If you stay at home a lot, this will make you cry...
Summary
TLDRThe speaker candidly shares his journey from being a social outcast to seeking change, driven by the desire for love and connection. Initially finding solace in video games, he eventually realizes the importance of human interaction and the emptiness of avoiding real-life social experiences. He urges viewers to step out of their comfort zones, engage with others, and work on personal development to fulfill their need for intimacy and companionship, offering a personal testimony of transformation and growth.
Takeaways
- 🎮 The speaker used to be a social outcast and found comfort and a sense of belonging in video games due to their high ranking and in-game friendships.
- 🏠 The speaker admits to spending a lot of time at home, avoiding social interactions and the discomfort of transitioning from being a 'Greek god' in gaming to a social outcast in real life.
- 💔 The realization of a lack of love and intimacy in life, which is a basic human need, was a significant motivator for the speaker to start changing and seeking social connections.
- 👫 The speaker emphasizes that online connections, such as those made in gaming or watching anime, do not fulfill the need for real-life human connections and love.
- 🔒 Technology, particularly social media, is described as having a strong, addictive grip on people, which can replace the need for real human interaction.
- 👍 The speaker encourages the audience to take action during their youth, as it won't last forever, and to not wait for opportunities or relationships to come to them.
- 🚀 The speaker acknowledges the difficulty and fear of socializing but insists that it's necessary for personal growth and fulfillment.
- 💬 The advice given is to start talking to more people, regardless of body language or eye contact, as the first step towards improving one's social life.
- 🏋️♂️ The gym is mentioned as a personal example of a social place where the speaker was able to interact with others and break out of their comfort zone.
- 🌟 The speaker shares their own transformation journey, which included working on their looks and attractiveness, leading to increased confidence and social success.
- 🔗 The call to action at the end of the script invites viewers to learn more about the speaker's personal transformation by clicking on a link provided in the description.
Q & A
What was the initial reason the speaker felt comfortable staying at home?
-The speaker felt comfortable staying at home because they felt like a social outcast with no real friends, and they found a sense of belonging and high status in video games.
What games did the speaker excel in and why did they feel a sense of high status from them?
-The speaker excelled in games like Valorant and Overwatch, and they felt a sense of high status because they were high-ranked and respected by their in-game friends.
Why did the speaker decide to change their lifestyle?
-The speaker decided to change their lifestyle because they realized they didn't want to live a life solely focused on video games and they craved love and intimacy, which they weren't getting in real life.
What is the speaker's view on the need for love and intimacy in human life?
-The speaker believes that love and intimacy are basic human needs that every person craves, and lacking these can leave a person feeling empty and unfulfilled.
How does the speaker describe the feeling of being a social outcast and its impact on their life?
-The speaker describes the feeling of being a social outcast as lonely and empty, and it led them to spend a significant amount of time in the comfort of their home, away from social interactions.
What role does technology play in the speaker's life, and why is it problematic?
-Technology, particularly social media and video games, has a strong grip on the speaker's life, providing a false sense of connection and removing the need for real human interaction, which is problematic as it doesn't fulfill the need for genuine social connection.
What advice does the speaker give to those who are feeling unfulfilled in their social lives?
-The speaker advises taking the initiative to step out of comfort zones, engage in social activities, and make an effort to connect with people in real life.
What was the speaker's personal experience with loneliness and how did they overcome it?
-The speaker experienced loneliness by spending a significant part of their life at home, avoiding social interactions. They overcame it by making a conscious effort to change, working on their looks, and engaging more with people.
What is the speaker's opinion on the importance of making human connections before it's too late?
-The speaker emphasizes the importance of making human connections while one is young, as youth doesn't last forever, and regrets in old age are likely to be about missed opportunities for social connections rather than time spent on video games.
How does the speaker suggest approaching social interactions for those who are afraid of them?
-The speaker suggests not worrying about body language or eye contact but simply taking a deep breath and initiating conversations, starting with simple greetings and asking about others' days.
What is the speaker's view on the role of physical appearance in attracting romantic partners?
-The speaker believes that working on one's physical appearance and facial attractiveness can play a significant role in attracting romantic partners and improving one's social life.
Outlines
🎮 Overcoming Social Isolation Through Video Games
The speaker begins by addressing the audience of young men who prefer staying at home over socializing, relating to their experience of feeling like social outcasts. He shares his own past as someone who found solace in video games, where he felt a sense of belonging and status due to his high rankings in games like Valorant and Overwatch. The speaker admits that the comfort of video games and the lack of real-life social interaction led to a feeling of emptiness, as love and intimacy are basic human needs. He emphasizes the importance of stepping out of this comfort zone, driven by the desire for meaningful relationships, especially with the opposite sex, which he identifies as a significant motivator for personal change.
