Best FIRST MESSAGE to Send on Tinder, Bumble, Hinge

Summary

In this video, online dating coach Louis Farfields shares the results of an experiment comparing three types of text openers. The 'Peasant' opener with generic greetings had a 18% response rate, while 'Copy-Paste' pickup lines doubled that to 37%. However, 'Personalized' openers, which involve the match's photos or bio, achieved a remarkable 72% response rate with longer conversations. Louis offers three steps to craft effective openers, emphasizing humor, commonalities, and avoiding common traps like originality and thirst traps. He also addresses how to handle profiles with minimal information, encouraging viewers to personalize their approach for better success in online dating.

Takeaways

• 📊 The experiment categorized openers into three types: 'The Peasant', 'Copy Paste', and 'Personalized', with each type having a different response rate.
• 📉 'The Peasant' openers, like 'Hey' or 'How are you?', had the lowest response rate at 18%.
• 📈 'Copy Paste' openers, using pickup lines, doubled the response rate to about 37%.
• 🏆 'Personalized' openers, which involved the user's photos, bio, or prompts, achieved the highest response rate of 72% and led to longer conversations.
• 👤 Personalizing your openers is crucial for better engagement and response rates on dating apps.
• 🚫 Avoid common pitfalls like 'thirst traps' and overused pickup lines, which can be off-putting to potential matches.
• 🔍 Pay attention to details in a user's profile that others might overlook to craft a unique and engaging opener.
• 😄 Good openers often involve teasing, humor, or finding common ground to create a connection.
• 📝 The script provides examples of effective personalized openers and how they can lead to more engaging conversations.
• 💡 For profiles with minimal information, the advice is to call out the lack of content in a playful manner, shifting the responsibility back to the recipient.
• 💌 The video offers a 'clickbait opener' as a blend of copy-paste and personalized elements, which can be accessed via a newsletter sign-up.

Q & A

What are the three categories of openers mentioned in the script?

The three categories of openers are The Peasant opener, the Copy Paste openers, and the Personalized opener.

What was the response rate for The Peasant opener in the experiment?

The Peasant opener had a response rate of 18%.

How did the Copy Paste openers perform in comparison to The Peasant opener?

The Copy Paste openers performed twice as well as The Peasant opener, with a response rate of about 37%.

What was the surprising result found with the Personalized opener?

The Personalized opener had a significantly higher response rate of 72% and was also noticed to lead to longer conversations.

What is the main reason behind conducting the experiment on openers?

The main reason was to convince the audience to start personalizing their openers and to show them how to do it effectively.

What are the three steps to writing the best first message according to the script?

The three steps are: 1) Avoid traps, 2) Notice what others don't, and 3) Tease, use humor, and find commonalities.

What are some examples of traps that most men fall into when messaging women?

Examples of traps include the Originality trap, where men use lines that feel original but are commonly used, and the Thirst trap, where men react inappropriately to provocative photos or bios.

What is the importance of avoiding the Thirst trap when messaging on dating apps?

Avoiding the Thirst trap is important because it prevents men from appearing overly eager or disrespectful, which can be a turn-off for women.

How can one notice details in a woman's profile that others might miss?

One can notice these details by calmly and carefully examining her photos, bio, and prompts, looking for things to relate to or that stand out.

What is the significance of teasing, humor, and commonalities in crafting a good opener?

Teasing, humor, and commonalities are significant because they can make the opener engaging and more likely to elicit a response, creating a connection right from the start.

What is the advice given for dealing with profiles that have minimal information?

The advice is to not overthink it and instead send a message that calls out the lack of information in a playful way, outsourcing the overthinking back to the woman.

What is the bonus technique mentioned for opening messages to profiles with only selfies and no bio?

The bonus technique involves sending a message that acknowledges the minimal profile and challenges the woman to engage in a conversation, using humor to lighten the tone.