How to Know EXACTLY What to Say to Women: The First 60 Seconds
Summary
TLDRThe video script offers a comprehensive guide on mastering verbal game in the initial stages of interaction with a woman. It introduces two main claims: the ability to respond effectively to any situation within the first minute of conversation and the importance of understanding response categories over mere words. The speaker outlines strategies for handling positive feedback, challenges, logical responses, and rejections, emphasizing the modular approach to verbal game that focuses on formats rather than specific words. This method is designed to improve social interactions and build confidence in one's communication skills.
Takeaways
- 😀 The speaker aims to teach effective responses to any situation in the first minute of a conversation with a girl.
- 🎯 The main claim is that understanding response categories is more important than memorizing specific responses.
- 🧠 The concept of 'verbal game' is introduced, emphasizing the importance of response formats over exact words.
- 🔄 There are infinite possible responses, but they can be categorized into a few types, simplifying the interaction strategy.
- 🤝 A positive response from a girl should lead to qualification and further evaluation of the interaction.
- 🛡️ Handling a [__] test involves passing it and demonstrating the ability to maintain the interaction's momentum.
- 🔄 Logical responses or platonic interactions should be re-engaged with premise to steer the conversation towards a more personal level.
- ❌ Rejection can be addressed by either walking away or attempting to turn it around with a light-hearted comment or by doubling down on entitlement.
- 🔄 The modular approach to verbal game allows for predictability and repeatability in responses, making it easier to handle various scenarios.
- 📈 Practice and understanding of these formats lead to measurable improvement in social interactions.
- 🌐 The speaker encourages checking out 'verbal game academy.com' for a live recorded example of these techniques in action.
Q & A
What is the main claim of the video regarding conversational skills with a girl?
-The main claim is that the speaker can teach viewers how to have a good response to every single thing a girl might say in the first minute of conversation and that there's something more important to be taught in the video.
How does the speaker categorize the responses one might receive during an initial conversation with a girl?
-The speaker categorizes responses into four types: positive, [__] test, logical or platonic, and rejection.
What is the significance of understanding the format of responses rather than just the words?
-Understanding the format allows for flexibility and effectiveness in communication, as the exact words may not always matter as much as the structure of the response.
What is the recommended approach when receiving a positive response from a girl?
-The recommended approach is to move into the evaluation phase, where you qualify the girl to see if you are compatible and can get along.
How should one handle a [__] test during the conversation?
-One should pass the [__] test, which may involve misinterpreting it, treating it like a compliment, pointing out its absurdity, or changing the subject.
What does the speaker suggest doing if the response is logical or platonic?
-The speaker suggests re-instigating the interaction with a delay, making it clear that there is a man-to-woman nature to the interaction.
What are the possible actions one can take when faced with a rejection?
-One can either walk away, attempt to turn around the rejection with a light-hearted comment or by doubling down on entitlement, or try again with a different approach.
How does the speaker describe the process of dealing with an infinite number of possible responses?
-The speaker describes it as a modular approach, where responses fit into a few categories, and understanding these categories allows one to be prepared for any response.
What is the purpose of the 'verbal game academy.com' mentioned in the video?
-The purpose is to provide a live recorded example of the speaker using the modular verbal game format, taking an interaction from start to finish with real girls.
How does the speaker define 'game' in the context of verbal communication and interaction?
-The speaker defines 'game' as knowing the type of communication needed in a situation and having practiced that communication to the point where it becomes second nature.
What is the key takeaway the speaker wants the viewers to focus on beyond the first 60 seconds of interaction?
-The key takeaway is the importance of understanding and categorizing responses, as well as recognizing that the modular verbal game approach can be applied to various stages of interaction for consistent results.
Outlines
🗣️ Mastering Conversational Responses in the First Minute
The speaker introduces a video script focused on teaching effective responses to any situation in the first minute of a conversation with a girl. They propose two main claims: the ability to respond well to any initial interaction and the assertion that there's more to learn beyond just responses. The speaker emphasizes the importance of understanding response categories rather than memorizing individual responses, suggesting that recognizing patterns is key to adapting and succeeding in verbal interactions.
