The science of falling in love - Shannon Odell
Summary
TLDRThis script delves into the neuroscience of love, from the initial infatuation driven by the brain's VTA and dopamine release, creating a euphoric state and idealization of a new partner, to the transition into attachment marked by oxytocin and vasopressin, fostering trust and social support. It also addresses the pain of heartbreak, where the insular cortex processes the emotional agony, and how the brain's stress response can be mitigated over time through support and activities that promote dopamine release, allowing for healing and growth.
Takeaways
- ❤️ Love is a complex journey guided by neurochemicals and brain systems.
- 💫 Infatuation, or passionate love, is associated with increased activation in the ventral tegmental area (VTA), releasing dopamine and creating feelings of euphoria.
- 🌟 The prefrontal cortex, responsible for critical thought, shows decreased activity during infatuation, leading to an idealized view of a new partner.
- 🕰 Infatuation typically lasts a few months before transitioning to a more stable form of love known as attachment or compassionate love.
- 🤝 Attachment is facilitated by oxytocin and vasopressin, hormones that promote trust, social support, and feelings of attachment.
- 🧠 Oxytocin also helps to reduce stress by inhibiting the release of stress hormones, contributing to the relaxing feeling when with a loved one.
- 🔍 As the initial stage of love fades, a more honest understanding and deeper connection can develop between partners.
- 💔 Heartbreak activates the insular cortex, which processes both physical and social pain, such as feelings of rejection.
- 🔁 Heartbroken individuals may experience a resurgence of VTA activity when reminded of their former partner, similar to the initial stages of love.
- 🏋️♂️ Activities like exercise and socializing can help mitigate the stress response associated with heartbreak and trigger the release of dopamine.
- 👶 The brain's higher cortical regions, which are still developing through adolescence, can make first heartbreaks particularly intense.
Q & A
What role does the brain play in the experience of love?
-The brain guides the journey of love through a symphony of neurochemicals and brain systems, influencing emotions from the first spark to the last tear.
What is the first stage of love called, and what brain activity is associated with it?
-The first stage of love is called infatuation or passionate love, characterized by increased activation in the ventral tegmental area (VTA), which releases dopamine, creating feelings of euphoria and motivation.
Why might someone in the early stages of love not see faults in their partner?
-Decreased activity in the prefrontal cortex, the brain's cognitive center, may lead to a suspension of critical thought and judgment, causing individuals to view new relationships through rose-colored glasses.
What are the hormones responsible for the feeling of attachment in a relationship?
-Oxytocin and vasopressin are the hormones responsible for feelings of attachment, trust, and social support in a relationship.
How does oxytocin help in reducing stress during times spent with a loved one?
-Oxytocin can inhibit the release of stress hormones, making time spent with loved ones feel relaxing and reducing stress levels.
What is the second stage of love known as, and how does it differ from the first stage?
-The second stage of love is known as attachment or compassionate love, which is more long-lasting and characterized by feelings of relaxation and commitment, as opposed to the intense emotions of infatuation.
What brain region processes both physical and social pain, such as during a breakup?
-The insular cortex processes both physical and social pain, including the distress associated with a breakup.
Why might the desire to reach out to a lost partner feel overwhelming after a breakup?
-The VTA, the motivation and reward center, shows increased activity when heartbroken individuals think of their former partners, creating a strong drive to reach out similar to extreme hunger or thirst.
How can the body's stress response be managed during heartbreak?
-Activities like exercise, spending time with friends, or listening to favorite music can help manage the stress response during heartbreak by triggering the release of dopamine, a feel-good neurotransmitter.
Why might first heartbreak feel particularly intense for adolescents?
-First heartbreak can feel particularly intense for adolescents because the higher cortical regions responsible for reasoning and impulse control are still maturing and making connections during adolescence.
How can most people heal and learn from heartbreak over time?
-With time and support, most people can heal from heartbreak as higher cortical regions eventually regulate distress and craving signals, allowing for emotional recovery and learning from the experience.
Outlines
💘 The Science of Falling in Love
This paragraph explores the neurological basis of love, describing the transition from infatuation to attachment. It explains how the brain's ventral tegmental area (VTA) is activated during infatuation, releasing dopamine and creating a sense of euphoria and desire for the new partner. The role of the prefrontal cortex in reducing critical judgment during this stage is also discussed, as is the shift towards a more profound connection as the relationship matures. The paragraph concludes with the physiological response to heartbreak, where the insular cortex processes the pain of a breakup and the VTA is reactivated, causing longing for the lost partner.
🏋️♂️ Coping with Heartbreak
The second paragraph delves into the process of healing after a heartbreak. It highlights how higher cortical regions involved in reasoning and impulse control can mitigate the distress and craving associated with the end of a relationship. The paragraph notes the particular intensity of first heartbreak during adolescence due to the ongoing maturation of these brain regions. It suggests activities such as exercise, socializing, and listening to music as ways to manage the stress response and trigger the release of dopamine, which can aid in the healing process. The paragraph emphasizes the potential for most individuals to recover and learn from their experiences with heartbreak over time and with support.
