Modern Masculinity Has Lied to Us
Summary
TLDRThe video script discusses the concept of modern masculinity, criticizing the overcompensation and immaturity often displayed by men. It advocates for developing mature masculinity, which is secure, caring, and strong, as opposed to the insecure and egotistical behaviors commonly exhibited. The speaker suggests self-initiation into manhood through challenges and embracing the four masculine archetypes: the King, Warrior, Magician, and Lover. The script also emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and balancing one's feminine side for a more authentic and mature expression of masculinity.
Takeaways
- 😀 The speaker claims to achieve physical success as a hobby, allowing time for other pursuits, leading to wealth and possession of multiple assets.
- 😀 Modern masculinity is criticized as immature and overcompensating, often driven by influencers who frequently assert their masculinity.
- 😀 Men often repress their feminine side, which can resurface unexpectedly, causing emotional turmoil in relationships.
- 😀 True masculinity involves integrating and balancing one's feminine side, leading to mature masculinity.
- 😀 Mature masculinity is characterized by security, caring, generativity, calmness, and strength, unlike immature masculinity, which is egotistical and insecure.
- 😀 Traditional societies had rituals to transition boys into manhood, but modern pseudo-initiations can lead to insecure masculinity.
- 😀 Self-initiating into manhood involves embracing independence, facing challenges, and developing maturity through significant life events or purposeful actions.
- 😀 The speaker emphasizes developing mature masculine archetypes: the King, Warrior, Magician, and Lover, with a focus on the King archetype.
- 😀 The King archetype represents order, reason, law creation, and defending, bringing blessings and recognizing others' strengths and flaws.
- 😀 The speaker recommends various books and online role models to help men understand and develop mature masculinity, including works by Robert Moore and David Deida, and influencers like Hamza and Jordan Peterson.
Q & A
What does the speaker claim makes him a fantastic individual?
-The speaker claims that being able to be successful in one field as a hobby, without giving up his entire life, makes him a fantastic individual.
Why does the speaker believe he will become a billionaire?
-The speaker believes he will become a billionaire because he has time to do many things due to his success being a side hobby, which includes having multiple cars and a compound.
What misconception does the speaker address about modern masculinity?
-The speaker addresses the misconception that modern masculinity is about overcompensating and shunning love and women, often influenced by online figures who scream into microphones to assert their masculinity.
What does the speaker suggest is the result of repressing one's feminine side?
-The speaker suggests that repressing one's feminine side can lead to emotional instability and confusion in relationships, as well as a cycle of resentment and confusion when trying to navigate emotions around women.
What are some examples of immature masculinity given by the speaker?
-Examples of immature masculinity include the emotional social media influencer, the absent father, the abusive boyfriend, the withdrawn lover, and the money-hungry CEO.
What does the speaker define as mature masculinity?
-Mature masculinity is defined as being secure, caring, generative, calming, and strong.
How does the speaker describe the process of transitioning from boyhood to manhood in ancient cultures?
-In ancient cultures, the transition from boyhood to manhood involved ritualistic processes guided by tribal elders or shamans, which could result in the boy either emerging stronger in their manhood or crumbling.
What advice does the speaker give for a young man to initiate himself into manhood?
-The speaker advises a young man to feel an inner urge for independence, venture into an unknown land, and possibly take on a physical challenge with a 50% chance of success, ensuring survival is up to them.
What are the four mature masculine archetypes mentioned by the speaker?
-The four mature masculine archetypes mentioned are The King, The Warrior, The Magician, and The Lover.
What is the role of the King archetype according to the speaker?
-The King archetype brings order, reason, and the creation and defense of laws. He is an avid defender of his intellect and provides blessings by recognizing others' strengths and flaws.
Which books and authors does the speaker recommend for understanding masculinity?
-The speaker recommends 'The King, Warrior, Magician, Lover' by Robert Moore, 'Blue Truth' and 'The Way of the Superior Man' by David Deida, 'The Comfort Crisis' by Mark Manson, and suggests following online role models like Chris, Hamza, Jason Wilson, Jocko Willink, and Jordan Peterson.
Outlines
💡 The Illusion of Masculinity and the Path to Maturity
The speaker begins by asserting his success and wealth as a result of not sacrificing his entire life to a single pursuit. He criticizes the modern concept of masculinity, which he views as a facade that represses genuine emotions and feminine aspects of one's personality. He suggests that this leads to a cycle of failed relationships and emotional instability. The speaker advocates for the development of mature masculinity, which he describes as secure, caring, and strong, as opposed to the immature version characterized by ego, weakness, and insecurity. He also touches on the lack of rites of passage for young men today and suggests that self-initiation into manhood is necessary, involving a personal journey or challenge that leads to self-discovery and growth.