🔄 Navigating Through Various Types of Responses
This paragraph delves into the different types of responses one might receive after initiating a conversation, such as positive feedback, a test, logical responses, or rejections. The speaker outlines strategies for handling each scenario, like qualifying when receiving positive feedback or re-initiating the interaction after a logical response. The focus is on the modular approach to verbal game, where understanding the format of responses and how to react to them is more important than the specific words used.
🎯 The Modular Approach to Verbal Game Mastery
The speaker explains the concept of modular verbal game, which involves recognizing and responding to patterns rather than individual instances. They discuss the predictability of conversational modules and how mastering these can simplify the interaction process. The paragraph also touches on the importance of practice and the emotional components involved in verbal game, highlighting the growth potential through repeated application of learned formats.
🚀 Beyond the First Minute: Expanding Verbal Game Techniques
In the final paragraph, the speaker encourages viewers to apply the modular verbal game approach beyond the initial 60 seconds of interaction. They stress that the same formats can be used throughout various stages of interaction, from evaluation to dating and beyond. The speaker promotes the idea that understanding and categorizing responses is a powerful tool for consistent and effective communication in social settings.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Adorable
💡Direct Opener
💡Categories of Responses
💡Verbal Game
💡Format
💡Qualifying
💡[__] Test
💡Logical Response
💡Rejection
💡Manda-Woman Interaction
💡Modular Verbal Game
Highlights
The speaker claims to teach a good response to anything a girl might say within the first minute of conversation.
The speaker suggests that understanding the categories of responses is more important than memorizing specific words.
The speaker introduces the concept of 'formats' in verbal communication, emphasizing the importance of response structure over exact wording.
The speaker proposes that all potential responses to a direct opener can be categorized into four types: positive, [__] test, logical, or rejection.
For a positive response, the speaker advises moving to the evaluation phase of the interaction.
When faced with a [__] test, the speaker recommends passing it as a key part of verbal game.
The speaker discusses the importance of practical skills in addition to knowing the right response.
In the case of a logical response, the speaker suggests re-instigating premise with a delay to avoid appearing pushy.
For a rejection, the speaker offers options such as walking away or attempting a light-hearted comeback.
The speaker explains that even with an infinite number of possible responses, they can be categorized into familiar formats.
The speaker advocates for the modular approach to verbal game, which simplifies the complexity of interactions.
The speaker emphasizes the predictability of response formats, which allows for a repeatable and measurable improvement in verbal game.
The speaker encourages practicing the formats to handle different scenarios effectively.
The speaker highlights the modular verbal game's applicability beyond the first 60 seconds of interaction.
The speaker invites viewers to check out 'verbal game academy.com' for a live example of using the modular verbal game approach.
Transcripts
sorry you like adorable but you look
like trouble
so sorry gun scared all at once
what is your name I I think you're
adorable
I think you might be bad news but I do
think you're adorable so what are you
doing what am i doing yeah my friends
are done in Shoko but I just wanted to
come up and grab a breath of air for a
seconds it's kind of like and then I
found this you know cute Austrian
growing one thing led to another and
then you know so today me and my
whiteboard have two very bold claims
claim number one is that I can teach you
and show you how to have a good response
to every single thing your girl is going
to throw at you for the first minute of
the conversation claim number two is
that's actually not the most important
thing I'm going to teach you on this
video and we'll get to that in just a
second now you're gonna ask yourself how
could I possibly teach you everything
that you're gonna run into in the first
60 seconds isn't that an infinite number
of possibilities well yes it is there
have been there literally are an
infinite number of things that the girl
could say to you if you look at every
single word and every single response is
different however all of those responses
fit into a few categories so if you
understand the categories of responses
and you know the categories of responses
you need to give back to those then
you're gonna be in a really good spot
now whenever I talk about verbal game in
my game and how it works this is a
really key element this idea that the
that you're not just looking at words
you're looking at formats all right and
if you're responding with the right
format even if the words are a little
off you're gonna be fine and if you're
understanding the format the girl's
giving you the exact words don't always
matter entirely
alright so you want to really break down
the reasons and formats for what's going
on and if you get that you're going to
be way more flexible and way more
