewing challenges as the 'price' one pays with their time, and considering them as necessary experiences to develop traits like toughness and patience.
What is the significance of the 'red pill' analogy used in the script?
-The 'red pill' analogy signifies the choice to face the truth and reality of one's situation, even if it's difficult, over staying in a comfortable but false reality.
What does the speaker mean by 'one of one'?
-'One of one' refers to the idea of creating unique, original work that only the individual can produce, as opposed to work that is generic or replicable by others.
Why does the speaker emphasize the importance of volume in the pursuit of success?
-The speaker emphasizes volume because it negates luck; by doing a large amount of work, one increases their chances of success through sheer effort and persistence, rather than relying on luck.
How does the speaker suggest dealing with the hate or negativity encountered on the path to success?
-The speaker suggests not bending the knee to hate and conforming to the comfort of the norm, but instead using the hate as a sign of being on the right path and pushing through it.
What is the role of fear and desire in driving a person's success according to the script?
-Fear and desire are portrayed as powerful motivators that can push individuals to achieve more. The 'biggest fear or pain' can be a driving force that propels one to work harder towards their goals.
What advice does the speaker give for overcoming the initial hardships in the pursuit of a goal?
-The speaker advises to view the initial hardships as a necessary part of the journey, where one must rely solely on their own resources and time, and to remember that overcoming these early challenges will lead to greater capabilities and support in the future.
Outlines
🏆 The Path to Becoming a Champion
The speaker discusses the misconception that champions possess unique qualities that others lack. Instead, they argue that champions are defined by their relentless drive and lack of an 'off button.' They emphasize that success often requires enduring pain and overcoming initial resistance, as people tend to judge progress on a short-term basis. Champions, however, measure their efforts over longer periods, such as decades, rather than months or years. The speaker also touches on the loneliness and isolation that often accompany the journey to success, as one may not yet fit into a new group of like-minded individuals while also being misunderstood by their old peers. The importance of not succumbing to the pressure of conforming to societal expectations and the value of perseverance despite immediate setbacks are highlighted. The discussion concludes with the idea that the hardships one faces are the 'price tag' for the traits and achievements one desires, and the speaker encourages reframing these challenges as investments in one's personal growth.
💪 Embracing Hardship for Self-Improvement
This paragraph delves into the idea that no one can achieve personal growth on behalf of another, emphasizing the necessity of individual effort in areas such as learning and physical fitness. The speaker encourages reframing challenges as opportunities for self-improvement, suggesting that one should view obstacles as stories to be told in the future about personal growth. The concept of 'volume negating luck' is introduced, illustrating how consistent effort and volume of work can lead to better outcomes than relying on luck or a single perfect attempt. The speaker also criticizes the lack of work ethic and discipline in modern society, suggesting that the ease of outperforming others is due to their lack of commitment and focus. The paragraph concludes with a call to action, urging individuals to take advantage of the current landscape where many are distracted and to commit to the hard work that others are avoiding.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Champions
💡Off Button
💡Desire for Achievement
💡Fear or Pain
💡Optimizing for Outcomes
💡Measuring in Months vs. Decades
💡Lonely Chapter
💡Hate Along the Way
💡One of One
💡Volume Negates Luck
💡Dragons and Bears
Highlights
Champions are not defined by what they have that others don't, but by what they lack that everyone else has: an off button.
The most broken person will win if they have the biggest desire for achievement or fear of pain driving them.
People often measure success in short time frames, missing the long-term perspective necessary for true achievement.
The lonely chapter in life is where one doesn't fit in with old friends and hasn't yet achieved enough to join a new group.
The sign of success is the hate one receives along the way, and not bending to that hate is crucial.
To create a tough human, one wouldn't give them an easy life; challenges build resilience and patience.
Each desired trait has a price tag, and one must decide if they are willing to pay it.
Reframing life's periods as payments of time can help people see the value in enduring hardships.
Asking 'What would you do if you weren't afraid?' can guide one towards their true desires.
