You Are Not Finished Here...

Summary

Self-sabotage is not rooted in fear of failure, but in the fear of rising fully, only to face collapse again. Past disappointments create a superstition of never fully investing again. Instead of rebuilding, we decorate the ruins of our past, avoiding vulnerability. But the ruins are not the end. Disappointment isn’t death, it’s a lesson in resilience. One day, the hunger for wholeness will outweigh the fear of collapse, and we will rebuild, wiser and more courageous. We were not made to be curators of brokenness, but to create, build, and dare to stand again.

Takeaways

• 😀 Self-sabotage is rooted in the fear of standing tall and investing your whole heart, not just the fear of falling short.
• 😀 You don't ghost your growth due to a lack of strength but because past betrayals taught you not to trust your devotion.
• 😀 The trauma of past failures makes you hesitant to lay new foundations, instead opting to decorate ruins and call them home.
• 😀 It’s easier to decorate brokenness than to risk fully investing in something that might collapse again.
• 😀 The ruins you cling to are not sacred; they are just the remnants of your unfinished attempts at growth.
• 😀 Mistaking your scars for your whole body prevents you from moving forward. Disappointment may be sharp, but it isn’t death.
• 😀 Death comes only when you stop trying to build again. Even failure teaches valuable lessons about resilience and courage.
• 😀 Eventually, your hunger for wholeness will outweigh your fear of collapse, and you will begin again with a deeper understanding.
• 😀 Rebuilding after failure isn’t about returning to naivety; it's about learning from your brokenness to create something stronger.
• 😀 You were never meant to be a curator of ruins; you were meant to be a builder of worlds, capable of rising even from destruction.

Q & A

What does the script define as self-sabotage?

The script defines self-sabotage not as a fear of failure, but as the fear of standing tall with your whole heart invested, only to feel the floor vanish beneath you. It’s the fear of being let down after giving your all.

Why does the script say people 'ghost' their growth?

People ghost their growth because of the trauma of past disappointments. The last time they fully committed, they were let down, and this creates a superstition of not trusting anything that requires total devotion.

What does the script mean by 'ghosting' your growth?

'Ghosting' your growth refers to avoiding full investment in personal progress or development due to the fear of another collapse. Rather than nurturing growth, people settle for less, decorating the ruins of past failures.

What is the significance of the metaphor 'You trace patterns on the broken walls, and call it art'?

This metaphor illustrates how people sometimes accept their brokenness and choose to live in it, creating meaning from their pain instead of rebuilding. They adapt to the ruins, rather than risking building anew.

Why does the script say 'The ruins are not sacred'?

The ruins are not sacred because they are simply the remains of an unfinished process. They represent past attempts, but not the finality of failure. The idea is not to worship or settle in the past but to move beyond it.

What does the script mean by 'disappointment is sharp, but it is not death'?

Disappointment, though painful, is not the end of one's journey. It’s a part of the process, but not something that should stop someone from continuing to grow. Death, in this context, refers to the decision to stop trying altogether.

What is the message behind the line 'Even a shattered roof teaches you something of the sky'?

The message is that even in moments of failure, there are lessons to be learned. A collapsed roof might limit your shelter, but it also allows you to see the sky, symbolizing broader perspectives and new possibilities.

What does 'you were not made to be a curator of ruins' mean in the context of the script?

This means that one is not meant to dwell on past failures or trauma. Rather, people are made to rebuild, create, and move forward, crafting new worlds instead of getting stuck in what has already broken.

Why is the concept of 'courage to rise' important in the script?

The 'courage to rise' refers to the strength it takes to keep moving forward after experiencing setbacks. It emphasizes that every attempt, even those that result in failure, demonstrates resilience and bravery.

What is meant by 'your hunger for wholeness will outweigh your dread of another collapse'?

This suggests that over time, the desire to rebuild and heal will become stronger than the fear of future failure. When someone truly wants to heal, their desire for completeness will push them to take the risk of building again.