You SHOULD Care What Other People Think
Summary
TLDRIn this candid video, the creator returns after a 5-month hiatus to challenge the notion of not caring about others' opinions. He argues that as social beings, humans should consider others' views to avoid isolation and depression. Sharing personal experiences, from a time of indifference to a period of seeking approval, he emphasizes the importance of caring in a balanced way—not to please everyone, but to connect meaningfully with society. He humorously critiques the idea of being 'cool' by not caring, suggesting it's a form of self-delusion rather than true confidence.
Takeaways
- 😤 The speaker is frustrated with the idea of not caring about others' opinions, which they see as a childish sentiment.
- 🧠 Humans are social animals, and the speaker believes that neglecting others' opinions can lead to negative outcomes.
- 🕺 The speaker shares personal experiences where not caring about appearance led to a state of depression and a lack of happiness.
- 💔 Falling in love was a turning point for the speaker, prompting them to start caring about their appearance and others' opinions again.
- 🤔 The speaker questions the authenticity of those who claim not to care about others' opinions, suggesting it could be a form of superiority.
- 🎓 The speaker's life goals and happiness are intertwined with how they are perceived by others, indicating the importance of social validation.
- 👕 The speaker enjoyed being different in elementary school, using their unique style to feel special and superior to their peers.
- 🏀 The speaker plays basketball not for enjoyment, but because it is perceived as cool and can improve their social status.
- 💊 The speaker is willing to go to great lengths, including risking health, to achieve goals that are influenced by societal perceptions.
- 👨🦲 The speaker once embraced a bald look as a practical and low-maintenance choice, reflecting a focus on practicality over appearance.
- 🎁 The speaker invests in clothes, self-care, and food to improve their physical appearance, driven by the desire to be perceived as cool and muscular.
Q & A
What is the main argument of the video?
-The main argument of the video is that the notion of not caring about what others think is misguided and that as social animals, humans should consider the opinions of others to some extent.
Why did the video creator decide to make a video after 5 months?
-The video creator was inspired to make a video after seeing many videos promoting the idea of not caring about others' opinions, which they found to be a 'childish sentiment'.
What was the creator's personal experience when they didn't care about others' opinions?
-The creator describes a time when they didn't care about others' opinions, which led to them dressing poorly, shaving their head, and not caring about personal hygiene, resulting in a state of depression.
How did falling in love change the creator's perspective on caring about others' opinions?
-Falling in love made the creator start caring about their appearance and the opinions of others again, as they realized that not caring can lead to a lack of attractiveness and potential isolation.
What is the creator's view on the idea of 'not caring about what others think' being a form of caring?
-The creator suggests that the idea of not caring about what others think can actually be a form of caring in a different way, as it often involves a sense of superiority or a desire to stand out.
How does the creator feel about the sport of basketball?
-The creator expresses a disdain for basketball, calling it 'the dumbest thing on the planet,' but acknowledges that they play it because it is perceived as cool by others.
What is the creator's attitude towards being perceived as cool or a 'badass'?
-The creator admits to building their life around trying to appeal to as many people as possible, aiming to be perceived as cool, a 'badass,' or an icon.
What does the creator believe about the connection between personal appearance and social success?
-The creator believes that personal appearance and the opinions of others can significantly impact social success, including potential relationships and professional opportunities.
Why does the creator no longer have a bowl cut?
-The creator got rid of the bowl cut as part of their journey to care more about their appearance and the opinions of others, moving away from a time when they didn't care about such things.
How does the creator view the advice given by 'YouTube gurus' on not caring about others' opinions?
-The creator is critical of this advice, feeling that it is misguided and can lead to negative outcomes such as depression and social isolation.
What is the creator's final message to the viewers?
-The creator encourages viewers to consider whether the path of not caring about others' opinions is truly the right one for them and to reflect on whether it aligns with their personal goals and happiness.
Outlines
🤯 The Folly of Ignoring Others' Opinions
The speaker vehemently disagrees with the notion that one should stop caring about what others think, arguing that as social beings, humans should consider others' opinions. They share their personal experience of not caring, which led to a depressed state and poor personal hygiene. The turning point was falling in love, which made them care about their appearance and social standing again. They contrast two photos of themselves to illustrate the difference between caring and not caring about others' perceptions. They conclude that not caring can be a form of caring in itself, as it often stems from a desire to appear superior by disregarding others' opinions.