🛤️ The Journey to Self-Initiation and Archetypal Masculinity
The speaker discusses the process of self-initiation into manhood, recommending a physical or mental challenge with a 50% chance of success and the importance of not dying in the process. He suggests traveling alone or moving to an unknown place to forge a new identity, free from the expectations of others. The speaker then introduces the concept of masculine archetypes, focusing on the King archetype as a representation of mature masculinity. He describes the King as a figure who brings order, reason, and protection, and contrasts this with the immature masculine behaviors often displayed online. The speaker emphasizes the importance of embodying the King's energy to provide a sense of security and direction to oneself and others.
📚 Recommended Readings and Role Models for Masculine Development
The speaker provides a list of books and online role models to aid in understanding and developing mature masculinity. He starts with 'The King, Warrior, Magician, Lover' by Robert Moore, which delves into archetypal aspects of masculinity. He also recommends 'Blue Truth' by David Deida for understanding the feminine aspect and 'The Way of the Superior Man' for comprehensive answers on masculinity and femininity. The speaker mentions 'The Comfort Crisis' as a guide to embracing discomfort and challenges. He then lists several online influencers, including First Man Chris, Hamza, Jason Wilson, Jocko Willink, and Jordan Peterson, as sources of inspiration and guidance for masculine development, while cautioning against those who overly emphasize their masculinity as a potential sign of insecurity.
👑 Embracing Kingship and the Importance of Self-Assertion
In the final paragraph, the speaker summarizes the journey of shedding the boy ego and embracing kingship, emphasizing the importance of self-assertion and not needing to convince others of one's masculinity. He suggests that true masculinity is self-evident and that those who feel the need to proclaim it may be compensating for a lack of internal confidence. The speaker invites viewers to book a free call for further discussion on these topics and to join a newsletter for weekly wisdom. He concludes by reiterating the importance of adopting mature masculine behaviors and the role of self-initiation in personal growth.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Masculinity
💡Feminine Side
💡Initiation
💡Archetypes
💡Boy Ego
💡Modern Masculinity
💡Repression
💡Mature Masculinity
💡Self-Worth
💡Role Models
Highlights
The speaker emphasizes the importance of not sacrificing one's entire life to be successful in one field, advocating a balanced approach to success and personal interests.
Dispels the misconception that the speaker pays models to accompany him, clarifying they are there voluntarily.
Critique of modern masculinity, suggesting it is a facade that leads to repressed emotions and unhealthy behaviors.
The speaker argues that true masculinity should not need constant validation or proof, but should be inherently present.
Introduction of the concept of mature versus immature masculinity, with mature masculinity being secure and caring.
The lack of traditional rites of passage for young men and the impact on their development of mature masculinity.
The importance of self-initiation into manhood and the process of shedding the 'boy ego'.
Suggestion to physically challenge oneself as a part of the self-initiation process, with the example of a 50% success chance rule.
The concept of animating the four mature masculine archetypes: The King, The Warrior, The Magician, and The Lover.
The role of the King archetype in bringing order and reason, and its absence in modern society.
Advice on how to become a mature King within one's own life, emphasizing self-leadership and service to others.
Recommendation of books and online role models for further understanding of mature masculinity.
Critique of online figures who overcompensate their masculinity, suggesting it indicates a lack of internal maturity.
The speaker's personal journey and the influences that have shaped his understanding of masculinity.
The final call to action for the audience to shed their boy ego and embrace the archetype of the King.
Offering a free call for further discussion and the provision of a newsletter for ongoing wisdom sharing.