effective in your game all right so with
that said let's get to the first minute
and let's look at the possibilities for
what can happen now in this scenario I'm
gonna assume a direct opener
now you may say well I don't open direct
Todd is this still useful to me yes it
is because basically the direct open is
just a proxy for the first time that you
make the interaction mandalam and so
it's possible if you're doing a direct
open you're making it mandolin on the
open it's also possible if you open
indirect or casual or situational that
you
bring up something man to woman later in
which case this model would start from
that first Amanda woman statement all
right so let's look at that from here so
you make your we'll call it the direct
opener you have a direct open and now
again there is an infinite number of
responses you can get but these
responses fall into formats so what are
the possibilities to the format you
might get and again I'm going to assume
in this case just a complimentary direct
to open because that's the easiest to
work with the same format would apply to
any kind of direct open but it's just
easier to envision like with a
compliment okay so in response to that
what can you get you could get something
positive back you could get a [ __ ] test
you could get something that is logical
or platonic or you could get a rejection
that's basically going to encapsulate
all of the different responses that
you're likely to get to this direct open
and by basically putting them in those
four categories if you can just respond
consistently to those categories you're
gonna be in really good shape
so let's start looking at how to respond
to each of those all right so the first
one if you get something positive all
right so you did a direct open you gave
a compliment she compliments you back to
you like hey you're cute I want to meet
you she's like hi you're cute too okay
what do you want to do from there well
you now have a green light to take the
interaction for it and this is the ideal
scenario right you you like her she
likes you and then what you're gonna
want to do is actually you've achieved
premise now you want to move to the next
phase of the interaction which would be
evaluation you want to get to okay we we
both find each other attractive what do
we do now are we right for each other so
again you say you're cute I want to meet
you she goes you're cute to say okay
cool
so you know now that we know we're two
cute people I need to find out are you
crazy are we gonna get along etc right
so you start into something that is
qualifying so the answer for you is
qualify so when you get that positive
you're going to want to go ahead and
qualify you're gonna want to move into
that evaluation stage all right what
about when you get a [ __ ] test what do
you want to do well very simply you want
to pass the [ __ ] test all right I'm not
gonna get into exactly how to pass the
[ __ ] test here but I have done a lot of
videos on how to pass [ __ ] test you can
do a search on my channel also put some
in the description of exactly how to
handle [ __ ] says how to pass them and
this is quite an interesting kind of
segue here in terms of looking at verbal
game because there are two elements one
is knowing the right thing to insert the
second is having the practical skillset
or technique to insert that thing but if
you have those two things that's really
all game is game is knowing what is the
type of communication I need here and
then having practiced that communication
so it becomes second nature if you can
do those two things you have game
alright so first is knowing that you to
pass the [ __ ] to a second is knowing how
to pass the [ __ ] hasn't again I've
addressed that in a lot of other videos
in depth so I'm not going to go into
that here but I will link to those
videos and you can find those videos on
my channel very very easily what if you
get something logical well in that case
you've done the direct open you've tried
to make it man to woman and what you got
back was that
she's not really necessarily
acknowledging or responding that man to
woman now it's still good that you made
it man to woman
the interaction will still be better and
still be more man to woman than if you
hadn't right and if you put it put
premise into the interaction it's not
rejected it has been a positive for the
interaction however she hasn't
necessarily fully accepted that or fully
gone along that path whether because
maybe she's not open to it yet or maybe
she's too shy or maybe you were too
subtle and she missed it there are
different reasons but what you're gonna
want to do here is do something else
that's premise II you do premise again
and the thing here that's interesting is
you might not want to do it right away
because now you are pushy and now you're
just a horny guy so you possibly want to
have with delay and what you're really
doing here
so this is the thing you're doing is
premise again with delay but what you're
really doing is this your doing
instigating you're basically initiating
a emotionally charged interaction or
saying basically I'm not gonna be in
boring logical platonic interaction I'm
gonna be in in an instigated interaction
in an interaction where I've made it
clear that there's a man to a woman
nature to it and if you've made that
clear she can reject the interaction
entirely but she can't participate in
any other interaction and still not be
man to woman if you've done that enough
time so we're gonna do is you're