Defining work as something one enjoys and loses track of time in is key to becoming successful.
Successful people often define 'work' differently, seeing it as something enjoyable rather than a chore.
Making sure to do the few things worth doing in life is more important than doing many things.
The early days of any endeavor are the hardest, but they set the stage for future success.
In the beginning, one has only time to invest, making the early struggles particularly challenging.
Reframing hardships as stories to be told about one's self-improvement can change one's perspective on obstacles.
Volume of work often leads to better quality and success than focusing on a single, perfect output.
People today are often soft and easily distracted, making it easier to outwork and outlast them.
The work that one knows they should be doing but aren't is the true opportunity for success.
Transcripts
Champions are
broken I was like huh he's like they
people look at Champions and try and
find something that that champion has
that they don't have he's like but it's
not that at all he's like they lack
something everyone else has which is an
off button they just don't
stop
and at the end of the day like if we're
if we're optimizing for outcomes then
the most broken person will win the
person who has the absolute biggest you
know desire for achievement the absolute
biggest fear or pain that they're
running away from and that's what's
that's what's painful is that it takes
more effort to start in the beginning
and more people are right about the fact
they're like hey you're not going to hit
it big and guess what a month in you're
not but they're only measuring on months
and at 6 months you're also not going to
have hit it big yet and they're going to
be like I'm still [ __ ] right and at a
year you're still not going to hit it
big and they'll still be [ __ ] right
and every day that you haven't hit it
they're going to feel like they were
right but they're wrong because they're
measuring in days and you're measuring
in decades every single person who wants
to do something with their life and has
done something with their life has gone
through the exact chapter that you're
going through and it's the lonely
chapter it's the chapter where you
you're you don't fit in with your own
friends but you don't have the outcomes
yet to fit into a new group of friends
and you're doing this thing you're
consuming content on the internet you're
you're doing these free tutorials online
to try and figure out how to set up a
podcast and where do I host this thing
and then there and and and you're going
through this and you're like am I is
this even worth it because you have no
signs of success right but if there's
anything that you can take away from
what we're saying right now is that the
sign of success is the hate that you get
along the way and what you can't do is
bend the knee to their hate and fit back
into the conform because it's
comfortable and it's warm because like
in The Matrix when Trinity opens the
door when when Neo's about to go take
the red pill and he wants to get out of
the car she says Neo you've been down
that road and you know exactly where it
leads and I know that's not where you
want to be if I would say hey how would
you create if you had to create a human
what would you put them through to make
them tough
it probably wouldn't be a really chill
life yeah what would you put them
through to make them patient you
probably wouldn't give them things
immediately and so it's like we want
these
traits but each of the traits has a
price tag attached to it and it's just
like do you want to pay the price tag to
get the thing and so I think if if
people reframe the the period of life
that they're going through as the price
that they're paying out of their wallet
but the wallet is their time it's the
seconds of life that they're trading for
it then I think more people will be
willing to make the trade because at
least when I look at myself like when
I'm 80 something years old and I'm
looking back on my life I want to have
these traits but in order to have those
traits I know I have to go through these
things and I think for me that's given
me a lot of comfort in hard times what
would you do if you weren't
afraid and I just I love thinking about
that when I'm thinking about big life
decisions like what would I do if I
weren't afraid and it's usually like the
big one the the bigger thing that I
really want to do but I'm afraid to do
it it's like that's what I should do um
and to your point about you had the five
things that you told your team the one
that we have is um originally it was
something that we called one of one
which is make only things that we can
make most people's definition of work is
a negative one which is why they abhor
it which is also why they misunderstand
so many people who quote I'll say quote
here are successful ahead of them or
whatever is that both people one person
says the word work and the other person
hears the word pain and
so the first step to like becoming more
successful is understanding the language
that the people who are successful are
using they're actually defining the word
differently and
so whatever that thing is that you
actually enjoy doing where you lose