🤝 Taking the Initiative to Build Social Connections
In this paragraph, the speaker urges the audience to take action and not wait for social opportunities to come to them. He acknowledges the fear and difficulty of approaching new people but insists that it is a necessary step towards building a social life and potentially finding a romantic partner. The speaker advises not to worry about social skills like body language and eye contact but to simply start conversations. He shares personal experiences, such as using the gym as a social place, and encourages the audience to find similar environments where they can interact with others. The speaker stresses the importance of taking the first step and emphasizes that the process gets easier over time, leading to a more fulfilling social life.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Social Outcast
💡Video Games
💡High Status
💡Love and Intimacy
💡Fake Level of Connection
💡Human Connection
💡Technology Addiction
💡Youth
💡Comfort Zone
💡Self-Improvement
💡Facial Attractiveness
Highlights
The speaker discusses the tendency of some individuals to stay home and avoid social interactions, relating it to their personal past experiences.
Mentions the feeling of belonging in the gaming community, where the speaker found respect and status that were lacking in real life.
The realization that video games and online interactions are not fulfilling real-life needs for love and intimacy.
The motivational role of wanting to be in a relationship with a girl, as a catalyst for personal change.
The importance of acknowledging one's current social state and the need for human connection beyond online platforms.
The speaker's personal journey from being a social outcast to actively seeking social change and personal growth.
The acknowledgment of the fear and discomfort associated with stepping out of one's comfort zone to engage in real-life social interactions.
The encouragement to take the initiative in social situations, rather than waiting for opportunities to come.
The speaker's advice on not being overly concerned with social techniques, such as body language and eye contact, and instead focusing on the act of engaging in conversation.
The suggestion that the gym can serve as a social place, contrary to the common belief that it's solely for working out.
The emphasis on the need for effort in order to improve one's social life and the gradual ease that comes with practice.
The speaker's personal experience of transforming his appearance and increasing his attractiveness over two years.
The call to action for viewers to work on themselves, starting with the first step of initiating conversations with others.
The offer of additional advice on improving one's looks through a link in the description, showing a practical application of the speaker's transformation.
The final encouragement to subscribe for more content, indicating the value the speaker sees in continued learning and self-improvement.
Transcripts
all right this is for the boys who only
stay home they come back from home oh
they come back from school they come
back from work they just stay home they
don't really like going out and they
don't have too many friends that they
could actually call their real friends I
remember when I was like that I hated
going out because frankly I was a social
outcast I had no friends and that's why
I resorted to video games I resorted to
video games because that's where I
actually felt like I belonged because in
video games bro I had I was good
at video games I was high ranked in like
valerant I was like immortal like fing
grandm and OverWatch and all that and
there actually felt like I was a high
status I had friends I could talk to
that respected me I wasn't getting that
in real life so why the should I
you know even bother with doing stuff in
real life yeah man I loved video games
cuz it it was just so
comfortable and I didn't want to go
outside because you know then i' would
have to stop from scratch right then I'd
have to be like you know from like a
Greek god to like a social
outcast I didn't want to go through that
transition phase but then one day I
realized that bro I don't want to be
doing this for life I I wanted girls
like frankly I don't care what anyone
else says I don't care like if someone
says this is selfish this is like
whatever but I girls was my biggest
motivator to actually start changing as
a person because frankly I was getting
no bro I was getting no
and love and intimacy is a basic human
need that every human craves and if
you're not getting that as a young guy
bro you're going to feel some type of
empty way and if you're just on if
you're deluding yourself on watching
anime watching Netflix playing video
games all day you're going to give
yourself this fake level of connection
that
you would get if you just put in some
effort okay be honest with yourself
right now if you had a group of friends
that you loved talking to that maybe
were similar to your online friends
right now but in real life and you even
had a couple girls that you were talking
to at the moment you would love going
out right you would love to you know not
stay home you would love to actually go
out and go out with these with these guy
friends with these girls you'd really
want that right you don't really want to
you want to stay home because it's
comfortable but if you had the chance
you would love going out but you just
simply are waiting the sad truth is we
all stayed home and wasted a ton of
time where it's comfortable because
we're all scared we're all too scared to
go and talk to people outside but be
honest with yourself again you're not
very socially fulfilled right now are
you you're not you you crave this human
love and connection right now because if
you're just online if you're just
playing with your online friends you
know watching anime with them not
talking to any girls really that's not
going to fulfill you as a person that's
not going to fulfill your basic human
need of love and intimacy so frankly man
the reason you're feeling the way you
are right now is because you stay home a
lot and you've been staying home for
your whole life that's that's the reason
why man and I don't I really don't blame
you bro I honestly I don't blame you at
all for this because technology has such
a strong grip on us like it's
got that gorilla penis death
grip on us
and yeah man this is way too addicting