basically gonna re instigate one more
time if you get a rejection a couple of
things you can do one is you can just
walk away right if you in game every
single time you got a rejection on the
open just walked away you would still be
just fine you don't need to turn around
those rejections most of your results
are gonna come from taking your good
sets and making them great rather than
just taking you know your bad
interactions and turning them into
mediocre interactions okay so if you
were to walk away from ever in rejection
it wouldn't be the worst thing in the
world and if you're beginner
intermediate I think that's actually
kind of fine as you get to be more
advanced I don't want you to take the
first rejection because she doesn't
really know you yet so at that point I'd
want you to like say something
light-hearted Nick you have one more try
where she can actually get to know your
personality or the other thing you can
do is I call it doubling down on
entitlement so maybe if you say hey
what's up in the girls like now I'm not
having it but heist
use me I'm Todd nice to meet you and
what you've basically said is yes I
understand
that's your reaction to guys but I'm a
little bit special you may not have
noticed I'm gonna give you one more
chance to realize it and strangely
enough about 70% of the time that
actually will work and will turn around
or rejection so it's worth having that
second try and you can potentially turn
around but if you were to just quit then
you know especially to begin our
intermediate level it's not the worst
thing in the world it's not gonna really
hurt your overall results that much so
it's either quit or turn around okay so
those are the possibilities of what she
can do and what you can do sort of one
layer deep but here it should get really
complicated right because on the first
one we had four different possibilities
now if we look in the next one we have
16 different possibilities next layer of
conversation we have 64 so how is it
possible that you can continue to have a
response to all these well let's go a
little deeper and let's look at the
follow through and you're gonna see
something very very interesting all
right so let's say that you you've done
this qualification thing here what are
the responses she can give to you going
ahead and qualifying her well she can
either qualify she can qualify herself
she can not qualify and here I'm not
saying she's trying to disqualify I'm
saying she like can't qualify or she
tries to qualify and fails or something
like that and then she can do sort of
you call it disqualify or you could even
call it like refused to qualify
disqualified refused to qualify right so
here are the responses if she qualifies
herself to you or at least attempt to
that's golden that's amazing and you
basically have achieved a manda woman
interaction you're ready to go into
getting to know the girl connecting with
a girl and you've achieved everything
that you really need to have achieved
within the first 60 seconds of the
interaction right you've you've achieved
everything that you could ask for the
girl is hooked she likes you you're
ready to move on and that would be
another video which would be you know
how to deal with the girl likes you and
convert that into an actual result but
in those cases you're already golden
this is this is what we're looking for
this is the target
if you get a girl refusing to qualify or
not qualifying generally you can sort of
treat that as a [ __ ] test right for the
most part that is her kind of getting
into a frame battle with you challenging
your frame which is very similar to a
[ __ ] test and for the most part you're
going to deal with it in the same way
that you would deal with a [ __ ] test so
you're it's not a unique response it's
not a different response in terms of
what you need to follow it on with it's
gonna merge into what we're gonna do to
deal with [ __ ] test so let's get into
that next how are you gonna deal with a
[ __ ] test well you're gonna pass the
[ __ ] test again as far as the the [ __ ]
test passing formats they're a bunch
there's sorry there's misinterpreting it
there's treating it like at like it's a
compliment that's what misinterpretation
is there's a grant exaggerated kind of
pointing at the absurdity of the [ __ ]
test they're just not being affected and
changing the subject there's different
things you can do but the result of that
is gonna be either you passed and she's
going to give you a positive which
brings you back here or she's going to
qualify or not qualify and in response
to the [ __ ] test which brings you to
over here or she's going to give you
another [ __ ] test which brings you right
back here she's going to give you
something logical which means now you
are here so all of the responses to a
[ __ ] test again we've gone back to
another one of the modules we've already
seen so no matter what you're getting
you're back to a familiar scenario and
if you know how to handle that familiar
scenario you're gonna again be okay it
is possible that you get a rejection off
the [ __ ] test usually if that happens
though it's because you did a bad job
with the previous step all right so if
you do a good job with the previous step
you usually will not get that it is
possible anything's possible it is
unlikely if you do a good job though so
while that is a possibility it's one of
the less likely ones okay then let's say
you do this logical thing and then our
so she gives you a logical response and