track of time when you're in it even if
it's challenging but usually it is
challenging right like it's not easy
because then it's boring right which is
also why the uncertainty thing is so key
right to not knowing if it's going to if
it's going to work or not you are going
to work though either way um is that the
people who are quote addicted to work
make it easy to be addicted to work
because
they do things worth doing and I think a
lot of it is coming down to making sure
that you take the few precious seconds
that we have to do the few things that
are worth doing for the rest of your
life it won't get harder like this is
the hardest part and so if you can just
make it through this everything else is
downhill it's not that the things that
you're the dragons are going to slay
aren't going to get bigger they are but
you become so much more equipped to slay
them back and you have so many more
allies you have people in the stands
cheering for you you have the audience
you have all of the these other things
that are behind you but in the beginning
it's just you with a stick against a
bear and arguably that fight is a harder
fight to win than beating a dragon when
you have a nuclear bomb and Six Nations
behind you and so it's not even like the
the size of the hardship it's just also
the resources and how few of them you
have and how so much of the beginning is
literally burning the one thing you have
which is time because you have no
leverage you don't have the money to pay
other people to help you you don't have
the resources to go like get someone to
to you no one can learn it for you it's
like there's a lot of the things that
that we care about a lot like no one can
work out for you doesn't matter how much
money you have no one can learn skills
for you and so in the early days like it
feels so painful cuz you're like you
look around to see who can help you and
then you're like [ __ ] it's me
again what are we optimizing for what
problem are we solving it's my FV it's
probably the number one most frequently
Asked question that I asked to our
portfolio companies whenever we're about
to do anything which is what problem are
we solving if the problem that we're
solving is that I want to be content
well there's a lot of ways to do that
and you don't need to do all these other
things if the problem you're solving is
that you want to be the richest man in
the world well you're going to have to
have a lot of superiority complex you're
have a lot of crippling insecurity and
you're going have a lot of impulse
control and you're going have to wait a
long time every hardship that you
encounter if you reframe it as the story
that you will someday tell to yourself
of the person that you have become based
on the dragons you've slain and the
obstacles you've
overcome then I think that makes those
obstacles a
unique opportunity for self-improvement
because we can be grateful for these
things I think um I think
Joo has a has a whole bit on this where
whenever something bad happens he says
good and I think it's a great trained
response because if something bad
happens my train response isn't good
it's I will tell the story someday and
so I think if you have that frame then
everything serves you cuz if something
good happens cool if something bad
happens it'll be a story that I will
someday tell because it assumes that you
will live through it and it assumes that
you will eventually figure it out and so
then you can't
lose as long as you don't quit there's a
teacher and he's got two classes that he
teaches and one class he says the only
assignment for this whole semester is
that you come with a come back with the
perfect uh clay pot that's it that's the
assignment the other class he says your
objective is to make the most total
quantity of clay pots and you'll be
measured by how many pots you make and
at the end of the
quarter the pots that came from the team
that had to just make sheer volume not
only did they make more pots but the
quality of all of their pots was better
compared to the teams that only had to
make one and it just underlines the the
biggest lesson that I've learned in my
life which is that volume negates lock
is that you can try to be lucky and pick
the one perfect thing and try and make
it but if you don't want to try and be
lucky you can just do so much [ __ ]
work that you will you will brute force
your way to figuring it out like if you
do a th000 podcasts you'll be pretty
[ __ ] good at podcasts to make
yourself feel better about why your
product isn't as good as it should be
but you have an excuse that only you
need to believe and you believe that
excuse so it excuses you from working
harder on the stuff you know you should
be doing but aren't and that that work
the work you know you should be doing
but aren't is the opportunity because
that is the work that your competitors
also aren't doing and I'm telling you
from the bottom of my soul it is so easy
to beat people today they are so soft
they have no work ethic no one can stick
with anything everyone's distracted
they're on social media they're counting
their [ __ ] notifications because they
can't stick with [ __ ] they can't say no
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