and it just removes the whole need for
even real human connection if you've
just got you know insta Instagram and
insta but bro I'm not going to
sugarcoat things for you you need to
step up now and do something now while
your youth lasts right cuz your youth
isn't going to last forever and would
you rather me telling you this now or
would you rather you realizing this 5
years later when it's too late I'm not
trying to talk down to you I'm not I'm
really not trying to talk down to you
I'm talking to you as if you are my
brother not even an like if
you're thinking right now that I'm like
speaking to you from like a higher
position down to you I'm I'm really not
think of me as just speaking to you face
to face on the we're on the same level
right now and from a brother to another
brother you need to step up and do
something man cuz honestly I spent my
entire
teenagehood even longer bro
Five for 10
years 8 to 10 Years bro is just lacking
this human need of intimacy and I was
just lonely as
man I know video games is this
comfortable place for you and it was for
me as well I used to spend like 12 12
hours playing video games and is just at
the end of the day bro it's just not
worth it when you're on your deathbed
you're not going to be thinking about
video games and you're not going to be
you know you're not going to be glad
that you've played that many video games
you're going to be glad for all the
human connections you've made and all
the life experience you've got just
realize that no one is coming to save
you no one is coming to do the work for
you if you if you've been living the
same life for like 5 years straight and
expecting you know guys to come to you
like a girlfriend like expecting
a literal girl to come to you that's not
how it works bro like that's exactly
what I've been thinking for like all
those years and that's genuinely not how
it works you need to go out there and
actually speak to new people and I know
I genuinely I know how scary that is and
I know that you've just got you've just
gotten this one thought in your head
that you're not going to do it I know
you you just blocked it off didn't you
you blocked off as soon as I said you
need to go out and speak to people
you've blocked that thought off in your
head how I know that is because I would
have done the exact same thing when I
was in your position I would have just
blocked it off if someone else told me
to go speak to new people because it's
hard right no one wants to do
that but trust me man you need to
start doing it realize that if you want
a girl like eventually if you want a
loving girlfriend if you want a
community of guy friends whatever
friends like if you actually want a
loving Community girlfriends everything
but you need to speak speak to more
people okay that's literally the only
way if you're in school just talk to as
many you know fellow
classmates uh talk to your your
other year levels as well don't just
stick to your one year group that's what
I did I I just stuck to my own year
group I didn't even speak to like
half of my own year group I
literally don't even care about your
body language your eye contact
just just take a deep
breath and go speak to people go
approach people go say hi ask them how
their day was that's all you need to do
cuz if you worry about you know body
language oh sh I look this way should I
look at them for their eyes for 3
seconds and then look down and no just
just do just talk to them bro
you don't even worry about that stupid
alpha male cuz that'll just
clog up your mind that'll just clog up
your mind and you won't even end up
doing it if you're working right now
just find some time out of your day
where you you are around a lot of other
people and for me that was a that was a
gym right literally the gym was my
social place the gym still is my social
place if I'm being completely honest and
it's all you really need and don't use
this you know cope don't literally don't
cope and say um I mean that guy's just
here to work out she's just here to work
out I mean I I I don't want to disturb
their workout I mean it's like well that
is cope as man I don't think I've
even spoken to a single person in the
gym in my life who didn't enjoy speaking
to me
bro no one no but genuinely no one is
going to be like oh a he just
wasted like a minute of my life my
my day is ruined God damn it it doesn't
it doesn't have to be the gym though
literally like anywhere on you know
planet Earth if you've heard of that
place but yeah man if you like genuinely
like genuinely if you really are serious
about wanting to improve your social
life and you actually want you know a
girlfriend that was like again that was
my biggest motivator I wanted a
girlfriend really badly I just wanted
girls to be attracted to me
because bro girl girls thought I was an
ugly back then and I was
because I didn't work on myself I didn't
really I didn't really put myself out
there I stayed home all there I stayed
home for 5 years straight
basically 5 10 years straight bro
some I my dad didn't even put me in any
sports club or anything I was literally
home since Primary School all way
through at the end of high school that's
13 years straight and I just don't want
that for you bro cuz I know how it feels
I genuinely know how it feels to be
lonely and stay by yourself be by
yourself this emptiness feeling inside
of you I know how it feels and
it sucks being in that position bro I
know but the good thing is we can make a
change about that we can genuinely
change ourselves and it doesn't it it
requires effort but it gets easier trust
me it gets easier once you take take
that first step of talking to someone it
gets easier you start running and you
start sprinting it gets incredibly easy
like the 10th person you talk to will
become way easier 100 person will become
a piece of cake to you and that's
genuinely what I want for you if you've
watched this far in the video because
you are a g if you genely watch this far
in the video cuz we are compatible and
yeah man one way that I started getting
girls to be attracted to me more was I
worked on my looks and I worked on my
facial attractiveness and iend end up
looking like a completely different
person in just like 2 years straight and
if you want to know how I did that just
click on the first link in the
description below right now thank you so
much and don't forget to subscribe
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