then you re instigate well interestingly
enough this instigating thing or premise
again technically
is right back where we started because
we started this whole model with the
first time that you're making a man to
women the first time you're showing
premise and now you're just repeating
that again and so this the responses
you're gonna get are going to be
positive response [ __ ] test logical or
rejection right back where you were and
again with the rejection what can you
get if you do turn around a rejection
sometimes you're going to positive most
of the time when you turn around to
rejection you're gonna get a [ __ ] test
and so we're right back to where we were
in the first place right back to a
module that we know how to handle so
funny enough even though there are so
there's literally an infinite number of
things the girl can say to you right and
there's an exponentially increasing
number of responses that you can get
when you look at each response has
multiple follow-up responses because
they essentially become the same
response they become the same format
over and over again you really only need
to get good at those formats and this is
the beauty of this modular verbal game
is that you're getting this predictable
set of responses and if you know how to
handle these if you know the patterns to
handle you know you know the patterns to
deal with the logical response patterns
dealership test patterns that deal with
a positive response and how to move
things forward if you're familiar with
those things and know how to execute
them you've practiced those formats game
is actually quite simple right it's not
necessarily easy there's still emotional
components there's still a lot of
back-and-forth etc but it is very very
simple it's not difficult to know the
next thing to do and the more you
practice it the better you are gonna get
in a very repeatable very measurable and
very predictable kind of a growth way
and that that is the beauty of this sort
of modular verbal game and so again one
you now have an idea of what to do in
response to all these things I know
there's a lot of information always go
back and rewind and check out a
particular thing if you want to check it
out and I would actually encourage that
I encourage you you know when you do go
out and field and you have an
interaction it doesn't go as plans
especially early on in the first 30 60
seconds come back and check this out and
say you know what where was I at where
did I go wrong what formats do they need
and then just vow to not make that same
mistake ever again
all right practice it a few times you're
gonna get better and better and better
with it alright so number one you now
have a way to handle just about anything
you're gonna get in the first 60 seconds
but more importantly I want you to take
this view of game this view of game in
general especially a verbal game that
it's not just the words it's the
understanding and category behind the
words that matters and if you can put
her response into categories and know
how to handle those categories you're
going to be much better off right when
I'm thinking about what I need in game
I'm thinking I need an emotional spike
I'm not thinking I need to say you and I
wouldn't get along because there are
like 20 or 30 or 40 or 100 different
emotional spikes that I know I can pick
almost any one of them and it will
probably work right now there may be a
slightly better or a slightly worse one
but if you're getting the formats
generally right you're not going to go
far wrong you're going to be effective
and consistent at getting really good
results in your in your interactions
okay so I really want to hammer home
this idea of verbal game and it's not
just for the first 60 seconds there are
these repeating formats that are going
to occur over and over again in game
there's same repeating formats that will
occur when you're evaluating a girl and
finding out if you're going to get along
with her same repeating formats that
will occur when you're trying to get a
girl on a date same repeating formats
that will occur when you're trying to
get a girl home samurai feeding formats
will occur when you're trying to
negotiate the relationship and have
things you know in a way that's gonna
make you happy be on your terms and
hopefully be win-win for both you and
the girl so these formats this idea of
modular verbal game is so so so powerful
because it allows you to really have an
answer for everything that's good that's
congruent your personality and and that
you can rely on and Trust and have
confidence in so I really want to
encourage you to take that focus even
beyond just obviously having the power
to know what you're doing in the first
60 seconds being very very valuable
alright so if you like this video go
ahead and leave a like definitely
comment below the other thing I want to
really encourage you to do is go over
and check out verbal game Academy comm I
actually have an example of me using
this exact format and then continuing it
continuing that modular verbal game and
you know the structures that I use all
the way through the interaction with a
live recorded example with real girls
taking it all the way from the start to
the finish I don't know how long that
video is going to be up but it's gonna
be a highly highly useful and highly
valuable video for you to check
so go check it out right now it's a
verbal game academy.com see you on the
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