Transcripts
I'm top G and while we're on the subject
I want to State here and now that's what
makes me such a fantastic individual
because I don't have to give up my
entire life to be successful in one
particular field most dudes to look like
me have to give up their entire life to
look like me I can do it as a hobby on
the side which mean gives me plenty of
time to do all these other things that's
why I'm gonna be a billionaire why I got
all these cars that's why I got this
compound no [ __ ] respects you cuz you're
a [ __ ] you're a [ __ ] you're sitting
in this chest like will yeah just nwork
with miners I know going to make it oh
never was going to become you're on top
of this it was shown that bueren paid
for the travel expenses of the rotating
cast of models that permanently
accompany buaran wherever he goes
despite Dan consistently stating that
the girls were there voluntarily do you
pay these girls to come no no okay so
that's the big misconception modern
masculinity is just boy psychology in
Disguise you're told to shun love and
women by overcompensating with your
masculinity from men who are screaming
into a microphone online who have to
convince you in every single video that
they are masculine spoiler alert if you
have to say you are you aren't and you
absorb this message until one day you
meet a girl you genuinely like and then
what happens your long repressed
feminine side comes out repelling the
woman who was initially attracted to
your masculinity you then become
resentful and confused why is she acting
so differently now why can't I seem to
control my emotions when I'm around
women you ask Until you realize you're
back at square one enacting out the same
pattern you've Ena acted with every girl
you've ever dated the emotional social
media influencer screaming into a
microphone while he talks about how
manly he is the father who never finds
time to attend his daughter's school
plays the sex addict abusive boyfriend
withdrawn lover the Yes Man the socially
intense 30-year-old the Krabby boss the
Playboy who thinks his [ __ ] doesn't
stink the 18-year-old obsessed with
looks maxing the money hungry CEO the
coach who ridicules his star athletes
the friend who keeps his other friends
in a gray Gloom of normality are all
boys pretend in to be men the solution
is you need to learn how to develop the
right type of
masculinity mature masculinity and you
need to learn how to navigate your own
feminine side without waiting for it to
suddenly burst open when you meet a girl
that you like and for those of you who
don't believe you have a feminine side
you do and the sooner you can realize
this the more masculine you can become
this 10-minute video will show you how
you see most men fear the feminine hence
they call it chaotic annoying and
confusing most men refuse to accept the
fact they have a feminine side so what
do they do they overcompensate with
their masculinity and therefore never
learn how to actually navigate the
feminine their feminine side gets
repressed and it bursts open when they
least expect it because if there's one
thing that psychoanalysis has taught us
is that whatever you repress will grow
against you with a festering resentment
and vengefulness until it gets the
attention it wants I say modern
masculinity has failed us because even
though it is incredibly important for us
as men to animate our masculinity
without a shadow of a doubt the way in
which we do so is crucial to keep it
simple your masculinity can either be
mature or immature mature masculinity is
secure caring generative calming and
strong immature masculinity is
egotistical weak needy insecure and
cowardly when I was 18 I had a lot of
immature masculinity because we don't
have explicit rituals which take boys
from Boyhood into manhood nowadays most
men grow up and still act like children
shouting on the internet buying fast
cars to get attention from women whilst
degrading them in every video they
create in order to feel a sense of
self-worth and to convince everyone else
that they're masculine in ancient
cultures the boy ego had to die before
the man was born The Village elder or
Sharman would guide the young boys
within the tribe through a ritualistic
process which they would either emerge
from stronger and a new and in their
manhood or they would crumble the satari
mawe tribe in Brazil of ritual where 20
times throughout their life boys are
subjected to the stings of 120 bullet
ants with one sting more powerful than
30 wasps the boy has to wear two gloves
full with the ants for 10 minutes while
they dance with the other tribe members
nowadays we have pseudo initiations into
manhood gang initiations random men on
the internet shouting and trying to sell
you stuff and even though these things
can initiate you into a form of
masculinity it's always dangerous
because the form of masculinity they
animate for for you is likely going to
be insecure so For Better or For Worse
if you're a young man listening to this
and you feel like you haven't been
initiated into manhood and you don't
feel like a man the reality is you're
going to have to initiate yourself into
manhood and if you're already a man what
I'm going to tell you next will help you
maintain and further animate your
masculinity into its mature version if
you want to initiate yourself into
manhood then without getting too
spiritual about it you should feel an
inner urge for Independence your boy ego
should gravitate towards manhood and
there will come an event in your life
which will make or break you for me it
was a breakup end in a relationship if
it's possible for you to do so it's not
crucial here but if it's possible it
would be beneficial for you to get away
from your family and the people who know
you so well you need to venture into an
unknown land where no one knows you a
different country or a different city
where you can start to create a new
identity just like King artha entered
the bad lands or Bilbo Baggins exited
the shine in order to pursue his