🏀 The Pursuit of Social Acceptance
The speaker discusses the difference between caring about others' opinions and trying to appeal to them, suggesting that modern philosophers often conflate the two. They admit to building their life around impressing others, particularly in the context of attracting romantic interests. They argue that social acceptance is crucial for success in various aspects of life, including relationships and career. The speaker shares a childhood realization that being perceived as a 'loser' by one person could influence the perception of others, leading to a lifelong strategy of trying to be seen as cool or impressive. They also touch on their motivations for playing basketball, which is more about social status than personal enjoyment.
💇♂️ The Practicality of Caring for Appearance
The speaker reflects on their past disregard for others' opinions, which led to a practical, monk-like lifestyle with a shaved head and minimal concern for material possessions. They discuss the practicality of their previous choices, such as shaving their head, which required the least amount of effort. The speaker also contemplates the future, wondering if society might evolve to a point where everyone shaves their heads out of enlightenment. They admit to spending money on clothes, self-care products, and food, not for personal pleasure, but to be perceived as cool and muscular. They express a desire to be free from the pressures of social acceptance but acknowledge that achieving their goals often requires conforming to societal expectations.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Social Animals
💡Depression
💡Self-Care
💡Opinions
💡Love
💡Self-Awareness
💡Conformity
💡Appearance
💡Status
💡Basketball
💡Goals
Highlights
The speaker expresses frustration with the notion that one should stop caring about what others think, arguing that it is a simplistic and immature sentiment.
The speaker believes that caring about others' opinions is essential because humans are social animals and neglecting these opinions can lead to isolation.
A period in the speaker's life when they didn't care about others' opinions led to a state of depression and a lack of personal hygiene.
Falling in love prompted the speaker to start caring about their appearance and the opinions of others again.
The speaker criticizes the idea of not caring about others' opinions as a form of self-deception, suggesting that it's a way of pretending to be superior.
The speaker distinguishes between caring about others' opinions and trying to please everyone, advocating for the former as a means to achieve personal goals.
The speaker admits to enjoying being different and standing out from the crowd, even if it means being the subject of ridicule.
The speaker's approach to life involves trying to appeal to as many people as possible, but only the opinions of select individuals matter to them.
The speaker argues that being liked by others, especially in social settings, can have a significant impact on one's personal and professional life.
The speaker shares a childhood realization that being perceived as a 'loser' by even one person could influence the perception of all others.
The speaker discusses the importance of physical appearance and the effort they put into looking cool and being muscular to fit societal standards.
The speaker admits to playing basketball not for enjoyment but to be perceived as cool and dominant, influenced by societal views on the sport.
The speaker reflects on their past when they didn't care about their appearance, including shaving their head, as a sign of practicality rather than trying to impress others.
The speaker discusses the idea of 'respectful game' as a way to be perceived as cool and attractive, even if it means engaging in behaviors they don't personally enjoy.
The speaker concludes by expressing their desire to achieve their goals and happiness, even if it means conforming to societal expectations and caring about others' opinions.
The video serves as a comeback for the speaker after a 5-month hiatus, using it as an opportunity to express their thoughts on the topic at hand.
