INFJ Crushes: EVERYTHING you always wanted to know...and more. (you're welcome)

Summary

In this video, Christine dives into the fascinating world of INFJ crushes, exploring the unique behaviors and thought processes that define how INFJs approach romantic interest. She breaks down the stages of an INFJ crush, from the initial attraction and deep analysis to their playful and sometimes contradictory actions like friend-zoning or ghosting. Christine also discusses how INFJs act around their crushes, the types of people they are drawn to, and signs that they are not interested. Ultimately, the video provides valuable insight into the complexities of INFJ relationships and their intense, yet thoughtful, nature.

Takeaways

• 💫 INFJ crushes typically progress through distinct stages — initial attraction, deep analysis, cautious action, and eventual connection attempts.
• 🧠 After meeting someone they like, INFJs overanalyze every detail about that person, often including their personality type and behaviors.
• 📱 When an INFJ reaches out via text or tries to spend time with someone, it’s a strong indicator of genuine romantic interest, since they don’t casually engage in such interactions.
• 😅 INFJs may appear to friend-zone, ghost, or avoid their crush due to overthinking, emotional intensity, or logistical barriers, not necessarily lack of interest.
• 🌀 Long periods of silence from an INFJ aren’t always negative — they might be processing emotions or circumstances before taking action.
• 🎭 In the presence of their crush, INFJs mirror and adapt to the other person’s personality, communicating in their crush’s emotional ‘language’ to build connection.
• ❤️ INFJs experience crushes with deep emotional intensity — feelings can be both exhilarating and overwhelming, often consuming much of their focus.
• 🌈 INFJs are drawn to unique and unconventional people — often those with contrasting personalities, age gaps, or different cultural backgrounds.
• 🕒 The clearest sign an INFJ is *not* interested is lack of time investment — they won’t prioritize communication or quality time with someone they don’t care about.
• 🌿 Quality time is the INFJ’s primary love language; consistent effort to spend meaningful moments with someone signals authentic affection.
• 🙏 Ultimately, the speaker advises not to put all emotional hope in a crush — trust that what’s meant to be will unfold naturally.

Q & A

What are the stages of an INFJ crush as described in the video?

The stages of an INFJ crush include: 1) Initial attraction, sparked by a shared moment or connection. 2) Analyzing the person thoroughly, including typing them using Myers-Briggs. 3) Considering actions, such as subtle efforts to connect (e.g., texting or spending time together).

Why do INFJs analyze their crushes in depth?

INFJs analyze their crushes to understand the person deeply, considering various aspects of their personality. They use tools like Myers-Briggs to categorize the person and gather as much information as possible before deciding whether to pursue a relationship.

How do INFJs typically act when they have a crush on someone?

INFJs adapt to the personality and interests of their crush. They speak the same 'language' as the person they like, whether it's playful or intellectual, and try to connect on a deeper level, often by engaging in shared interests or passions.

What conflicting signs might someone observe if they have a crush on an INFJ?

Conflicting signs might include friend-zoning (INFJs might act overly friendly), ghosting (not responding for long periods), and avoiding direct interactions while still processing their feelings internally.

Why might an INFJ ghost someone or avoid them when they have a crush?

INFJs may ghost someone or avoid them, especially when they are younger, because they get stuck in overthinking and analyzing their feelings. Instead of interacting, they may retreat into their own thoughts while trying to process whether the relationship is viable.

How do INFJs show they like someone, according to the video?

INFJs show they like someone by making efforts to connect, such as texting, engaging in playful banter, and seeking out ways to spend time with the person. However, their actions are often subtle and may seem like normal friendship gestures.

How do INFJs' feelings toward their crushes evolve as they get older?

As INFJs get older, they become better at compartmentalizing their feelings and handling crushes with more emotional distance. They focus on other aspects of life and don't let crushes consume their energy as much as they did when they were younger.

What type of people do INFJs typically crush on?

INFJs are attracted to people who are unique or outside the traditional mold, often with significant personality differences. They may be drawn to adventurous, playful, or intellectually stimulating individuals, and may not gravitate toward typical, mainstream relationship choices.

What are some clear signs that an INFJ is not interested in someone romantically?

Signs that an INFJ is not interested include not responding to texts, being overly comfortable around the person (which suggests no romantic tension), and not making an effort to spend quality time with them. INFJs will typically make time for those they care about.

How does the INFJ's 'quality time' love language manifest when they have a crush?

For INFJs, spending quality time with someone is a significant indicator of romantic interest. They will prioritize this person by making time for them, texting, and engaging in meaningful interactions. If an INFJ doesn't show these behaviors, it suggests they are not romantically interested.