vocation because if you stay where you
are surrounded by the people who have
known you your whole life they will
start to instruct who they think you are
so when you start to animate your
masculinity it's going to be something
very different for them and they won't
be able to handle it depending on the
type of person so it will be much easier
for you if you move somewhere where no
one knows you so you can start aresh and
you can start to build the foundations
by which your manhood will be built upon
this event or vocation I'm talking about
you can enforce it upon yourself by
giving yourself a grueling workout to do
a physical challenge with two rules one
you can only have a 50% chance of
succeeding at it and number two you
cannot die or you can stop everything
you're doing if you have the capability
to do that and travel for 3 months
completely alone because then your
survival is completely up to you get
wacky get creative and shed your boy ego
purposely inflict a seemingly unbearable
amount of responsibility of yourself and
find a higher cause to serve then after
your initiation traveling doing the
physical challenge or whatever you've
wacky decided to do you must then work
to animate the four mature masculine
archetypes The King The Warrior the
magician and the lover an archetype is
an inner reality that exists with inside
you you know when you watch a film and
you really connect with one of the
characters and you just feel completely
different and as if you've lived a life
through watching this film and through
absorbing and resonate in the story and
the life connecting force that you feel
to this character that's because an
archetype within you has connected to
what you've seen on the screen an
archetype is an inner energy waiting to
be tapped into imagine them as M I don't
have a sheet of paper but imagine them
as magnets below a sheet of paper where
you have iron fillings above and you
have shards of metal you can't see the
magnet but it's guiding the direction of
the metal above it for the sake of
Simplicity and because I want to respect
your time we're just going to focus on
animating the king of archetype because
it just so happens a good King is also
always a good warrior magician and lover
King energy is almost nowhere to be seen
nowadays which is why young men and men
in general are in such a crisis they are
craving the blessing from the King but
when they look around to find the king
there's no Kings to be found the king
brings order reason the creation of laws
and the defending of those laws he is an
avid defender of his own intellect he
shines blessings upon others by
recognizing their strengths and their
flaws and he restores order to the
kingdom now the kingdom I'm referring to
here is your psyche and the immediate
environment in which you occupy you need
to become a king so this is a bit more
of an archetypal exploration because
archetypes always have Shadow poles so a
king in his fullness is not a tyrant or
a weakling but drif him from his
fullness he has the ability to slip into
the negative poles for one reason or
another also the king is comprised of
the initial archetype which is the
Divine Child which comes from boy
psychology we see these as two levels
this is boy psychology and this is man
psychology notice how they Interlink you
cannot have one without the other which
is why you initiate from Boyhood into
manhood the king in his fullness does
not block the light of others instead he
lifts them up he sees people in their
wholeness with their flaws and all of
their strengths a man channel in his
King energy for example will bring calm
to a heated situation situation he'll
support his girlfriend's decision to
change her career he'll provide his
family with love and protection he won't
seek external approval he'll give women
the feeling of security and being safe
in his presence and he'll act with
Clarity and Direction even though
sometimes he might lose his way and be
shrouded in uncertainty he will lead
others on a clear and direct path the
men you follow online are likely not
channeling their King energy despite
what they tell you they're likely
overcompensating externally for a lack
of internal masculinity that they feel
hence they have to convince you in every
video that they're masculine like I said
at the beginning of this video spoiler
alert if someone has to say they are
they aren't that thing if you a truly
masculine man doesn't have to convince
other people he's
masculine he's just masculine if you're
a good person you don't go around saying
oh I'm a good person I'm so chivalrous
and I'm so charitable you're just a good
person that's the one thing that annoys
me about modern masculinity figures is
the fact that they have to convince you
at every point that they're masculine
man and it creates the idea for young
men that they then have to go out into
the world and verbally confess their
masculinity pay attention to your inner
feelings the next time you're having a
conversation with someone and they try
to convince you about a quality they
have what do you think do you believe
them or do you have an inner distrust
that they're compensating for a lack of
internal feeling that they have a king
makes his own decisions and trusts his
own intuition he's disciplined but he
ultimately serves the kingdom and the
people in the Kingdom from a place of
love and protection so that could be
your family your friends the community
you're engaged in and the world in
general what lies outside of the king's
vision is chaotic it's dangerous it's
dark what about that shadowy place
that's beyond our borders you must never
go there Simba but I thought a king can
do whatever he wants oh there's more to
being King than getting your way all the
time there's more Simba whenever the
king is not present things don't
flourish Things Fall Apart laws become
murky boundaries get withdrawn and
questioned again but when the king steps
up to the plate and he ascends the