Transcripts
well
guys anyway I'm back I hope you have
missed me and the reason why I'm back
making this video is because recently I
have seen a lot of videos popping up on
my explore page where people recommend
you and myself to stop caring what other
people think yeah yeah I and you know it
really pissed me off if I decided to
make my first video in 5 months because
the notion to stop caring about what
other people think is just such a a
childish sentiment bro I'm here to tell
you you better start caring what other
people think because you know what at
the end of the day humans are social
animals and I truly believe if you
really
neglect other people's opinions on
yourself it will not lead anywhere so
now I will show you what I looked like
when I truly honestly didn't care what
people thought I was shaving my head
myself wearing the same clothes every
day all soiled I'm pretty sure I was a
mother Ling stinker too because I didn't
care what people thought right I I don't
care about the smell of sweat other
people who gives an F baby and yeah for
me it was not happiness boy me not
caring was big big depression vibs you
know what happened for me to start
caring about what other people
thought the answer is simple stupid I
fell in love and you know when you don't
care what people think and look like a
complete bumb when you have had a glow
down oh as a matter of fact let me show
you here is what I looked like when I
really cared here is what I looked like
when I really didn't care which one of
these two boys do you think is more
likely to pull a
girl when I fell in love it knocked some
sense into me and I had to start caring
again and although this love at the
University that I had was never Mutual
it still pulled me out of that
depression where I started caring what
other people think again and yeah it
sounds cool on paper when you are just
so happy with yourself that you really
don't need to worry about other people's
opinion yeah sounds like a dream doesn't
it but I don't know about you again you
decide for yourself but I just know um
the goals that I have in life I know
things that make me happy and things
that make me unhappy and I can tell you
for sure bro
not caring doesn't take me towards these
things weirdly enough I'm pretty sure
that this whole I don't care about what
other people think thing is also a way
of caring bro you just walk around so
happy like making fun of all of these
people H look at you you all think I'm
stupid but the joke is on you cuz I
don't care what you'll think and I'm
above you all for that reason isn't yeah
tell me it's not true I'm not saying
everybody's like that but I know your
mother lovers who saying oh I don't care
what other people think you'll be like
that y'll be like that bro you really be
thinking they are superior because they
don't care what others think yeah I also
I'm not saying that caring for people's
opinion is the same thing as trying to
please them no far from it my whole life
me cared about people's opinion was
getting a kick out of being a weirdo for
real though in elementary school I
remember my classmates making fun of me
because of the way I dressed I was a
Russian kid in the same Ian Town wearing
a pink shirt bro a pink shirt to school
bro when I tell you it was bullying time
it was bullying time boy but I I I
enjoyed it it's not that I didn't care
about people's opinion I enjoyed the
fact that people didn't like me because
it made me feel special it made me feel
like I am cooler than them that their
mindset is not on the level with mine
they just don't comprehend the pinkness
of the shirt boy and I realiz that my
whole life I have been kind of on the
lookout for different things that would
make me look special from other people's
perspective you know what I'm saying you
you'll remember the ball cut right this
is the first video where which I'm
making where I don't have a ball cut
bye-bye ball cut is gone but let me let
me quote some of the comments that I had
on my YouTube videos about my haircut
what's up with Henry the 5th haircut
being Russian is still no excuse for for
that haircut my
nasel bro I'm not sure if I can say the
word Nel I actually don't know I
understand where I came from I don't
know if I can say it but that's the
comment your Barber did you dirty these
comments are in no way complimentary are
they but when I tell you I liked reading
them I liked receiving these comments
bro best believe it I made me feel
special yeah look at all those people
making fun of me but that's because I'm
not like them we're not like them we not
like them we not like them you know what
I'm saying and that's to say that caring
what people think is not the same as
appealing to people but now let's talk
about the appealing to people part the
part which I think these philosophers of
modern time imply when they talk about
oh stop caring about what other people
think bot boy you're a bad boy you think
bro bro thinks he unlocked the mysteries
of the universe boy you stupid you goofy
you B boy you you you lack what is it
called self-awareness boy you're my son
Bo oh this boy stupid boy but yeah let's
talk about the appealing part yeah it's
a big one you know the impression dress
to impress boy I live to impress what is
you talking about I build my whole life
nowaday around trying to appeal to as
many people yeah pathetic maybe if you
if you are being honest bro yeah sorry
but I build my life around aing to as
many people as possible and let's make
it clear it's not that I care about what
every single bum thinks about me I only
care about the opinions of very selected
beddies bro let's be honest but I cannot
make baddies like me if bombs think I'm
lame you know what I'm saying imagine
you are walking around with your girl
I'm sorry it all ends up with a girl bro
but that's how I be and other goals too
bro all the goals are connected to what
people think about you but let's focus
on girls cuz hey don't we all do that
you know I saying I'm walking with a
girl she's holding my hand and stuff and
all the people around so this girl
thinks I'm cool as Kell for some reason
right I persuaded her so we are walking
around and all the people around just
look at me like a complete lame
M like what the heck I'm really out here