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Keywords
💡Neurochemicals
💡Infatuation
💡Ventral Tegmental Area (VTA)
💡Dopamine
💡Prefrontal Cortex
💡Attachment
💡Oxytocin
💡Vasopressin
💡Insular Cortex
💡Heartbreak
💡Stress Axis
Highlights
Love is guided by a symphony of neurochemicals and brain systems.
Infatuation or passionate love is the first stage of love.
Infatuated individuals show increased activation in the ventral tegmental area (VTA).
VTA activation releases dopamine, creating a desire to repeat rewarding behaviors.
Decreased activity in the prefrontal cortex can lead to overlooking faults in a new partner.
The first stage of love typically lasts a few months before transitioning to attachment.
Attachment or compassionate love is a more long-lasting stage of love.
Oxytocin and vasopressin are hormones that promote trust and attachment in relationships.
Oxytocin can inhibit the release of stress hormones, contributing to the relaxing effect of spending time with loved ones.
As early love's suspension of judgment fades, it can lead to a deeper connection or the emergence of relationship problems.
Heartbreak activates the insular cortex, which processes both physical and social pain.
The distress of a breakup can lead to overwhelming cravings for contact with a lost partner.
Increased VTA activity during heartbreak drives feelings of longing for a former partner.
The stress axis is activated during emotional turmoil following a breakup.
Higher cortical regions can help regulate distress and craving signals after a breakup.
First heartbreak can feel particularly agonizing due to the ongoing development of higher cortical regions.
Activities like exercise and socializing can help mitigate the stress response of heartbreak and trigger dopamine release.
Most people can heal and learn from heartbreak with time and support.
Transcripts
Love is often described as heartwarming, heart-wrenching and even heartbreaking.
So, what does the brain have to do with it?
Everything!
The journey from first spark to last tear is guided by a symphony
of neurochemicals and brain systems.
As you begin to fall for someone,
you may find yourself excessively daydreaming about them
and wanting to spend more and more time together.
This first stage of love is what psychologists call infatuation,
or passionate love.
Your new relationship can feel almost intoxicating,
and when it comes to the brain, that’s not far from the truth.
Infatuated individuals show increased activation in the ventral tegmental area.
The VTA is the reward-processing and motivation hub of the brain,
firing when you do things like eat a sweet treat, quench your thirst,
or in more extreme cases, take drugs of abuse.
Activation releases the “feel good” neurotransmitter dopamine,
teaching your brain to repeat behaviors in anticipation
of receiving the same initial reward.
This increased VTA activity is the reason love's not only euphoric,
but also draws you towards your new partner.
At this first stage, it may be hard to see any faults in your new perfect partner.
This haze is thanks to love’s influence
on higher cortical brain regions.
Some newly infatuated individuals show decreased activity
in the brain’s cognitive center, the prefrontal cortex.
As activation of this region allows us to engage in critical thought
and pass judgment,
it’s not surprising we tend to see new relationships
through rose-colored glasses.
While this first stage of love can be
an intense rollercoaster of emotions and brain activity,
it typically only lasts a few months,
making way for the more long-lasting stage of love,
known as attachment, or compassionate love.
As your relationship develops,
you may feel more relaxed and committed to your partner
thanks in large part to two hormones: oxytocin and vasopressin.
Known as pair-bonding hormones,
they signal trust, feelings of social support and attachment.
In this way, romantic love is not unlike other forms of love,
as these hormones also help bond families and friendships.
Further, oxytocin can inhibit the release of stress hormones,
which is why spending time with a loved one can feel so relaxing.
As early love's suspension of judgment fades,
it can be replaced by a more honest understanding and deeper connection.
Alternatively, as your rose-colored glasses begin to lose their tint,
problems in your relationship may become more evident.
No matter the reason a relationship ends,
we can blame the pain that accompanies heartbreak on the brain.
The distress of a breakup activates the insular cortex,
a region that processes pain—
both physical, like spraining your ankle,
as well as social, like the feelings of rejection.
As days pass, you may find yourself once again daydreaming about
or craving contact with your lost partner.
The drive to reach out may feel overwhelming,
like an extreme hunger or thirst.
When looking at photos of a former partner,
heartbroken individuals again show increased activity in the VTA,
the motivation and reward center that drove feelings of longing
during the initial stages of the relationship.
This emotional whirlwind also likely activates your body’s alarm system,
the stress axis, leaving you feeling shaken and restless.
As time goes on,
higher cortical regions which oversee reasoning and impulse control,
can pump the brakes on this distress and craving signaling.
Given that these regions are still maturing
and making connections through adolescence,
it's no wonder that first heartbreak can feel particularly agonizing.
Activities like exercise, spending time with friends,
or even listening to your favorite song
can tame this heartbreak stress response,
while also triggering the release of feel good neurotransmitter dopamine.
And given time and the support,
most can heal and learn from even the most devastating heartbreak.
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