throne everything flourishes the economy
is good and the people know where they
stand and what to follow bring order to
a childish world and shed your boy ego
by serving a cause bigger than yourself
find your kingdom to create and to
protect become a mature King in your own
right and search for the kingship in the
other men who you come cross and that's
how we can solve the problem of men
feeling an inner craving of wanting to
be blessed by the king you are your own
King so go give the other men the
blessing that they are craving I'm not
going to go much further because what I
think would be better is if I recommend
you a few books which have really help
me figure out all of this stuff about
masculinity and I would recommend a few
people online who I think are genuinely
good role models for masculinity in
terms of books where I got all of this
knowledge from and the first book I ever
read about masculinity is the king
warrior magician lover this will go much
deeper into all the archetypal aspects
that I was mentioning today Robert Moore
has a lot of lectures on YouTube which
you can find where he speaks about
finding your inner gold as a man he
speaks in very archetypal language so
you might have to accustom yourself to
it initially but he was a yian
psychologist around in like the 70s and
80s awesome book number two is blue
Truth by David data I recommended this
book to Jonathan today shout out
Jonathan in our coaching call and what
this will help you do is understand the
navig of the world of the feminine it
will blow your mind it will stop you
from needing external validation from
women because you'll be able to navigate
your own feminine side and you won't
come across as needy and insecure in
front of women because you'll already be
operating from a inner source which is a
combination of your masculine and
feminine poles number two is the way of
the superior man also from the same
author as the blue truth people sing
this book's Praises online and YouTube
within the masculinity self-development
space for a reason it will answer all of
your questions regarding masculinity and
femininity read it number four the
Comfort crisis I would really recommend
this on your path of initiating yourself
into manhood talks all about how you can
Embrace discomfort the challenge which I
had the idea of of two rules physical
challenge 50% chance of succeeding and
you cannot die came from a concept in
the book called misoi definitely
recommend checking out that book I've
done a summary of the Comfort crisis and
the way of the superior man I'll put
them up here one after the other and you
can check these out if you want to in
your own time after this video now
masculine Role Models online number one
who has been a very big role model for
me and someone who I think has a very
valuable message and speaks from a place
of mature masculinity like all of these
guys first man really recommend checking
out first man Chris he's from the UK
like myself he's I think he's like five
or six years older than me he speaks
about really good practical stuff that
you can absorb Hamza now Hamza has been
a huge influence on my life the only up
I have with Hamza is sometimes in videos
he does fall into this if you have to
say you are you aren't thing that I was
arguing against today where I've seen
many times throughout videos he has this
feeling where he has to convince the
camera that he's masculine and he speaks
about a lot of good things he's been a
net positive on my life and I've learned
a lot from him I think his content
nowadays gears towards more of a younger
generation I think he's a very good role
model maybe take some of the things that
he says with a pinch of salt but what I
would say overall very positive just
Hamza he falls into a bit of the Trap of
wanting to convince you that he's
masculine so just pay attention to that
but otherwise I love Hamza Jason Wilson
Jason Wilson is much older than all of
these other influencers he's been
through a lot of stuff in life he's had
two books that he's released cry like a
man and Battle Cry he speaks about how
to navigate your emotions as a man so
you can step into your mature
masculinity without letting your
emotional side rupture the process he's
got a brilliant beard as well he's
awesome talks about martial arts and
everything last one Joo willink where
would we be without Joo I don't absorb a
lot of his content but I think he's a
very good role model for discipline and
animating a real masculine side of
yourself which if you haven't got any
role models in your life who are
masculine I would say definitely start
with Joo willink because he's more
extreme on one side of the spectrum
isn't like he's very disciplined and you
know exmilitary and everything but very
good role model I would add one more I
wouldn't be able to finish this without
saying Jordan Peterson he's been the
biggest influence on my life in terms of
understanding how to adopt
responsibility act from a place of
intellect and really wanting to improve
your life so if you're late on the
Jordan Peterson train man just get on it
it is absolutely brilliant absorb some
of his lectures from 2018 that's what I
would recommend so in summary it's been
a lot of information today kind of
brought you along on a journey but shed
your boy ego and become a king and
remember if you have to say you are you
aren't you can book a free call With Me
Down Below in the description if you
want to chat further about these things
en join the newsletter as well I send
out like 3 minutes of wisdom every
Thursday and I will see you in the next
one adios amigos
تصفح المزيد من مقاطع الفيديو ذات الصلة
Brutally Honest Advice For Young Men - Robert Greene
how to master dark masculinity
Masculinity is Ours to Keep: Male Power Fantasy and Masculine Archetypes in Grappler Baki
#EvolveTheDefinition
I Read 693 Psychology Books: Here Are The Few That Fixed Me - Inner Work Library [161/500]
The disappearance of men | Christine Emba
5.0 / 5 (0 votes)