with a lame boy leono deay it just goes
back to the idea that people are social
creatures and unfortunately you don't
get to pick and choose who will like you
so if people in general don't like you
don't be surprised if your potential
boss potential wife potential landlord
potential uh car dealer bro don't be
surprised if they don't like you don't
be surprised when people when it's
important for somebody to like you they
just they are not going to be messing
with you my I remember somehow as a
child I came up with this equation I
don't remember what kind of heartbreak
led me to that thinking process but I
remember I realized bro I cannot let a
single girl think that I'm a loser
because if one girl thinks I am a loser
all the girls will think I am a loser
bro I don't know how I came up with this
genius equation bro theor Theory
Pythagoras yeah I don't know how I came
up with that but bro it do be like that
it do really be like that so dress to
impress take it up a not to leave to
impress as I said I build my life
around people thinking I'm cool people
thinking that I'm a badass Bach people
thinking that I'm an icon that that's
the goal for me not not the end goal but
it's a stepping stone for
show everything I do I do with that in
mind bro let's talk about basketball I I
be hooping Kobe so yeah I play
basketball do you really think I do it
because I enjoy it bro basketball is the
dumbest thing on this planet boy do you
really think I'm out there having fun
throwing a ball in the hoop do you
really think bro bro it's the most
boring stuff on
Earth that's stupid
bro stupid ass sport boy do you know why
I do it though why I spend hours of my
precious time throwing this Dr object
into the stupid hoop risking my health
killing my knees because I be
duning I do it because people think it's
cool I don't know why they bro people
people are not the smartest people think
the same people who think that you
shouldn't care about what people think
they also made basketball coolo people
are not the smartest I'm telling you
they decided basketball is cool I had to
become good at basketball now I'm
capping a little bit I used to enjoy
basketball that's when I became good I
just have to keep at it you know what
I'm saying I'm 6'9 bro I just go there
to show mother lovers who runs the who
runs the court boy it's all about a
certain dominance it's all about status
when you come to the court that you're
the only mother lover who can dunk the
ball do you think it increases or
decreases my chances in life bro looks
as well right so I told you when I
really didn't care about people's
opinions I used to dress like a bumb
shave my hair bold hey if you don't care
about what people think why do you all
grow your hair out I promise you I was
like in monk mode I really shaved my
head because I was like monks shave
their heads Buddhist monks I believe
right they do it and I thought that's
the most practical haircut and that
shows how not shows actually not shows
cuz I really wasn't trying to impress
anybody I should maybe say that reflects
my focus on practicality instead of my
focus on material stuff yeah I guess
reflects is the best word because it's
the haircut that demands the least
amount of effort and I remember at the
University I thought damn in the future
all the people will shave their head
bold we will just become so enlightened
that we will truly stop caring we will
realize that it doesn't matter everybody
will be rocking a Baldi I was wrong or
maybe right I don't know I I will still
leave this space for my old ideas to be
potentially correct too you know I'm
saying I'm I'm not rejecting them
completely so let me tell you what I
have been blowing my bag on recently
clothes selfcare products although my
skin doesn't really show that right
these my lovers betray me and food not
because I like
eating food sucks boy eating sucks
eating is boring eating is tedious food
gets boring with time you know why I
spend money on food because being
muscular is cool I know it doesn't show
but I have gained five kilos boy like
how much is it 10 pounds I believe all
my English speaking Vibes but all that
stuff is basic let me tell you how far
I'm willing to go to be perceived as
school nowadays so when I talk to girls
believe me that it's the same thing as I
do with
basketball I do it just because for some
reason again people not the smartest
bro for some reason people decided that
guys being popular with girls is cool
bro I don't give a damn thing about
these ladies like I respect them for
sure do not give a crap about them
though although I will go as far as to
catch them ASDS not to not to have
pleasure at the moment no but for let's
say the girl that I I'm in love with
think hey that boy cool he he became
game I was like trying to be respectful
game he behav it game so he's cool I
will catch all the diseases in the world
so the world has no more diseases boy I
promise you if I could just stay in my
room not even this room my hometown room
and not worry about a gosh darn thing
about basketball about exercising and
gaining weight about my looks about
having a social life sexual life
included right if I could just chill not
worry about those people's opinion and
my goals just come to me themselves bro
I would if I I would that I could boy
that is not the life I chose I didn't go
to care what people think or not to care
that is the question that was never the
choice the choice was do I want to
achieve my goals or not and then you
just choose the path that you have to
take honestly I'm jealous of you if you
really can take this path of not caring
and it will take you to your goals to
happiness you really hack the Matrix but
yeah these YouTube gurus just pissed me
off made me come out of my Slumber and
talk my smack boy so I hope you have
enjoyed this video the first one in 5
months um it feels good to have
something to get off your chest again um
so let me know do I still got it am I
still a Content maker man or did I lose
it so yeah please leave a like leave a
comment subscribe to the channel follow
me on social media if you want to see my
sexy shmey side and I will see you in
another one hopefully soon uh so to
those we're not like them we're not like
them we're not like them
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